Topics bloggers should avoid

Lindy97

meeeeh wrote: »

It's natural for kids to be naked. They love it, they run around, there is nothing wrong with seeing baby naked and there is nothing wrong by babies being naked. In fact there is a lot more wrong with seeing two year olds wearing bikini on beaches than them being naked.

I don't like kids pictures being shared with everyone but there wont be a paedophile magically jumping from the bushes every time someone else but kid's parents see them naked.

Also how many child rearing experts in this thread actually know any babies.

Of course its natural but its a bit different being naked in your garden/house/swimming pool than being naked online to thousands of followers. Grace has over 60 thousand, one screenshot and theres a naked picture of your child floating around to who knows where online. There have been programs made about adults photos ending up on porn sites after they were hacked etc.. so its not a stretch to think pics of their kids could end up anywhere. Do you really not see the difference?

However having said that i dont agree with commenting on bloggers parenting skills. We may not agree but implying theyre not good parents or something is wrong isnt ok.


(Mum to a 7 month old girl btw)

SpillingTheTea

meeeeh wrote: »

It's natural for kids to be naked. They love it, they run around, there is nothing wrong with seeing baby naked and there is nothing wrong by babies being naked. In fact there is a lot more wrong with seeing two year olds wearing bikini on beaches than them being naked.

I don't like kids pictures being shared with everyone but there wont be a paedophile magically jumping from the bushes every time someone else but kid's parents see them naked.

Also how many child rearing experts in this thread actually know any babies.

Yes, it's natural for babies to be naked but it isn't natural to put it all out on the internet for strangers to see.

Unfortunately I do think your statement about there wont be a pedophile jumping out of the bushes to be a bit misplaced. Stuff like that is prevalent on the dark web and if you fail to acknowledge that, then you are ill informed tbh.

I agree that parenting skills shouldn't be critiqued here, only netiquette.

westernlass

meeeeh wrote: »

It's natural for kids to be naked. They love it, they run around, there is nothing wrong with seeing baby naked and there is nothing wrong by babies being naked. In fact there is a lot more wrong with seeing two year olds wearing bikini on beaches than them being naked.

I don't like kids pictures being shared with everyone but there wont be a paedophile magically jumping from the bushes every time someone else but kid's parents see them naked.

Also how many child rearing experts in this thread actually know any babies?

I don't think people are claiming to be child rearing experts.  This discussion is from a viewers point of view.  One of up to 60K at times.  Awareness around this fact is what most people are discussing.
I'm talking about a specific example, not overall parenting at all.

meeeeh

Lindy97 wrote: »

Of course its natural but its a bit different being naked in your garden/house/swimming pool than being naked online to thousands of followers. Grace has over 60 thousand, one screenshot and theres a naked picture of your child floating around to who knows where online. There have been programs made about adults photos ending up on porn sites after they were hacked etc.. so its not a stretch to think pics of their kids could end up anywhere. Do you really not see the difference?

I think child having a bath or other every day things can only be sexualized by people trying hard to see them in that way.

Anyway I am not going to derail thread any more.

Lindy97

meeeeh wrote: »

I think child having a bath or other every day things can only be sexualized by people trying hard to see them in that way.

Well...yes to you or I its a child having a bath, but its those other people who think differently and having easy access to pictures of other peoples kids online that we're talking about. As a parent you have to think like that, sad fact of society today but true.
A few of the bloggers themselves have asked people not to screenshot their kids (JJ and Pippa) so they are aware

SpillingTheTea

meeeeh wrote: »

I think child having a bath or other every day things can only be sexualized by people trying hard to see them in that way.

Anyway I am not going to derail thread any more.

I won't derail further either but I think that is still very naive thinking. Regardless of whether it's being sexualised or not, it still is too much to put on the internet.
I know personally I think that my aversion to having your babies life on blast on social media just a) isn't fair on the baby as they have no control over whats being on the internet for when they grow up and b) I think some things should be kept personal.

