Living with your parents at 25.

Karpops

So basically I turned 25 this week and I am still living at home with my parents. It's not uncommon in my circle of friends, we're almost all graduates getting by on part time or seasonal work but not enough for a year's lease on a place. However, I still partially feel like I should have left the nest at least a year ago and I'm a really big loser by still being here.

Thoughts?

Praetorian Saighdiuir

If your parents had any decency, they would deposit themselves into an old folks home so you could par-tay.

3ndahalfof6

looooooooooooooooooser looooooooooooooooooooooser, to cool for school.

Yitzhak Rabin

Karpops wrote: »

So basically I turned 25 this week and I am still living at home with my parents. It's not uncommon in my circle of friends, we're almost all graduates getting by on part time or seasonal work but not enough for a year's lease on a place. However, I still partially feel like I should have left the nest at least a year ago and I'm a really big loser by still being here.

Thoughts?

You're not alone OP.

The vast majority of posters on AH are living in granny flats in their parents house. Posting about atheism and criticising the government for cutting their dole. and playing Xbox games.

Ruudi_Mentari

My advice would be to get out, while you're young!

..then come back when you're older.

Captain Chaos

In the past few years there are more and more people in their 30s and 40s living with their folks and it's not getting any easier out there.

Truncheon Rouge

Karpops wrote: »

So basically I turned 25 this week and I am still living at home with my parents. It's not uncommon in my circle of friends, we're almost all graduates getting by on part time or seasonal work but not enough for a year's lease on a place. However, I still partially feel like I should have left the nest at least a year ago and I'm a really big loser by still being here.

Thoughts?

So 1 year.

Random unimportant People will call you a loser = (- 10 ) happiness points for maybe a day.

One day when your parents pass away and youre looking back you will realise you will have spent hundreds of days more with them than if you had moved out 1 year earlier = +10000 happiness points


(being mammied every day = priceless)

HondaSami

There is nothing wrong with it OP, if you are happy and your parents are happy that's all that matters. Make sure you do stuff around the house to help out.

kowloon

It was all going fine until someone posted about atheism in post #5.

BillyMitchel

If your relationship with them is good then enjoy it while you can. I've been in and out of my folks for ten years. They are both getting on now and I had to come back for awhile and will be here till May and I love every second of it. Its good to cook for them now and do crap I would never do when I was a kant of a teenager.

We piss each other off at times still but sure its grand. You have plenty of time for chicks and parties when you move out and graduate.

decky1

get the f##k out and give them a rest

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this must be one of the only countries where the children NEVER leave home. find somewhere your parents have looked after you for long enough----i bet if your working you give your mam 50 euro a week and think thats enough for food -getting your washing done etc, pack tonight and don't come back.
yours sincerley,
Dad.

Fox_In_Socks

decky1 wrote: »

get the f##k out and give them a rest

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this must be one of the only countries where the children NEVER leave home.

Cue response to this from Irish people living in Spain.

"People here live with their parents till they are in their thirties. It's normal. You are still young here in your thirties. I'm in my thirties. I'm still young".


No. No, you're not. Now, get out your Werthers Originals and start sucking.

OneArt

This is just me, but I certainly wouldn't want to live with your parents at twenty-five.

Don't even know them. Imagine how awkward it would be.

Reamer Fanny

Yitzhak Rabin wrote: »

You're not alone OP.

The vast majority of posters on AH are living in granny flats in their parents house. Posting about atheism and criticising the government for cutting their dole. and playing Xbox games.

This needs more thanks

StillWaters

Get out OP. Wont bore you with I was out by..... but I wouldnt like my kids living with me at 25. If you cannot earn a wage to support independent living at 25, then widen your horizons.

OneArt

Captain Chaos wrote: »

In the past few years there are more and more people in their 30s and 40s living with their folks and it's not getting any easier out there.

Forties!? That has to be bollocks.

I wouldn't be too surprised, considering the economic situation at the moment. In recent times many people have, in fact, moved back in with their folks because of money worries.

That doesn't mean you should be complacent though, if you can find an opportunity to flee the nest, then do so.

