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Mental health and CoVid-19

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  • Registered Users Posts: 1,678 ✭✭✭Multipass


    GoneHome wrote: »
    I can't really see how people would have this attitude, you have your health, your family, your friends, there's a lot more availability now of days as in Netflix, YouTube, the internet, tv, etc, compared to years ago, and books, my god reading has been my saviour these last 12 months, I've read more books in the last year than I had in my previous 48 years, there is no reason in the world why anyone should be bored with life.

    When I’m depressed I become unable to watch or read anything. It can take away your interest and ability to concentrate. I have a pile of books that I would like to be able to read, but I can’t sit and relax because of my mood, and I don’t care about anything enough to watch.


  • Registered Users Posts: 1,783 ✭✭✭GoneHome


    Bored out of my head

    Look this is the thread I responded to, make of it what you will but I just can't see how anyone could put boredom in to the present day's scenario there is just some much to do and see on the web etc and that's even before you take into account physical exercise, going out into the countryside and nature.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 378 ✭✭newuser99999


    GoneHome wrote: »
    I can't really see how people would have this attitude, you have your health, your family, your friends.

    How many times do you find it necessary to post this?


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 30,832 ✭✭✭✭freshpopcorn


    GoneHome wrote: »
    I can't really see how people would have this attitude, you have your health, your family, your friends, there's a lot more availability now of days as in Netflix, YouTube, the internet, tv, etc, compared to years ago, and books, my god reading has been my saviour these last 12 months, I've read more books in the last year than I had in my previous 48 years, there is no reason in the world why anyone should be bored with life.

    I think everybody is different OP.

    What your saying in my opinion is a little like telling a suicidal person they have money, family, etc and to get over themselves because they are people worse off.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,535 ✭✭✭dobman88


    GoneHome wrote: »
    Look this is the thread I responded to, make of it what you will but I just can't see how anyone could put boredom in to the present day's scenario there is just some much to do and see on the web etc and that's even before you take into account physical exercise, going out into the countryside and nature.

    Not everyone is able to do that though. Some people posting on this thread might not even be able to drag themselves out of bed for days at a time. I spent 3 days between xmas and new year in bed, only getting up to use the toilet, and eventually my missus dragged me out of it. Thankfully she is class and has my back and we get through things.

    Your posts are bordering on horrible tbh.


  • Registered Users Posts: 7,943 ✭✭✭YellowLead


    GoneHome wrote: »
    Look this is the thread I responded to, make of it what you will but I just can't see how anyone could put boredom in to the present day's scenario there is just some much to do and see on the web etc and that's even before you take into account physical exercise, going out into the countryside and nature.

    Some of us live in housing estates in the middle of suburbia with no countryside or nature!

    Thank god for legitimately being able to breach the 5k I can now go for country walks like you were lucky enough to be able to do.

    Also - not all of us who are working at a laptop in our apartments all day are thrilled with spending the entire evening on the ‘web’ as you say.


  • Registered Users Posts: 1,783 ✭✭✭GoneHome


    YellowLead wrote: »
    Thank god for legitimately being able to breach the 5k I can now go for country walks like you were lucky enough to be able to do.

    That's great to hear, it definitely has been our sanity this past year being living in the middle of the countryside with no neighbours/houses near us, we generally do two walks every day, one in the morning (anytime between 7.30 and 9.00) and then working from home for the day so another walk in the afternoon/evening, it's great and the weather has been wonderful these past few weeks thank god.


  • Registered Users Posts: 7,943 ✭✭✭YellowLead


    GoneHome wrote: »
    That's great to hear, it definitely has been our sanity this past year being living in the middle of the countryside with no neighbours/houses near us, we generally do two walks every day, one in the morning (anytime between 7.30 and 9.00) and then working from home for the day so another walk in the afternoon/evening, it's great and the weather has been wonderful these past few weeks thank god.

    It’s good that you acknowledge the difference this has made to you and that not everyone has had this opportunity to take in the benefits of nature :)


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 71,799 ✭✭✭✭Ted_YNWA


    GoneHome wrote: »
    I can't really see how people would have this attitude, you have your health, your family, your friends, there's a lot more availability now of days as in Netflix, YouTube, the internet, tv, etc, compared to years ago, and books, my god reading has been my saviour these last 12 months, I've read more books in the last year than I had in my previous 48 years, there is no reason in the world why anyone should be bored with life.

