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    #302
    Galvasean
    Registered Users Posts: 30,746 ✭✭✭✭Galvasean


    There seem to be a lot of profiles that are looking for friends as opposed to dating.
    Bloody search cloggers. I've plenty of friends. Need me some romance! :rolleyes:


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    #303
    norrie rugger
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,656 ✭✭✭norrie rugger


    mood wrote: »
    Being a boards user isn't much of a common interest IMO but meets could be a good way to make friends.
    Well there are people regularly that post in the Star Trek, Films and some other fora that I post in. I would take this to mean that they have a genuine interest and knowledge, of issues that I am interested in.
    mood wrote: »
    I thinks it's misleading other dating site users if you are only there to try to make friends. They are called 'dating site' for a reason. I would be annoyed if a guy wasted my time e-mailing and meeting up etc if he was sure he had no interest in me romantically from the start.


    Which is exactly why I suggested the meet ups, as I noticed more than one person here mention "social aspects" over dating, as the only reason


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    #304
    mood
    Registered Users Posts: 4,264 ✭✭✭mood


    Galvasean wrote: »
    There seem to be a lot of profiles that are looking for friends as opposed to dating.
    Bloody search cloggers. I've plenty of friends. Need me some romance! :rolleyes:

    Maybe it depends on the site you choose. The site I used was specifically for dating. It was a paid site (taken more seriously than free ones IMO).


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    #305
    PeakOutput
    Registered Users Posts: 7,639 ✭✭✭PeakOutput


    Galvasean wrote: »
    TBH, if you have 'friends' who would try use such things as a means to badmouth you then you're better off disassociating yourself from them. And more the fool to anyone who believes them.

    man i shouldn't post while drunk

    ye my friends believe me thats all good but its just annoying when people are talking **** behind your back


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    #306
    tallaghtmick
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,724 ✭✭✭tallaghtmick


    PeakOutput wrote: »
    On the downside of internet dating, the people I said that recognised me from pof have since decided to make stuff up and bad mouth me to our mutual friends

    luckily most of them have given me the benefit of the doubt but its like they thought i was going to talk **** about then and they decided to pre empt it and go hell for leather on me. bit annoying but the people that matter believe me.

    honestly I never though `i would warn someone against something like this but I never thought it would backfire either and i guess it has so just be careful

    something similar happened in my job a girl found one of the lads profile on some website so she emailed the link to everyone,i dont understand why someone has to do that:confused:


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    #307
    PeakOutput
    Registered Users Posts: 7,639 ✭✭✭PeakOutput


    tallaghtmick wrote: »
    something similar happened in my job a girl found one of the lads profile on some website so she emailed the link to everyone,i dont understand why someone has to do that:confused:

    there is still a massive stigma to it in ireland i guess, boards users aren't exactly your typical irish person


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    #308
    tallaghtmick
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,724 ✭✭✭tallaghtmick


    PeakOutput wrote: »
    there is still a massive stigma to it in ireland i guess, boards users aren't exactly your typical irish person

    the funny thing is you would find most people have met someone online


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    #309
    PeakOutput
    Registered Users Posts: 7,639 ✭✭✭PeakOutput


    tallaghtmick wrote: »
    the funny thing is you would find most people have met someone online

    I would say a lot of people think that a dating website and adding someone who looks cute on facebook and chatting to them are worlds apart


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    #310
    tallaghtmick
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,724 ✭✭✭tallaghtmick


    ive never used pof or match.com or anything like that but i have used social networks with search features so ive never understood why people turn noses at dating sites.


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    #311
    kingtut
    Registered Users Posts: 6,487 ✭✭✭kingtut


    Online dating sucks :(


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    #312
    Galvasean
    Registered Users Posts: 30,746 ✭✭✭✭Galvasean


    kingtut wrote: »
    Online dating sucks :(

    Wanna talk about it champ? :/

    *slides over a beer*


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    #313
    kingtut
    Registered Users Posts: 6,487 ✭✭✭kingtut


    Galvasean wrote: »
    Wanna talk about it champ? :/

    *slides over a beer*


    It's not worth talking about but thanks dude.

    I never so no to a beer though *clinks glasses*


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    #314
    stupidusername
    Closed Accounts Posts: 14,762 ✭✭✭✭stupidusername


    kingtut wrote: »
    Online dating sucks :(

    oh no... things with herself didnt work out so well then? :(

    thinking i'll just delete mine altogether actually


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    #315
    tallaghtmick
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,724 ✭✭✭tallaghtmick


    kingtut wrote: »
    It's not worth talking about but thanks dude.

    I never so no to a beer though *clinks glasses*

    ah do tell ill get the ball rolling once got stood up by a girl i met online.......in portadown :eek: halfway there i get told shes working and im fooked had to wait 3 hours for a train back.


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    #316
    Galvasean
    Registered Users Posts: 30,746 ✭✭✭✭Galvasean


    :P Sounds just as bad as 'normal' dating so


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    #317
    stupidusername
    Closed Accounts Posts: 14,762 ✭✭✭✭stupidusername


    just had my first... ahm... i wanna say creep, but that's probably going to stir... sexually explicit request email.... yes that.