Anyway, not derailing

blairbear

I think you would have to be INSANE to put your beautiful, innocent baby on SC, with 60K followers, while they're in the bath. Or getting sick. Or soiling bed linen. It beggars belief. You have a responsibility as a parent to protect your child. Filming your child for SC when you have a huge following leaves them exposed, vulnerable and takes away their dignity. Sending a snap to granny or your friends is different. The Internet is an unknown quantity. Children should be protected from it.

purplecow1977

It's also natural for women to be naked, but if I started putting pictures of me having a bath up on Snapchat.........you can be sure there'd be something said about it!!!!!

idunno78

I hope you don't think I was sexualising the photo? I meant that if it got into the wrong hands it could be used Inappropriately. It's very easy happen unfortunately in this day and age. I know if I was in the public eye like some of these girls I'd becareful of what I posted of my child. That's just my opinion and your entitled to yours.

For the record I'm not saying anything about any bodies parenting because you don't see 24 hours of the day! So no one could possibly comment on something like that!

blairbear

idunno78 wrote: »

I hope you don't think I was sexualising the photo? I meant that if it got into the wrong hands it could be used Inappropriately. It's very easy happen unfortunately in this day and age. I know if I was in the public eye like some of these girls I'd becareful of what I posted of my child. That's just my opinion and your entitled to yours.

For the record I'm not saying anything about any bodies parenting because you don't see 24 hours of the day! So no one could possibly comment on something like that!

Meeeeh is arguing that being aware of paedophiles or recognising the potential for a child to be viewed in a sexual way by disgusting criminals means that you are guilty of the same. JESUS WEPT.

Of course you weren't sexualising anything and to suggest this is highly inflammatory. Which I suspect was the aim of the post.

Lindy97

But anyway... my main gripe is with bloggers shilling detox or weightloss stuff/diet plans. Or even gym membership when they cant be arsed to go regularly themselves

crumble_15

Totally agree about jj's snaps today!! There's something about her tone that makes me feel uncomfortable.

crumble_15

Totally agree about jj's snaps today!! There's something about her tone that makes me feel uncomfortable.

Ray37

I nearly vomited when she showed the shot of the ****e covered sheets! Feck sake, who wants to see literal **** on snapchat?? That is just utterly vile, disgusting! And to think I was eating my lunch while I watched (I live in Canada, different time zones!). Honestly, that is so low to show that. Way too much information, I'd be horrified if my own sister or friend sent me that, wtf like.

westernlass

Lindy97 wrote: »

But anyway... my main gripe is with bloggers shilling detox or weightloss stuff/diet plans. Or even gym membership when they cant be arsed to go regularly themselves

You've just made me think of the 'healthy' bloggers who plug Dominos pizza a lot

frogstar

purplecow1977 wrote: »

It's also natural for women to be naked, but if I started putting pictures of me having a bath up on Snapchat.........you can be sure there'd be something said about it!!!!!

Some bloggers do this, snapping while in the bath. Completely oversharing.

Rather than a specific topic to avoid, it's the oversharing I think should be avoided. Eg. Family who don't want to be on SC, in the bath, in depth detail of their menstrual cycle, random fluff thoughts, constant body pics/videos in front of mirror.

Before someone posts in SC or social media they should really stop and think if the content is useful and appropriate to post

heyjude88

The waxperts owner shared a picture of herself in the bath with her 3 year old son a few weeks back.

I was shocked.

Also agree with the detox stuff. Sing spoken about! Not right!

Potatocup

I have to say I have a lot of respect for Sharon Leavy and Sinead from the beautiful truth for never ever showing there kids.
It's the bloggers choice to put themselves out there but for the love of god leave the kids out of it, the constant baby spam is ridiculous, no one wants to see it!! As for poor little sienna with her own instagram!!!!!

Puggly

I have two kids and I really don't get the whole over sharing of kids. One or two pics is fine but the amount that they're sharing is ridiculous. I taught jj wasn't going to share her baby on social media anyways. She really got to me today I felt that she was more worried about the poop on the bed than her sick baby. Jesus buy new bedsheets it's not the end of the world. Baby's are sick for a few days after injections maybe plan your hair appointment for when she's better. Sorry about the rant.

Puggly

These bloggers need to stop promoting the teatox they don't work. The only way to lose weight is healthy eating and exercise. To beat the bloat drink peppermint tea.

powerdown

frogstar wrote: »

Some bloggers do this, snapping while in the bath. Completely oversharing.