    Mod

    As others have stated, everyone has different lifestyles. Not everyone can or have the capacity to match yours. Please be considerate of this and have some empathy for those when you are posting here.


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  • Registered Users Posts: 4 c_clearwater


    I've been following boards and particularly this thread for a while now and have found the tips here helpful during the last year. It's also been helpful to see that others are having a similar experience of this lockdown, it's always good to see you're not alone. I've never felt the need to engage though until I saw 'Gone Home's recent posts and want to respond. The point of view echoes what I've heard from some people trying to be helpful and encouraging but missing the mark entirely and doing more harm than good. 'Gone Home' I'm sure you mean well but a lot of people out there would give a LOT for all you have. It's clear from your posts that you have a house in a nice location in the country, a spouse and a job and probably family and friends as you assume everyone else has family and friends around too. My goal is to be in a position where I have all those things and if you read previous posts on this thread the problem for a lot of people is that they don't have those things and are not where they want to be in life which makes the restrictions much harder. I haven't worked in a year, live alone, don't have any family, haven't been fortunate enough to meet someone special yet, though am always hopeful, and don't have friends living nearby. I don't want sympathy, I'm just stating the facts as I know a lot of people, including friends, in the same boat. I was involved in a lot of activities before the pandemic and that fulfilled the need for sociability. Those activities are gone now, like others here music, gigs, choirs, theatre etc were a big part of my life and that's left a big void. I've kept as busy as possible for the last year, always looking for a new job, doing online courses, upskilling, trying to keep to a routine, doing the online workouts etc etc but it's a hard slog. Like others here I'd love to meet someone and feel like I missed the deadline before covid as it's very difficult to meet anyone now. There are plenty like me who look at friends who are still working and have families and think that despite the difficulties it must be easier when you have work/purpose and have some support and company at home. Isolation is very hard on your mental health and it makes it hard to keep on top of things. I send very best wishes to everyone in this thread, particularly those who are struggling and trust that we'll all be stronger for making it through this. And for those who are struggling to empathise or understand why this is hard/boring/lonely, I hope that this may be helpful.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 14,322 ✭✭✭✭leahyl


    I've been following boards and particularly this thread for a while now and have found the tips here helpful during the last year. It's also been helpful to see that others are having a similar experience of this lockdown, it's always good to see you're not alone. I've never felt the need to engage though until I saw 'Gone Home's recent posts and want to respond. The point of view echoes what I've heard from some people trying to be helpful and encouraging but missing the mark entirely and doing more harm than good. 'Gone Home' I'm sure you mean well but a lot of people out there would give a LOT for all you have. It's clear from your posts that you have a house in a nice location in the country, a spouse and a job and probably family and friends as you assume everyone else has family and friends around too. My goal is to be in a position where I have all those things and if you read previous posts on this thread the problem for a lot of people is that they don't have those things and are not where they want to be in life which makes the restrictions much harder. I haven't worked in a year, live alone, don't have any family, haven't been fortunate enough to meet someone special yet, though am always hopeful, and don't have friends living nearby. I don't want sympathy, I'm just stating the facts as I know a lot of people, including friends, in the same boat. I was involved in a lot of activities before the pandemic and that fulfilled the need for sociability. Those activities are gone now, like others here music, gigs, choirs, theatre etc were a big part of my life and that's left a big void. I've kept as busy as possible for the last year, always looking for a new job, doing online courses, upskilling, trying to keep to a routine, doing the online workouts etc etc but it's a hard slog. Like others here I'd love to meet someone and feel like I missed the deadline before covid as it's very difficult to meet anyone now. There are plenty like me who look at friends who are still working and have families and think that despite the difficulties it must be easier when you have work/purpose and have some support and company at home. Isolation is very hard on your mental health and it makes it hard to keep on top of things. I send very best wishes to everyone in this thread, particularly those who are struggling and trust that we'll all be stronger for making it through this. And for those who are struggling to empathise or understand why this is hard/boring/lonely, I hope that this may be helpful.

    Excellent post, agree 100%. In my mind it would/should be way easier for someone who has a husband/wife/partner and maybe kids than it is for someone who is still hoping to meet someone. From the point of view that the person in a happy longterm relationship doesn't have to worry about their life passing by, to an extent, cos they'll still, hopefully, have their familly after all this is over.


