this is what the transition looks like when a boy becomes a girl

SassyGirl_1

I think you should keep posting pictures - personally I don't see why not as it's a refreshing change to the general negative "Oh whoah is me" vibe which usually comes hand in hand with transition.

Beside, there's Male and Female form appricataion (eye candy) threads on some of the other forums, why not here too?

L.Jenkins

I love the appriciation threads and the photos. All the photos I've seen so far are a bunch of hotties

L.Jenkins

I hope no one takes offence to this but I find it's one humourous side of being a transsexual.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JRCnYPSsSdE

Links234

I'd stress that it's very good to keep a sense of humour about things

L.Jenkins

It is. I actually find her to be very funny about it all and its a good thing to have .

L.Jenkins

Nong Poy, Asian Actress and Model before and after. All I can say is, "Oh my god!"

WantToBeRose

Hey people, I've been following this discussion for awhile now and decided to join the board myself.

Like many people here, I am a woman trapped in a mans body. For the last two years I've been doing nothing but thinking about it and feeling down, until about over a month ago, I went to my doctor and told him what I believed. He has since organized an appointment with Professor Lucey in Dublin for me, which I will be attenting in a few days. I'm nervous about it, i'm not sure what will happen.

I haven't told anyone yet, friends or family, so I'm quite scared at the moment. Does anyone know what Dr Lucey will do for me on my first meeting with him?

L.Jenkins

I can't be certain how your first meeting will go as I am attending a Psychiatrist and each appoint is different. I have attended Psychiatrists before ad I can tell you your Doctor will listen and be non judgemental. Don't let it worry you.

Have you tried Counselling yet? It will help you alot hopefully as it has helped me in the past.

WantToBeRose

No i haven't, so far it's only been the doctor. Hopefully my appointment with Dr Lucey will be start me in the right direction, maybe he'll put me into counselling.

L.Jenkins

WantToBeRose wrote: »

No i haven't, so far it's only been the doctor. Hopefully my appointment with Dr Lucey will be start me in the right direction, maybe he'll put me into counselling.

I don't know too many Doctors who provide a referal to a Counselling service. You should look for services in your local area. As for telling family and friends, don't rush it and Counselling will help you with some issues before you do.

I commend you because recently I took the first step myself. Basically I went and seen my College Counsellor and GP. Now I have a Psychiatrists appointment next month. I have told friends and they're all good about it, but I haven't told family yet and I completely understand your fears. So basically take it one step at a time. Have you checked out TENI for local support groups that you can visit.

Links234

Hi there WantToBeRose

Have you thought about attending any support groups? There's a list of support groups on TENI's website: http://www.teni.ie/Support

I hope everything goes well for you

WantToBeRose

ItsThatManAgain wrote: »

I don't know too many Doctors who provide a referal to a Counselling service. You should look for services in your local area. As for telling family and friends, don't rush it and Counselling will help you with some issues before you do.

I commend you because recently I took the first step myself. Basically I went and seen my College Counsellor and GP. Now I have a Psychiatrists appointment next month. I have told friends and they're all good about it, but I haven't told family yet and I completely understand your fears. So basically take it one step at a time. Have you checked out TENI for local support groups that you can visit.

Yeah I will look into that. Would any counseller do or would they have to specialize in the topic?
Oh I don't plan on telling many people until I'm well under way and ready. I need to adjust to it all myself before I expect anyone else to.

Oh good on you for taking the step. I bet you felt releaved. I wasn't sure how I felt after telling my GP. I thought i'd be emotional, but I was surprisingly calm, and I'm a sensitive person! ha.

I live in Mayo, and I know of a support group in Galway but getting there for meetings would be hard for me.

WantToBeRose

Links234 wrote: »

Hi there WantToBeRose

Have you thought about attending any support groups? There's a list of support groups on TENI's website: http://www.teni.ie/Support

I hope everything goes well for you

Hey Links234

I have to tell you, the pictures you have put up in this thread have really made me feel better about transition, thank you for that

Well as I told ItsThatManAgain there is a support group i know of, but getting to it would be hard for me as I wouldn't be able to travel to it.

L.Jenkins

WantToBeRose wrote: »

Yeah I will look into that. Would any counseller do or would they have to specialize in the topic?
Oh I don't plan on telling many people until I'm well under way and ready. I need to adjust to it all myself before I expect anyone else to.

Oh good on you for taking the step. I bet you felt releaved. I wasn't sure how I felt after telling my GP. I thought i'd be emotional, but I was surprisingly calm, and I'm a sensitive person! ha.

I live in Mayo, and I know of a support group in Galway but getting there for meetings would be hard for me.

Counsellors who specialist in GID issues are few and far between so any Counsellor will do and they could possible refer you to someone who knows all about it. It will help to know yourself before you can help others understand.

I felt great when I finally accepted it and kicked everything into gear. I felt that I also would be emotional about it, but I felt even better when I got a chance to speak about it. I was bursting to tell someone and my Counsellor was great. I'm waiting to see a new Counsellor at the moment.

WantToBeRose

ItsThatManAgain wrote: »

Counsellors who specialist in GID issues are few and far between so any Counsellor will do and they could possible refer you to someone who knows all about it. It will help to know yourself before you can help others understand.