Lando Griffin

Its people like you OP that sicken me to the teeth.
You and your friends need to get off yer arses and get in the property ladder and get this economy moving again.
Ye are worse than the developers who were duped into over building by you sitting around waiting for the right apartment to come along stagnating the housing market.
Every 50 euro to your mum is 50 euro that could have an apprentice plumber plumb you house and not kicking stones down the street.
For Shame.
Ps Iv a couple of cheep units coming up later in the year.

efb

Yitzhak Rabin wrote: »

You're not alone OP.

The vast majority of posters on AH are living in granny flats in their parents house. Posting about atheism and criticising the government for cutting their dole. and playing Xbox games.

and whinging when there old folks telephone allowance is cut- no more bb!

Karpops

Karsini wrote: »

I wouldn't be too surprised, considering the economic situation at the moment. In recent times many people have, in fact, moved back in with their folks because of money worries.

That doesn't mean you should be complacent though, if you can find an opportunity to flee the nest, then do so.

Oh believe me, I'm trying!! I graduated from college three years ago, and the situation then was dire, so I ended up in part-time retail for two years whilst still furiously applying for full-time work that wasn't a dole-internship thing. Now I'm back in college doing a postgrad trying to give myself an extra addition to my CV so I can emigrate (possibly) in August once I'm finished. I'm barely earning enough from my part-time work to pay off my college fees, let alone save up a deposit and FLEEEEEE

languagenerd

The way the economy is, I don't think that's in any way weird. A lot of people just can't afford to move out at the moment - I know quite a few people in their twenties who won't be able to leave any time in the forseeable future, just because it's hard to find work that pays well enough to cover a lease.

Like other posters have said, I only think it's a problem if the person is sitting around all day playing xbox and letting their parents do everything for them. If your parents are ok with it, and you're working/trying to find work/saving and contributing to the house in whatever way, then I don't see any problem with it.

Karpops

Lando Griffin wrote: »

Its people like you OP that sicken me to the teeth.
You and your friends need to get off yer arses and get in the property ladder and get this economy moving again.
Ye are worse than the developers who were duped into over building by you sitting around waiting for the right apartment to come along stagnating the housing market.
Every 50 euro to your mum is 50 euro that could have an apprentice plumber plumb you house and not kicking stones down the street.
For Shame.
Ps Iv a couple of cheep units coming up later in the year.

Go home Lando, you're drunk.

jinxremoving

Nothing wrong with it! Each situation is different. As long as you are helping out either financially, with housework or otherwise then its ok. Only gets weird if you still act like a lazy teenager and don't do anything to help.

Remmy

This thread has made me feel a bit better about living with the OP's parents. Cracking bit of shepherds pie tonight eh?

Lando Griffin

Karpops wrote: »

Go home Lando, you're drunk.

When I was your age Sony boy I had two or three houses bought and another one or two off the plans.

dd972

Didn't do my mate Norman any harm, what was his last name again,... oh Bates that's it

Joking aside, don't let society's expectations make you feel like a loser, it's that same society that shows you adverts that that insinuate any 25 year old bloke ought to be a cross between Russell Brand and Brad Pitt with sleeve tattoos, three days of stubble and girls quivering in their wake, some people even move back to their family homes in their 30/40's if things like marriages or careers don't work out.

0ph0rce0

Lando Griffin wrote: »

When I was your age Sony boy I had two or three houses bought and another one or two off the plans.

Your Great!

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ProudDUB

My niece is 26 going on 27, and she lives at home with her parents. Nice enough kid, but Lord she is the laziest lump on the planet ! Even if we were still in the Celtic Tiger days & banks were throwing money at her to get home and a mortgage of her own, I bet she would still be living at home & letting her mammy do everything for her. She has a decent enough job. Her company have offered to send her on courses to improve her educational level in general, and her promotional chances at work. She has turned them all down as she just couldn't be arsed. Plus, it would mean not getting home from work until *gasp*... 8pm 2-3 nights a week....oh the horror ! :eek:

It's a terrible shame, as she is by far the brightest kid in her family. She is far brighter than her two siblings who both have multiple degrees to their name. She could really, really go far if she had just a bit of get up and go. She works for a financial services company but she has no clue about money or budgeting. As long as she has money to go out on the piss at the weekend, that's all she cares about. Best thing that could happen to her would be for her parents to kick her out and make her stand on her own two feet for a change. Her Da would be into doing that, but the mammy would never stand for it. It's a pity really as they are not doing her any favours at all by letting her cling onto the apron strings as long as she has.

