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Viral Facebook video speaking out about domestic violence (Read mod note in the OP)

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    #422
    frostyjacks
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 1,951 ✭✭✭frostyjacks


    Mightydrumming wrote: »
    Elaborate?

    Didn't Mairia Cahill get a gig with the Indo after her fifteen minutes?


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    #423
    Trudiha
    Registered Users Posts: 235 ✭✭Trudiha


    MrWalsh wrote: »
    Accordíng to a radio interview mentioned earlier in the thread she said that when they fought they hit each other, so perhaps he has been punched in the face by her also?


    He doesn't seem to have reported an assult or to have a black eye.


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    #424
    1800
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    Trudiha wrote: »
    He doesn't seem to have reported an assult or to have a black eye.

    He has 2 black eyes.

    boom


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    #425
    Trudiha
    Registered Users Posts: 235 ✭✭Trudiha


    It takes quite a degree of cognitive dissonance to disbelieve someone who claims to be a victim of assault while suggesting, someone who has made no such claim, has been assaulted.


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    #426
    P. Breathnach
    Registered Users Posts: 12,089 ✭✭✭✭P. Breathnach


    I watched the video. I don't think it is about vengeance, or about advancing a legal action: it's about emancipation.

    The hardest thing about domestic abuse is that the victim is disempowered, and it is extremely difficult to say "Enough! I'm out of here, and not coming back". Those who work with victims of domestic abuse are familiar with the phenomenon of victims forgiving their abusers and going back into bad situations. It is, in part, due to the loss of self-esteem that has resulted from the abuse.

    This woman has taken her life back in a very public way, and created for herself a set of circumstances where she pretty well cannot go back into a relationship that is bad.


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    #427
    Boom_Bap
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    1800 wrote: »
    He has 2 black eyes.

    boom

    MOD NOTE: Take these racist comments elsewhere. Do not post in this thread again.


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    #428
    Mightydrumming
    Registered Users Posts: 746 ✭✭✭Mightydrumming


    Pumpkinseeds wrote: »
    I don't know how many times I have to say that NO, a black eye is not evidence of domestic abuse. It's a black eye, as simple as that. I didn't see him hit her and neither did any other poster in this forum.

    So could you clarify what would be the necessary evidence that would be satisfactory for you?

    It took a ton of courage to post that video, you and your friends don't seem to understand that. And for her to be shot down, called a liar, a vindictive bitch and to be 'milking' it is down right unacceptable.
    Pumpkinseeds wrote: »
    You see, I can accept that she could be entirely sincere

    I'm not sure you can Pumpkin. Your posts are not that evident.

    The likes of you are the reason why there are so many men and women in abusive relationships that are afraid to come out and tell the truth.

    Disgusting.


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    #429
    steddyeddy
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    Pumpkinseeds wrote: »
    I don't know how many times I have to say that NO, a black eye is not evidence of domestic abuse. It's a black eye, as simple as that. I didn't see him hit her and neither did any other poster in this forum. All this hatred people have for a stranger is bizarre. As for people saying he can use the courts to prove his innocence, I hope if he does choose that avenue that he doesn't end up with any of you posters as his jurers.

    It doesn't matter what he says, you've all decided that he's filth and that she's some sort of evangelical crusading poster child for battered women. You really can't accept the possibilty that she might just be a vindictive bitch who is pissed at him for cheating on her and who wants to fcuk up his life. You see, I can accept that she could be entirely sincere, but I can also acknowledge that she might just be lying. Whatever, she's certainly cashing in on it now.


    It's the nature of the allegation PS. If this person is lying and looking for attention she's sick and she needs to be sued. The problem is when someone is a victim of domestic abuse and there's kids involved we need to er on the side of caution. Most of the time this abuse goes unheard.


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    #430
    Means Of Escape
    Registered Users Posts: 1,897 ✭✭✭Means Of Escape


    1800 wrote: »
    This can be summarised as:

    - They have kids
    - Man cheats on woman and gets mistress pregnant
    - Woman confronts man at his place of work, throws mobile phone at him, he pushes or hits her and she falls
    - Woman posts FB and ruins mans business and life
    - Woman gets job with the Irish Independent ????

    Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned.

    Or summarised as this

    -She carried and gave birth to his two children.
    -Man disrespects her by having an affair
    -Woman understandably is upset and throws a phone at him,he lands her a haymaker into the eye which sends her to the floor
    -Woman posts FB to reveal the thug and makes him clear off in shame
    -Woman shows that others in the same situation should speak out Irish Independent carries her story.

