Lets all be anxious/depressed together.

stinkle · 13-11-2013 3:44pm

Pixie-Fairy wrote: »

I got such good news today but i literally cant be happy because of another thing that has been nagging me and nagging me. Im so down because of this and i cant stop crying. Its easy for people to say i need to focus on the positive but the negative just has such a strong hold on me that i cant get rid of it.

sorry to hear about this. As lukesmom said, can you get the negativity off your chest at all? Its horrible how bad stuff overshadows good news. Is there any way you can either a) deal with it or b) convince yourself not to worry about it until you absolutely have to?

herisson · 13-11-2013 3:50pm

lukesmom wrote: »

Hi is there anybody you can speak to about this thing nagging you? Family or a friend? To get it off your chest might help a bit.

I text my counsellor to see if i could get an appointment for tomorrow instead of next week. She knows i would never ask unless i needed it, and this week i need it. The problem im having i text my sister and she helped me a bit, i still cant shake it off.

herisson · 13-11-2013 3:53pm

stinkle wrote: »

sorry to hear about this. As lukesmom said, can you get the negativity off your chest at all? Its horrible how bad stuff overshadows good news. Is there any way you can either a) deal with it or b) convince yourself not to worry about it until you absolutely have to?

Its not as simple as that. Im not comfortable writing it here, as its personal. Its one of those things that has broken my confidence entirely.

Gremlinertia · 13-11-2013 5:56pm

Pixie, you don't have to write anything you're not comfortable with here.. Maybe you'll take a bit of comfort from the fact that there are many regular posters looking at your entries and nodding their heads in understanding - feel less alone.

Grem

kryptonmight · 14-11-2013 7:29am

Is anyone here on medication/anti-depressants long-term?

I was on cipramil for several months and it really seemed to work and my anxiety attacks were effectively zero. Things were better with work and other aspects of my life so after talking to the GP, we agreed I would come off them and she took me off them gradually over several weeks. I came off them with no problems but since then, I ended up out of work (not unexpectedly as my contract was due to finish and it was uncertain whether it would get extended and in the end it didn't). I was then out of work for 3 months and I recently started a new job but the anxiety has come back somewhat. I don't think it's as frequent as it was but it is very uncomfortable when it kicks in. I know the new job is the main reason for it as I'm there a while and still not doing much which drives me insane. They know I want training and want to train me but are just very busy.

I'm trying to control other aspects of my life such as trying to get enough sleep, get exercise and trying to eat proper healthy food and avoid processed food or stuff that might trigger anxiety.

However I'm wondering if I will just have to bite the bullet and go back to the GP and ask to go back on them for a while. I still have some left from my last prescription but there's no point starting to take them without their approval plus I don't have enough for more than about a week or two.

Suppose I'm starting to wonder if I'm going to have to take anti-depressants long-term now.

delthedriver · 14-11-2013 9:15am

kryptonmight wrote: »

Is anyone here on medication/anti-depressants long-term?

I was on cipramil for several months and it really seemed to work and my anxiety attacks were effectively zero. Things were better with work and other aspects of my life so after talking to the GP, we agreed I would come off them and she took me off them gradually over several weeks. I came off them with no problems but since then, I ended up out of work (not unexpectedly as my contract was due to finish and it was uncertain whether it would get extended and in the end it didn't). I was then out of work for 3 months and I recently started a new job but the anxiety has come back somewhat. I don't think it's as frequent as it was but it is very uncomfortable when it kicks in. I know the new job is the main reason for it as I'm there a while and still not doing much which drives me insane. They know I want training and want to train me but are just very busy.

I'm trying to control other aspects of my life such as trying to get enough sleep, get exercise and trying to eat proper healthy food and avoid processed food or stuff that might trigger anxiety.

However I'm wondering if I will just have to bite the bullet and go back to the GP and ask to go back on them for a while. I still have some left from my last prescription but there's no point starting to take them without their approval plus I don't have enough for more than about a week or two.

Suppose I'm starting to wonder if I'm going to have to take anti-depressants long-term now.

Revisit your GP and follow his /her advice. Perhaps you may need to take meds for a little while just to get you through the present anxieties.
Be kind to yourself:)

delthedriver · 14-11-2013 9:20am

Gremlinertia wrote: »

Pixie, you don't have to write anything you're not comfortable with here.. Maybe you'll take a bit of comfort from the fact that there are many regular posters looking at your entries and nodding their heads in understanding - feel less alone.

