Height requirements in dating

ohnonotgmail · 08-12-2020 12:34pm

Badly Drunk Boy wrote: »

I don't mind any of the comments either (although it's not as if I found them entertaining), and I joke about it too. I'm happy enough being 6'5" and I wouldn't change it, but I think the ideal height would be about 6'2". You'd still be fairly tall but not a freak.

The main disadvantages are the reduced selection of clothes, especially footwear, and also banging yer head in doorways. With regards to females, I've nothing against tall women either, as they can be very impressive in stature, but most of my girlfriends have been around 5'4".

you're right, 6'2" is the ideal height for a man. and the "how is the weather up there" jokes never bothered but by jesus do short men get upset when you comment on their height.

lukin · 08-12-2020 12:40pm

partyguinness wrote: »

No man. Way more simple than than.

Women want to wear high heels and do not want to tower over the groom on their wedding day. Makes them feel big and awkward.

That is correct too. That's why if a guy is five foot 6 then it's only girls who are five feet four inches or lower will date him. Because if they are five foot 6 then in high heels they are taller than him. A five foot four inch girl will be just about level with him if she wears high heels.

Mad_maxx · 08-12-2020 12:50pm

lukin wrote: »

That is correct too. That's why if a guy is five foot 6 then it's only girls who are five feet four inches or lower will date him. Because if they are five foot 6 then in high heels they are taller than him. A five foot four inch girl will be just about level with him if she wears high heels.

most women are a lot closer to 5 ft 6 than 6 ft 6 , the average 6ft 6 guy wont be any more successful with women and when he is in this late teens and early twenties , will likely be far less so ,add to that there is no reason a 6ft 6 guy is more handsome or charming

most very tall guys dont earn a fortune playing in the NBA , its a disadvantage in most situations

Feisar · 08-12-2020 1:55pm

I'm a shade off 6'3'', I can't deny it was a plus when it came to dating. Especially online, it seemed to tick some magic box.

lukin · 08-12-2020 2:49pm

It's actually quite amazing how rare it is to see a short guy with a girl. I didn't notice it before but since I have made a mental note just to observe it while I am out and about in shops and public places it is very obvious.
I know since lockdown we can't go into pubs and clubs but even before that I noticed it; nearly every single guy who is with a girl is at least 5 foot 9 and usually closer to six feet.
Next time you are in your nearest town or city just take note of it, I guarantee you you will agree with me and say "Jeez I never noticed that before".

08-12-2020 2:56pm

lukin wrote: »

It's actually quite amazing how rare it is to see a short guy with a girl. I didn't notice it before but since I have made a mental note just to observe it while I am out and about in shops and public places it is very obvious.
I know since lockdown we can't go into pubs and clubs but even before that I noticed it; nearly every single guy who is with a girl is at least 5 foot 9 and usually closer to six feet.
Next time you are in your nearest town or city just take note of it, I guarantee you you will agree with me and say "Jeez I never noticed that before".

Unlikely to be true if you think about it. Or else 5' 9'' becomes the new short.

completedit · 08-12-2020 2:58pm

I'm 5'8'', I feel short and I do feel it is a bit of a hinderance. The thing is it feels like worse looking lads can get girls by virtue of their height and frame. The shorter you are, the better your face needs to be.

pgj2015 · 08-12-2020 3:00pm

lukin wrote: »

It's actually quite amazing how rare it is to see a short guy with a girl. I didn't notice it before but since I have made a mental note just to observe it while I am out and about in shops and public places it is very obvious.
I know since lockdown we can't go into pubs and clubs but even before that I noticed it; nearly every single guy who is with a girl is at least 5 foot 9 and usually closer to six feet.
Next time you are in your nearest town or city just take note of it, I guarantee you you will agree with me and say "Jeez I never noticed that before".

Women do go out with short guys but they just don't want to be seen in public with them.

Thelonious Monk · 08-12-2020 3:04pm

completedit wrote: »

I'm 5'8'', I feel short and I do feel it is a bit of a hinderance. The thing is it feels like worse looking lads can get girls by virtue of their height and frame. The shorter you are, the better your face needs to be.

Can you not just go for extra tiny women?

08-12-2020 3:11pm

Far away fields are greener.

I'm 6ft3ish and I wish i was shorter. More proportional, with a better spread of weight and muscle.

It's rare you'll meet guys who are tall and have much in the way of obvious muscle strength. I've always found that women (under 30) will be more attracted to guys with muscles than being tall/slim.

08-12-2020 3:13pm

Thelonious Monk wrote: »

Can you not just go for extra tiny women?

