Height requirements in dating

Church on Tuesday · 08-06-2020 9:08pm

mr_fegelien wrote: »

Why are people so strict on them? I'm a 5ft 5in man and a woman on Tinder told me I was cute but too short. Said most of her friends feel the same way.

She's definitely not alone as this is a sentiment shared by many women. In fact there was a study that showed the height of a partner is more important for women than men.

What are short men supposed to do?

Move on to someone who is interested.

Better Than Christ · 08-06-2020 9:10pm

mr_fegelien wrote: »

What are short men supposed to do?

I'll tell you what they shouldn't do: They shouldn't get hung up on something they can't change. It's like getting annoyed about the weather... just shut up and buy an umbrella (not if you're a short-arse though - you'll have someone's eye out with it).

I've mentioned my height (around 5ft 7 or something like that) in a lighthearted way on my Tinder profile, and still got matches, including from women who were taller than me. I'm not good-looking or rich and my profile makes no reference to my massive penis, yet they still managed to look beyond my height. You just need to work with what you've got.

completedit · 08-06-2020 9:12pm

Few issues. Shorter girls can tend to be among the most heightist. So saying go for shorter girls isn't a one size fits all solution.

Height is just one of those things. There's no fairness, it just is. You'll never slay like crazy as a short guy unless you have sick facial aesthetics, charisma/humor or money.

Leg End Reject · 08-06-2020 9:15pm

completedit wrote: »

Height is just one of those things. There's no fairness, it just is. You'll never slay like crazy as a short guy unless you have sick facial aesthetics, charisma/humor or money.

Are you an American teen? I don't know anyone who speaks like this in real life.

completedit · 08-06-2020 9:21pm

Agent Girthplumb wrote: »

Height is a key characteristic women find attractive, to say it is a "preference" is disengenuous. Nonetheless even short men can learn to be very good with women. There is a quality called "there's just something about him" that has a powerful affect on women. It's a quality you can develop with the right mindset.

No women ever likes a man because of his short height, she'll like him in spite of it. On the contrary, many women will like a man purely for his height

Figel Narage · 08-06-2020 9:23pm

Agent Girthplumb wrote: »

Height is a key characteristic women find attractive, to say it is a "preference" is disengenuous. Nonetheless even short men can learn to be very good with women. There is a quality called "there's just something about him" that has a powerful affect on women. It's a quality you can develop with the right mindset.

Yeah full agreement. Women obviously don't all find shorter guys unattractive but height is a common thing women generally like.

saabsaab · 08-06-2020 9:24pm

Agent Girthplumb wrote: »

Height is a key characteristic women find attractive, to say it is a "preference" is disengenuous. Nonetheless even short men can learn to be very good with women. There is a quality called "there's just something about him" that has a powerful affect on women. It's a quality you can develop with the right mindset.

Absolutely, a few years ago I knew this fella, short under 5' 6" who had no trouble with women. He said wear neat clothes, nice aftershave, good haircut and don't give a damm. Mind you he was in good shape and had darker skin.

saabsaab · 08-06-2020 9:26pm

completedit wrote: »

No women ever likes a man because of his short height, she'll like him in spite of it. On the contrary, many women will like a man purely for his height

I suppose but they will quickly turn off him if he doesn't measure up in other areas.

Wabbit Ears · 08-06-2020 9:29pm

Agent Girthplumb wrote: »

Why do you think the OP is angry?

I was playing on the stereotype of short angry men.

AttentionBebe · 08-06-2020 9:33pm

I'm 5'3" and genuinely couldn't give a **** what height a guy is. It's never been a consideration, maybe because I'm short myself, idk

Gradius · 08-06-2020 9:43pm

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kowloon · 08-06-2020 10:03pm

Leg End Reject wrote: »

Are you an American teen? I don't know anyone who speaks like this in real life.

Not cool, bruh. :mad:

mr_fegelien · 08-06-2020 10:03pm

AttentionBebe wrote: »

I'm 5'3" and genuinely couldn't give a **** what height a guy is. It's never been a consideration, maybe because I'm short myself, idk

But would you date a guy SHORTER than you.