  • Posts: 0 [Deleted User]


    Being able to have compassion for others circumstances and experiences is important to me. I know not everyone has the capacity, for one reason or another.

    One possible reason is that it can be painful to be faced with the vulnerability of another, to say "hey what you're going through sounds really rough". That acknowledgement can bring us face to face with our own hurts.

    Covid is a fùcker. I have a good life but it doesn't stop me from being overwhelmed with it all. The usual checkpoints were in place today and it really angered me because we can travel our county freely now. And every time I hear "hold firm" I'm like would you ever feck off with yourself.


  • Posts: 0 [Deleted User]


    leahyl wrote: »
    Excellent post, agree 100%. In my mind it would/should be way easier for someone who has a husband/wife/partner and maybe kids than it is for someone who is still hoping to meet someone. From the point of view that the person in a happy longterm relationship doesn't have to worry about their life passing by, to an extent, cos they'll still, hopefully, have their familly after all this is over.

    I don't know if it's easier. There can be other concerns and anxieties.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,429 ✭✭✭nigeldaniel


    I always tend to go with the compassion and care idea myself. 'It's good to talk' works fine as long as a person knows someone who they can talk to. Not everyone is equipped to help us when it come to serious talking. I found this myself over the years.
    I am doing much better these last few weeks myself. Looking forward to the summer and a few strolls in the woods.
    Keep well, everyone. :)

    Dan.



  • Registered Users Posts: 7,943 ✭✭✭YellowLead


    I have to say I’m starting to feel much better now we can officially leave the 5k! Lots of places to walk now (got a car last month) and with all of the positivity surrounding restrictions easing in May and June in very happy. Met a friend for a long walk last night for example - face to face is the best.

    But I don’t think I could cope at all if we plunged into level 5 stay inside 5k again....


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  • Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 299 ✭✭DessieJames


    YellowLead wrote: »
    I have to say I’m starting to feel much better now we can officially leave the 5k! Lots of places to walk now (got a car last month) and with all of the positivity surrounding restrictions easing in May and June in very happy. Met a friend for a long walk last night for example - face to face is the best.

    But I don’t think I could cope at all if we plunged into level 5 stay inside 5k again....

    ive never once stuck to this ourtageous 5k and i dont know anyone who has, ive completely given up listening to anything these parasites are saying last year and im just living my life as best i can, that means travelling wherever, meeting people,etc im completely ignoring the lies and scaremongering, and feel all the better for it


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 32,634 ✭✭✭✭Graces7


    YellowLead wrote: »
    I have to say I’m starting to feel much better now we can officially leave the 5k! Lots of places to walk now (got a car last month) and with all of the positivity surrounding restrictions easing in May and June in very happy. Met a friend for a long walk last night for example - face to face is the best.

    But I don’t think I could cope at all if we plunged into level 5 stay inside 5k again....

    Heartfelt thanks for your steadfastness and support. and enjoy the lovely weather; you deserve it! All of you who are steadfast in the rules etc.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 30,832 ✭✭✭✭freshpopcorn


    Just try and avoid listening to the news to much. Certain ones in RTÉ are loving this in my opinion.
    Similar with Social Media and on here.
    Certain people are terrified and make a huge ordeal out of everything. They are just being themselves and can’t help it but just try and ignore them.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 32,634 ✭✭✭✭Graces7


    Just try and avoid listening to the news to much. Certain ones in RTÉ are loving this in my opinion.
    Similar with Social Media and on here.
    Certain people are terrified and make a huge ordeal out of everything. They are just being themselves and can’t help it but just try and ignore them.

    I have no TV or radio by choice. I check here online a couple or three times a day is all. Far healthier.

    Learned that after 9/11. I was on a lot of US chat groups and was actually "talking" to a journalist friend there when it happened. Utter chaos and terror and as I was in Orkney and in a quiet place a lot of folk sought me out. PTSD was setting in. They were watching it on TV over and over again.

    I never saw it then or since. After 72 hours I was in my bathroom when the weekly plane came in and I ducked... Turned everything off and went to bed.

    And ditched TV then. Never regretted it.

    Oh and never use social media either; boards only and i close early.

