The Fathers Thread

jasonb wrote: »

Had our 2nd scan today, the clinic does a second one approx. a week later when it's twins. But we found out that one of the twins hasn't survived. They think it just stopped developing a couple of days after our first scan. Very tough to hear, obviously it's great that the other one is doing great, but it's just a horrible day...

J.

Sorry to hear that I went thru exactly same thing last yr - have gorgeous little girl now with her own special guardian angel.. And we like to think twice the personality
It's an incredibly tough time filled with mixed emotions - ensure to take time to grieve ur little one even tho your still pregnant.

Hi all.

I'm a member here but going un-reg'd here as a couple of people in real life know my username and we haven't shared our news yet...

Just found out at the weekend that I'm gonna be a dad. Absolutely delighted with the news!

First scan is scheduled in a couple of weeks.

It's still very early days for us so we haven't told anyone outside of immediate family members. I'm excited, happy, giddy, nervous, worried, and anxious all at the same time!!! There's so much to think about!!

I must say, we'd a great first experience in The Coombe yesterday. After being very well looked after in the Fertility Clinic, I was wondering if we'd feel a little more 'unimportant' in The Coombe. But they couldn't have been nicer or more helpful. The mid-wife even arranged for the scan before she did the medical history, as she realised that we'd be nervous after losing one of the twins.

The scan went great, the bump is doing just fine and we got some nice pictures printed out. It's good to know it's all going well, and it's good to now be part of the 'norm' and in the system so to speak. It was all very surreal as well, it was funny catching the eye of other 'newbie' couples (you could tell us by the 'welcome pack' we all got).

Next up is the Consultant appointment in 3 weeks, and then another scan at the end of Jan, when hopefully we'll find out the sex (if the bump is facing the right way basically!). From now on I reckon we'll skip the carpark (it's small and there's a queue - one car out and one car in) and park nearby instead. We'll also look at going to the Clinic local to us instead, instead of driving in to Dublin every time.

J.

Excellent tip, thanks!

J.

Nice one Capri! The level of detail in the scan is pretty good alright. We've had a few people who had kids 15 years ago say that the scans are a lot more detailed than the ones they had. When is the baby due?

J.

That's mad, that's my wife's birthday! She's due on the 10th. So yep, still lots of time - to plan and to panic! We're kinda waiting 'til the new year before we start looking at organising things, like rearranging the bedroom (we've a small house) to figure out where we'll put everything...

J.

Best of luck scrubber72, hope it all goes well!

J.

scrubber72 wrote: »

And we are off

Best of luck to you both.

So my wife said to me last night that Michael Bublé was playing in the O2 in July and that she'd love to go. I thought to myself - 'Hmmm, Michael Bublé, I'm not sure if I'd like to see him, but I've heard he's good live' etc. etc., waiting for her to say 'do you want to come with me?'.

And then she says 'Would you mind the baby that night so I can go?'! It was mad, it had never even occured to me that the baby would be here by then. And my wife was the same; when she first heard of the tickets she was delighted, planning going, who'd she'd go with etc., and then suddenly 'we'll have a baby then' popped into her head.

I told her of course I'll mind the baby, I'm sure by then she'd love a night out and it'll be good for me to spend some time alone with it (it's still an 'it' or 'bump' at the moment). But it's just funny how neither of us thought of the baby first. It's a little insight of how things will change in a few months. Not just about planning differently for a concert of course, but just how the baby will become the first thing we think of!

J.

Yep, it really makes you think about it alright!

Any chance of the pre-sale code?

J.

Thanks so much for trying, but no luck I'm afraid...

J.

Happy New Year everyone!

It's been very quiet around here, is everyone babysitting?

We had a visit to the GP today. All's going well, and we got to hear the heartbeat for the first time, so that was really cool! Next appointment is the anatomy scan in 4 weeks. Nearly halfway now, it's going pretty quickly really...

J.

monkeysnapper wrote: »

Hi Jason, I was reading through your story, sorry to hear you lost one of your twins. But glad everything is going well with other .

Thanks monkeysnapper. It's all going well alright, and my wife's just begining to get occasional butterflies in her stomach, so she's now starting to feel the bump move around!

And congrats Midleton Thai, though I'm sorry to hear your other half is having a rough time of it!

You must be counting the days at this stage zefer?

J.

Long time lurker, first time poster

My wife and i are due our first baby in June this year and i have to say i am over the moon at the moment. its still exciting now at 18 weeks as it was when we found out at 3 weeks. It was a planned pregnancy and we were blessed it happened first time. we are not long married but wanted to start our family as soon as possible as my OH was concerned about her age. she will be 38 when the baby arrives

she has not had the nausea or morning sickness but had what i can describe as severe fatigue which has been fine to be honest. i am doing my best to help out around the house and encouraging her to relax while i do bathrooms and stuff but she is a stubborn woman and well as most men know, we never do it to the same standards

with the age thing, i have noticed and we have discussed that she is not obviously excited about the pregnancuy due to concerns that something might go wrong. she has said she is over the moon but finding it hard to get excited as she thinks something will happen and she wants to know she will be prepared for that . she says the fact she does not feel pregnant, so that it why she isnt getting excited yet but says once she feels the baby she will know its real and then start to enjoy it more. has anyone here had the same experience as me with this??? i hope im not the only one

we are going private which i was against at the beginning but so far so good, we have had the two quick scans, one at 11 weeks and another this past Tuesday. the big one is scheduled for February. it was mental to actually see him/her in there moving about. the difference in the two scans was unreal as the size change was unbelievable. i was a big baba so im guessing we may have a big one. i was a 10 pounder

we have started looking at what we need to do in the house and what we need to get for the baby and have started our budgeting as well to save for what we need now and for what we will need after.

Our families have been very supportive to say the least. we are lucky to have them around us and well plenty of babysitters on offer.

i have started and you might call me crazy but have started talking to the bump, i know its early but i just have this instinct to do it. dont know why. she thinks im crazy but in fairness doesnt stop me either. I cant wait for her to start feeling the butterflies which the consultant said should be around the 20 week mark and to then feel the baba kick.

its scary and exciting at the same time like so many others here i have read about. you do realise that you are to be a parent but then you realise, you are responsible for there upbringing and thats unreal. but then again our parents all went through it so hopefully we will manage.

i will be a more regular poster here so thanks for listening to my rant and i hope to get to know you guys as we progress

Excellent, congratulations to all three of you!

J.