    Fury is real


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    #431
    strelok
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    why is he a thug when she assaulted him with a weapon?


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    #432
    NachoBusiness
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    Boring username wrote: »
    I'm surprised boards has left this thread open as Gardai are currently investigating the assault.

    Well both parties have gone public and (as of yet, at least) it's not before the courts, so tbf, I think Boards would get a hell of lot more stick if the prevented discussion of the topic.
    P. Breathnach wrote: »
    I watched the video. I don't think it is about vengeance, or about advancing a legal action: it's about emancipation.

    You've watched far too much Oprah.
    PucaMama wrote: »
    ..this is boards, where a man is never wrong and women are never victims.

    The irony of that sentence :D


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    #433
    Means Of Escape
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    strelok wrote: »
    why is he a thug when she assaulted him with a weapon?

    Illegal to carry a phone then if it's a weapon.


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    #434
    P. Breathnach
    Registered Users Posts: 12,089 ✭✭✭✭P. Breathnach


    P. Breathnach wrote: »
    I watched the video. I don't think it is about vengeance, or about advancing a legal action: it's about emancipation.
    NachoBusiness wrote: »
    You've watched far too much Oprah.
    If you want to counter my interpretation, you need more than a piece of smart-assery.


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    #435
    Electric Sheep
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    strelok wrote: »
    why is he a thug when she assaulted him with a weapon?

    Where are you getting that from? I have seen that a phone was thrown, I have not seen any allegation that it was thrown AT anyone. Do you have a link?


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    #436
    4friggA
    Closed Accounts Posts: 30 ✭4friggA


    Pumpkinseeds wrote: »
    Astonishing how so many people will believe anything without any actual evidence to back it up.

    Oh the irony :pac:

    There is an actual video of a woman showing injuries which she says she received from her ex partner and the gardai are investigating the matter as domestic abuse.
    What evidence do you have to back up your claim to the contrary? What is the reasoning behind your desperation for this woman to be lying?


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    #437
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    I don't see how people can characterise this woman as a vindictive bitch, out for revenge. I certainly don't see how anyone can confidently claim she's as bad as he is either. A small woman throwing a phone at a large man is oceans of enormity removed from a large man punching a small woman in the face. It certainly doesn't excuse him punching her, although his affairs are no excuse for her to throw anything at him either.

    If he hurt her I hope he pays the price, but that price should be after careful examination of the case and a fair trial or hearing. There is nothing fair about exposing a crime to the wider world on facebook, nothing fair about her kids having to deal with the fallout from this when they're older, and nothing fair about trial by social media. I do understand the impluse to do it, I understand that she may not have been thinking straight, that she couldn't foresee how it would take off. But it's not the right way to handle it.

    She may have had (and I think she did) good intentions in posting that video. But by all standards of civilised society it was the wrong thing to do, as this man has been judged, found guilty, and villified, and all without even answering his accuser. He can't win, he probably shouldn't, but he should have the chance to state his case before he's publicly convicted without trial.

    A bad idea, for a multitude of reasons. I do have a lot of compassion for her though, if true, she must have gone through hell.


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    #438
    jimdublin15
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    Means Of Escape wrote: »
    Illegal to carry a phone then if it's a weapon.

    Anything can be used as a weapon


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    #439
    the_syco
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    Mightydrumming wrote: »
    She did. She went to the Gardaí, informed them of the incident and they classed it as a minor case. (Can you imagine this is probably my 4th or 5th time to say this here??).
    If you classed the assault as major, what would you class being shot?


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    #440
    Mightydrumming
    Registered Users Posts: 746 ✭✭✭Mightydrumming


    Candie wrote: »
    and all without even answering his accuser

    He sent her a text.


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    #441
    Electric Sheep
    Registered Users Posts: 2,106 ✭✭✭Electric Sheep


    Candie wrote: »
    I don't see how people can characterise this woman as a vindictive bitch, out for revenge. I certainly don't see how anyone can confidently claim she's as bad as he is either. A small woman throwing a phone at a large man is oceans of enormity removed from a large man punching a small woman in the face. It certainly doesn't excuse him punching her, although his affairs are no excuse for her to throw anything at him either.

    If he hurt her I hope he pays the price, but that price should be after careful examination of the case and a fair trial or hearing. There is nothing fair about exposing a crime to the wider world on facebook, nothing fair about her kids having to deal with the fallout from this when they're older, and nothing fair about trial by social media. I do understand the impluse to do it, I understand that she may not have been thinking straight, that she couldn't foresee how it would take off. But it's not the right way to handle it.

