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The Online Dating Thread 3..**READ 1ST POST Oct 2012**
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Nothing ventured, nothing gained!
smileyj1987 wrote: »I don't even bother with that crap anymore ! I have about 30 people on the list and the last woman who did it I sent her my phone number in a mail saying lets organise something . I never heard back from her :rolleyes::rolleyes:
Normally I wouldn't bother but the girl in question was stunning AND funny so I couldn't say no.
People are very divisive when it comes to arranging to meet up in my experience, maybe putting your number in your first message to her was off putting to her smiley? Not disagreeing with you though, I do not consider those meet me notifications valid at all.0 -
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Normally I wouldn't bother but the girl in question was stunning AND funny so I couldn't say no.
People are very divisive when it comes to arranging to meet up in my experience, maybe putting your number in your first message to her was off putting to her smiley? Not disagreeing with you though, I do not consider those meet me notifications valid at all.
I think it was more a case of getting sick of people saying they want to meet me , my list has about 25 people one it . So I just decided lets see how serious she was about it
They should get rid of that feature it does nothing for anybody in my opinion . But if she does message you back and you take her out I could be wrong :pac:0 -
I think I've become a bit picky. I try send messages to girls, I try make them thought out and I try ask open ended questions about them but I don't get many replies.
I think I'm handsome enough, not Edward Cullen or Johnny Depp but I'm somewhere around average to above-average, if I don't mind my saying so. I have a few bros and they get with great looking women. I've been with some stunners and others not as pretty, looks-wise but have nice personalities.
Anyway, any girls lurking about have some tips. I know the slightest thing a girl can have on her profile would put me off even if I thought everything else ticked all the right boxes. So maybe that's the case with me. Maybe there's just something off putting on my profile.
The profiles I avoid are:
Girls who have only pics of them going out.
Girls who have pictures of them drinking.
Girls who claim to drink more than 3 times a week.
Girls who pout or obviously contrive their photos to make them look better/cover up insecurites.
Girls who list shopping as a interest/hobby, lol.
Text speak
Generally explains that she likes to laugh or is up for a laugh (who the **** isn't?)
Profiles Girls I go for...
Creative streak
Enjoys films/arts/cooking
Quirky or vintage style fashion or likes feminine clothes/dresses
Enjoys travelling
Dark hair
Doesn't rely on make-up. Make-up compliments her not defines her.
I'm probably being too picky. I was in love in my last relationship (4 years). I'm in my late twenties and am really noticed I'm more picky. Some times I think I'll never find someone.0 -
smileyj1987 wrote: »I think it was more a case of getting sick of people saying they want to meet me , my list has about 25 people one it . So I just decided lets see how serious she was about it
They should get rid of that feature it does nothing for anybody in my opinion . But if she does message you back and you take her out I could be wrong :pac:
i got a message from the OKC version of it, saying a mutual match nad been found. I don't remember ever using it so i must've been quite bored some night but anyway........ She's from kazakhstan :rolleyes:
I wonder should i do my nigerian prince routine!!0 -
Mensch Maschine wrote: »I think I've become a bit picky. I try send messages to girls, I try make them thought out and I try ask open ended questions about them but I don't get many replies.
I think I'm handsome enough, not Edward Cullen or Johnny Depp but I'm somewhere around average to above-average, if I don't mind my saying so. I have a few bros and they get with great looking women. I've been with some stunners and others not as pretty, looks-wise but have nice personalities.
Anyway, any girls lurking about have some tips. I know the slightest thing a girl can have on her profile would put me off even if I thought everything else ticked all the right boxes.
The profiles I avoid are:
Girls who have only pics of them going out.
Girls who have pictures of them drinking.
Girls who claim to drink more than 3 times a week.
Girls who pout or obviously contrive their photos to make them look better/cover up insecurites.
Girls who list shopping as a interest/hobby, lol.
Text speak
Generally explains that she likes to laugh or is up for a laugh (who the **** isn't?)
Profiles Girls I go for...
Creative streak
Enjoys films/arts/cooking
Quirky or vintage style fashion or likes feminine clothes/dresses
Enjoys travelling
Dark hair
Doesn't rely on make-up. Make-up compliments her not defines her.
I'm probably being too picky. I was in love in my last relationship (4 years). I'm in my late twenties and am really noticed I'm more picky. Some times I think I'll never find someone.
Late twenties??
Chill da fuq out!! You have loads of time to worry about never finding someone0 -
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Mensch Maschine wrote: »I think I've become a bit picky. I try send messages to girls, I try make them thought out and I try ask open ended questions about them but I don't get many replies.
I think I'm handsome enough, not Edward Cullen or Johnny Depp but I'm somewhere around average to above-average, if I don't mind my saying so. I have a few bros and they get with great looking women. I've been with some stunners and others not as pretty, looks-wise but have nice personalities.
