Things you want to say to husband/boyf/ex's/friends/family/people MOD NOTE POST #1

herisson · 12-01-2013 1:54am

Pixie,

Be proud of what you have accomplished so far. Be brave, be bold, be happy. Be yourself

**** what people think. Be you!

Remember you are not in his debt, and the other two will sort themselves out.

Pixie

LegacyUser · 12-01-2013 2:10am

Dear A,

It could have been amazing, it already was.

I wish I had been enough for you, because you were more than enough for me.

I really cared. I really did.

I miss you today, I'll miss you tomorrow and I've a feeling that even when I stop missing you I'll always wonder of what might have been.

I wish it hadn't ended before it had even begun.

x

The Big Red Button · 12-01-2013 3:09pm

I always disliked you, lots. Not having you in my life anymore is very pleasant.

WinterSong · 13-01-2013 4:19pm

B,

I am ALWAYS here for you. Always. No matter what.

They're not just words, there are feelings and meanings and depth behind them. There is genuine love and respect and affection underpinning them. So don't be afraid to invoke them if you ever need to. x

beks101 · 15-01-2013 5:12am

Boy,

I can't get you off my brain. It's like some kind of illness.

Every time we meet I keep thinking it will be the last time. Why is it so impossible to say these things, to express my worries & insecurities & confusion when it's still 'early days' and I'm scared of pushing you away. Scared of you seeing something you don't like.

God I want you. For no particular reason at all. I'm wildly, hopelessly attracted to you and wish we could just sit on that futon watching crap Wild West movies and making out forever.

But I don't trust you. Maybe that's my fault, but I think it's more yours. You could call more. Or text me. Not to meet up, just for the hell of it. Just because you like me. Do you like me? Do you want me?

I'm not the hard ass I pretend to be. Im not as 'together' as I look. Truth is, I don't know what I'm doing at least half of the time. And I'm deathly afraid of getting hurt again.

Please make this easier for me.

B

WanabeOlympian · 15-01-2013 2:01pm

Dear American Girl,
It's not all right to expect a guy to buy all your drinks and pay for all your meals. This is Ireland, women are independent here and share their way. If a guy buys you a drink, return the favour and stop living in the 1950s.
:-)

kat.mac · 15-01-2013 2:35pm

Dear Boss,

How am I supposed to hit a target you never told me about??????????

Jesus.

x Purple Pawprints x · 16-01-2013 6:15pm

Just text me back already.

x Purple Pawprints x · 17-01-2013 2:47am

I feel like I'm broken and I'll never be fixed.

Blush_01 · 17-01-2013 5:09am

I hate to be a whiny muppet, but *why won't you talk to meee anymore*?

DeltaWhite · 17-01-2013 1:09pm

C,

I make you my priority, but you make me your option.. how un-f*cking-fair is that?

There's only so many chances you will get, so my advice: Grow a pair of big boy balls and MAN UP

I wont put up with this forever, especially when there's many out there who will treat me better.

R

x Purple Pawprints x · 18-01-2013 11:34pm

I haven't thought of doing this in a very long while and I'm scared.

daenerysstormborn3 · 18-01-2013 11:47pm

You are so high maintenance. Your anger is such a huge weight sometimes. I really wish you'd go back to counselling.

tomthetank · 19-01-2013 7:56pm

B

The worst part in all of this is that you don't even realize how much you're hurting me.

I hate myself for letting you in a second time, for giving you a second chance. I liked you because you were one of the "nice" ones but in reality you're just a weak, indecisive, passive man and you've hurt me more than all the "assholes" combined.

Wake up and cop yourself on. You're 30 years old. Some day you'll realize how much you ****ed it up. And some day soon I'll realize how much time I wasted on someone who never deserved a second chance.

I'm done

TT

x Purple Pawprints x · 20-01-2013 2:16am

Please let me feel better when I wake up.

outnumbered82 · 20-01-2013 2:31am

One year on and it's still the same. Still I let you come back. Not this time. I'm over your excuses sob stories and bull **** reasons

Go sort your life out grow up you've children who have more cop on than you don't always blame everyone else for your mistakes

girl_friday · 20-01-2013 3:01am

You're young. Please stop being so negative constantly. You have a good life. Enjoy it, cherish it! Just stop the moaning!!

lilmissprincess · 20-01-2013 4:05am

C,
You didnt win. Not one bit. Hes amazing, more than you ever were.

L.

D,
I love you. For loving me because of and in spite of the crazy. For not wanting to run.

Xxxx

Ella · 20-01-2013 9:18am

MOTD I love you

foxinsox · 20-01-2013 7:27pm

Dear S,

Why did you even bother?

me

Dear me,

Cop the feck on.

me

LegacyUser · 20-01-2013 8:03pm

Dear work colleagues,
no, I don't care. I really don't. The problems will get solved in plenty of time. No-one will die if things don't happen, no-one will collapse in the street, the world will keep turning-our work is not *that* important. Stop trying to force your stress and panic onto me.

