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That's a much better response than the usual, "You knew what you were getting into." It's a nice change, ha ha, thanks.

SarahSassy wrote: »

Some of you know my story and its about 6 weeks since I had the conversation with the 'foreigner'..... Have not thought (ie been feeling hurt) often about it nor talked about it a lot but the last couple of days have been hard. I havent had the urge to contact him or to make him feel guilty but I have that urge now ..... He is not worth my stress but funnily enough I am missing the regular contact and the potential of meeting him again. I miss the friendship I thought we had. Have kept myself so busy so I have not had time to think up to now but it seems to be catching up with me.

Help... I dont want to contact him. Would not give him the pleasure of thinking I am still thinking about him.

Does no-one else use the patented tallaght01 method of surviving break ups? I basically just say "listen, I don't want to have any more contact with you" in a nice way. Then I delete their mobile number, email address, facebook page etc. Then, in moments of weakness, I have no way of contacting them. I'm never nasty about it. It works wonders. Not a clue what any of my exes are up to, though

it also means I don't have to listen to people hitting me with the same old supportive cliches everytime that I feel like ringing an ex.

SarahSassy wrote: »

Well it must be great to have life under control :rolleyes:

I havent contacted him, nor have I attempted to. I had a moment of weakness after a night out....

Thanks for your 'help'.

Hold onto your knickers. I wasn't rude to you.

If your partner gave you a gift that for some bizzare reason he seemed to think you'd like, but in actual fact it was a bit thoughtless, tactless and it left you feeling hurt, would you tell him or would you just chalk it up to "male stupidity"

I know mine is not the biggest problem in the world and I probably should just let it go but for some reason I can't and I'm getting increasingly p****d off. I've mentioned elsewhere that my bf gave me a pair of running shoes for valentines day. A gift that's about as romantic as a dry fart. Granted I'm dieting to try and lose the bit of weight I gained after quitting smoking, and I take my dogs walking every day but outside of that I loathe sports, a fact he well knows, and I didn't need runners - I have 2 pairs at home!

I guess I feel hurt because it seems like he got the shoes just for the sake of getting me something, or else he's subtly hinting that I should move my fat a** more. I don't know, it can't be that he's actually that clueless, can it? This was our first valentines and I went to a lot of effort to make it special but now I can only associate it with feeling hurt.

The ironic thing is that he's said from day one he'd never surprise me with jewellery because he hasn't got a clue - I doubt even the gaudiest piece of costume jewellery would have bothered me as much as a f****** running shoes.

Should I just let it go, or should I somehow raise the issue with him so he knows how I feel? I don't know what to do.

Quality wrote: »

It is obviously bothering you. I would be straight with him, ask him what he thought he was doing buying you runners? Did he say anything when he gave them to you?

Nope, he just had this big grin on his face in anticipation of my look of delight. Which I faked wonderfully. I deserved an oscar.

Sherifu wrote: »

This is the benefit of giving her nothing for valentines, she can't be disappointed. My plan worked! Tell him how you feel, he's not going to guess. I doubt he gave them to you to tell you that you're fat. Some people are just crap at giving presents, male or female. Some people are ungrateful no matter what you get them.

I'm not ungrateful, I'm just upset at his apparent lack of thought.

Silverfish wrote: »

Honesty. Best policy.

Bear in mind though, desperation can drive some men to terrible presents.
The logic seems to go 'What has she said in the past week. Something about walking more. Walking = sore feet. *man walks past sports shop* "I know! Runners! I'm a genius!"



( I say this while waving my terribly useful but completely pointless dustpan and brush combo present from an ex)

Oh dear lord..... I revoke my rant!!

i've been meeting this lad for a month and he still has not asked me out yet ... i don't think this is normal whats everyone elses point of view?

aye wrote: »

As a guy i can tell you i dont think this is anything to do with men being silly, its just him. and you put up with it so he'll do it.

girlfriends birthday - it's all about her, you can see your mates another night.
pressie afteryou broke up - he's apologising
buying flowers on your card - dunno what thats about, seems to be just plain ignorance that he thinks he can use your card.

this isnt silliness here, he's know he can do this.

if a guy was doing this to a female friend of mine, i'd very unimpressed by him, and i'd probably advise her to get rid, if even for a while just to scare him.

wow good advice the world needs more lads like you!!!

Quality wrote: »

What do you mean by meeting?
How do you usual set dates?

Do you mean he hasnt asked you to be exclusive?

yeah we go to the cinema and dinner all the time and he said he is not with anyone else, neither am i.... when i say meeting i mean making out when ever we meet up ... i know i don't really get it ... and i've made it clear that im not going any further with someone i'm not going out with... what do you think?

Quality wrote: »

Ok what age are you and what age is he?
Have you both been in relationships before?

Have you ever tried to make a move on him?

i'm 18 he is 20.... he had 1 serious relationship and i've had none... nope never made a move i'm too darn shy and i'm not interested in being sleazy