Would you go to a wedding without giving a gift?

freshpopcorn · 13-07-2015 05:32PM #1

I saw on another forum here about a person saying that not everyone who attended there wedding gave a gift or even a card.
A good few posters were saying they saw nothing wrong with this.
I'd feel pretty bad tough going to a wedding either by myself or a couple and having a meal, etc and not giving the couple a gift or a card. If I couldn't afford to give the couple a gift I probably wouldn't attend the wedding unless we were family or very close.
P.S I wouldn't be offended if I didn't get gifts at my wedding. If I do get married tough it will be a very small family wedding.

darkpagandeath · 13-07-2015 05:33PM

I you were invited I see no problem not giving a gift if one can't afford it.

cloud493 · 13-07-2015 05:35PM

My presence is a gift that you can't just slap a euro sign on.

Uriel. · 13-07-2015 05:36PM

Personally, I wouldn't.

At the same time I wouldn't be offended if a guest at my wedding didn't give one, as was the case with a couple of guests at my recent wedding.

eviltwin · 13-07-2015 05:37PM

I had a no gift policy at my wedding and everyone bar one stuck to it. I didn't want any gifts. I don't know why anyone would expect them tbh.

Cold War Kid · 13-07-2015 05:38PM

No way. Bad manners (although only give what you can afford). If you don't appreciate the invite don't go.

darkpagandeath · 13-07-2015 05:38PM

cloud493 wrote: »

My presence is a gift that you can't just slap a euro sign on.

Something like this ?

Ruu · 13-07-2015 05:41PM

I'd do an auld sing song as a present. :eek:

Tony Beetroot · 13-07-2015 05:43PM

You would want to be giving €200 as a couple going to a wedding at a minimum, people who dont give any gift are tight arses.

darkpagandeath · 13-07-2015 05:44PM

Tony Beetroot wrote: »

You would want to be giving €200 as a couple going to a wedding at a minimum, people who dont give any gift are tight arses.

Who gets married these days that don't live together and already have all the stuff they need ?

brevity · 13-07-2015 05:46PM

If it's to the full wedding then I'd say give what you can afford but if its the afters then don't.

The_Valeyard · 13-07-2015 05:46PM

Yeah, I'd feel bad about it.

Weddings are expensive. I'd never go to one without a gift/money-card.

freshpopcorn · 13-07-2015 05:47PM

darkpagandeath wrote: »

Who gets married these days that don't live together and already have all the stuff they need ?

Very few to be honest. If I was ever giving someone a gift for a wedding/moving into a new home. I'd always get a gift receipt incase they all ready had it or didn't like it.

darkpagandeath · 13-07-2015 05:47PM

The_Valeyard wrote: »

Yeah, I'd feel bad about it.

Weddings are expensive. I'd never go to one without a gift/money-card.

No people make weddings expensive.

Mr. Incognito · 13-07-2015 05:48PM

When I was a trainee I couldnt afford gifts and my mates didnt care.

That's because they were my friends, and if I get married I dont want gifts from them

It's about spending the day with people you love.

I grew out of comparing what I got with my friends after my first Communion. Some people never grow out of it it seems.

Give what you can afford. Being there means a LOT more to anyone who cares

ToddyDoody · 13-07-2015 05:48PM

"The gift is myself"

Uriel. · 13-07-2015 05:49PM

Bank draft is my preferred approach. Wouldnt want to give someone something they didn't need/want.

Though with close family members such as siblings I'd give them something I know they wanted/needed plus bank draft

My name is URL · 13-07-2015 05:50PM

I've never brought a gift to a wedding. If I'm buying a gif I always either give it to the couple before they're married or afterwards.

Huntergonzo · 13-07-2015 05:51PM

In fairness weddings can be incredibly boring, so when I have the misfortune of being invited to one I don't care if I have a gift or card with me or not, my presence is present enough.

Buona Fortuna · 13-07-2015 05:51PM

The_Valeyard wrote: »

Yeah, I'd feel bad about it.

Weddings are expensive. I'd never go to one without a gift/money-card.

Yep - if I couldn't afford a gift I wouldn't go.

Although, having said that, being a meserable fecker having animals to look after, I very rarely go to any.

Uriel. · 13-07-2015 05:51PM

Mr. Incognito wrote: »

When I was a trainee I couldnt afford gifts and my mates didnt care.

That's because they were my friends, and if I get married I dont want gifts from them

It's about spending the day with people you love.

I grew out of comparing what I got with my friends after my first Communion. Some people never grow out of it it seems.

Give what you can afford. Being there means a LOT more to anyone who cares

Agreed. I would hate someone to decline an invite to my wedding because they couldn't afford a gift. I invited them cos I wanted them there not because of what they might get me

jayboi · 13-07-2015 05:51PM

What would be the going rate for a individual going to a good friends wedding out of curiosity?

My name is URL · 13-07-2015 05:52PM

Tony Beetroot wrote: »

You would want to be giving €200 as a couple going to a wedding at a minimum, people who dont give any gift are tight arses.

And anyone who invites others to their wedding exclusively based on the expectation of receiving a gift is just a cunt

Uriel. · 13-07-2015 05:52PM

jayboi wrote: »

What would be the going rate for a individual going to a good friends wedding out of curiosity?

How long is a piece of string.

The last of my good friends to get married in gave him 200euro and and 200 euro bottle of whiskey I was groomsman though and he's my best friend so...

darkpagandeath · 13-07-2015 05:53PM

jayboi wrote: »

What would be the going rate for a individual going to a good friends wedding out of curiosity?

Decking.

ballsymchugh · 13-07-2015 05:54PM

Ruu wrote: »

I'd do an auld sing song as a present. :eek:

i can picture it now...

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JSzDfhjAWLE

eviltwin · 13-07-2015 05:55PM

Tony Beetroot wrote: »

You would want to be giving €200 as a couple going to a wedding at a minimum, people who dont give any gift are tight arses.

Minimum :eek:

Fcuk that, I invited people because I wanted them there not to make back my investment. I'd be gutted to think someone would not be there just because they feel they can't afford a decent gift. Guests go to a lot of expense to get there, in my case everyone flew in from overseas at their own expense, took time off work to be there. No way would I accept a gift on top of all that. That's just greedy.

Comer1 · 13-07-2015 05:58PM

darkpagandeath wrote: »

Who gets married these days that don't live together and already have all the stuff they need ?

SINNER!!!!!!

SATAN, GET THEE BEHIND ME!!!!!

Cold War Kid · 13-07-2015 06:00PM

jayboi wrote: »

What would be the going rate for a individual going to a good friends wedding out of curiosity?

What you can afford, there's no going rate - shouldn't be anyway.

Cold War Kid · 13-07-2015 06:02PM

Huntergonzo wrote: »

In fairness weddings can be incredibly boring, so when I have the misfortune of being invited to one I don't care if I have a gift or card with me or not, my presence is present enough.

They seem like the weddings of people you're not close to. Wouldn't it be easier just to decline?

freshpopcorn · 13-07-2015 06:03PM

eviltwin wrote: »

Minimum :eek:

Fcuk that, I invited people because I wanted them there not to make back my investment. I'd be gutted to think someone would not be there just because they feel they can't afford a decent gift. Guests go to a lot of expense to get there, in my case everyone flew in from overseas at their own expense, took time off work to be there. No way would I accept a gift on top of all that. That's just greedy.

That's a different situation. I don't think anybody would expect gifts of people who had to fly to there wedding or travel to there wedding.

Would you go to a wedding without giving a gift?

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