Her mother was the eldest child in a very big family, all of whom were made leave school and go out to work at age 15/16. They had it very hard. I often think that parents that mollycoddle their kids are working out issues of their own, and go flat out to give the kids the kind of lives that they never had. It's totally understandable, but you'd wonder sometimes what long term harm they are doing to their kids in the process. Oh well....

Rhys Essien

OP,To make you feel a bit better,It is very common in Italy for the "kids" to be still at home well into adulthood.

http://www.guardian.co.uk/world/2012/sep/19/third-italians-live-with-parents

shortie111

There's not much point in moving out for the sake of moving out and then having to return living back with the rents within a couple of months when the funds go! If you are seriously planning to emigrate in August, best to save whatever money you have and put it towards that!

dorkacle

Im jus going 25 and still at home, many of my friends would be too. As much as I would love to move out, i simply haven't the money!

I've one more year studying an then hopefully I will be able to, I work but only part time an that wouldn't pay fck all!

Ilik Urgee

It mightn't go too well OP

"Hi Mrs. Karpops,nice to meet you"
"Hello,And you are?"
"Ilik Urgee"

"Why yes please."

Don't say I didn't tell you!

Daveysil15

shortie111 wrote: »

There's not much point in moving out for the sake of moving out and then having to return living back with the rents within a couple of months when the funds go!

+1 Many people feel they should move out once they've reached a certain age. Move out when you're good and ready.

books4sale

OneArt wrote: »

Forties!? That has to be bollocks.

Absolutely not and even older.

It's not uncommon at all in rural Ireland with families who run farms as a business that everyone would be living under the one roof for most of their lives.

As for this being the only country where this happens, it is extremely common in Asia for siblings, parents to share apartments of any age. People are quite frugal with the cash they earn, and if living under one roof cuts costs then so be it, there isn't any snobbery about it, it's seen as the most logical sensible option.

I remember in the 80's, Ireland being in a similar situation.

HondaSami

My nephews live at home with their parents and i cannot see it changing any time soon, they all get along great, im a bit envious sometimes when i call and they are all cooking, laughing,the hustle and bustle of family life.
I go home to a quiet house and while it's great i miss the family atmosphere, sitting around the kitchen table chatting and all those little moments you cherish. I think a family home is important and if kids want to stay, leave and return again then so be it, it's their home.

April O Neill

I don't see the ish, really? True, it's better to live away from home, but if you have a good relationship with your folks, I don't see the problem.

Karpops

shortie111 wrote: »

There's not much point in moving out for the sake of moving out and then having to return living back with the rents within a couple of months when the funds go! If you are seriously planning to emigrate in August, best to save whatever money you have and put it towards that!

Ah no, I'll be finished my postgrad then so I'll have a better shot of a job over in the UK, hopefully on a permanent contract. I'm just weirding myself out about the whole thing because I've two cousins the exact same age as me who have all moved out long ago (both with babies and mortgages at the moment) and I had to deal with my overly eager relatives asking me about my plans for the future.........................bleugh.

AnonoBoy

I love my parents but moved out when I was 19.

I couldn't imagine living through my twenties living with my folks.

It wouldn't have been half as much fun as it was.

AnonoBoy

April O Neill wrote: »

I don't see the ish, really?

I found when I moved out of home it helped me cease using annoying abbreviations.

Karpops, as a fella who moved out when he went to college & only moved back for a bit before going again, I'll say it's up to *you* when you move out. If you feel the need to go, go. If you feel the need to stay, stay. I've family in their 30s who stayed & others in their late 10s who left, and they both made their own way on life.

If you're going to move out, let it be because you want to. Not because of how old you are.

Miss Lockhart

I think living independent of your family is a great experience and it's best to go for it once you can afford it. I see nothing wrong with staying at home tbough if everyone is happiest with that and you make a fair contribution once you can.

A lot of those who are quick to judge and go on about moving out at 18 were living off handouts or being subsidised by their parents. In a lot of cases they put their parents under much more financial pressure just to boast about their independence.

CaraMay

I think it's ridiculous to live with your parents as a grown adult.

They are more than parents - they are a couple in their own right and should be given some privacy to live as a couple once they have their family reared. You wouldn't move in with another adult couple would you?

