Would you go to a wedding without giving a gift?

Galway K9 · 16-07-2015 05:13PM

waffleman wrote: »

My apologies - I guess I should join you and post about black dildos and white supremacists.

Yes, yes you should. Who doesnt like black dicks.

mayway · 16-07-2015 05:15PM

purplecow1977 wrote: »

Why?

Why would you purposely get the cheapest item?

Are you looking for a reason other than it's the cheapest?

Going to weddings is a costly business what with hostels, the price of 2/3 drinks, and sometimes even having to pay some petrol money to whoever you're getting a lift with (which a personal hate of mine seeing as how they're going anyway, it's stingey!). With all these heavy outlays then it's ridiculous to have to fork out for an expensive gift as well.

mayway · 16-07-2015 05:15PM

Galway K9 wrote: »

Yes, yes you should. Who doesnt like black dicks.

I don't particularly.

purplecow1977 · 16-07-2015 05:15PM

mayway wrote: »

Are you looking for a reason other than it's the cheapest?

Going to weddings is a costly business what with hostels, the price of 2/3 drinks, and sometimes even having to pay some petrol money to whoever you're getting a lift with (which a personal hate of mine seeing as how they're going anyway, it's stingey!). With all these heavy outlays then it's ridiculous to have to fork out for an expensive gift as well.

Okay now you're trolling

MadDog76 · 16-07-2015 05:24PM

freshpopcorn wrote: »

I saw on another forum here about a person saying that not everyone who attended there wedding gave a gift or even a card.
A good few posters were saying they saw nothing wrong with this.
I'd feel pretty bad tough going to a wedding either by myself or a couple and having a meal, etc and not giving the couple a gift or a card. If I couldn't afford to give the couple a gift I probably wouldn't attend the wedding unless we were family or very close.
P.S I wouldn't be offended if I didn't get gifts at my wedding. If I do get married tough it will be a very small family wedding.

Would I go to a Wedding without giving a gift? No, of course not ........ obviously.

John368 · 16-07-2015 05:36PM

I have heard of celebrities who just happen to be at a hotel when a wedding is taking place being asked to join the wedding celebrities. Do they bring gifts? Maybe the people who do not bring gifts have some sort of celebrity complex. I must confess I have not heard of anybody not bringing a gift before. It is a bit of an eye-opening I must say.

purplecow1977 · 16-07-2015 05:38PM

John368 wrote: »

I have heard of celebrities who just happen to be at a hotel when a wedding is taking place being asked to join the wedding celebrities. Do they bring gifts? Maybe the people who do not bring gifts have some sort of celebrity complex. I must confess I have not heard of anybody not bringing a gift before. It is a bit of an eye-opening I must say.

You've never heard of anyone giving a gift to a married couple?
If I was giving a gift, I would try to give it to the couple either before or after the day, rather than at the wedding. If I was giving cash, on the day is fine.

MadDog76 · 16-07-2015 05:42PM

John368 wrote: »

I have heard of celebrities who just happen to be at a hotel when a wedding is taking place being asked to join the wedding celebrities. Do they bring gifts? Maybe the people who do not bring gifts have some sort of celebrity complex. I must confess I have not heard of anybody not bringing a gift before. It is a bit of an eye-opening I must say.

purplecow1977 wrote: »

You've never heard of anyone giving a gift to a married couple?
If I was giving a gift, I would try to give it to the couple either before or after the day, rather than at the wedding. If I was giving cash, on the day is fine.

He said he never heard of anybody NOT giving a gift before ........

mayway · 17-07-2015 08:15AM

I think the answer to the original question is yes.

No need for guests to finance bridezilla pantos.

This thread may have run its course.

Cold War Kid · 17-07-2015 08:40AM

mayway wrote: »

youa reasonWith all these heavy outlays then it's ridiculous to have to fork out for an expensive gift as well.

It needn't be an *expensive* gift at all.

Ashbx · 17-07-2015 09:27AM

mayway wrote: »

Guests need to wise up if you ask me. Nothing screams "scumbag" more than putting crass cash in cards.

But a 99cent jug is better....

Tarzana2 · 01-08-2015 02:12AM

darkpagandeath wrote: »

Surprised people are not crowd funding them now tbh.

http://gatecrashmywedding.com/

Sorry to revive a week's old thread, just happened upon it. Anyway, what you've said has been tried. This was posted in the thread in the wedding forum earlier on the year. One half of the couple is Irish. They set up bidding to sell six seats to strangers their Vegas wedding. Bidding started at €350, I think and AFAIK, they sold one seat. They were also looking for companies to provide them with stuff for the wedding for free.

