Having a child under 30 - wasting your life.

Kaneda_ · 16-10-2011 2:13pm #1

Ok ok ,maybe 28 would be the minimum,30-33 being a perfect age.

All these single mothers at 18-19 ,the majority of them didnt mean to get pregnant.

You have your school years,then third level education or you enter the job market and try to get yourself in a position to earn a living and forge a decent career for yourself,something that is very important.Having a child at such a young age puts these things on hold.

Growing up, its easy to tell which girls will have a child as soon as they get a chance,its usually the girls from the estates,the ones who wear PJs to the shop,the ones who come from single parent familys themselves,the ones who get a name as being easy,if you get what i mean.

Travel becomes near impossible or very hard at least,kids suck the life from you.

Every baby looks the same the first few weeks.

I love kids,but i also value my life and i wouldnt have a child until i am some way financially stable and have some direction in life.

If you want to move out of home and dont want to pay 150-200 a week on rent,have a child and the the social will give you a house,then proceed to allow the father/bf to live there with you,the entire county is doing this.

Fluorescence · 16-10-2011 2:14pm

Em, ok.

El Guapo! · 16-10-2011 2:14pm

This is gonna be good.

*gets popcorn

The King of Moo · 16-10-2011 2:16pm

Aren't all children under 30?

The King of Moo · 16-10-2011 2:17pm

OP, they could just ban poor people, that'd solve this "problem."

Anyway, so what if people have kids young? It's their life.

Benny_Cake · 16-10-2011 2:19pm

Hang on - having a child before you're 30 will ruin your life despite the fact that those who do this are raking it in on social welfare?Strange logic!

4leto · 16-10-2011 2:19pm

Tick tock tick tock

biko · 16-10-2011 2:19pm

Letting a scumbag put his dick in you without protection is probably the stupidest decision a girl can possibly make.

tasha200 · 16-10-2011 2:20pm

I am a mother of three, and my 11 year old son could right a post with more maturity than the op.... condecending and patronising, and I really hope the op doesnt have any kids, for a long long time, and when he/she does, he/she comes back on the this thread and reads exactly how ignorant and immature he/she was.

I hate little condecending twits. So yeah, defo dont breed.

Ste.phen · 16-10-2011 2:20pm

I dunno, although i don't plan to have kids until i'm about 30, the earlier you have kids the easier it is to raise them i think, no?

cowzerp · 16-10-2011 2:20pm

Many people feel the best days of there lifes are with there kids so it really depends on how individuals look at it.

hondasam · 16-10-2011 2:21pm

Kaneda_ wrote: »

Ok ok ,maybe 28 would be the minimum,30-33 being a perfect age.

All these single mothers at 18-19 ,the majority of them didnt mean to get pregnant.

You have your school years,then third level education or you enter the job market and try to get yourself in a position to earn a living and forge a decent career for yourself,something that is very important.Having a child at such a young age puts these things on hold.

Growing up, its easy to tell which girls will have a child as soon as they get a chance,its usually the girls from the estates,the ones who wear PJs to the shop,the ones who come from single parent familys themselves,the ones who get a name as being easy,if you get what i mean.

Travel becomes near impossible or very hard at least,kids suck the life from you.

Every baby looks the same the first few weeks.

I love kids,but i also value my life and i wouldnt have a child until i am some way financially stable and have some direction in life.

If you want to move out of home and dont want to pay 150-200 a week on rent,have a child and the the social will give you a house,then proceed to allow the father/bf to live there with you,the entire county is doing this.

some of us had kids young because we wanted to and you can travel with kids.
I could have got a free house,no one told me that and I could have a man living with me. I feel liked I missed out big time.

Fremen · 16-10-2011 2:22pm

biko wrote: »

Letting a scumbag put his dick in you without protection is probably the stupidest decision a girl can possibly make.

Kind of depends which bit of you he puts it in, no?

Twee. · 16-10-2011 2:22pm

But if you have them younger they'll be all grown up and you're free to live life, enjoying yourself with no kids!

My mam is 53, and I'm her youngest at 22. She's always running into old friends who are stressed with junior certs, teenage woes, even some tantrum throwing 8 years olds. And she's like lol my kids are grown up, heading off traveling for a month with the husband.

ScumLord · 16-10-2011 2:22pm

Kaneda_ wrote: »

You have your school years,then third level education or you enter the job market and try to get yourself in a position to earn a living and forge a decent career for yourself,something that is very important.Having a child at such a young age puts these things on hold

If you have no interest in a career third level education becomes less appealing. In a good community people will just want to find a job that can give them a comfortable life while they contribute back to the community by giving it more children. That's just as much of a real life as being a corporate whore.

OakeyDokey · 16-10-2011 2:23pm

Kaneda_ wrote: »

Travel becomes near impossible or very hard at least,kids suck the life from you.

I really hope you don't have kids with an attitude like that!

I wouldn't call it wasting your life. Are you talking from experience OP?

I'm not sure I understand you. First your bashing it but then your recommending it if you want to scam the Social Welfare??