I felt great when I finally accepted it and kicked everything into gear. I felt that I also would be emotional about it, but I felt even better when I got a chance to speak about it. I was bursting to tell someone and my Counsellor was great. I'm waiting to see a new Counsellor at the moment.

I asked one of my friends if they'd go to the appointment with me in dublin. She told me that she doesn't have to know what it's about, and that i can tell her in my own time and when I'm ready. I think if i did tell her, she'd be supportive, but like anyone, she'd need time to think about it.
It's so hard to actually get the words out of my mouth though, I wouldn't know what to say to her. Like when I told my GP, I kept stuttering for about 5 minutes until I finally came out with "I believe i might be transgender". I send transgender because I feel its less offensive than Transsexual. I know they have different meanings though.

I think I'll take your advice and look for a counsellor. It should be very helpful. and like you said, it gave you a chance to actually talk about it.

L.Jenkins

I hope your transition will be an enjoyable one and I know only too well you'll have some great support here. All the best of luck.

WantToBeRose

ItsThatManAgain wrote: »

I hope your transition will be an enjoyable one and I know only too well you'll have some great support here. All the best of luck.

Thank you so much And likewise.

deirdre_dub

Hi WantToBeRose,

I'm want to repeat something that's already been said - don't rush telling people. If you find it hard to get the words out of your mouth, then take that as a sign that you are not ready to tell that person. Give it time - you yourself have only just started to absorb this information about yourself.

As for support groups - I believe TENI will be setting up more of them. I also believe (hope!) that there will be TENI representation at Galway Pride this year - if you feel comfortable, you could go along to Galway Pride and talk informally to someone there. They will likely be carrying a big blue banner that says "Transgender Equality Network Ireland", so you can't miss them! There is a chance I will be there (I don't know yet) - if I am, I'd love to meet you. But I reckon that if anyone will be there, Vanessa Lacey (the trans woman recently interviewed on TV3) will be, and she is a lovely person to meet.

Good luck with everything!

L.Jenkins

When is the Galway Pride again. I know I've been told already but I've got a head like a sive.

Freiheit

It's saturday week...a chance I might go but I'll see...isn't a great deal of early morning trains...It starts at 12 or so does it?

Links234

Links234

Updated one from earlier in this thread:

L.Jenkins

Links234

L.Jenkins

I won't say what I was thinking It's a bit naughty!

Eebs

All these photos are reposted with permission or taken from sites where the posters don't mind right?

Just felt like maybe I should ask that.

L.Jenkins

You would be right eebs. They are used with permission

Links234

Eebs wrote: »

All these photos are reposted with permission or taken from sites where the posters don't mind right?

Just felt like maybe I should ask that.

Mostly coming from sites where posters don't mind, a lot of them are reposted over the various chans, some of them come from places like reddit where they're fairly well circulated.

I understand your concern though, someone had posted some pictures in this thread before that I knew came from a private website, and I had words with them and asked them to remove the images. I don't want to post anything that anyone isn't comfortable with having out there, and I'd be very quick to take down any images if someone doesn't want to be shown here.

emily tree

hey there...
So.. i randomly came across this thread while searching for photos of males becoming females because it's what i do when i'm especially depressed...

here's the scoop about me...
i'm a shy, 28 year old male who has known for at least the last 20 years, possibly longer, that i was not intended to be this way.

Once i hit puberty around the age of 12 things got especially confusing and the cross-dressing and all that stuff started happening.

I discovered the internet as a 15 year old and immediately created an identity for myself as a girl. I fooled a lot of people, many of whom became better friends to me than anyone i knew in real life. Obviously i have a conscience, and i hated hurting these people who were very close to me, so i confessed my "secret" and just wound up getting hurt by their obviously freaked out and betrayed reactions.

Ever since that moment i KNEW that i needed to be female, yet i did nothing about it. I haven't been able to talk to my mum or my family about it.. I have talked to friends that have come and gone through my life, but it's been mostly that, talk, and hoping for halloween to come faster and faster so that i can dress as a girl without anyone thinking i'm weird... (although the fact i've dressed as a girl 5 of the last 6 years probably has people thinking something's up by now...)

I don't have a lot of money, nor a giant support circle of friends. But the problem is this... i'm now 28 years old.. I've been regretting not making a decision on this 10 years ago... even 5 years ago... and i have this horrible fear of turning 30, looking at my reflection in this body and doing something very stupid.

I love life. I'm an artist, i love the world, and nature, and can find beauty in almost anything... except when i look in the mirror. I hate the man i've become. And my fear is that i will not be able to live with myself much longer.

I know i need to do something, but i also fear that too much time has passed me by, and that i should have made this decision when i looked like the young effeminite boy that i used to be (growng up people always mistook me for a girl)... not the man that i've now become.

I want to be a GIRL. or a woman. I don't want to look like a tranny. I want to be passable. I want to be happy with my reflection.

I don't know why i'm telling you all this. Maybe i need to reach out. I know i need to do something... I just don't know where to start.

help?

Freiheit

Speak to someone in person, someone at teni,ring the support line,go to a support group, a counsellor or even a friend, talk a lot and see how you feel.......