I followed their progress, Facebook etc. Towards the end, they announced that most of the money raised would go to charity, something like 80%. The old cynic in me thinks they came up with the charity thing to stimulate bidding for tickets. The last time I checked, about two days before bidding closed (and it had been open for months), they had still only sold one ticket. And this was after having a story in the Daily Mail. Feckin' eejits!

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Tarzana2 · 01-08-2015 03:06AM

Electric Sheep wrote: »

I am just remembering now the ever popular "nest of tables". I think everyone got one as a wedding present in the 80s, my sister still has and uses hers. That and the ubiquitous sandwich toaster.

I LOVE nests of tables, and wish I had a set! Soooo handy.The nest of tables and sandwich toaster in my mother's house still get used ALL the time. They are CLASS presents.

Damn, want a toastie made in a sandwich toaster now. :pac:

mayway · 02-01-2016 07:49AM

steddyeddy wrote: »

FISMA. wrote: »

Forget the gift, cash is king.

Unless you are a guest/date, you better at least cover your plate(s).

Cover my plate? You mean cover part of their wedding.

That's disgusting. It really is. Cash is tacky.

mayway · 02-01-2016 08:13AM

Ashbx wrote: »

Inspector Coptoor wrote: »

I'm married 6 months at this stage so just been through it.
It's a social minefield of who to invite or not.

When it comes to gift giving etc, out of the 230 odd we had for dinner only 3 people gave nothing.

Others gave what they could afford, and as I said earlier, most simple returned what we had given them for their wedding.

To make a point about "if you can't afford it, don't have thee lavish wedding, we could afford it, saved hard for 18 months and paid around 28k all in for what was one hell of a party over 3 days for us.

If I could do the day itself again tomorrow, I would, just not that pesky organizing beforehand

Ive just been a bridesmaid at my best friends wedding and im seriously thinking of eloping when I get married to avoid all that drama! Wow, I never knew how stressful it could be!

Like you this couple saved hard for their wedding. Paid for absolutely everything themselves (and they are only 26 and 29) and not that they should be reimbursed for it but I think the guests should show the appreciation of all the hard work put in. As I said, even if its a card to say thank you for the great day, im sure it means a lot to the bride and groom who put in countless months of hard work.

Months of hard work? Hardly. They just organised a party for themselves. What's hard about that?

Remember, the party is an indulgence for them. They are the only ones who enjoyed it. Most other people in attendance would have been bored to tears for the whole day. No one should feel they have to pay for the privilege of enduring it.

Galwayguy35 · 02-01-2016 08:19AM

mayway wrote: »

Months of hard work? Hardly. They just organised a party for themselves. What's hard about that?

Remember, the party is an indulgence for them. They are the only ones who enjoyed it. Most other people in attendance would have been bored to tears for the whole day. No one should feel they have to pay for the privilege of enduring it.

Ah now in fairness sure some weddings can be boring but I think most of the guests would have a reasonably good day at most of them.

suicide_circus · 02-01-2016 11:22AM

In order to get married, you can do so in a registry office, total cost a few hundred I guess.

If you CHOOSE to have a big wedding, have the one you can afford, not one you can afford after you've shaken your guests down for €199.99 a head.

Dirty Dingus McGee · 02-01-2016 11:46AM

If you have to give a present that covers the cost of your place at the wedding wouldn't it just be better for the couple not to invite you to it in the first place.

I honestly cannot work out why people would actually want someone at their wedding.Getting married (in my opinion) is probably the most private/personal thing a person can do so why the hell do you need a load of people their to witness something that won't have any affect on their lives.They seem like a load of egotistic nonsense to me.

suicide_circus · 02-01-2016 11:49AM

Dirty Dingus McGee wrote: »

If you have to give a present that covers the cost of your place at the wedding wouldn't it just be better for the couple not to invite you to it in the first place.

I honestly cannot work out why people would actually want someone at their wedding.Getting married (in my opinion) is probably the most private/personal thing a person can do so why the hell do you need a load of people their to witness something that won't have any affect on their lives.They seem like a load of egotistic nonsense to me.

I think people need to dispense with the charade of invites and gifts and just sell tickets, far more straight forward and honest.

mayway · 02-01-2016 12:04PM

suicide_circus wrote: »

Dirty Dingus McGee wrote: »

If you have to give a present that covers the cost of your place at the wedding wouldn't it just be better for the couple not to invite you to it in the first place.

I honestly cannot work out why people would actually want someone at their wedding.Getting married (in my opinion) is probably the most private/personal thing a person can do so why the hell do you need a load of people their to witness something that won't have any affect on their lives.They seem like a load of egotistic nonsense to me.

I think people need to dispense with the charade of invites and gifts and just sell tickets, far more straight forward and honest.

