Now Ye're Talking - to a swinger

qwerty ui op

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Given your weekdays the weekends must be all about the children....

Over 6000 posts in 18 months, I hope your boss doesn't see this.

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benny79

I'm a swinger, AMA wrote: »

Strength I find is important, other hand on the belly, two fingers curved, almost scraping at the inside about 3 inches in. but you need be gentle. Dont use the finger nails.

Any chance you can give a bit more detail on this? I did it once. but the girl told me she does and it was just through normally intercourse! be nice to have this trick up your sleeve on demand. Always willing to learn.

Cleopatra_

Thank you for doing this very interesting AMA and for sharing something about the lifestyle.

Have you ever watched the TV show the swingers? Actually on second thoughts maybe don't because it's like a horrible worst case scenario

Have you ever had conflict with your wife or arguments due to the swinging lifestyle and all that goes with it? Like when setting out the rules or if one person broke a rule or due to jealousy etc.

I've been in an open relationship in the past but we eventually went back to monogamy as it was far too contentious and stressful so that's why I'm wondering. Thanks

nikkibikki

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Bit of a contradiction there!

Westernyelp wrote:

You could have had a quickie in the time it took you to type that!

My point exactly!

StringerBell

I've noticed you allude to being with are, some unsavoury incidents (pressuring/unwanted groping etc) on a number of occasions.

Is this something that is very common? How do you deal with these instances, have you witnessed or heard of any more serious sexual assault type behaviour happening?
Do you feel safe basically and what kind of assurance have you of that safety?

Would you mind pming me some info on sites to check out, I would be pretty open sexually and want to experience as much as I can really, this may never be something that interests my wife which I'd accept but it would be nice if I could show her some information or visual idea of what it's about from the safety of her own couch

laoch na mona

pics or gtfo

but seriously nice ama

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lukesmom wrote: »

Im not judging you. I think each to their own as long as nobody gets hurt but is it conscientiously difficult to bring up your children and teach them moral values and to have respect for themselves and for others, when their mammy and daddy are out shagging total strangers they have just met?

Tis the wife here tonight ... why do you think I don't respect myself?

Hotblack Desiato

How did the subject get raised in the first place, and was it a long time between talking about it and actually doing it? Did either of you have doubts about it at first and had to think about it for a good while before agreeing?

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Terrontress wrote: »

Why do you not want someone to pop inside your wife if he is wearing a condom? I’d have thought that less intrusive than taking it off and depositing it all over her body.

Cumming inside me is not an option, my husband doesn't get to do that so I don't think someone else should get that privilege. Cumming on someone is hot AF as any man will attest to :pac::D

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Sour Lemonz wrote: »

Thanks for answers, seems like you and wife have head screwed on correctly to both get the most from your relationship as friends and a couple but also to ensure you have a happy and sane love life.

1 last thing i would ask, have either of you been asked or are aware of other being asked to be a surrogate for another couple/individual or sprem/egg donor?

Hi, thanks for your lovely comments.



No, never heard of the surrogacy situation.

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Seth Brundle wrote: »

Out of curiosity what was your sex life like before you got into swinging? Was sex relatively frequent? In hindsight wasnit fairly normal or were you somewhat adventurous then? Did you both watch porn together?

This is a great question. We've been together since we were teenagers. We've had the usual talks about sex and sometimes my husband feeling he wasn't getting enough or that I didn't make the effort. A normal relationship. My answer to this was we had a young family and I felt like ****e most of the time. I was overweight and the thoughts of parading around in front of him in sexy lingerie was just something I didn't have the confidence for. I have however always been a sexual creature, always a bit wild and willing to try things and by nature my husband is a little shy to say or suggest things so yes it's taken a bit of time to get to where we had the conversation about swinging and all my preconceptions of 'keys in the bowl' came to mind initially too but I have to say once I had confidence in myself and my appearance, our sex life changed. We have hot sex, porno sex if you like and I myself started to gain an interest in porno because I'm not naturally creative when it comes to sex and not fully aware of my likes and dislikes yet so porno gave me ideas and honestly the sex we have after our swing nights is just insane

khaldrogo

I'm a swinger, AMA wrote:

Cumming inside me is not an option, my husband doesn't get to do that so I don't think someone else should get that privilege. Cumming on someone is hot AF as any man will attest to

Your own husband doesn't even get to cum in you with a condom on???