Key thing I've noticed with women is that many don't mind a short guy but he still has to be taller than her.

Bobblehats · 08-06-2020 10:17pm

Desperately seeking tall, skinny-fat ectomorph whose little pot belly protrudes further than his chest regardless. Preferably with his face in the clouds

kowloon · 08-06-2020 10:53pm

Bobblehats wrote: »

Desperately seeking tall, skinny-fat ectomorph whose little pot belly protrudes further than his chest regardless. Preferably with his face in the clouds

Mad_maxx · 08-06-2020 11:24pm

stateofflux wrote: »

If i had a euro for the amount of times i've seen charismatic, funny & confident shorter guys with taller women id be rich.. on the flip side i've seen plenty of awkward, good looking and insecure tall guys....alone

The cliche specified requirements on dating sites do not always manifest in reality.

being too tall is no better than being on the short side

if your very tall , it sort of defines you as a person, makes it hard for others to relate to you

Capt'n Midnight · 08-06-2020 11:24pm

When the jaws open wide
and there's more jaws inside,
that's a moray

Mad_maxx · 08-06-2020 11:27pm

Agent Girthplumb wrote: »

Height is a key characteristic women find attractive, to say it is a "preference" is disengenuous. Nonetheless even short men can learn to be very good with women. There is a quality called "there's just something about him" that has a powerful affect on women. It's a quality you can develop with the right mindset.

only within reason , once you go beyond a certain height , its a disadvantage , im talking not taller than 6 ft 3 and even that is no advantage as you are a lot taller than most women

Capt'n Midnight · 08-06-2020 11:36pm

[insert witty comment about the height of ignorance]

08-06-2020 11:51pm

I'm a shade under 5ft but I'm not short. I'm just highly concentrated fabulous.

08-06-2020 11:52pm

Capt'n Midnight wrote: »

When the jaws open wide
and there's more jaws inside,
that's a moray

When an eel passes by
And it touches your thigh
That's a moray

ILoveYourVibes · 09-06-2020 12:07am

mr_fegelien wrote: »

Why are people so strict on them? I'm a 5ft 5in man and a woman on Tinder told me I was cute but too short. Said most of her friends feel the same way.

She's definitely not alone as this is a sentiment shared by many women. In fact there was a study that showed the height of a partner is more important for women than men.

What are short men supposed to do?

Why do you always play the victim?

purifol0 · 09-06-2020 12:18am

Height requirements are rough OP. There isn't really a way around them online at least. If you lie about about your height by more than an inch and you meet in person, your date is going to immediately see you as a liar and we all know it's not best to start a relationship on a lie.

As for height being a personal preference, this is just bull**** woman say and you shouldn't pay them any attention ever. They will never know the struggle of being a short man, never mind being stuck for a date. Dating apps have given them infinite choice, and they don't even have to write a bio, just not be disgustingly fat and even then they'll still get matches.

Life is not fair but women don't ever admit or even realise that they themselves are the ultimate discriminators. The arbiters of who gets to have sex,intimacy and children. And who doesn't.

Male height is a huge factor. There is a reason guys who are 6 foot 4 put that down in their bio, and the inverse is true for women. Who often write "and I love to wear heels" after listing their height.

Basically it ain't fair but they don't care. Forming a connection in real life is actually easier, just don't expect to pull in a nightclub.

Best of luck

freshpopcorn · 09-06-2020 12:20am

I'm the same height as you OP. You've just to accept it. I was always good at talking to friends and always felt I needed to be tall to get on with women. However you can do it if you sort of believe in yourself and being confident helped or even pretending to be confident.
However I have encountered women who have a thing about height. Whilst some were just into it for looks.(My face wouldn't have met there standards anyway). I found what was more common they wanted it for protection and safety. IE They'd need a big man to protect them from things.
Just in my experience.

Figel Narage · 09-06-2020 12:23am

purifol0 wrote: »

Height requirements are rough OP. There isn't really a way around them online at least. If you lie about about your height by more than an inch and you meet in person, your date is going to immediately see you as a liar and we all know it's not best to start a relationship on a lie.

