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ttaylor

Well, I got told to f*uck off tonight. I asked him for more than just a few nights out together. We are together 10 months (me 30 & him 33) we see each other at least four times a week, and apparently he 'loves me.' I said I would like more than that...maybe move in together... he said things were just fine. We no longer have a sex life due to his 'accommodation' so I suggested moving in together. He said things are fine as they are, I disagreed. When he asked me why, I gave him an honest answer, too many people in one house, no sex etc......... he said he always goes to my house ....(which is once every two weeks for the record and I live at home). When I said a (as an adult female, who doesnt want marriage or kids...but i dont mind porn or soccer...which he apparently apprecieates) So I was told to literally F*uck off.

Thoughts please?!!!!? Male and female????

Oilrig

All over, move on. Sounds like a waster.

PS: Male

the GALL

why doesn't he want sex? and what's with his place that you can stay over? is he sharing a room
male
ps i hope you ****ed off and left him

stepbar

"We are together 10 months..."

"...we see each other at least four times a week",

"I would like more than that...maybe move in together..."

I'd advise your boyfriend to start running.... Fast....

meglome

The four days a week wasn't too bad but the no sex wouldn't be great at all. It does seem very harsh that he would tell you to **** off though.

FlutterinBantam

Ok folks... hey, back up now... nothing more to see here, it's all over,no more excitement,back to the humdrum existance.

You!! I'm talkin to you Sir,move along now ,its all over here see.

stepbar

stepbar wrote: »

"We are together 10 months..."

"...we see each other at least four times a week",

"I would like more than that...maybe move in together..."

I'd advise your boyfriend to start running.... Fast....

Hello practically NO SEX!

No one has ever told me to **** off. I'd dump him just for that.

Lil' Smiler

What do you do when you see each other 4 times a week?


Get adventurous... try sex outside, in the car etc!!


Count yourself lucky you see him 4 times a week, i might see mine twice a week. Maybe once during the week and depending on weekend plans i may or may not see him.

meglome

Lil' Smiler wrote: »

What do you do when you see each other 4 times a week?


Get adventurous... try sex outside, in the car etc!!


Count yourself lucky you see him 4 times a week, i might see mine twice a week. Maybe once during the week and depending on weekend plans i may or may not see him.

Well lucky you :rolleyes: That's like having a **** buddy not a relationship.

Lil' Smiler

meglome wrote: »

Well lucky you :rolleyes: That's like having a **** buddy not a relationship.

hmm... after a year and a half together I don't think it's like having a "**** buddy". i'm in college at weekends, i coach sports twice a week, he has been in college in the evenings, i have been mentoring a student some evenings, he works full time, busy lifestyles but make time for each other. We talk everyday... sometimes practically all day.

I should have said 3 times maybe. Both busy lately but still make time for each other and very much in a strong, loving, healthy relationship, thank you very much.

Thats nonsense Meglome! Complete and utter.

Lil' Smiler

Moonbaby wrote: »

Thats nonsense Meglome! Complete and utter.

Agreed. Thank you!

Uncalled for, I was giving my situation in relation to the OP's post trying to offer some help.

ttaylor

Lil' Smiler wrote: »

What do you do when you see each other 4 times a week?


Get adventurous... try sex outside, in the car etc!!


Count yourself lucky you see him 4 times a week, i might see mine twice a week. Maybe once during the week and depending on weekend plans i may or may not see him.

drink beer..........his hobby

Papillon87

Well I'm in the same boat as Lil Smiler regarding how often my bf and I see each other and we are certainly not **** buddies. College and work commitments. Doesn't mean we don't talk on the phone and text all the time.

OP, what happened? Did he basically say f off, it's over. Or was it, f off, we're having an argument? Did you just leave?

Lil' Smiler

ttaylor wrote: »

drink beer..........his hobby

Oh no *hugs* So is it worth being in the relationship then when you will be able to find someone more deserving of you etc??

And tell you to f*ck off..... ridiculous, no way should he talk to you like that!!


yeah what did you do actually?

ttaylor

Lil' Smiler wrote: »

Oh no *hugs* So is it worth being in the relationship then when you will be able to find someone more deserving of you etc??

And tell you to f*ck off..... ridiculous, no way should he talk to you like that!!


yeah what did you do actually?

After he told me to f*ck off three times, i did. I f*cked off and left him sitting there. We don't usually fight, we do have a close enough relationship but this was totally out of character. I have since called him but he is not answering the phone.....so I guess this it it.

How old are the pair of you?
Were you asking him to move out of his mothers house?
Did you try encouraging him to move out on his own first?