Come to China. I'd say the average height is 5.5/5.6. Vietnamese/Cambodian women seem to be often smaller.

pgj2015 · 08-12-2020 3:18pm

If you ever meet a narky wasp of a man who starts roaring at you for some tiny non issue, it is usually a small man, A lot of small men hate tall men and take any opportunity to have a go at them.

MilitaryRoad · 08-12-2020 3:18pm

I ran into this non stop when I was online dating, I’d just ask them back what weight they were. It’s sad that the key criteria for evaluating men these days as suitors is whether we are over or under six foot.

Thelonious Monk · 08-12-2020 3:19pm

Deleted User wrote: »

Come to China. I'd say the average height is 5.5/5.6. Vietnamese/Cambodian women seem to be often smaller.

No I've always preferred the taller wans!

MilitaryRoad · 08-12-2020 3:21pm

pgj2015 wrote: »

If you ever meet a narky wasp of a man who starts roaring at you for some tiny non issue, it is usually a small man, A lot of small men hate tall men and take any opportunity to have a go at them.

A lot of men don’t care what height you are, they are more interested in you having a normal personality and if you are dateable long term.

lukin · 08-12-2020 3:25pm

pgj2015 wrote: »

Women do go out with short guys but they just don't want to be seen in public with them.

Probably true

Girl_harbour · 08-12-2020 3:30pm

I'm 5'9 and used to only date guys who were taller than me, mostly because guys shorter than me seemed to have some sort of complex about their height and would make you feel bad almost about being taller than them. Ended up marrying a guy shorter than me who doesnt care about his height and has nothing but positive things to say about me being taller! :pac:

katiek102010 · 08-12-2020 5:13pm

I'm 5ft 1, I wont date men over 6ft as they are way to tall for me

It's not for how we would look for the height gap etc, it's more to do with any type of physical intimacy being awkward.

Trying to hold hands, cuddles and even sex is just plain awkward and uncomfortable with someone who is over a foot taller than you.

Mister Vain · 08-12-2020 5:32pm

pgj2015 wrote: »

If you ever meet a narky wasp of a man who starts roaring at you for some tiny non issue, it is usually a small man, A lot of small men hate tall men and take any opportunity to have a go at them.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HB53DS3k1yI

Surreptitious · 08-12-2020 5:39pm

Couldn't give a feck what height he is.

Hyperbollix · 08-12-2020 5:42pm

MilitaryRoad wrote: »

I ran into this non stop when I was online dating, I’d just ask them back what weight they were. It’s sad that the key criteria for evaluating men these days as suitors is whether we are over or under six foot.

Doesn't matter what day it is. Women have evolved to find tall, broad shouldered men more attractive, as they possess the physical traits associated with being good protectors and providers. This is deep rooted, monkey brain instinct and no amount of 21st century right-on feminism can change it.

08-12-2020 5:47pm

katiek102010 wrote: »

I'm 5ft 1, I wont date men over 6ft as they are way to tall for me

It's not for how we would look for the height gap etc, it's more to do with any type of physical intimacy being awkward.

Trying to hold hands, cuddles and even sex is just plain awkward and uncomfortable with someone who is over a foot taller than you.

Are ye riding standing up?

Mister Vain · 08-12-2020 5:52pm

lukin wrote: »

It's actually quite amazing how rare it is to see a short guy with a girl. I didn't notice it before but since I have made a mental note just to observe it while I am out and about in shops and public places it is very obvious.
I know since lockdown we can't go into pubs and clubs but even before that I noticed it; nearly every single guy who is with a girl is at least 5 foot 9 and usually closer to six feet.
Next time you are in your nearest town or city just take note of it, I guarantee you you will agree with me and say "Jeez I never noticed that before".

How do you know the short guy hasn't left the missus at home? It's not like all couples are tied at the hip. I've worked with plenty of short guys over the years and they've nearly all had girlfriends.

08-12-2020 5:58pm

Deleted User wrote: »

Far away fields are greener.

I'm 6ft3ish and I wish i was shorter. More proportional, with a better spread of weight and muscle.

It's rare you'll meet guys who are tall and have much in the way of obvious muscle strength. I've always found that women (under 30) will be more attracted to guys with muscles than being tall/slim.

The good news, that (without seriously drastic measures, you cannot do much about height, but you can build muscle.

08-12-2020 5:58pm

pgj2015 wrote: »

If you ever meet a narky wasp of a man who starts roaring at you for some tiny non issue, it is usually a small man, A lot of small men hate tall men and take any opportunity to have a go at them.

Small man syndrome. In a few years we'll look on it as a dysphoria, and people can identify as tall.

https://www.healthguidance.org/entry/15851/1/short-man-syndrome-explained.html

They're like terriers, over compensating with the yapping. Most likely to bite

Nitrogan · 08-12-2020 6:02pm

How sad would it be to miss out on a soul mate because you can't figure out how to use perspective in life and photography?