So people who where pj's are more likely to get pregnant :eek:

I'm very confused

Fremen · 16-10-2011 2:23pm

tasha200 wrote: »

I am a mother of three, and my 11 year old son could right a post with more maturity than the op.... condecending and patronising, and I really hope the op doesnt have any kids, for a long long time, and when he/she does, he/she comes back on the this thread and reads exactly how ignorant and immature he/she was.

I hate little condecending twits. So yeah, defo dont breed.

Sounds like someone popped a couple of sprogs early on in life...

Kaneda_ · 16-10-2011 2:25pm

tasha200 wrote: »

I am a mother of three, and my 11 year old son could right a post with more maturity than the op.... condecending and patronising, and I really hope the op doesnt have any kids, for a long long time, and when he/she does, he/she comes back on the this thread and reads exactly how ignorant and immature he/she was.

I hate little condecending twits. So yeah, defo dont breed.

Of course you are going to say that.

I have never in my life heard of a woman/girl say that she wish she didnt have the child so young.never.

But in the back of their minds you know they are thinking it.

When they see all there friends heading to OZ,or travelling around the world,do you not think they are even a small bit regretful,but the catch 22 is that they cant tell anyone that they are,as thats basically saying i dont want to raise my child,i want my life back.

No hate towards kids,not at all but i think having children is a serious matter,not something you do to get a free house and something you do just because you drunk.

mikemac · 16-10-2011 2:26pm

So OP, you're a bit older, mid twenties?

You have no long term partner
You don't have a good career
You don't have savings or a house deposit or own a property

And you want to judge others?

Maybe work on your own life and set some goals for yourself
It's always the bitter people who compare themselves to everyone else, just work on yourself OP and don't worry over what you can't control

Cill Dara Abu · 16-10-2011 2:26pm

tasha200 wrote: »

I am a mother of three, and my 11 year old son could right a post with more maturity than the op.... condecending and patronising, and I really hope the op doesnt have any kids, for a long long time, and when he/she does, he/she comes back on the this thread and reads exactly how ignorant and immature he/she was.

I hate little condecending twits. So yeah, defo dont breed.

Oh the ironing

losthorizon · 16-10-2011 2:27pm

gotta agree with the op a lot. Most of the people I work with seem to have had kids by mistake and werent planned. Then again they are a scummy working class waterford crowd. Not a cosmopolitan middle class cork chap like myself.

Saila · 16-10-2011 2:27pm

Dean09 wrote: »

This is gonna be shit....
again

fyp.

Kaneda_ · 16-10-2011 2:30pm

Cill Dara Abu wrote: »

Oh the ironing

This has to be the post of the day!

ToddyDoody · 16-10-2011 2:31pm

Not necessarity a bad thing but some young parents (fathers moreso) are either the pits or parent acceptably with great difficulty.

NomdePlume · 16-10-2011 2:31pm

Kaneda_ wrote: »

Growing up, its easy to tell which girls will have a child as soon as they get a chance,its usually the girls from the estates,the ones who wear PJs to the shop,the ones who come from single parent familys themselves,the ones who get a name as being easy,if you get what i mean.

Nah. Growing up, you learn that there are many ways to live your life, and many routes to happiness. You also learn that making sweeping judgements about "girls from the estates" and "single parent familys" [sic] will give you away as an unpleasant snob.

Kaneda_ · 16-10-2011 2:32pm

NomdePlume wrote: »

Nah. Growing up, you learn that there are many ways to live your life, and many routes to happiness. You also learn that making sweeping judgements about "girls from the estates" and single parent familys [sic] will give you away as an unpleasant snob.

I just tell it like it is,you cant deny the facts,however unpleasant they are.

4leto · 16-10-2011 2:32pm

Kaneda_ wrote: »

Ok ok ,maybe 28 would be the minimum,30-33 being a perfect age.

All these single mothers at 18-19 ,the majority of them didnt mean to get pregnant.

You have your school years,then third level education or you enter the job market and try to get yourself in a position to earn a living and forge a decent career for yourself,something that is very important.Having a child at such a young age puts these things on hold.

Growing up, its easy to tell which girls will have a child as soon as they get a chance,its usually the girls from the estates,the ones who wear PJs to the shop,the ones who come from single parent familys themselves,the ones who get a name as being easy,if you get what i mean.

Travel becomes near impossible or very hard at least,kids suck the life from you.

Every baby looks the same the first few weeks.

I love kids,but i also value my life and i wouldnt have a child until i am some way financially stable and have some direction in life.

If you want to move out of home and dont want to pay 150-200 a week on rent,have a child and the the social will give you a house,then proceed to allow the father/bf to live there with you,the entire county is doing this.

Its horses for courses,

But I understand were you are coming from, a child changes your life forever and it sets you on a course that has its own commitments and duties. You can achieve separate ambitions with children, but it makes them more difficult.

But some people are content to have children early in their lives, that is their ambition and so what.

But one thing I do notice once someone has kids there are very few regrets.