Move out and give then their lives back.

marialouise

I'm 23, lived away for 2 years and moved home this year to save up, I hope eventually to go mainland Europe for postgrad and just live there, so as I have an end in sight it's not weird at all living here for the next year or 2! And I work , mum cooks and I don't do thaaat much around the house or contribute as much as I should to the housework sometimes.... It's still tough moving back after having 2 years of crazy 20s freedom, but it's worth it now saving up so I can feck off, and I'll be just about your age by the time I leave the nest for good. Mum's quite keen for me to get going though I think! By 25 I'll be gone but in your case I wouldn't rush at all if you're still studying and looking for work! Relish it, for the next 50 years then you'll be doing your own washing and cooking and everything, enjoy it while it lasts!

Daveysil15

CaraMay wrote: »

I think it's ridiculous to live with your parents as a grown adult.

They are more than parents - they are a couple in their own right and should be given some privacy to live as a couple once they have their family reared. You wouldn't move in with another adult couple would you?

Move out and give then their lives back.

What's ridiculous about it? Not everyone can afford to move out. I know plenty of people in their 30's still living at home. People working part time, people living on farms etc.

Miss Lockhart

CaraMay wrote: »

I think it's ridiculous to live with your parents as a grown adult.

They are more than parents - they are a couple in their own right and should be given some privacy to live as a couple once they have their family reared. You wouldn't move in with another adult couple would you?

Move out and give then their lives back.

And if the couple don't want or need an empty house?

Why must you dictate how others should think, feel and live their lives?

Karpops

CaraMay wrote: »

I think it's ridiculous to live with your parents as a grown adult.

They are more than parents - they are a couple in their own right and should be given some privacy to live as a couple once they have their family reared. You wouldn't move in with another adult couple would you?

Move out and give then their lives back.

Actually I did live with another couple, I rented a room in their apartment when I was in college.

Also, I have three younger siblings at home who are all also in college. All of us make a part time wage, nowhere near enough for deposits/rent/bills. My parents privacy is not dependant on me.

It's them.

herisson

CaraMay wrote: »

I think it's ridiculous to live with your parents as a grown adult.

They are more than parents - they are a couple in their own right and should be given some privacy to live as a couple once they have their family reared. You wouldn't move in with another adult couple would you?

Move out and give then their lives back.

But what if they cant afford it? Is it still ridiculous?

Im back living with my parents after finishing college, more than likely i wont be moving out again for another year. I cant afford to move away at the moment. i only have a part time job plus saving for a masters on top of that.

Im grateful that my parents will have me back. They know im stuck. I pull my weight and give them rent too. I may hate the fact im back here but I dont think its ridiculous, if it will help me out in the long run.

Id rather live with my parents and save rather than be stuck struggling with bills and rent and pretty much go through my savings to keep my head above water.

sure im 25 next month and i plan at stay at home everyone pays there fair share

what a stupid thread

Karpops

Deleted User wrote: »

sure im 25 next month and i plan at stay at home everyone pays there fair share

what a stupid thread

So why are you here?

jca

Karpops wrote: »

So basically I turned 25 this week and I am still living at home with my parents. It's not uncommon in my circle of friends, we're almost all graduates getting by on part time or seasonal work but not enough for a year's lease on a place. However, I still partially feel like I should have left the nest at least a year ago and I'm a really big loser by still being here.

Thoughts?

Jesus I was married 2 years at your age. Like yourself I didn't have enough money to support myself and my new wife but guess what? I just got on with it, took on deliveries at night, Christmas work in shops etc. My "parents" I'm using the term loosely were too busy drinking themselves to death to worry about my problems. One survives the other didn't. Fair play to you for posting on a public forum but I think you should get a place of your own, for your own self esteem if nothing else.

Solair

Circumstances in Ireland have changed fairly drastically in the last few years. In case you haven't noticed we've just seen our economy crash and burn in a style not witnessed since the Great Depression !

If you've a roof over your head and can find something to keep your CV fresh, be thankful !!

There are plenty of others saddled with mortgages they'll never be able to pay off who are facing into years of insolvency and being "mammied" by faceless bureaucrats in some government insolvency agency that will be counting how many sheets of toilet roll they used !