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My husband is a fussy eater, I need help
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the beer revolu wrote: »He's the most passionate, attentive, creative, loving, athletic, selfless
Not a single one of these traits seem likely from the OPs descriptions
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CelticRambler wrote: »
Too much? How old is your son? If he was in école maternelle in France, he'd be having that kind of meal every day for lunch! Forget little-by-little: tell your son the recipes are changing from right now ... your son will accept it pretty quickly, and then it'll be clear to both of them that it's the older male who's being a baby when it comes to food.
My son is 4, he is "à l'école maternelle", he is starting junior infant in september
Yes i know kids usually love sausages and ham, but he doesn't... i tried few time he just won't eat, he is trying, even when i force him he ends up vomitting... it's really difficult with him too, i don't know what to do...I don't have any solutions but I knew a few lads who were like this, only liked a few specific meals, usually junk food or spuds and only drank one thing, like coke
They were, predictably, idiots. I assume they all copped on eventually or died from dietary conditions
It's funny you mention that, he also drink 2 L of diet coke a day...
Jellybaby1 wrote: »I've read about almost all of this thread. A lot of posters have told you to ask him what he wants to eat. Reminds me of my husband shortly after we got married in the 70's and we were in our 20's. When I asked him what type of food he would like for the next days dinner he got very angry and said "just cook it and whatever it is I'll eat it!" I was shocked at his response that day. But, I believe I know what made him respond in that way then. He wasn't raised by his parents, he lived with relatives most of his single life. He would come home from work, and sit down and eat whatever was handed to him. He was never asked what he would like. And he probably never even knew what he was eating and neither did he ask. He never had to do any shopping so doesn't know what is needed to cook a meal. Your husband could be the same. When you asked your husband what he wants, he really doesn't know what is beef or lamb or pork. When my husband is in the butchers with me the only thing he can recognise is sausages!! He is a little better these days, but not much. Occasionally he can still say, "what's this we're having". :rolleyes:
I don't know if your husband is Irish, but he sounds like a very old fashioned Irish man. They have never been involved in domestic life at all and it is all foreign to them. And worse, on top of that, they don't want to be involved. My advice is to get him to talk, about his life before you met him. Did his mother cook, was she a decent cook? Has he brothers or sisters who might be able to give you ideas? Surely most Irishmen will eat a chicken curry, beef stew, chops, roasts, shepherds pie? All simple Irish food. Is he Irish?
The one thing you must accept is that this is NOT your fault. It isn't always possible to change someone who doesn't want to change.
My last thought......I hope this is not a wind up!
Sounds like my husband alright... and yes he is Irish
His mother cooked all the meal for entire familly, but wasn't a good cook, he hated it but had no choice than eat it
He does like curry, chops and roast, it's just i don't know what to put on the side, i can't just give him roast potatoes or chips everyday, he won't eat veggies or mash potatoesI'm wondering why it's an issue now? Have you changed diets?
He was always a bit fussy, but it's gotten worst since we moved into our house a month ago, we were in an apartment in the city center, now we're further away from town, with not much shop around, sometimes when he was in a mood for something he just went to aldi (2 min from the apartment, that was the dream to have aldi as a corner shop) but now he just got lazy i guessWe're getting near breakfast time now OP.....
I hope you are being really quiet sneaking through the kitchen while you prepare the King's breakfast.
Pregnant women can be rather noisy stomping around.
You know how he needs his sleep....
Most of the time he is making in own breakfast, and this morning, he was in good mood, i guess this chat trotted in his head overnight, and he was nice this morning, he was talking to me again, asked how i slept, and prepared breakfast for our son. Things are starting to change the right way
Before he left for work, he asked if i could cook him burger for after work, and said pleaaase, he was bit sacarstic, but that's the way he is, to make his point, but i don't care, he has pride, it's hard for him to change his habits, so i'm pleased how this morning went
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Most of the time he is making in own breakfast, and this morning, he was in good mood, i guess this chat trotted in his head overnight, and he was nice this morning, he was talking to me again, asked how i slept, and prepared breakfast for our son. Things are starting to change the right way
Before he left for work, he asked if i could cook him burger for after work, and said pleaaase, he was bit sacarstic, but that's the way he is, to make his point, but i don't care, he has pride, it's hard for him to change his habits, so i'm pleased how this morning went
Can I just say that if you call that being in a good mood and happy to put up with using please in a sarcastic manner then you need to look at your relationship .I am of a much older generation and at no stage would I put up with even a tiny bit of what I am reading in your posts .Mutual respect and mutual manners and mutual understanding is how a relationship will work .0 -
Yes i know kids usually love sausages and ham, but he doesn't... i tried few time he just won't eat, he is trying, even when i force him he ends up vomitting... it's really difficult with him too, i don't know what to do...