As for height being a personal preference, this is just bull**** woman say and you shouldn't pay them any attention ever. They will never know the struggle of being a short man, never mind being stuck for a date. Dating apps have given them infinite choice, and they don't even have to write a bio, just not be disgustingly fat and even then they'll still get matches.

Life is not fair but women don't ever admit or even realise that they themselves are the ultimate discriminators. The arbiters of who gets to have sex,intimacy and children. And who doesn't.

Male height is a huge factor. There is a reason guys who are 6 foot 4 put that down in their bio, and the inverse is true for women. Who often write "and I love to wear heels" after listing their height.

Basically it ain't fair but they don't care. Forming a connection in real life is actually easier, just don't expect to pull in a nightclub.

Best of luck

Couldn't agree more

09-06-2020 12:40am

purifol0 wrote: »

Height requirements are rough OP. There isn't really a way around them online at least. If you lie about about your height by more than an inch and you meet in person, your date is going to immediately see you as a liar and we all know it's not best to start a relationship on a lie.

As for height being a personal preference, this is just bull**** woman say and you shouldn't pay them any attention ever. They will never know the struggle of being a short man, never mind being stuck for a date. Dating apps have given them infinite choice, and they don't even have to write a bio, just not be disgustingly fat and even then they'll still get matches.

Life is not fair but women don't ever admit or even realise that they themselves are the ultimate discriminators. The arbiters of who gets to have sex,intimacy and children. And who doesn't.

Male height is a huge factor. There is a reason guys who are 6 foot 4 put that down in their bio, and the inverse is true for women. Who often write "and I love to wear heels" after listing their height.

Basically it ain't fair but they don't care. Forming a connection in real life is actually easier, just don't expect to pull in a nightclub.

Best of luck

Thinly veiled "why even bother" prattle. Victimhood certainly isn't an attractive quality.

purifol0 · 09-06-2020 1:00am

[Deleted User] wrote: »

Thinly veiled "why even bother" prattle. Victimhood certainly isn't an attractive quality.

Why does the truth bother you so much you have to retort with such vehemence?

As for attractive qualities, being tall is very attractive but those tall tall men didn't have to work to achieve their height. A short man will have to work exceptionally hard to get a fraction of the attention from women which a taller man will get just by virtue of his god given verticality.

kowloon · 09-06-2020 1:31am

freshpopcorn wrote: »

I found what was more common they wanted it for protection and safety. IE They'd need a big man to protect them from things.

That's why I studied the blade, mastered the blockchain and cultivated inner strength.

Purple Mountain · 09-06-2020 1:52am

kowloon wrote: »

That's why I studied the blade, mastered the blockchain and cultivated inner strength.

I just got an image there of Michelangelo and his nanchucks.

chrissb8 · 09-06-2020 1:54am

purifol0 wrote: »

Why does the truth bother you so much you have to retort with such vehemence?

As for attractive qualities, being tall is very attractive but those tall tall men didn't have to work to achieve their height. A short man will have to work exceptionally hard to get a fraction of the attention from women which a taller man will get just by virtue of his god given verticality.

Absolute nonsense. If people went around defining themselves by their height they'd get nowhere. Just move past it and appreciate the other qualities you have and use those.

Richard Hillman · 09-06-2020 1:58am

I wouldn't go out with a woman that is taller than me and I guess ladies are the same. Some ladies would only go out with a guy if they are at least 3-4 inches taller. That's just a preference. I don't get the hullabaloo about it.

I'm 5'6 so I'm obviously ruled out of a lot of ladies automatically, fair enough. I rule out ladies for lots of reasons too. That's the game. You win some, you lose some.

bb1234567 · 09-06-2020 2:05am

mr_fegelien wrote: »

But would you date a guy SHORTER than you.

Key thing I've noticed with women is that many don't mind a short guy but he still has to be taller than her.

How many guys are 5ft 2?That's small even for a girl. I dont think she's going to have much problem with a guy she might happen to like being smaller than her

kowloon · 09-06-2020 2:06am

Purple Mountain wrote: »

I just got an image there of Michelangelo and his nanchucks.