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    #318
    Panthro
    Registered Users Posts: 14,787 ✭✭✭✭Panthro


    stupidusername wrote: »
    just had my first... ahm... i wanna say creep, but that's probably going to stir... sexually explicit request email.... yes that.

    the beans must be spilled!:pac:


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    #319
    stupidusername
    Closed Accounts Posts: 14,762 ✭✭✭✭stupidusername


    papagormo wrote: »
    the beans must be spilled!:pac:

    well he asked me things like am I into mild / wild things - "mild would be subtly exposing your suspenders/stockings.. and wild to enjoy the presence of third parties from time to time.." that was what he started with... this is what he ended with - "=) well, if you would see the results it could bring up (or down) on you, you would be so excited on not only doing it, but repeating it as well :)

    how soon would you like to meet up for a drink and a game of pool ;)"

    needless to say i threw myself at him :rolleyes:


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    #320
    Panthro
    Registered Users Posts: 14,787 ✭✭✭✭Panthro


    oh jaysus!
    and the sad thing is, he more than likely thinks thats A1 flirting too.
    gobsheeeite!

    Still though, might get a drink out of it if you play your cards right!


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    #321
    stupidusername
    Closed Accounts Posts: 14,762 ✭✭✭✭stupidusername


    it would absolutely not be worth it. i mean the confidence is great and all, and he's not bad looking, but a bit full on for the beginnings


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    #322
    mood
    Registered Users Posts: 4,264 ✭✭✭mood


    papagormo wrote: »
    oh jaysus!
    and the sad thing is, he more than likely thinks thats A1 flirting too.
    gobsheeeite!

    Still though, might get a drink out of it if you play your cards right!

    He probably one of the guys who come on here complaining the girls don't reply etc!!!

    Unfortunately I've had d*ickheads like this e-mail me on occasion as well.


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    #323
    cantdecide
    Registered Users Posts: 11,465 ✭✭✭✭cantdecide


    What do you do if / when you meet someone you know or like from POF etc. in the real world? Do we all become shrinking violets again? I passed a few girls from POF in the street and I've seen them clock me too. I've never got 'up close' to one on a night out etc

    EDIT: sorry, maybe this has been asked already...


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    #324
    cantdecide
    Registered Users Posts: 11,465 ✭✭✭✭cantdecide


    stupidusername wrote: »
    ...just had my first creep...
    mood wrote: »
    ...He probably one of the guys who come on here complaining the girls don't reply etc...

    That would mean then that the majority of men on dating sites, including half the guys on this thread are creeps.


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    #325
    mood
    Registered Users Posts: 4,264 ✭✭✭mood


    cantdecide wrote: »
    What do you do if / when you meet someone you know or like from POF etc. in the real world? Do we all become shrinking violets again? I passed a few girls from POF in the street and I've seen them clock me too. I've never got 'up close' to one on a night out etc

    EDIT: sorry, maybe this has been asked already...

    Whatever you don't don't approach a girl on the street or in a pub you saw on a dating site. If she doesn't want to talk to you via the dating site she won't want to talk to you in real life and might not want her friends etc knowing she is on a dating site. I have seem a guy who e-mailed me on a dating site in a shop. I ignored his first e-mail (not compatible at all), I replied to his second e-mail politely explaining why I didn't think we were compatible and had to ignore the eight e-mails the followed. If he approached me in the shop I wouldn't have liked it one bit.


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    #326
    Galvasean
    Registered Users Posts: 30,746 ✭✭✭✭Galvasean


    8 follow up emails? If I were you and that guy approached me IRL I'd run away! :eek:


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    #327
    mood
    Registered Users Posts: 4,264 ✭✭✭mood


    cantdecide wrote: »
    That would mean then that the majority of men on dating sites, including half the guys on this thread are creeps.

    No it wouldn't. It means that generally girls with think a guy who sends an e-mail with sexual requests is a creep. I'm sure not all the guys who complain the girls don't reply are like this but a minority possibly are.

    It's important to be sure you only contact people who's criteria you match as well as the other way around. If you don't it is probably the main reason girls don't reply (as well as no photo and profile not filled out or poorly filled out IMO).


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    #328
    mood
    Registered Users Posts: 4,264 ✭✭✭mood


    Galvasean wrote: »
    8 follow up emails? If I were you and that guy approached me IRL I'd run away! :eek:

    I hide behind shelves! Either he just e-mails everyone on the site to such an extent that he didn't remember contacting me in the first place or he is a bit on the weird side (most likely reason)!!!


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    #329
    Galvasean
    Registered Users Posts: 30,746 ✭✭✭✭Galvasean


    Is there a way to block someone from emailing you without them knowing about it, like say an 'ignore filter'?


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    #330
    mood
    Registered Users Posts: 4,264 ✭✭✭mood


    Galvasean wrote: »
    Is there a way to block someone from emailing you without them knowing about it, like say an 'ignore filter'?

    That depends on the site I would think.


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    #331
    parker kent
    Closed Accounts Posts: 8,289 ✭✭✭parker kent


    stupidusername wrote: »
    well he asked me things like am I into mild / wild things - "mild would be subtly exposing your suspenders/stockings.. and wild to enjoy the presence of third parties from time to time.." that was what he started with... this is what he ended with - "=) well, if you would see the results it could bring up (or down) on you, you would be so excited on not only doing it, but repeating it as well :)

    how soon would you like to meet up for a drink and a game of pool ;)"

    needless to say i threw myself at him :rolleyes:

    That's sounds like the most formal/polite yet creepy email possible. The presence of third parties line sounds like an insurance ad.

    So when's the wedding? :pac:


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