Lil' Smiler

ttaylor wrote: »

After he told me to f*ck off three times, i did. I f*cked off and left him sitting there. We don't usually fight, we do have a close enough relationship but this was totally out of character. I have since called him but he is not answering the phone.....so I guess this it it.

Aww what a p*ick... no need for those words!!
Leave it for him to contact you anyway!! Don't get in touch with him.

Hmm... i dunno maybe it's just me but the relationship doesn't seem so serious, but then i don't really like to judge others relationships. would it be a terribly bad thing if it was all over??

meglome

Lil' Smiler wrote: »

hmm... after a year and a half together I don't think it's like having a "**** buddy". i'm in college at weekends, i coach sports twice a week, he has been in college in the evenings, i have been mentoring a student some evenings, he works full time, busy lifestyles but make time for each other. We talk everyday... sometimes practically all day.

I should have said 3 times maybe. Both busy lately but still make time for each other and very much in a strong, loving, healthy relationship, thank you very much.

Well that's me back in my box

ttaylor

Moonbaby wrote: »

How old are the pair of you?
Were you asking him to move out of his mothers house?
Did you try encouraging him to move out on his own first?

I'm 30, he is 33, and no, he is living with another guy and girl in shared accommodation

thanks for the replies so far guys!

ttaylor

ttaylor wrote: »

I'm 30, he is 33, and no, he is living with another guy and girl in shared accommodation

thanks for the replies so far guys!

Sorry I did read that orginally, but his attitude gave me the impression that ye were much younger.
It is a completely unacceptable way for someone of his age to act.
I know you have said it is out of character, but 10 months is a short time and you don't start to see someone true colours until the honeymoon phases starts to wear off.


I don't see why his accomidation is affecting your lovelife when he is in shared housing?

Jackz

^+1, If you pay for a room in a house it's a given you can sleep and shag in it.

meglome

So he has his own room?

Lola123

You're only together 10 months! Do you not think thats a bit soon to be moving in together???
Also, I don't get the no sex thing. Why can't you do it at his place? Does he not have his own room?
Is he bothered by the lack of sex?

aye

ttaylor wrote: »

drink beer..........his hobby

he's a waster so.

thats what that says to me.

i can understand him not wanting to move in together to so quick, but it seems to me like he is scared to change.
surely if living with people was causing an issue with sex, he could move out on his own for a while?

i'm male by the way.

Crazy Catlady

You're together 10 months.
The sex is non exsistant.
He doesn't seem bothered about this and tells you to F*** Off when you mention it?
What are you not getting? He;s just not that into you!
He's tellin you what you need to know. Move on.

watna

Grrr, I rarely have a reason to rant about my relationship but I'm pissed off today.

Himself was in the pub last night. He was supposed to meet me and get the dart home with me (I was having dinner with friends) but decided to stay in the pub because he was having so much fun. I was a little put out because he's going away for 6 weeks next weekend and I wanted to have as much time together as possible but said fair enough and went home.

I went home and my dad called over to collect me. He let me know that our family cat is very sick and is at the vet and it doesn't look good, that he's probably on the way out. The cat is 16 and is adored by our family. I've had him since I was 8. Anyway I texted my bf to tell him and that I was really upset. Didn't get a reply. An hour later I get a drunken phone call where he said he didn't get the text. I had to tell him about the cat over the phone and i was crying. He eventually gets in, eats curry chips in bed, argues with me for a while (he'll argue black is white when he's drunk), eventually asks about the cat, says oh well (no comforting me) and falls in to a drunken sleep leaving me upeset and lying awake.

Men! I just wanted some comforting and a bit of symapthy! So I'm upset in work now, I just want to go home and I haven't heard from him. Men!! :rolleyes:

Dragan

Okay, looking to move in after just 10 months would have me saying "I don't think that's such a good idea, we're only together a short while."

The sex thing? I'm with you on that one, sex is important and needs to be worked on however moving in is not the answer.

Being told to **** off is just not on and he needs to apologise for that one.

It should be noted, the moving in idea might have thrown him somewhat, so he may have been off balance at the time.

Still a dickhead move mind.

She Devil

Awww ... lits never easy eh ...
If he didnt offer you a promise in the near or even distant future i would walk away ... maybe he will realise then what he is giving up!!
If not he was never worth it anyway! Have some pride girl ...
xx

aye

She Devil wrote: »

If he didnt offer you a promise in the near or even distant future i would walk away ... maybe he will realise then what he is giving up!!

ah come on, they're only together 10 months.
i'm not advocating what he said, complete waster i think.
but i also think ten months is a bit early to be expecting a guy to be promising a move in the future.