Grem

There are quite a few regular posters here who understand fully.

Perhaps an initial PM to someone may go some way in assisting you?:)

Remember we are all soldiers in the War against Depression

hallo dare · 14-11-2013 9:26am

Posted this on a previous thread, but i also suffer with depresion and i am currently going through a second phase of counselling with the company below.

I find them excellent in every way. I am one of those people who find it impossible to talk about anything and keep it all in. Well the time came when it finally became too much and went to a very bad place. But with thanks to an amazing wife, family and friends i pushed myself to meet with this company and it's the best thing i've ever done and it helps so so much. I think they have Counsellors all over the Country so finding a place close to you might be easy enough.

If anyone needs to get anything off their chest please feel free to PM me. Remember, you don't have to go through anything alone.

Hope this helps someone.

Abate Counselling & EAP Limited, 63 Claremont Crescent, Glasnevin, Dublin 11

Phone: 01 8309613 Fax: 01 8301699 Email: info@abatecounselling.com

lukesmom · 14-11-2013 1:03pm

kryptonmight wrote: »

Is anyone here on medication/anti-depressants long-term?

I was on cipramil for several months and it really seemed to work and my anxiety attacks were effectively zero. Things were better with work and other aspects of my life so after talking to the GP, we agreed I would come off them and she took me off them gradually over several weeks. I came off them with no problems but since then, I ended up out of work (not unexpectedly as my contract was due to finish and it was uncertain whether it would get extended and in the end it didn't). I was then out of work for 3 months and I recently started a new job but the anxiety has come back somewhat. I don't think it's as frequent as it was but it is very uncomfortable when it kicks in. I know the new job is the main reason for it as I'm there a while and still not doing much which drives me insane. They know I want training and want to train me but are just very busy.

I'm trying to control other aspects of my life such as trying to get enough sleep, get exercise and trying to eat proper healthy food and avoid processed food or stuff that might trigger anxiety.

However I'm wondering if I will just have to bite the bullet and go back to the GP and ask to go back on them for a while. I still have some left from my last prescription but there's no point starting to take them without their approval plus I don't have enough for more than about a week or two.

Suppose I'm starting to wonder if I'm going to have to take anti-depressants long-term now.

Yes I was on ciprimil for 5 years and now I've been cymbalta, seroquel and mirtazapine for 5 months. Go to your gp and have a chat. Take care.

Gremlinertia · 14-11-2013 5:55pm

kryptonmight wrote: »

Is anyone here on medication/anti-depressants long-term?

I was on cipramil for several months and it really seemed to work and my anxiety attacks were effectively zero. Things were better with work and other aspects of my life so after talking to the GP, we agreed I would come off them and she took me off them gradually over several weeks. I came off them with no problems but since then, I ended up out of work (not unexpectedly as my contract was due to finish and it was uncertain whether it would get extended and in the end it didn't). I was then out of work for 3 months and I recently started a new job but the anxiety has come back somewhat. I don't think it's as frequent as it was but it is very uncomfortable when it kicks in. I know the new job is the main reason for it as I'm there a while and still not doing much which drives me insane. They know I want training and want to train me but are just very busy.

I'm trying to control other aspects of my life such as trying to get enough sleep, get exercise and trying to eat proper healthy food and avoid processed food or stuff that might trigger anxiety.

However I'm wondering if I will just have to bite the bullet and go back to the GP and ask to go back on them for a while. I still have some left from my last prescription but there's no point starting to take them without their approval plus I don't have enough for more than about a week or two.

Suppose I'm starting to wonder if I'm going to have to take anti-depressants long-term now.

Medication is a great support for some people, i'd think about some form of talk therapy too. I went for a while, was good for me, might also be worth a look for you.

kryptonmight · 14-11-2013 10:03pm

Gremlinertia wrote: »

Medication is a great support for some people, i'd think about some form of talk therapy too. I went for a while, was good for me, might also be worth a look for you.

Thanks.

I was seeing a psychologist for quite a while but we scaled back the appointments as things got better. Unfortunately she has since moved away so if I want to continue with appointments, I will need to find someone else.

Gremlinertia · 15-11-2013 3:22am

Damn thinking.. Was away for a break for a week, it was good, just even to be out of town visiting friends and not travelling, as was the case any other time this year, outside the county for funerals.. Coming back was hard, into work immediately, and have to say it used be the one thing that would keep me stable enough, but that's changed somewhat over the last few months, if i had the guts i'd think about a big change, like a move, job change and stuff. Back to the thinking though, that's so confusing that i'm frozen.. So, having tried quite a few things i am now working up to contacting a hypnotherapist friend of mine to try alleviate stress/anxiety symptoms to help me think.