How long have you not lived in France? Children of that age here don't get chicken nuggets and sausages for lunch. They get proper "adult" food, and as soon as they were able to eat solids, all of mine (four) were given a mini-sized portion of whatever their mam and I were having.
Since then, anytime I've had other children to feed, the same rules apply in my house (or theirs, if I'm babysitting
) - chicken nuggets, cheese puffs and diet coke never make it as far as the shopping trolley, never mind the kitchen.
Just make "ordinary" food - properly cooked pasta (al dente) with a variety of sauces on the side, not mixed in (let your son do the mixing if he wants); potatoes (mash or rissolé) with a choice of raw or cooked carrots, green beans sautéd in butter, or cherry tomatoes, and a tiny piece of real meat or fish of your choice.
More than anything, though, make sure you get him involved in preparing the food - yes, even chopping veg with a sharp knife - and setting the table (for three, or even four so that he's already looking after his baby bother/sister!) And take him shopping - let him see real food and help choose it. By the sounds of it, you yourself have forgotten how to be French! 0 -
CelticRambler wrote: »More than anything, though, make sure you get him involved in preparing the food - yes, even chopping veg with a sharp knife - and setting the table (for three, or even four so that he's already looking after his baby bother/sister!) And take him shopping - let him see real food and help choose it.
This is absolutely spot on. Get the kids interested - get them talking to their teachers about nutrition, maybe get them doing a school project on nutrition, on where the different crops come from originally and how they spread https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_food_origins - even get them doing some growing: Lidl is offering little seed-and-soil kits as free gifts at the moment.0 -
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CelticRambler wrote: »How long have you not lived in France? Children of that age here don't get chicken nuggets and sausages for lunch. They get proper "adult" food, and as soon as they were able to eat solids, all of mine (four) were given a mini-sized portion of whatever their mam and I were having.
Since then, anytime I've had other children to feed, the same rules apply in my house (or theirs, if I'm babysitting ) - chicken nuggets, cheese puffs and diet coke never make it as far as the shopping trolley, never mind the kitchen.
Just make "ordinary" food - properly cooked pasta (al dente) with a variety of sauces on the side, not mixed in (let your son do the mixing if he wants); potatoes (mash or rissolé) with a choice of raw or cooked carrots, green beans sautéd in butter, or cherry tomatoes, and a tiny piece of real meat or fish of your choice.
More than anything, though, make sure you get him involved in preparing the food - yes, even chopping veg with a sharp knife - and setting the table (for three, or even four so that he's already looking after his baby bother/sister!) And take him shopping - let him see real food and help choose it. By the sounds of it, you yourself have forgotten how to be French!
I've been living in ireland for 10 years now... i guessed i forgot how to be french, my mother did one meal for everyone sometimes 2 because my dad is also a fussy heater but noway as bad as my husband, and we didn't have a say,we either ate what she made for everyone or what my dad was eating, but she is a great cook, i always loved what she was making, and doing it here in ireland when i found the proper ingredients (not easy sometimes)
But what i meant to do if he is vomitting? doesn't it means he REALLY don't like the food?
Today i made pasta with ham and carrot for him, he did ate all the pasta 2 bit of ham, but it was really hard and few bits of carrot! :eek: i was surprise he actually ate them! and told him no snacks before 4pm0 -
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OP just for your child I find that most children adore carrot rapée and you could even get him involved making the dressing. Kids love mixing and stirring so some mustard, lemon, balsamic vinegar (whatever flavours are preferred). Also, cucumber is a favourite of childrens.
Another sneaky way to get vegetables into the diet is to get a spiralizer. I now make courgette into noodles...don't even tell him it is a vegetable! If you are having pasta make it wholegrain to add extra fibre and nutrients.
Chopped apple, strawberries, bananas, oranges etc should become the new sweets. I call them "natures sweets". Even get him involved by making a fruit salad with you. Once again, kids love that
You can also make healthy pancakes from wholewheat flour and replacing the egg with a mushed up banana and adding blueberries. Very filling and good for you.0 -
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