I was aiming for something rather different.

cj maxx · 09-06-2020 7:35am

No height requirements here.
As they say, it's easy to climb a fallen tree

jimgoose · 09-06-2020 8:59am

Figel Narage wrote: »

...It's such a disgusting bullying behavior by anyone to look down on someone for their height...

I see what you did there, young-fella-me-Honda-50, and I'm watching you. You are on VERY thin ice, sunshine!!

Mad_maxx · 09-06-2020 11:21am

while in a long term relationship , never once found my height of almost 6ft 5 to be an advantage with the opposite sex , i accept that a guy circa 6 ft 1 or thereabouts might be more desirable to a bloke who was 5 ft 4 but when you tower over most women , all they tend to see is someone who makes them strain their neck , didnt mean i never scored but guys who were less long certainly scored more as they had a better pick

being tall is expensive , extra leg room required on planes , not to mention less comfort in most cars

Badly Drunk Boy · 09-06-2020 11:58am

bb1234567 wrote: »

How many guys are 5ft 2?That's small even for a girl. I dont think she's going to have much problem with a guy she might happen to like being smaller than her

I work with two lads who are about 5'2", one of them being very self-conscious about his height. I'm 6'5", and one day I was on the factory floor talking to the self-conscious one when one of the women shouted, from about 30 metres, "Will you stop picking on that man?!?" (me being the man) and thought she was hilarious. I could sense the embarrassment in the lad.

Anyway, now he's happily engaged to a girl who's an inch or two taller than him so it worked out for him.

Mad_maxx · 09-06-2020 12:34pm

Badly Drunk Boy wrote: »

I work with two lads who are about 5'2", one of them being very self-conscious about his height. I'm 6'5", and one day I was on the factory floor talking to the self-conscious one when one of the women shouted, from about 30 metres, "Will you stop picking on that man?!?" (me being the man) and thought she was hilarious. I could sense the embarrassment in the lad.

Anyway, now he's happily engaged to a girl who's an inch or two taller than him so it worked out for him.

the " how is the weather up there " jokes dont bother me at all , i joke about my own height to other people but you do get tired of it being brought up all of the time , given the chance id much prefer be 5 ft 11 , there is no advantage to being very tall no matter what anyone outside the NBA tells you and countless disadvantages . add to that , i never found tall girls anymore attractive in the first place

purifol0 · 09-06-2020 1:08pm

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZbG05ePWRQE

14minute report on American ABC Network from way back in the day about male height & its effects. Bit of an eye opener, and not at all inconclusive.

Topdolla · 09-06-2020 1:13pm

Go to Thailand and buy a wife?

09-06-2020 1:37pm

My brain runs on metric but I think I am 5'4 in old money. Many things have helped and hindered me with girls/women but I do not feel height was ever one of them. Height wise I am in the middle in my relationship now.

But back in my self hating days where I felt I was the victim and the world was against me - it was probably one of the many things I blamed for my own shortcomings. A bit like the OP seems to - I always latched onto any attribute that was out of my control that I could point to and say "See - those things are why I am doomed in life". Height. Skin Color. Virginity shaming. The OP is really filling out the bingo card of self-defeat of late. I see a lot of the old me in there.

fineso.mom · 09-06-2020 1:37pm

Off the top of my head, I can think of 5 couples where the man is shorter than the woman. My father was shorter than my mother, one of my brothers is shorter than his wife and three of my friends are taller than their husbands. But I had to visualise them together to remember because it's never been an issue or come up in conversation. I'm sure there are more I know but it's not something I'd notice first about a couple.
See in the real world OP people fall in love with other people, with their personalities, character and how they live their lives. Of course there's initial attraction based on looks and with dating apps that's all you have to go on. But for most people an actual relationship is based on far more than superficial outward stuff.
You really need to get off the internet and meet real people in the real world.
Oh, one final thing... All of the men mentioned above have one thing in common... They are decent, friendly, confident and sound humans who didn't go out with the mindset that woman are only interested in looks, height, money or all the other things you seem to think they are.