Tall women, short men and black cats get by just fine.

Katgurl · 08-12-2020 7:29pm

My fiance is shorter than me. I am a ride, he is a ride. I couldn't give a fiddlers about height.

However hairy chest is a whole different conversation.

Church on Tuesday · 08-12-2020 7:30pm

Hyperbollix wrote: »

Doesn't matter what day it is. Women have evolved to find tall, broad shouldered men more attractive, as they possess the physical traits associated with being good protectors and providers. This is deep rooted, monkey brain instinct and no amount of 21st century right-on feminism can change it.

What a load of bollix.

katiek102010 · 08-12-2020 7:31pm

MikeOxsgreen wrote: »

Are ye riding standing up?

Well we know what kind of man you are from that comment.

Have you tried to hold the hand of someone when walking with in excess of a foot difference?
Kiss on the cheek, or a hug when standing?

Tig98 · 08-12-2020 7:33pm

Church on Tuesday wrote: »

What a load of bollix.

Its not, we're animals after all. Big boobs signify good mothering ability which is why men are hardwired to find them attractive. We are also subconsciously receptive to pheromones and studies have shown that we find the people with the most attractive scents are more likely to have a different innate immune system to you, meaning the babies will be less likely to die of disease.

I don't get why people can so matter of factly observe all this in other animals but refute it up and down when it comes to us

Church on Tuesday · 08-12-2020 7:42pm

There are some women who place great emphasis on the man being taller than them but some of those women probably aren't the type of woman you want to be with anyways and for the rest it's a dating preference I guess, even if it is a fairly shallow one.

We all have our preferences. I couldn't really date or be with a smoker because I, personally, think smoking is vile and I'm not interested outright if you are a single mother but then you could turn around and say that I am being fairly shallow but we like what we like.

As for shorter men feeling threated by a taller partner as another poster mentioned there, well that's just laughable, be comfortable with who you are FFS, then again a lot of men shoot themselves in the foot constantly with stuff like this so I can't say I'm surprised.

Church on Tuesday · 08-12-2020 7:46pm

Tig98 wrote: »

Its not, we're animals after all. Big boobs signify good mothering ability which is why men are hardwired to find them attractive. We are also subconsciously receptive to pheromones and studies have shown that we find the people with the most attractive scents are more likely to have a different innate immune system to you, meaning the babies will be less likely to die of disease.

I don't get why people can so matter of factly observe all this in other animals but refute it up and down when it comes to us

Because we are not animals, human interaction is not black and white and at the end of the day, we like what we like.

Just don't be a creep with a chip on your shoulder (very important) and you'll be fine.

Surreptitious · 08-12-2020 7:53pm

Church on Tuesday wrote: »

Because we are not animals, human interaction is not black and white and at the end of the day, we like what we like.

Just don't be a creep with a chip on your shoulder (very important) and you'll be fine.

Or don't be a chip with a creep on your shoulder.

Sorry

FintanMcluskey · 08-12-2020 7:53pm

Have a friend over 6”3.

He was always a real hit with ladies when we were out on various nights, always had his pick of women.

He’s married with kids now and I can assure you he’s just as miserable as any guy under 5”9.

Height doesn’t correlate to happiness it seems

08-12-2020 8:07pm

katiek102010 wrote: »

Well we know what kind of man you are from that comment.

Have you tried to hold the hand of someone when walking with in excess of a foot difference?
Kiss on the cheek, or a hug when standing?

Every day.
I'm over a foot taller than herself.
No problems.

08-12-2020 8:11pm

Tig98 wrote: »

Its not, we're animals after all. Big boobs signify good mothering ability which is why men are hardwired to find them attractive. We are also subconsciously receptive to pheromones and studies have shown that we find the people with the most attractive scents are more likely to have a different innate immune system to you, meaning the babies will be less likely to die of disease.

I don't get why people can so matter of factly observe all this in other animals but refute it up and down when it comes to us

Nonsense.
We're all drawn to different size fun bags.
I like them high and pert, cheeky ones, athletic physique. With a nice slim neck and tidy ear.

not pendulous, buxom type.
Each to their own.

ohnonotgmail · 08-12-2020 8:21pm

Tig98 wrote: »

Its not, we're animals after all. Big boobs signify good mothering ability which is why men are hardwired to find them attractive. We are also subconsciously receptive to pheromones and studies have shown that we find the people with the most attractive scents are more likely to have a different innate immune system to you, meaning the babies will be less likely to die of disease.