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I'm actually assuming this is a piss take of a question.



Everyone has 24hours. Sleeping for 9 hours a night is a mad amount of wasted hours. Do you exercise, spend any time on yourself outside of sleep? I do all of your day and have sex twice a day. Seems like you need to reorganise your day in order to have a bit of free time. Life is way too short to wake up some morning and realise your 70 and have done nothing but other stuff for other people all your life! Take care of yourself and your needs..... dinner, housework and work will all still be there no matter how much time you spend on them so give yourself a little break and let your wild side free.

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Emme wrote: »

OP you say you and your wife are childhood sweethearts which is sweet. You also say the lifestyle has enhanced your relationship and made you closer.

Does the lifestyle put pressure on some couples relationships? If so do you find that couples who have been together a long time like yourselves benefit more from the scene than couples who have been together for a shorter time?

Also are all the women in supertoned bikini model size 6, 8 or 10 shape? If not do the women who are over a size 12 get treated worse than the slimmer women?

I would happen to agree that the couples who have been together a longer time benefit a bit more from the enhancing of a relationship. That's my opinion.



I'm a size 10 with curves. I've met obese people and it's a fetish for some people. I've met teeny tiny people fit AF, I've met tall, short, wide, slim, extra wide, extra slim. There is absolutely no type. Everyone is free.

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Cleopatra_ wrote: »

Thank you for doing this very interesting AMA and for sharing something about the lifestyle.

Have you ever watched the TV show the swingers? Actually on second thoughts maybe don't because it's like a horrible worst case scenario

Have you ever had conflict with your wife or arguments due to the swinging lifestyle and all that goes with it? Like when setting out the rules or if one person broke a rule or due to jealousy etc.

I've been in an open relationship in the past but we eventually went back to monogamy as it was far too contentious and stressful so that's why I'm wondering. Thanks

Oh god yes, plenty of arguments in the early days and mostly because I'm a free spirited type and my husband is a bit more of an 'in control type' ... he's not controlling before anyone jumps on that, he likes to be in control like most alpha males. But yes, we had plenty of 'rules' in the beginning but as you evolve, much like most relationships and opinions really, you change and become more mature about things. We're at the stage now where we have 1 rule and everything else is 'if it happens and either of us are not happy about it, it's not the end of the world but we agree to get over it and it won't happen again' ! We have matured as people and as a couple.

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khaldrogo wrote: »

Your own husband doesn't even get to cum in you with a condom on???

We don't use condoms as husband and wife and so no it's not something we do on a regular basis my dear. When we do decide that's a hot scenario for us to play out then yes he puts a condom on and cums inside me. In my opinion cumming inside me is reserved for intimate love making with my husband and not a swinging scenario with another man.

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StringerBell wrote: »

I've noticed you allude to being with are, some unsavoury incidents (pressuring/unwanted groping etc) on a number of occasions.

Is this something that is very common? How do you deal with these instances, have you witnessed or heard of any more serious sexual assault type behaviour happening?
Do you feel safe basically and what kind of assurance have you of that safety?

Would you mind pming me some info on sites to check out, I would be pretty open sexually and want to experience as much as I can really, this may never be something that interests my wife which I'd accept but it would be nice if I could show her some information or visual idea of what it's about from the safety of her own couch

Hello. As the female in this relationship, yes I won't say it's a completely respectful enviroment all the time but you need to be able to stand up for yourself aswell but the clubs we frequent have security for this reason so I feel completely safe in the places I go to. Like most bars or clubs, some guys think it's ok to put their hands on you, you can go to Copper Face Jacks and get felt up more frequently then I have been but yes it can happen and the guys know the rules so a few choice words puts them firmly in their place. Nothing of a sexual assault type of nature but as I say, as with most regular clubs and pubs, as a woman, you need to be aware of yourself and your surroundings. A lot of swingers don't actually drink, primarily as it affects performance but a lot of ladies like to keep their heads and know their surroundings. But in all honesty, a feeling up is not something that happens regularly enough for me to feel unsafe by choosing to go visit the bathroom while my husband is at the bar (or otherwise occupied :pac:)

Gloomtastic!

