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Ugh! My annoyance is disproportionate to the size of this problem, I guess, but I hate the 'obligation' on men to always pay for their girlfriend's meal in restaurants.
Me and her had a meal today and asked to pay separately and the guy at the till had entered it as a single bill before we'd asked, which is okay, but he said 'sure you should be paying for her anyway!'... Like... No! We just got a student discount for a reason, for one thing. We're not a married couple from last century where she isn't entitled to employment or deemed incapable of handling the household finances, and selfish as it may sound, why should I be forced to take the hit because I'm a guy? Is it because, as a girl, she should be pampered and treated like a princess because she's a girl? That's just idealizing women. And it's at the direct expense of men. Now, I would like to treat her like a superstar, for her, but that's not the point - we shouldn't expect relationships to have this pedestal. If it's financial, we're both pretty close to broke. If it was me who invited her to lunch, that's okay, too, but she had invited me! It's not about the money, it's just the principle... Nggah.. Sorry this is a bit of a cumbersome rant but it's a sexist social norm and I don't like it, and if the music in the restaurant hadn't included Arctic Monkeys, Frightened Rabbit, The National, Paolo Nutini and a few others, I would be more annoyed still
Also the food was very nice. She still gave what she owed to me! To be honest, it was a pretty good day! But that was annoying, honestly. And what's also annoying is that it makes me sound like a dick to simply suggest it! Bah, humbug... 0 -
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JamJamJamJam wrote: »Ugh! My annoyance is disproportionate to the size of this problem, I guess, but I hate the 'obligation' on men to always pay for their girlfriend's meal in restaurants.
Me and her had a meal today and asked to pay separately and the guy at the till had entered it as a single bill before we'd asked, which is okay, but he said 'sure you should be paying for her anyway!'... Like... No! We just got a student discount for a reason, for one thing. We're not a married couple from last century where she isn't entitled to employment or deemed incapable of handling the household finances, and selfish as it may sound, why should I be forced to take the hit because I'm a guy? Is it because, as a girl, she should be pampered and treated like a princess because she's a girl? That's just idealizing women. And it's at the direct expense of men. Now, I would like to treat her like a superstar, for her, but that's not the point - we shouldn't expect relationships to have this pedestal. If it's financial, we're both pretty close to broke. If it was me who invited her to lunch, that's okay, too, but she had invited me! It's not about the money, it's just the principle... Nggah.. Sorry this is a bit of a cumbersome rant but it's a sexist social norm and I don't like it, and if the music in the restaurant hadn't included Arctic Monkeys, Frightened Rabbit, The National, Paolo Nutini and a few others, I would be more annoyed still Also the food was very nice. She still gave what she owed to me! To be honest, it was a pretty good day! But that was annoying, honestly. And what's also annoying is that it makes me sound like a dick to simply suggest it! Bah, humbug...
If it's any consolation, I'm a girl and was having this exact conversation with my boyfriend earlier today. I told him from the get-go that there was no way I'd be happy for him to pay for me in those sort of situations. Grand if it's every now and then but only if I get to pay the next time. I'd actually hate it though if somebody paid for me constantly. I'd feel like a kept woman or something and personally, I'm more than capable of minding myself ,thank you very much :P0 -
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My heart is broken over these 2.And this one has tried to get into the picture too
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iamanengine wrote: »Need a job...at all! Got absolutely nothing in Galway
There's nothing left in my place I'm afraid! The Skeff's hiring0 -
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Too many happy couples turning up. Anyone know of a book how to get a guy in Ireland preferably who likest the same things , willing to travel.Jhcx wrote:Too many happy couples turning up. Anyone know of a book how to get a girl in Ireland preferably who likes the same things , willing to travel.0 -
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MauraTheThird wrote: »All I want to do is curl up and cry from the loneliness. Does anyone else feel like a constant plague and that friend that nobody REALLY likes? Just me? Oh well
Na i wouldn't say you're alone... Feel like that on many an occasion but I'm just lonely from not having friends to party with0 -
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