    Be kind to all and to you.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,830 ✭✭✭Patsy167


    Very insightful article posted by the NY Times that many may identify with and some helpful tips included at the end of the article that others may find useful - Full article here - https://www.nytimes.com/2021/04/19/well/mind/covid-mental-health-languishing.html

    It wasn’t burnout — we still had energy. It wasn’t depression — we didn’t feel hopeless. We just felt somewhat joyless and aimless. It turns out there’s a name for that: languishing.

    Languishing is a sense of stagnation and emptiness. It feels as if you’re muddling through your days, looking at your life through a foggy windshield. And it might be the dominant emotion of 2021.


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 32,634 ✭✭✭✭Graces7


    Patsy167 wrote: »
    Very insightful article posted by the NY Times that many may identify with and some helpful tips included at the end of the article that others may find useful - Full article here - https://www.nytimes.com/2021/04/19/well/mind/covid-mental-health-languishing.html

    It wasn’t burnout — we still had energy. It wasn’t depression — we didn’t feel hopeless. We just felt somewhat joyless and aimless. It turns out there’s a name for that: languishing.

    Languishing is a sense of stagnation and emptiness. It feels as if you’re muddling through your days, looking at your life through a foggy windshield. And it might be the dominant emotion of 2021.

    All of which is a perfectly normal and mentally and physically healthy reaction and response to the terrible situation we are all in. It really is. Like we expect to grieve when someone we love dies.

    Anything else would be far more worrying; as is the aggression many are expressing

    We can and must live with it and through it; there re no short cuts. Not in evading by ignoring the severity and seriousness in aggression.

    Disagree with the last line; seeing so many small signs of hope and recovery in so many places here.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 309 ✭✭Pandiculation


    Is anyone else finding their physical health has been bad since lockdown began?

    I think it’s just lack of activity, but I’m finding I’ve a very bad back, knees are sore, generally just feel very rundown and have absolutely no energy. I’m eating ok and it’s not lack of nutrients or something. I’ve had this before - prone to the odd unexplained back issues but this is just really just not great.

    I think just not having anywhere to go just destroyed me over the last few months. Even just the ability to go get a coffee and read a book was a huge deal to me. If I go somewhere there’s nowhere to sit and it’s just totally pointless.

    I’m having very poor sleep and weird dreams about being in hospital, getting bad news from doctors, being told I’m dying and stuff like that or nightmares about stuff I’ve experienced like when my mother died or visiting a person I know who was extremely ill in a hospice. I’m even having nightmares about previous surgeries I had where I just have these flashbacks - just things like being hooked up to oxygen, being unable to move and so on.

    I also just feel totally trapped. It’s hard to explain but the total inability to travel is just really playing with my head. It’s not that I’m going to rush off on holiday but it’s just there always been an ability to maybe go somewhere for a weekend once in a blue moon. I didn’t realise how much that meant to me. It’s even just knowing it’s not possible that’s making me feel very odd.

    Anyway, this feels just like a bit of a rant but I’m not really sure how else to structure it. I’m not really looking for solutions, it’s just a vent.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,913 ✭✭✭acequion


    Patsy167 wrote: »
    Very insightful article posted by the NY Times that many may identify with and some helpful tips included at the end of the article that others may find useful - Full article here - https://www.nytimes.com/2021/04/19/well/mind/covid-mental-health-languishing.html

    It wasn’t burnout — we still had energy. It wasn’t depression — we didn’t feel hopeless. We just felt somewhat joyless and aimless. It turns out there’s a name for that: languishing.

    Languishing is a sense of stagnation and emptiness. It feels as if you’re muddling through your days, looking at your life through a foggy windshield. And it might be the dominant emotion of 2021.

    A really excellent article, thanks so much for sharing!

    I certainly recognise those symptoms. I think so many of us are just languishing, stagnating, I know I am. I don't know exactly at what point in all this I started to feel exactly as is described in the article but it's spot on. I just so fervently hope we all get our lives back soon so that we can emerge from this never ending fog and get joy and purpose back into our lives again.

    But for that sense of purpose to come back we need variety and stimulation and the freedom to go out and find that stimulation. I will personally never take freedom for granted ever again.