Dear Counselor.
You're awesome. I've only met you once, and pretty much spilled my guts out, telling you everything I've never been able to tell anyone. It was such a relief. I'm so *so* tired of being strong, of being the one people go to with their problems, of people telling me I'm so good at dealing with everything. As the silly nu-metal folk said, "even the people who never frown eventually break down...."
I don't know how I'll deal with things as they emerge, I've already had some horrible dreams and horrible memories come back. But I guess that's how you work through things, let them appear and deal with them as they come instead of forcing them back inside.

I'm proud of where I've got to on my own, I've calmed my drinking down to maybe one or two quiet nights out a month, I don't keep drink in the house, I don't smoke anymore, I don't self-harm, I try and eat somewhat healthily....it's like my early self-destruct desires have left, and I'm on the right track. Counseling was the next logical step....here's hoping I keep taking those small baby steps to the right route. Thank you. x

To my family and my friends,
you're all as awesome as the counselor. You've been doing that (unintentionally!) for me for years for free. Thanks for getting me to here. I love you all so much.X

beks101 · 21-01-2013 2:36am

Beks,

Enough.
Give it a rest now.
This one isn't worth the time & the tears.

Beks

lilmissprincess · 21-01-2013 3:13am

Dear you, How did we get to here? from praying you didn't want anything serious to not being able to sleep without you next to me... Crazy.

All of my love,

L xxx

xLexie · 21-01-2013 8:57am

T,
I can't sleep because I can't get you out of my head. You were always so strong, through absolutely everything that I can remember. You haven't changed in my whole life, and it frightened me to see how old and weak and sad you looked tonight. We all know its not going to be much longer, and I am dreading the day already. I can't imagine not having you to visit when nobody else can cheer me up. I'm sorry I didn't visit you a lot more, and I'm sorry if you were lonely and I never stayed when you asked me to, but I was stupid and I never gave thought to now, to not having the opportunity to ever do it again. Cancer is such a horrible nasty disease but I am glad that you haven't been sick for very long and in one way I'm glad knowing you won't suffer for much longer because it's heartbreaking seeing you so frail trying to hang on.
You don't seem to be frightened, and I'm glad. I remember you always telling me "something has to get you, otherwise you'd live forever" but I just wish it wasn't cancer that got you. I've been so stressed out the past few months, this has been the final straw, I don't know how much more stress I can deal with before it sends me completely off the handle. I really feel like my heart is broken. I will see you on Thursday and will say goodbye to you, I don't want to watch you dying. I love you so much.

M x

x Purple Pawprints x · 21-01-2013 11:56am

I can't believe we're over.

Lola18 · 22-01-2013 2:30am

Dear "wags" of the toddler group....
Your no better than me and you've got no reason to speak down to me. It's ridiculous that at a group for kids to enjoy themselves you lot sit in your little clique and be downright rude to other parents!! I'm not a fool so don't treat me like one and then TRY get smart when I stand up for myself!! As much as you all make me not want to go at times I'm not going to let you lot win, my little fella enjoys it too much

iamthe43 · 22-01-2013 3:03am

Dear...

I know I hurt you. Trust me, I see it in your eyes every time I see you

Not a day goes by that I don't think you and how i hurt you. 18 months on, and still, not a single day goes by

We had so much together, and I threw away my life and the person that I loved.

But You will move on. You will be strong. And you will smile again.

Me? Yea, I'll be fine(ish)

I love you...I wish you the best....Nothing but the best for my sweet sweet

x Purple Pawprints x · 22-01-2013 11:12pm

Friends and family,

You have been absolutely wonderful since yesterday. I'm really hurting right now but you're really really helping by just being there and letting me talk when I need it. I won't be okay and I won't be over him for a long time.

Thank you so much. It's really in times like this that you see how much people care for you.

I love you all xxxxx

x Purple Pawprints x · 23-01-2013 8:24am

In time I will write a long letter and leave it here for you or maybe even send you it in real life but for now all I want to say is that I never thought I'd be calling you my ex and it hurts so much I can't breathe.

Mrs Garth Brooks · 23-01-2013 11:47am

Dear potential employers,

Please give me a chance. I know i'm a few months out of college and so far im being told I dont have enough experience.

Im seriously doubting myself, my confidence and wether I can do the job has gone to fck.

To think that in 3 and a half months time il be a year out of college. I've nothing to get up for in the mornings. Its depressing.

What do other people ask me, will you go travelling?
Like its that easy to get up and go. I need to save whatever I can from the dole, to cover for flights and visa. Australia seems like the place. Better weather and I have brothers over there. Truth be told, its not what I want. But then I dont want to be left in this country on my own either.

There's always someone with better experience, thats my problem. How am I meant to have experience, if you dont give me any?

Please give me a chance. I know I can do it.

Larianne · 23-01-2013 7:29pm

Larianne,

Cop yourself on or you'll end up alone, living with cats.

jessiejam · 23-01-2013 7:41pm

No wonder i'm suspicious with all you've done to me in the past. Selfish isn't a big enough word for you.

Just continue to think of yourself and see how far that gets ya

How do you expect me to react. Grow the f*k up.

xLexie · 24-01-2013 2:46am

Why do you think it's okay to waltz in multiple times during the night to wake me up? Lest you forget I have to be up for work in the morning. You've woken me up twice already tonight. Is there any point in going back to sleep or shall I wait til you go to bed before I go back to sleep? F**k you.