Welcome Mrs OP, and thanks to you too for a fascinating AMA.

I presume you have read your husband’s previous answers. Is there anything you’d like to answer differently? Did he surprise you with any of his answers?

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Hotblack Desiato wrote: »

How did the subject get raised in the first place, and was it a long time between talking about it and actually doing it? Did either of you have doubts about it at first and had to think about it for a good while before agreeing?

Hi. We had a few 'fantasy' scenarios in the bedroom for a while and then a pretty traumatic personal tragedy made my husband say 'f%ck this, I have done some research and here's the deal'.... my husband has a super research ability and so my wild side didn't take much convincing and within a month or so we had arranged our first threesome. The connection my husband and I had during and after it was insanely intense and I was hooked :P.... we of course have had scenarios which we regretted but much like a college student waking up saying 'who the f%ck did I just do' and almost immediately forgetting about it and goes about their day, we did eventually too. We're still learning about one another and ourselves through all of this and so it's been an amazing experience to just recognise your true self and as with any regular self discovery journey, there are detours and dead ends but you just keep going and the next detour can sometimes be the best detour yet!;)

helimachoptor

Best AMA ever, thank you both.

Were you both virgins when you got together? Your husband mentioned you were young/first loves, so does that mean your 3some was the first time you had been with someone else?

Purple Mountain

If your child told you in 20 years that they were swinging?.what would you say?

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Gloomtastic! wrote: »

Welcome Mrs OP, and thanks to you too for a fascinating AMA.

I presume you have read your husband’s previous answers. Is there anything you’d like to answer differently? Did he surprise you with any of his answers?

I had quite the catchup to do it did seem haha. I'm completely at one with everything he has said and I think we have the same opinions on most things so no real conflict yet


Although I was intrigued with the 'breeding' conversation as I hadn't a breeze about any of that being a 'thing' haha

eviltwin

Wouldn't be for me at all, one man is more than enough for me, but fair play to you both. I don't get the outrage over what you are doing, you seem to be making it work.

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helimachoptor wrote: »

Best AMA ever, thank you both.

Were you both virgins when you got together? Your husband mentioned you were young/first loves, so does that mean your 3some was the first time you had been with someone else?

I had a couple of boyfriends in my early teens ... yes early teens, a bit of a regret, but my husband was a virgin and so our first couple 'meet' was his first time with another woman .... and he made her cum hard ... high five husband haha

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Purple Mountain wrote: »

If your child told you in 20 years that they were swinging?.what would you say?

As long as they are safe about it and doing it for an enjoyable experience and not in a relationship where the partner is more into then them .... I'd be fine about it of course. Its a taboo subject still in society of course, which is why this is anonymous and our identities on the swing sites are also incognito. That's part of the turn on to be fair but if I knew about half the things my children would get up to by the time they come to me with a statement like 'I'm a swinger' ... it would possibly be a tame thing for them to do

Galwayguy35

Thanks for taking the time to answer the AMA.

Your husband mentioned he was straight and wasn't interested in doing anything sexual with another man, would you be into being intimate with both sexes yourself?

AndrewJRenko

lukesmom wrote: »

Im not judging you. I think each to their own as long as nobody gets hurt but is it conscientiously difficult to bring up your children and teach them moral values and to have respect for themselves and for others, when their mammy and daddy are out shagging total strangers they have just met?

How long would you expect mammy and daddy to spend getting to know the strangers before they shag them?

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eviltwin wrote: »

Wouldn't be for me at all, one man is more than enough for me, but fair play to you both. I don't get the outrage over what you are doing, you seem to be making it work.

Hi hon. It's absolutely not for everyone of course and I completely genuinely say that. It works for us but so does gherkins on a burger and that's not to everyones taste xx

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Galwayguy35 wrote: »

Thanks for taking the time to answer the AMA.

Your husband mentioned he was straight and wasn't interested in doing anything sexual with another man, would you be into being intimate with both sexes yourself?

I'm bisexual so I get all the fun