  • Registered Users Posts: 1,226 ✭✭✭Valhallapt


    Patsy167 wrote: »
    Very insightful article posted by the NY Times that many may identify with and some helpful tips included at the end of the article that others may find useful - Full article here - https://www.nytimes.com/2021/04/19/well/mind/covid-mental-health-languishing.html

    It wasn’t burnout — we still had energy. It wasn’t depression — we didn’t feel hopeless. We just felt somewhat joyless and aimless. It turns out there’s a name for that: languishing.

    Languishing is a sense of stagnation and emptiness. It feels as if you’re muddling through your days, looking at your life through a foggy windshield. And it might be the dominant emotion of 2021.


    One of the best explainers I've read. Shared it with my friends. I also shared it with a few people who are perhaps past languishing, but I think if they can identify with it, they move closer to it, it's been a tough year for so many people.

    Share this article with everyone.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,307 ✭✭✭Irish Stones


    acequion wrote: »
    I certainly recognise those symptoms. I think so many of us are just languishing, stagnating, I know I am.

    I read the article and I recognised I am one of those described in it. I didn't know it has a name, but what I am experiencing is a total lack of motivation, interest and energy for anything that is around me. Not even those things that gave my life importance are interesting to me right now.
    For instance, in the last year I shopped a lot on Amazon and other online shops, I bought stuff for thousands euro, trying to wake up some interest and drive in me on things that once I loved to do.
    Well, several packages lie there, unopened, since May 2020. Simply I don't think I am interested about what's in them.
    I just so fervently hope we all get our lives back soon so that we can emerge from this never ending fog and get joy and purpose back into our lives again.

    And how do we know that we will emerge from this fog and find joy again? Some kinds of depression are permament, or they even appear again after a long time when we thought we had won.
    Things won't get back to what we used to know, and likewise we could not get back to what we were.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 21,963 ✭✭✭✭Tell me how


    I read the article and I recognised I am one of those described in it. I didn't know it has a name, but what I am experiencing is a total lack of motivation, interest and energy for anything that is around me. Not even those things that gave my life importance are interesting to me right now.
    For instance, in the last year I shopped a lot on Amazon and other online shops, I bought stuff for thousands euro, trying to wake up some interest and drive in me on things that once I loved to do.
    Well, several packages lie there, unopened, since May 2020. Simply I don't think I am interested about what's in them.




    And how do we know that we will emerge from this fog and find joy again? Some kinds of depression are permament, or they even appear again after a long time when we thought we had won.
    Things won't get back to what we used to know, and likewise we could not get back to what we were.

    If this frame of mind has been going on for nearly 12 months for you now, you should definitely be seeking professional help for dealing with classic symptoms of depression.

    Waiting until Covid is over and then seeing how you feel could delay any progress for 6-12 months. Also, the longer this becomes your norm, then the more difficult it can be to overcome it.

    I can say with certainty however, having been in a very dark place with depression, that when things do get better, you see and can take joy from things in a much more appreciative way than you thought possible. I know you might not believe that statement, but that was my experience and I still get reminded of this.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 32,634 ✭✭✭✭Graces7


    If this frame of mind has been going on for nearly 12 months for you now, you should definitely be seeking professional help for dealing with classic symptoms of depression.

    Waiting until Covid is over and then seeing how you feel could delay any progress for 6-12 months. Also, the longer this becomes your norm, then the more difficult it can be to overcome it.

    I can say with certainty however, having been in a very dark place with depression, that when things do get better, you see and can take joy from things in a much more appreciative way than you thought possible. I know you might not believe that statement, but that was my experience and I still get reminded of this.

    Echoing this and not only where actual depression is involved. I have been through some dark places in my life with illness and life events etc. and now the smallest things bring joy.

    Like a single candle in a dark place. That means that darkness is defeated. I will never be well. but I can be joyful. And am daily at the smallest things. A butterfly today and a rosebud opening.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,307 ✭✭✭Irish Stones


    If this frame of mind has been going on for nearly 12 months for you now, you should definitely be seeking professional help for dealing with classic symptoms of depression

    I do appreciate your words and interest.
    Here it comes another problem. I don't trust any doctor or professional the least. So I would never walk into someone's practice and tell them what I'm feeling.
    Even because I wouldn't be able to describe my symptoms to myself, I'm not able to find the words to define my condition.
    I can say with certainty however, having been in a very dark place with depression, that when things do get better, you see and can take joy from things in a much more appreciative way than you thought possible. I know you might not believe that statement, but that was my experience and I still get reminded of this.