Fluorescence · 24-01-2013 3:23am

Dear self*,

You are the most infuriating person I know. The frustration you cause by being the single biggest obstacle to yourself is incomprehensible. I dunno how you do it - it'd actually be fairly impressive if it weren't such a damn nuisance. To have gotten to this point in your life without accomplishing anything of note, and with no idea of what you'd even possibly like to accomplish - how does even one do that? Well, somehow you managed it. Congratulations. You should write a book on wasting your life away; you're probably an international grandmaster at this stage.

Where do you hope to be in a year's time? A decade? 2 decades? What would you like to have accomplished? Attempted? How much knowledge would you like to have gained? What skills attained? Can you even answer a single one of these? Can you even say what you'd like to have done by next week let alone next year? So many questions and you don't know where to start.

"I don't know what I'm doing" should be your epitaph. Now get the fook off the internet and go to sleep.

Yours exasperatingly,
Fluorescence

*Yes I talk to myself in 2nd person. Don't judge me :pac:

Tigger99 · 24-01-2013 12:45pm

Dear Fluorescence
Don't be do hard on yourself :-)

MauraTheThird · 24-01-2013 1:51pm

Dear best friend,
I really like you, you really like me.
We are everything a couple should be and I'm seriously falling for you.
I cannot get over how happy I am at the moment.
You mean the world to me

LegacyUser · 25-01-2013 10:12pm

I've posted a confession on motherless - you know its you. Read it and take it to heart. I'm getting sick of this

IrishEyes19 · 26-01-2013 8:38am

Please please please let something turn up. Let this be it now!!! And give me some luck!!

PS: Really looking forward to next week. Please dont fall through or else be bad. Really need the break!!

lilium inter Spinas · 26-01-2013 12:14pm

Dear _______,

I wish you would give me the chance to prove that not everyone is out to f*ck you over. But you freeze up on me every time I try to get close to you. Why are you punishing me for the things of your past? I thought I had proven my devotion to you despite our differences. Despite being worlds away from one another. But slowly I'm starting to realize... I may not be the one for you despite your claims. Truth be told, I don't know if that person exists. And if they do, would they be willing to endure what I have up to now, or be willing to make sacrifices for you?
I hope one day you figure out what you want out of life. And I hope you find your happiness. You deserve every bit of it.

With love,

L.

MauraTheThird · 26-01-2013 6:04pm

We're now seeing each other exclusively. You've absolutely no idea how happy that makes me feel

LegacyUser · 26-01-2013 6:29pm

Dear Ex,
How lovely of you to break up with me today after I paid for dinner last night and we had sex multiple times. Clearly had it planned out but wanted one last ride, eh? Apparently I'm "too young" to date but clearly not too young to fúck.
Just thought I'd let you know that after you changed our status on facebook to 'single' your work colleague messaged me to ask me out on a date tomorrow. You know, the guy who got that promotion you were so sure you'd get a few months back and flirted with me all night at your Christmas party.
Gosh, us kids to the darndest things

Toodles!

WinterSong · 26-01-2013 7:57pm

B,

Who the hell was I kidding?

This hurts so much and there is nobody I can talk to about it. I can hardly breathe.

daenerysstormborn3 · 27-01-2013 12:02am

Often torture myself wondering what I did to deserve this treatment. I'm there for you when you need me, I listen to your lies, I do anything I can to help you out. Friendship is about give and take, lending a shoulder or an ear when needed. You offer nothing in return. You ignore me, you talk about me behind my back, you tell lies about me, you turn other people against me with made up stories. You are a user. I'm done with this "friendship". I don't care if that means I'll have to make new friends. I'd rather be lonely and peaceful than surrounded by liars and backstabbers.

old hippy · 27-01-2013 12:09am

Z. If family is so important to you, how come you didn't make the wedding? How can you defend X not sending a wedding card, nor a 40th birthday card? How can you ignore Y when she made the effort to contact you? Why is X's medical condition more worthy than W? Why have you only visited W the one time, in all those years?

old hippy · 27-01-2013 12:12am

WinterSong wrote: »

B,

Who the hell was I kidding?

This hurts so much and there is nobody I can talk to about it. I can hardly breathe.

There's always somebody, don't keep it bottled up inside of you. You'll be surprised how much it eases the pain when you share. Be good to yourself.

xLexie · 27-01-2013 10:49am

Rest in peace T. I love you xx

x Purple Pawprints x · 27-01-2013 10:59am

Well it's almost a week ago now. This is so hard but I know it's for the best.

AnnaStezia · 27-01-2013 1:51pm

Dear Mum, thank you for such a warm and happy childhood and for staying so close to me.

Why did God take you away ?

Where are you now ?

I will always love you.
XXXX

Ah_Yeah · 27-01-2013 10:05pm

You,

You've worked very hard over the last year to get to the strong person you are today.

Don't let one little thing send you hurtling backwards. Remember your worth.

Me. xx

lazorgirl · 27-01-2013 11:13pm

Thank you for holding me tightly and understanding, without me having to explain my pain

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