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first date - go dutch?
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^^^ Of course
Why wouldn't I?
Happened so many times over here, a lot of guys don't bring jackets out, just stroll along in their tees or shirts and then clatter their teeth like little losers byt the end of the night. If I'm warm he can use my coat for a while.
What's wrong with being a "spinster" as you call it? How can someone advocating equality use that funny word anyway?
And I'm allergic to cats, I think it woudl be alsatians all the way for me.
Oh, and the occasional toy boy.0 -
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norrie rugger wrote: »Yes, because so many women ask guys out.
It's a shame they don't
It would be really nice for a girl to ask me out for a date......It is the 21st century for crying out loud. A girl has asked me for my number but never a date 0 -
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I was giving Shellyboo a lift last night and my car went on fire
..... Seriously
No word of a lie. That's how hot-t-t-t I am. Oh yeah. In my defence, however, he was only giving me a poxy lift from the bus, there was no date and no dinner bought for me, sniffle.
On the plus side, he did hold open my door for me... and he didn't make me push the car or give out to me when I steered it into an enormous hole in the ground as it was being pushed. So he wasn't lying about being nice, ladies!
I do however, owe HIM dinner now. Damn.0 -
I would always offer to pay half, but on the first date, if he asked me out, it would be nice if he payed. after that, i'm all about halfsies, or he pays for something then i pay for something i.e. i am seeing a guy now, we went bowling which he payed for and afterwards we went back to mine and i paid for pizza.
however this guy that i am seeing now LOVES going to restaurants. he invited me out on our first date to quite a pricey place and informed me beforehand he was going to pay for everything cause he just likes going out to dinner. i would have liked to offer to pay half, but i am currently unemployed and simply couldn't afford it.
i felt really guilty, but he has informed me my company is worth it
this has happened a couple of times now, sometimes unexpectedly (like say we were out for a few drinks and he just said, lets get some food when i had NOT budgeted for dinner out) so i try and make up for it by nice homecooked meals etc. the monetary value isn't the same, but i DO put a lot of effort in, so i hope it makes up for it.
fact is, i cannot afford to keep up with they way he wishes to socialise, and i have informed him, so he often pays or just buys drinks for me when we are out. i NEVER ask, and i always feel guilty but if he wishes to pay for me, thats his perogative.0 -
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my name is mr crime..and crime never paysidunnoutellme wrote: »hi guys
wandering about peoples opinions on this
on a first date - no matter where you go : cinema, out for a meal, drinks
do guys prefer to pay? do girls prefer guys to pay? or would you prefer goin dutch?
just that i was out on a date last nite and well the guy didnt offer to pay - considering he's in a well paid job like and i always offer to go dutch anyway but kinda expect the guy to say 'no here i'll get this' you know, and when he didnt it kinda made me think he's cheap....
like i went out and got my hair done for the date - i consider that my half of the bargain ha ha (joke)
haha only joking,first date supose the bloke pays 0 -
+1. It can be a cultural thing too(and no, I'm not about to kick off a diatribe about Irish wimmin either).
I have sadly found in general one either gets the "I pay for everything, because if I don't you'll expect something in return, Haaarumph!" Types(Word to the wise, I wouldn't), or "I'm gonna bat my eyelids at you and push my cleavage in your face so that I won't have to put my hand in my non existent pocket. Both equally daft, though I would have at least some respect for the former, though would write them off as partner material, simply because the harpy quotient would be too high for my tastes. The latter would not get far with me. As a callow youth I went out with the latter type. Life is too short. Both IMHO stem from the same source; insecurity. The strongest most centered women I know don't do either of those behaviours. They know who they are and take it from there(same goes for sound people of either gender).
The third type of person that understands the dynamic and the reasoning behind it is all too rare, let me tell you, though thankfully they do exist.
Look it's real bloody simple. It boils down to manners. That's it. I don't care what feminist manifesto or macho male crapola you've read. It boils down to manners. If I ask someone, essentially a stranger, out for a meal I expect to pay for it. Simple as that. If she asks me out I would expect her to pay as well. Drinkies afterwards we would be going dutch.
I gauge this very easily. If I said to a male mate of mine, "look you've gone through the shíte recently, I'm bringing you out for a slap up meal and a few ales to take your mind off". I would not expect him to pay because I've made the suggestion. To do so would put undue pressure on him. Now that's a mate, not someone I don't know/I want to get the leg over/go out with. The dynamic re payment is the same.
Lets imagine that same male mate or a woman I'm interested in. She agrees to the date. Cool and the gang. I then choose to drag her to some mad chew and chuck where the wine list alone kicks off in double figures. That was my choice as the instigator of the meeting. Should she(or he) expect to dig deep to cover that? Eh no.
I take the same view with regard to buying women I don't know drinks. I simply don't. Never have as I wouldn't buy a pint for a bloke I didn't know either. If they're part of the group and a round comes to me then fine. Beyond that no.
Wibbs the fountain of knowledge once again... Is there anything you don't know
All makes sense to me. If I ask someone out on a first date, I'll pay the bill...0 -
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