    Judging by how I'm feeling now, I don't even think I would like to take joy from things. I was rather happy before this, and I would like to have that happiness, not a new one.
    I think I am getting used to this dark and gloomy feeling, and I sort of like it. Though I know this is not healthy.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,695 ✭✭✭Lisha


    I’m finding it so hard again lately. Am terrified me or kids have it and are unwittingly spreading it. We don’t have symptoms. I know it’s illogical. I’m tempted to get us tested privately again just for peace of mind. But I know it’s a waste of time resources and money. Any my husband will tell me I’m dolally.
    I feicing hate it. In a way was easier when they not in school . And I know that’s bonkers too.

    Roll in the vaccine


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 309 ✭✭Pandiculation


    I think we’re all feeling a bit of that.

    What’s getting to me is you can’t just relax. The days of being able to get on a packed tram and not feel anything odd about it, or read a book in a cafe, shake hands, stand near people all of those simple things, I’m finding I’m thinking about. That’s adding huge stress.

    It’s just like I no longer enjoy being out and about in the way that I used to and until this thing’s under wraps and sorted, it looks like that’s going to be the case for years.

    I just miss not having to constantly think about what I’m doing with masks and what I’ve touched and all of that. It’s really exhausting.

    I met up with a friend of mine a week or so ago in a park and we kept our social distance at either end of a bench and tbh it just felt wrong. It’s horrible not to be able to feel comfortable around him. It’s nothing sexual or strange but I’m realising I like the proximity, the body language, the handshakes, the bearhugs. So much of our communication is actually physical and we don’t know it until we stop doing it.

    A guy I barely know who works in a cafe just came flying out all happy to see me and wanting to do the elbow handshake thing and it was like, that moment where you’re going - “agh! human wants to get too close” and then just “feck it! - we’re both wearing masks.”

    It’s just really odd and I’m missing normality so much more than I thought.

    I’m even just missing standing in a packed bar. I really like being in the middle of a crowd. There’s a connectedness and it’s not just a superficial thing. I’m really feeling cut off in a way that I’m not even able to describe.

    Also dancing. I don’t do it that often but I miss it and I miss the possibility of it. There’s just something indescribable about that sense of just being in the middle of a group of people and it’s just primal communication.

    Zoom and distance is just so abstract.

    It’s just making me feel profoundly cut off.


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,307 ✭✭✭Irish Stones


    and wanting to do the elbow handshake thing and it was like

    I just hate this new way of "handshaking", the elbow or fist thing, just drives me mad. What does that mean?
    I'd rather skip it completely, I just say "glad to meet/see you" and that's it.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 309 ✭✭Pandiculation


    Depends on the circumstances, the person and the cultural setting too.

    Big deal to some people, less so to others. Some people are more kinaesthetic in their communication style and some are more visual and verbal, most are a combination.

    On the hand shaking thing, people from much of continental Western Europe and Mediterranean countries tend to really place a lot of importance on some of those gestures. It’s something that can be a huge deal for some ppl as they’ll feel cold / snubbed etc otherwise, so COVID-19 has been a rather big change.

    What’s getting to me is the need to eschew human contact and having to see everyone as a potential source of infection. That’s something that I genuinely find exhausting.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,307 ✭✭✭Irish Stones


    What’s getting to me is the need to eschew human contact and having to see everyone as a potential source of infection. That’s something that I genuinely find exhausting.


    This is the opposite for me. I don't see everyone as a potential plague carrier, but I agree that this fear of the others is something that will last for a long, very long time.
    They poured this fear on us.
    I envy those who lived through the past pandemics, when no fear was spread among the population, and they grow and lived normally, to the point they have nearly no memories of those times.
    We will remember the fear and the restrictions more than the pandemic itself.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,123 ✭✭✭xhomelezz


    This is the opposite for me. I don't see everyone as a potential plague carrier, but I agree that this fear of the others is something that will last for a long, very long time.
    They poured this fear on us.
    I envy those who lived through the past pandemics, when no fear was spread among the population, and they grow and lived normally, to the point they have nearly no memories of those times.
    We will remember the fear and the restrictions more than the pandemic itself.

    Apart from other things you keep posting on mask thread, which I found a bit weird. This one stands out, who are they??