I don't get why people can so matter of factly observe all this in other animals but refute it up and down when it comes to us

big boobs don't specify good mothering ability. Larger breasts don't produce more or better milk for infants. and other animals don't find large breasts attractive. swollen breasts indicate that a female is in estrus so likely to be receptive to mating.

Mister Vain · 08-12-2020 8:26pm

I'm more of a leg man myself.

Galwayguy35 · 08-12-2020 8:39pm

ohnonotgmail wrote: »

big boobs don't specify good mothering ability. Larger breasts don't produce more or better milk for infants. and other animals don't find large breasts attractive. swollen breasts indicate that a female is in estrus so likely to be receptive to mating.

Yeah but if you had to choose between 2 attractive women, would the bigger boobs not be a factor in your decision?

It would for me.

ohnonotgmail · 08-12-2020 8:43pm

Galwayguy35 wrote: »

Yeah but if you had to choose between 2 attractive women, would the bigger boobs not be a factor in your decision?

It would for me.

attraction to large breasts is not universal. quality is more important than quantity for me.

Galwayguy35 · 08-12-2020 8:58pm

ohnonotgmail wrote: »

attraction to large breasts is not universal. quality is more important than quantity for me.

Fair enough

Mister Vain · 08-12-2020 9:00pm

Galwayguy35 wrote: »

Yeah but if you had to choose between 2 attractive women, would the bigger boobs not be a factor in your decision?

It would for me.

If they're both attractive then the boobs wouldn't really matter to me, unless one of them had really weird nipples.

Wibbs · 08-12-2020 9:17pm

ohnonotgmail wrote: »

big boobs don't specify good mothering ability. Larger breasts don't produce more or better milk for infants. and other animals don't find large breasts attractive. swollen breasts indicate that a female is in estrus so likely to be receptive to mating.

Even the last part isn't in play. Humans alone among the great apes have swollen breasts all the time. In other apes they're only swollen when pregnant or breast feeding, so not or sub fertile. So to a chimp big boobs would turn him off.

It's pretty interesting how much we differ from the other great apes, not least in the whole how you doin? stuff. Humans have the biggest willies of the lot so apparently size does matter :eek::D as it was positively selected for. We also lost the penis bone. Women's fertility is mostly hidden, we don't have mating seasons and as above we tend to go for big boobs.

ohnonotgmail · 08-12-2020 9:23pm

Wibbs wrote: »

Even the last part isn't in play. Humans alone among the great apes have swollen breasts all the time. In other apes they're only swollen when pregnant or breast feeding, so not or sub fertile. So to a chimp big boobs would turn him off.

It's pretty interesting how much we differ from the other great apes, not least in the whole how you doin? stuff. Humans have the biggest willies of the lot so apparently size does matter :eek::D as it was positively selected for. We also lost the penis bone. Women's fertility is mostly hidden, we don't have mating seasons and as above we tend to go for big boobs.

I'm blaming Desmond Morris for getting that wrong. I'm sure I read that in the Naked Ape.

billyhead · 08-12-2020 9:29pm

I'm tall myself but there is a saying that small men have big whips.

ohnonotgmail · 08-12-2020 9:36pm

billyhead wrote: »

I'm tall myself but there is a saying that small men have big whips.

Case in point Toulouse Latrec. His nickname among the prostitutes in Montmartre was "The Tripod"

08-12-2020 9:55pm

billyhead wrote: »

I'm tall myself but there is a saying that small men have big whips.

You know what they say about big feet....

Big socks.

I'll see myself out

Tig98 · 08-12-2020 10:09pm

Smell men aren't any better endowed than tall men, shur the spire would look a lot smaller if it sat between skyscrapers

metaoblivia · 08-12-2020 10:17pm

I know a lot of male gymnasts and they tend to be on the shorter side - 5'5, 5'6 some even shorter (I know one guy who's 5'1!). They never seem to have a problem finding a girlfriend. Some even have girlfriends or wives who are noticeably taller than they are.

Maybe it's the athleticism. Or maybe it the confidence that comes with embracing yourself and making the most of what you've been given. instead of complaining that they were too short for football or basketball, they did gymnastics. Instead of complaining about girls who had height preferences, they chased the ones who didn't care about short or tall.

Mister Vain · 08-12-2020 10:31pm

Wibbs wrote: »

Even the last part isn't in play. Humans alone among the great apes have swollen breasts all the time. In other apes they're only swollen when pregnant or breast feeding, so not or sub fertile. So to a chimp big boobs would turn him off.

It's pretty interesting how much we differ from the other great apes, not least in the whole how you doin? stuff. Humans have the biggest willies of the lot so apparently size does matter :eek::D as it was positively selected for. We also lost the penis bone. Women's fertility is mostly hidden, we don't have mating seasons and as above we tend to go for big boobs.

:eek: You learn something everyday.

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