Absolutely! It's absurd. But try telling that to the frightful bridezillas out there who are utterly convinced that dropping 50k on a wedding is the right thing to do and that everybody in the world would want to be there to witness it. The sad truth is that no one wants to see it and the unfortunate ones that have to be there are laughing at the stupidity of it all.

All this can be stopped by simply refusing to pay for this nonsense with cash gifts. It won't take long for dim witted bridezillas who get saddled with huge 5 figure debts for ridiculous parties that they end up paying off over years to soon see the error of their ways.

MadDog76 · 02-01-2016 01:07PM

mayway wrote: »

Months of hard work? Hardly. They just organised a party for themselves. What's hard about that?

Remember, the party is an indulgence for them. They are the only ones who enjoyed it. Most other people in attendance would have been bored to tears for the whole day. No one should feel they have to pay for the privilege of enduring it.

I haven't been to a wedding yet that I didn't enjoy .......... usually have a great time as a matter of fact.

Also, we'd always give a cash gift (nobody wants/needs a toaster or some "hand-made personal" gift) of at least €200.

Food, drinks, music, dancing, family and friends ........ what's not to love about a wedding!?!!
It's a great day out if you go with the intention of enjoying yourself .......... I wouldn't want people at my wedding who had the negative attitudes that some people on this thread have ......... very very odd imo.

02-01-2016 01:54PM

Life seems awful tough for some of ye folks. Best ye don't go to any weddings.

whatdoicare · 02-01-2016 02:44PM

I'd never attend a wedding without giving a money gift, it's just the decent thing to do - can't believe the attitudes of people here, if you don't like your family, hate weddings and going to be there with a puss on your face and empty hands then what the heck are you at the wedding for??

There's this thing on the RSVP card you know - right under the tick "Accept" box, it's called "Decline". It means if you tick it, you don't have to go. Mad idea, isnt it :rolleyes:

suicide_circus · 02-01-2016 03:11PM

whatdoicare wrote: »

I'd never attend a wedding without giving a money gift, it's just the decent thing to do - can't believe the attitudes of people here, if you don't like your family, hate weddings and going to be there with a puss on your face and empty hands then what the heck are you at the wedding for??

There's this thing on the RSVP card you know - right under the tick "Accept" box, it's called "Decline". It means if you tick it, you don't have to go. Mad idea, isnt it :rolleyes:

But if everyone ticks decline, where will the revenue come from?

MadDog76 · 02-01-2016 03:15PM

suicide_circus wrote: »

But if everyone ticks decline, where will the revenue come from?

If everyone ticks decline the costs will drop dramatically and considerably.

Dirty Dingus McGee · 02-01-2016 03:17PM

whatdoicare wrote: »

I'd never attend a wedding without giving a money gift, it's just the decent thing to do - can't believe the attitudes of people here, if you don't like your family, hate weddings and going to be there with a puss on your face and empty hands then what the heck are you at the wedding for??

There's this thing on the RSVP card you know - right under the tick "Accept" box, it's called "Decline". It means if you tick it, you don't have to go. Mad idea, isnt it :rolleyes:

If you really want someone to attend you're wedding why the hell should they have to effectively pay for it? It's like being handed a summons.

Being invited to something should imply that you will benefit from the gesture and not the other way around.

uck51js9zml2yt · 02-01-2016 03:19PM

darkpagandeath wrote: »

Who gets married these days that don't live together and already have all the stuff they need ?

Quiet a few people actually who don't live together first.

MadDog76 · 02-01-2016 03:20PM

Dirty Dingus McGee wrote: »

If you really want someone to attend you're wedding why the hell should they have to effectively pay for it? It's like being handed a summons.

Being invited to something should imply that you will benefit from the gesture and not the other way around.

You don't have to give cash, you don't have to give a present ........... you don't even have to go!

Dirty Dingus McGee · 02-01-2016 03:23PM

MadDog76 wrote: »

You don't have to give cash, you don't have to give a present ........... you don't even have to go!

Exactly.But the expectation is that you should give a present if you attend but in my opinion that shouldn't be the case.

MadDog76 · 02-01-2016 03:32PM

Dirty Dingus McGee wrote: »

Exactly.But the expectation is that you should give a present if you attend but in my opinion that shouldn't be the case.

There's an expectation that you put a Christmas tree up at Christmas, there's an expectation that you buy someone a pint if they've bought you the last one, there's an expectation that if you're invited to a dinner party that you bring along a bottle of wine or dessert .......... you don't have to do any of these things of course but, personally, I like Christmas, a few pints with friends and the odd dinner party so I join in, observe tradition and have a good time!

Would you go to a wedding without giving a gift?

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