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    Depends on the circumstances, the person and the cultural setting too.

    Big deal to some people, less so to others. Some people are more kinaesthetic in their communication style and some are more visual and verbal, most are a combination.

    On the hand shaking thing, people from much of continental Western Europe and Mediterranean countries tend to really place a lot of importance on some of those gestures. It’s something that can be a huge deal for some ppl as they’ll feel cold / snubbed etc otherwise, so COVID-19 has been a rather big change.

    What’s getting to me is the need to eschew human contact and having to see everyone as a potential source of infection. That’s something that I genuinely find exhausting.

    Me too. I was chatting to someone I had met once a few years ago, you know the type "oh it's blaa blaa isn't it, how are you". Afterwards I worried if we exposed each other to Covid. I reassured myself that it was outside and all will be fine.

    One of the girls I'm friendly with in work got engaged. We had a hug. Now we know each other well but still. All of this runs alongside an opposite narrative in my head and that's "covid doesn't frighten me". Sometimes I can't figure it out. I think maybe that's the wishful view but the reality is different.

    Id be ok because I'm half vaccinated, my dad is fully vaccinated, but other people I care about aren't. We are all in varying states of unease.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 436 ✭✭eleventh


    This is the opposite for me. I don't see everyone as a potential plague carrier, ..
    +1, I can't imagine seeing people that way.
    I've seen fear in people's eyes though. A kind of terror. Not so much lately actually, but in the winter. Sad to see.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,307 ✭✭✭Irish Stones


    xhomelezz wrote: »
    Apart from other things you keep posting on mask thread, which I found a bit weird. This one stands out, who are they??


    "They" are those who are in charge for managing this emergency.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,307 ✭✭✭Irish Stones


    eleventh wrote: »
    +1, I can't imagine seeing people that way.
    I've seen fear in people's eyes though. A kind of terror. Not so much lately actually, but in the winter. Sad to see.


    Fear and terror in people's eyes is what I see everyday at work. I have a few co-worker that have stopped living because they fear everything.


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    The anger and hatred that's directed towards the Government is interesting and to be expected.
    It's natural to look for someone to blame for our plight, for one person or more to become a vessel for our frustrations. In some cases its warranted because Lord knows they've been dreadful at times, the Government in their decisions and NPHET in their communication.

    I felt really defeated last week and it was directly related to Tony Holohan's return. I did a bit of self reflection on this. For me It's s like he has come to symbolise all that is bad right now. Completely irrational of course. What helps me is reminding myself of his humanity. He is a person like you and I. He most likely lives and breathes Covid (not literally we hope).

    Grief can be a powerful motivator. Some people will do anything other than face it so work becomes all consuming. It might be hard for him to see beyond our situation right now.
    I think of we can try and understand then the anger could lessen.

    That understanding also helps when getting worked up about some of the posts on this forum. Countless times I've had responses typed out only to delete them.

    In saying all of that my fondness for Ireland isn't as it used to be. While the Government and NPHET no doubt have sound reasons for caution, if it continues I don't know how I'll stay here.


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 29,909 ✭✭✭✭Wanderer78


    Patsy167 wrote:
    Post-lockdown anxiety is a new phenomenon affecting a growing number of people who are worried about different aspects of normal life from socialising, to returning to work or even picking up a faster pace of life again.

    It looks like many of us will be suffering from a form ptsd post covid, and our health system isn't ready for that


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,215 ✭✭✭Sunrise_Sunset


    As an introvert, and someone with anxiety, one facet being social anxiety, I am most definitely feeling overwhelmed at the looming prospect of "back to normal". Not just that, but I think a lot of folk are of the mindset that they must "live their best lives" and get out there and do everything as places re-open. That doesn't interest me at all. However I'm married with children, and I realise that my family feel differently to me, and I will need to compromise.
    I also don't have a great relationship with a parent, and colleagues and neighbours, who aren't aware of this, keep asking me "have you visited your parents yet?" They mean no harm but that question triggers my anxiety too.
    I will be trying to ease back into things, whilst being mindful of my own anxiety and mental health, but whilst also being mindful of the mental health of my husband and kids who can't wait to get out there and do things. That is important to their mental health. It will be a tough balance to find.