Rather than a specific topic to avoid, it's the oversharing I think should be avoided. Eg. Family who don't want to be on SC, in the bath, in depth detail of their menstrual cycle, random fluff thoughts, constant body pics/videos in front of mirror.

Before someone posts in SC or social media they should really stop and think if the content is useful and appropriate to post

I completely agree with you on the oversharing - however some bloggers followers LIVE for this stuff - I've read some of the tweets they receive from followers in awe of them because they are so 'real', or miss seeing snaps of 'X' if they haven't snapped for a day etc - so i suppose those blogger/influencers are just giving the people what they want (I jest!!)

Baffles me how some people are so obsessed though - but me personally I don't want to see constant baby pics/snaps etc the odd one here and there yes is fine but that's more than plenty!

Oh and also 'big announcement soon' 'who can guess my announcement' 'screenshot if you want my big announcement earlier' 'working on 2017 diary' 'so much planned for 2017' - sorry small rant but find these 'teasers' very annoying especially when they are all in the one day haha

ratmouse

Something I wish one particular blogger would stop over sharing, is snaps of her dogs humping. Seriously, who wants to see this? It's not funny in any way. Get the poor things neutered but certainly don't be recording them and laughing away at them.whilst doing so.

retro:electro

Jordan spoke to her daughter like she was a dog who pooped on the floor after being toilet trained. Her baby is a few weeks old. Poor thing lying on the floor with her mother standing over her shouting. I actually found those snaps very upsetting to watch.

retro:electro

I messaged her and this is her reply. My tone probably wasn't the best, but I was so upset over those snaps. And as you can probably guess, I am now blocked.

blairbear

anna080 wrote: »

I messaged her and this is her reply. My tone probably wasn't the best, but I was so upset over those snaps. And as you can probably guess, I am now blocked.

I agree with every word you said. That poor little girl is being shouted at like a bold 5 year old who did something on purpose to get her way (not justifying shouting then either, of course). She's four months old!!! She has no control over when she poos!
I realise that Lisa is playing up to the camera and working the situation for cheap laughs, but her baby still knows she's shouting. She can still hear her.

That'll earn us a mega rant, I'm sure. I note that she screenshot it to bemoan how mean you are, too!!!

retro:electro

blairbear wrote: »

I agree with every word you said. That poor little girl is being shouted at like a bold 5 year old who did something on purpose to get her way (not justifying shouting then either, of course). She's four months old!!! She has no control over when she poos!
I realise that Lisa is playing up to the camera and working the situation for cheap laughs, but her baby still knows she's shouting. She can still hear her.

That'll earn us a mega rant, I'm sure. I note that she screenshot it to bemoan how mean you are, too!!!

Yep I'm sure she'll have a right old moan about me but I stand by every single thing I've said. It's like she's shocked that babies poo and puke, maybe she should get herself a doll to carry around instead it would be less offensive to her expensive sheets. Even in the hairdressers "I need to change her I can smell her". Yes, babies poo, a lot. I've had my nieces poo and puke all over me but would never disrespect or degrade the poor little helpless mites the way she does to her own child.

sassychick91

blairbear wrote: »

I agree with every word you said. That poor little girl is being shouted at like a bold 5 year old who did something on purpose to get her way (not justifying shouting then either, of course). She's four months old!!! She has no control over when she poos!
I realise that Lisa is playing up to the camera and working the situation for cheap laughs, but her baby still knows she's shouting. She can still hear her.

That'll earn us a mega rant, I'm sure. I note that she screenshot it to bemoan how mean you are, too!!!

Imagine that child when she's grown up. I'd be absolutely mortified if I knew my mother plastered it all over social media to thousands about my ****ting when I was a baby.

MuffinTop86

She took a screenshot of the snap. That's why I love the whole blogger creed of be nice to each other and positive vibezz only and yet you know well she'll use it to b!tch to her friends about her own followers.

westernlass

I seen one blogger do a live pregnancy test on snap chat. The result was negative but I did think that was an uncomfortable viewing. If it was positive would you not tell your partner first. I actually really like this blogger. It was taken down after an hour or so

retro:electro

I'm actually glad I posted the message here, because she'll probably go on Snapchat now and totally exaggerate what I said and say I called her a bad mother or something. Do keep me informed!