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first date - go dutch?
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What does the fact that he's male have to do with it? We can't have our cake and eat it m'dear - go around demanding equality but oh, would you mind picking up the bill, ta.
It was a first date for him too...
Would you have paid for it in full if you had been the one to ask him - or do you expect the man to do the asking out?
Maybe he likes to be treated once in a while as well.
the line :'go around demanding equality' - what does that have to do with anything? i dont go around demanding equality. and i have no problem treatin a guy once in a while - if i thought that he feels the same way.
if you cant be treated on a first date by the person who asked you out then when can you???
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I don't understand why this is so shocking to everybody. It's just what I expect and I don't know why no one reacted on my reasons for this? Maybe I wasn't being clear.
If a fella asks me on a first date, I shouldn't have to explain to him: look I'm a really generous person and I don't want to be f*cked over any more by thight fellas.
The treating me to a first dinner/date whatever would be a sort of a test.
So far it's proven right. I don't know if it's valid every time tho. But I'm still single (Maybe that's why? lol)
But seriously, this is the way I was raised, I am expecting a certain treatment from men I wouldn't accept less, in fairness if I'm not treated that way I'd rather go on a date with myself
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idunnoutellme wrote: »what exactly is wrong with a girl wanting to be treated like that? she'd think the world of you if you did cos men like that are hard to come by and everyone wants one ha ha - maybe take notes???
It's the expectation of it that would do me. If they asked questions about the stuff fine, i.e. Have you been here before, what's do you think is good? etc, that that would be fine because it can be a two way street. But an expectation of the guy to come in and and straight off start with this wine is good, you should get that etc would annoy me.
Also you do realise that most guys take the time to try and make sure they also look good for a first date.
And BTW I have a GF so no need for the notes
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It's the expectation of it that would do me. If they asked questions about the stuff fine, i.e. Have you been here before, what's do you think is good? etc, that that would be fine because it can be a two way street. But an expectation of the guy to come in and and straight off start with this wine is good, you should get that etc would annoy me.
Also you do realise that most guys take the time to try and make sure they also look good for a first date.
And BTW I have a GF so no need for the notes
Look, mine was only a short way of explaining it. Of course I wouldn't sit there like a stone going: you decide, you decide.
It's those little things, those attention giving moments that are important. Getting me weak at my knees would be in the line of:
"Look the way you said you loved Italian food? I've booked such and such"
At the table:
"I love the thing thing here, i really recommend it"
And total brownie points are if he stands up when I stand up, if he helps me put on my coat, if he gives me his coat if I happen to think I don't need one and it's cold going to the taxi whatever.
More scenarious? Or do you get me where I'm coming from? I'm an incurable romantic and this has nothing to do with feminism etc. It's just I want a guy to treat me a cretain way.....
Oh, and to be "equal" whatever. Same if I asked a guy to a resto, chose venue and so on, it would be me doing the recommendations, tryiong to pick up on hints he'd given me before or so...0 -
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Curlypinkie wrote: »Look, mine was only a short way of explaining it. Of course I wouldn't sit there like a stone going: you decide, you decide.
It's those little things, those attention giving moments that are important. Getting me weak at my knees would be in the line of:
"Look the way you said you loved Italian food? I've booked such and such"
At the table:
"I love the thing thing here, i really recommend it"
And total brownie points are if he stands up when I stand up, if he helps me put on my coat, if he gives me his coat if I happen to think I don't need one and it's cold going to the taxi whatever.
I would do most of those things for my gf, not the wine though as I don't drink so don't know anything about it I dont really see much wrong with your views to be honest, we do the halfies thing most of the time, sometimes I get it, sometimes she gets it. I paid on the 1st date, 4 years ago next month, each to their own I suppose. (she offered to pay half, I said no, ill get it) 0 -
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