  • Registered Users Posts: 4,172 ✭✭✭wadacrack


    Wanderer78 wrote: »
    It looks like many of us will be suffering from a form ptsd post covid, and our health system isn't ready for that

    When scientists bring up data about suicide rates not been any higher than pre Covid its very disingenuous and lacks context. Its the months and years later that we will see the effects of this time and lack of socialisation.

    Their are some scientists out their who showing are signs of extreme narcissism also. They don't want this time to end and their celebrity status that has come with it. Obviously they are in the minority. Some of them are pro Zero-Covid in this country.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 29,909 ✭✭✭✭Wanderer78


    wadacrack wrote:
    Their are some scientists out their who showing signs of narcissism also. They don't want this time to end and their celebrity status that has come with it. Obviously they are in the minority. Some of them are pro Zero-Covid in this country.

    Nacissism exists in many different forms, and exists in many different professions, its very disingenuous to single out just scientists for this trait. yes narcissism would exist in this community, but it also probably exists in every other community and profession, there actually has been studies to confirm a high concentration in the fire sectors (finance, insurance and real estate), particularly at corporate level. The scientific community would in fact attract more introverted personalities and disorders such as autism, in which narcissism can also be a trait, but generally, these individuals would rather the quite life.


  • Registered Users Posts: 4,172 ✭✭✭wadacrack


    Wanderer78 wrote: »
    Nacissism exists in many different forms, and exists in many different professions, its very disingenuous to single out just scientists for this trait. yes narcissism would exist in this community, but it also probably exists in every other community and profession, there actually has been studies to confirm a high concentration in the fire sectors (finance, insurance and real estate), particularly at corporate level. The scientific community would in fact attract more introverted personalities and disorders such as autism, in which narcissism can also be a trait, but generally, these individuals would rather the quite life.

    Yes but with Covid its more relevant when their are tying to continue to control people's lives.


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 29,909 ✭✭✭✭Wanderer78


    wadacrack wrote: »
    Yes but with Covid its more relevant when their are tying to continue to control people's lives.

    who are these they? narcissism by its very nature is a controlling trait, it never goes away, it always exists in society


  • Registered Users Posts: 4,172 ✭✭✭wadacrack


    Wanderer78 wrote: »
    who are these they? narcissism by its very nature is a controlling trait, it never goes away, it always exists in society

    We are talking about Covid. Not narcissism in general society.
    I am talking about many members of Independent Scientific Advocacy Group (ISAG) in this country.

    Many have one goal and they just won't stop despite it being clear Ireland cannot achieve this goal.

    They want to win and have never shown any empathy for people who are suffering during this. I have never seen any remorse for the pain this has all caused and even the deaths etc.


    NPHET I think in general are good people and in the main I trust them. They have made mistakes but I feel their intentions are good.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 29,909 ✭✭✭✭Wanderer78


    wadacrack wrote: »
    We are talking about Covid. Not narcissism in general society.
    I am talking about many members of Independent Scientific Advocacy Group (ISAG) in this country.

    Many have one goal and they just won't stop despite it being clear Ireland cannot achieve this goal.

    They want to win and have never shown any empathy for people who are suffering during this. I have never seen any remorse for the pain this has all caused and even the deaths etc.


    NPHET I think in general are good people and in the main I trust them. They have made mistakes but I feel their intentions are good.

    can you be more specific, what makes you think they are narcissistic?


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 556 ✭✭✭shtpEdthePlum


    Anyone willing to be the face of oppression "for the greater good" must have a high enough opinion of themselves to stay in the firing line in spite of massive public outcry, personal attacks and a growing body of evidence to the contrary.

    At least Tony had the humility to disappear after the cervical check questions came at him. He's back with a vengeance now though, less to occupy his time so I guess he has reconciled with being reviled by literally the whole country.

    To say they're not narcissists is hilarious.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 29,909 ✭✭✭✭Wanderer78


    Anyone willing to be the face of oppression "for the greater good" must have a high enough opinion of themselves to stay in the firing line in spite of massive public outcry, personal attacks and a growing body of evidence to the contrary.

    At least Tony had the humility to disappear after the cervical check questions came at him. He's back with a vengeance now though, less to occupy his time so I guess he has reconciled with being reviled by literally the whole country.

    To say they're not narcissists is hilarious.

    i assume you mean he has more time on his hands, that now his wife has died?


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