Earthhorse · 09-06-2020 1:39pm

Threads like this can be a bit frustrating.

It's very easy to be dismissive and say to people just ignore it and focus on your other qualities; well, of course, that is what everyone should do in all aspects of their life. But to paraphrase someone else, this isn't really a preference for most women, it's a prerequisite. So your other qualities won't count for much. It's already difficult enough to form a connection with someone as it is so imagine how difficult it is when you've been ruled out before the gun's gone off.

That said, there is not much anyone can do about it so you are actually before off ignoring it and focusing on your other qualities. Doesn't make the issue go away though.

cj maxx · 09-06-2020 1:46pm

Mad_maxx wrote: »

the " how is the weather up there " jokes dont bother me at all , i joke about my own height to other people but you do get tired of it being brought up all of the time , given the chance id much prefer be 5 ft 11 , there is no advantage to being very tall no matter what anyone outside the NBA tells you and countless disadvantages . add to that , i never found tall girls anymore attractive in the first place

God I was so sick of those jokes. You should be a guard/ basketball player, and I'm only 6'4" ( and 3/4).
I'll always remember at my granny's wake all these cousins of my mother doing my head in with them and who walks in only a guy about 6'8"+.
Never so glad to see anyone.

09-06-2020 1:59pm

cj maxx wrote: »

I'll always remember at my granny's wake all these cousins of my mother doing my head in with them and who walks in only a guy about 6'8"+.
Never so glad to see anyone.

So you could throw out some height jokes

Esel · 09-06-2020 2:16pm

Mad_maxx wrote: »

while in a long term relationship , never once found my height of almost 6ft 5 to be an advantage with the opposite sex , i accept that a guy circa 6 ft 1 or thereabouts might be more desirable to a bloke who was 5 ft 4 but when you tower over most women , all they tend to see is someone who makes them strain their neck , didnt mean i never scored but guys who were less long certainly scored more as they had a better pick

being tall is expensive , extra leg room required on planes , not to mention less comfort in most cars

Typo?

purifol0 · 09-06-2020 2:17pm

Deleted User wrote: »

My brain runs on metric but I think I am 5'4 in old money. Many things have helped and hindered me with girls/women but I do not feel height was ever one of them. Height wise I am in the middle in my relationship now.

But back in my self hating days where I felt I was the victim and the world was against me - it was probably one of the many things I blamed for my own shortcomings. A bit like the OP seems to - I always latched onto any attribute that was out of my control that I could point to and say "See - those things are why I am doomed in life". Height. Skin Color. Virginity shaming. The OP is really filling out the bingo card of self-defeat of late. I see a lot of the old me in there.

Yeah great, now go make a tinder account and list your height at five four for a week, then change it to six four for another week. I dont think I need to elaborate on the expected outcome.

Height matters so much to women that they are perfectly happy to evaluate it before considering any other facet youve got ie money, status, career, personality,character, physique.

People who claim it is not a factor or obsticle are very disengenous and this can be a lesson hard learned for young men.

Why is it so hard for people to admit this?

cj maxx · 09-06-2020 2:19pm

[Deleted User] wrote: »

So you could throw out some height jokes

No because suddenly he bore the brunt of the jokes. I was only a wee fella compared to him

09-06-2020 2:26pm

Esel wrote: »

Typo?

I saw that and took the HIGHER ground :P

SusieBlue · 09-06-2020 2:29pm

purifol0 wrote: »

Yeah great, now go make a tinder account and list your height at five four for a week, then change it to six four for another week. I dont think I need to elaborate on the expected outcome.

Height matters so much to women that they are perfectly happy to evaluate it before considering any other facet youve got ie money, status, career, personality,character, physique.

People who claim it is not a factor or obsticle are very disengenous and this can be a lesson hard learned for young men.

Why is it so hard for people to admit this?

Do you not think men also have their own criteria of superficial dealbreakers too? Do you have any idea how many men have ‘no fatties need apply’ in their bios?

It works both ways.

Height requirements in dating

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