    She may have had (and I think she did) good intentions in posting that video. But by all standards of civilised society it was the wrong thing to do, as this man has been judged, found guilty, and villified, and all without even answering his accuser. He can't win, he probably shouldn't, but he should have the chance to state his case before he's publicly convicted without trial.

    The ex also has access to the print and social media, he has already given an interview. He has the chance to state his case if he chooses to do so. So far in the print media, he has confirmed that he has assaulted her, but seems to think a push sounds better than a punch.


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    #442
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    4friggA wrote: »
    Oh the irony :pac:

    There is an actual video of a woman showing injuries which she says she received from her ex partner and the gardai are investigating the matter as domestic abuse.
    What evidence do you have to back up your claim to the contrary? What is the reasoning behind your desperation for this woman to be lying?

    To be fair, there is no conclusive evidence in either the bruising or the video. I don't think she's lying, but it's not as clear cut as that either.

    Allegations are not evidence, and this guy, although he's probably completely guilty, has not had anything approaching a fair hearing.

    You can't convict people because you feel they did it, and because they're probably bad guys.


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    #443
    Mightydrumming
    Registered Users Posts: 746 ✭✭✭Mightydrumming


    the_syco wrote: »
    If you classed the assault as major, what would you class being shot?

    This case is not minor.


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    #444
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    Electric Sheep wrote: »
    The ex also has access to the print and social media, he has already given an interview. He has the chance to state his case if he chooses to do so. So far in the print media, he has confirmed that he has assaulted her, but seems to think a push sounds better than a punch.

    Personally I'd prefer to be pushed than punched, but none of that was my point.

    The legal route is the way to go, regardless of how frustrated she is with it. There is no way he can get a fair trial now, so she's spoiled the pot and it'll probably never get that far.


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    #445
    NachoBusiness
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    There is a rather unfortunate video on YouTube of the guy slapping a woman and abusing her in an acting showreel from 2012. Watched it earlier but it has now been taken down. Surprised some of the papers didn't get their hands on it as they no doubt would have used some of the screenshots.


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    #446
    PucaMama
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    What about it? If she had him hitting her on video boards posters would still side with him


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    #447
    [Deleted User]
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    Mightydrumming wrote: »
    He sent her a text.

    He could have sent her a winning lottery ticket, but her actions still mean that he can't have a fair trial and his solicitor will never let it reach the courtroom.

    That does much more harm than posting a video on facebook does good.


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    #448
    Mightydrumming
    Registered Users Posts: 746 ✭✭✭Mightydrumming


    4friggA wrote: »
    Oh the irony :pac:

    Tell me about it :rolleyes:

    4friggA wrote: »
    What evidence do you have to back up your claim to the contrary? What is the reasoning behind your desperation for this woman to be lying?

    I do believe Pumpkin (As was earlier stated) is either a friend of the partner in question or trying to win the argument. Failing I might add!


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    #449
    se02orqua5xz9v
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    Pumpkinseeds wrote: »
    It doesn't matter what he says, you've all decided that he's filth and that she's some sort of evangelical crusading poster child for battered women. You really can't accept the possibilty that she might just be a vindictive bitch who is pissed at him for cheating on her and who wants to fcuk up his life. You see, I can accept that she could be entirely sincere, but I can also acknowledge that she might just be lying. Whatever, she's certainly cashing in on it now.

    And if it turns out she isn't lying, will you regret suggesting she may be a vindictive bitch?
    Pumpkinseeds wrote:
    Oh yes, it was right to say she might be a vindictive bitch until all the evidence was in. I needed proof before I could refrain from saying she might be a vindictive bitch.


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    #450
    Dogowner55
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 149 ✭✭Dogowner55


    PucaMama wrote: »
    What about it? If she had him hitting her on video boards posters would still side with him

    Ah now if there was video proof of the big black man hitting the small blonde irish woman, from other threads I have seen on race stuff most of boards would be not be siding with him.


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    #451
    PucaMama
    Registered Users Posts: 3,129 ✭✭✭PucaMama


    Dogowner55 wrote: »
    Ah now if there was video proof of the big black man hitting the small blonde irish woman, from other threads I have seen on race stuff most of boards would be not be siding with him.

    They would be rushing to show she provoked him and then edging in a men's rights slant on it


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