Anyway, any girls lurking about have some tips. I know the slightest thing a girl can have on her profile would put me off even if I thought everything else ticked all the right boxes. So maybe that's the case with me. Maybe there's just something off putting on my profile.
The profiles I avoid are:
Girls who have only pics of them going out.
Girls who have pictures of them drinking.
Girls who claim to drink more than 3 times a week.
Girls who pout or obviously contrive their photos to make them look better/cover up insecurites.
Girls who list shopping as a interest/hobby, lol.
Text speak
Generally explains that she likes to laugh or is up for a laugh (who the **** isn't?)
Profiles Girls I go for...
Creative streak
Enjoys films/arts/cooking
Quirky or vintage style fashion or likes feminine clothes/dresses
Enjoys travelling
Dark hair
Doesn't rely on make-up. Make-up compliments her not defines her.
I'm probably being too picky. I was in love in my last relationship (4 years). I'm in my late twenties and am really noticed I'm more picky. Some times I think I'll never find someone.
If I were going for a girl (obviously I'm not, as I'm straight!), I'd probably mentally include most things on your exclusion list, too, aside from one. I don't think having a 'contrived' photo or two is a bad thing or a cover for insecurities. The pouting and preening thing, I don't agree with, but I don't think a few close up, 'good' photos, showing their good side is a terrible thing, as long as they include some more realistic photos, too.
I don't know what to say to explain your lack of responses, but I don't think you're too picky!0 -
Mensch Maschine wrote: »Maybe so but you know when you are 18 and 25 is ancient etc, etc. It's all relative.
Well hang on there youngster and i'll break out my zimmer frame!!
Seriously, i wouldn't go putting yourself under so much pressure by thinking that you'll never find someone.
Occasionally i think than.......but the difference is i'm late 30's!!
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Hmmm...this is very interesting / weird! A few pages back, I mentioned that I was going to bite the bullet and put a public picture up and re-write my profile. Possibly see if there was a difference in the messages I was getting.
Before:
Initiated contact with around 7 guys with a link to photos in my first email (OKCupid didn't allow for private pics) and the response rate was 5 out of 7. Received a few first contact emails from guys, they were all referencing my profile and quality messages overall I'd have to say.
After:
Initiated 5 contacts referencing their profile etc = 0 replies
(edit - oh and they've been online since, so it's not that they haven't seen it)
Lots more emails / profile views, but the length and quality of the messages was waaay down, or looking for ONS, or in the US/UK, or way outside my age range. Only two that I'm currently chatting to.
Now there are only two variables here;
1. Public pictures - I'm using the same pictures as before, so only the fact that they're private versus public.
2. My profile. I thought my original one was a little waffley, but perhaps that was a good thing. Or my re-write makes me sound a little too dippy! I'm fairly easy going in general but pretty focused and determined in work. As it's not my CV, I was actually fairly honest about my outlook in my personal life.
Not a rant btw! I just found the differences interesting and wanted to see if anyone else found a change with changing their profiles and could shed some light into what's happening?0 -
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35 today and decided to sign up to POF (late) last night.
A very nice girl scrolled past so I added her to my favourites and msg'd her. Got a reply saying she was going to bed to to msg her again.
Sent a kinda jokey msg about the fact that I added her as a favourite but no replies and she has been online since.
Rejection is way easier when you are out and drunk
Any profile advice? I have a couple of pics (all public) and a bit of spiel about me but not really sure who Im appealing to...0 -
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35 today and decided to sign up to POF (late) last night.
A very nice girl scrolled past so I added her to my favourites and msg'd her. Got a reply saying she was going to bed to to msg her again.
Sent a kinda jokey msg about the fact that I added her as a favourite but no replies and she has been online since.
Rejection is way easier when you are out and drunk
Any profile advice? I have a couple of pics (all public) and a bit of spiel about me but not really sure who Im appealing to...
One HUGE piece of advice is stay away from the sites when beered!!!
Stay away from your computer when beered!!!0 -
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Happy birthday35 today and decided to sign up to POF (late) last night.
A very nice girl scrolled past so I added her to my favourites and msg'd her. Got a reply saying she was going to bed to to msg her again.
Sent a kinda jokey msg about the fact that I added her as a favourite but no replies and she has been online since.
Rejection is way easier when you are out and drunk
Any profile advice? I have a couple of pics (all public) and a bit of spiel about me but not really sure who Im appealing to...
Profile advice...it might be a good idea to get a friend or someone to have a look.over your profile and the pics you have chosen. I know some pics of me I would think are awful, other people say are lovely. It's hard to be objective about your own photos I think.
So long as you've filled everything in without writing an essay or long lists of things you like/don't like, I'm sure its grand 0 -
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yeahimhere wrote: »Well an GILF is a new one! TIP: Probably wouldn't call her that on your first message though :pac:
de prfle z tots txt spk.
there will be no contact from me!! 0
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