The focus it took to type this has wrecked me..

LegacyUser · 15-11-2013 4:32am

I'm suffering from/ living with chronic anxiety, it's not too bad, but I hardly go out at all, have very little motivation to. Havnt been to the doc in 2 years maybe. Don't see the point because he'll put me on anti depressants, I'll take them for a month, and not bother going back, I knew that was going to happen the last time, and the time before, but I just can't seem to... Whatever, either overcome the anxiety, or get the motivation, to actually do things,

I've a driving test coming up, and I need a few lessons, but I can't just ring and book them. I think I'll end up cancelling the test.

Basically, I'm wondering how you get over that first hurdle of anxiety/ complete lack of motivation, and how do you keep it going,

RubyXI · 15-11-2013 11:55am

Having such a hard time at work at the moment. There's a new girl and she just won't leave me alone. The other people here got used to me not going places but she is being very pushy and persistent. I manages to get out of one and now there's another one. I said I can't go but she just keeps going on about it. And then there will be a Christmas night out soon which I will also not be going to. Can't people just let me make my own decisions instead of trying to force their opinions on me? I know she will soon get annoyed with me and start to dislike me like the rest of them do. Even if I wasn't generally bad at going out, I don't think I'd want to go. I don't really get on with most of them anyway. But surely it should be my choice. I think it's very inappropriate of people to tell others what to do. I would never tell them they shouldn't go. It's just unbearable.

herisson · 15-11-2013 12:08pm

^^^^

People like that annoy me to no end. If you don't want to go then no one should force you or pester you until you agree.

I'm lucky my friends were like that until they realised that I am just not up for it. I don't like going out they know it and they will not force me but they will be so appreciative if I do manage to come out.

Work rang me this morning to come into work, I said no, turned around and had a little cry. I'm just not able for it tbh.

delthedriver · 15-11-2013 2:51pm

phi3 wrote: »

Having such a hard time at work at the moment. There's a new girl and she just won't leave me alone. The other people here got used to me not going places but she is being very pushy and persistent. I manages to get out of one and now there's another one. I said I can't go but she just keeps going on about it. And then there will be a Christmas night out soon which I will also not be going to. Can't people just let me make my own decisions instead of trying to force their opinions on me? I know she will soon get annoyed with me and start to dislike me like the rest of them do. Even if I wasn't generally bad at going out, I don't think I'd want to go. I don't really get on with most of them anyway. But surely it should be my choice. I think it's very inappropriate of people to tell others what to do. I would never tell them they shouldn't go. It's just unbearable.

Absolutely, it is very wrong of your colleague to continue badgering you to attend nights out with the crew, in my opinion it is subtle bullying.
In the case of the Christmas night out perhaps for political reasons it may be appropriate to attend the meal and have a cab organised to take you home. Sometimes it is important to be seen by your boss , who may well be paying for the event, to attend the function.
Other than that I would not commit myself to attend other unofficial nights out with the crew. Personally I resisted any pressure to attend always thanked them for inviting me , and offered my apologies. You have no reason to offer excuses, just be true to yourself and be your own person. Bluntly, your colleagues are simply people with whom you need to have a cordial working relationship, no more, no less. What you do in your spare time quite frankly is none of their concern.:)
Like yourself I never had reason to socialise with the "team", people can get messy and obnoxious when they have had too much to drink.

RubyXI · 15-11-2013 3:51pm

Our Christmas Party isn't paid for by the company anymore. But ya there's more pressure to go if it is. I'm terrified of meals - eating in front of people- so that's very hard too. I know there is an argument saying if you're scared to do it then that's all the more reason to do it but I think I need to do that on my own terms.

Gremlinertia · 15-11-2013 4:00pm

phi3 wrote: »

Our Christmas Party isn't paid for by the company anymore. But ya there's more pressure to go if it is. I'm terrified of meals - eating in front of people- so that's very hard too. I know there is an argument saying if you're scared to do it then that's all the more reason to do it but I think I need to do that on my own terms.

I can completely understand about the meal, i can't do that at the best of times, my stress levels go through the roof and even my arms lock up..

My usual to combat this is say i have a prior engagement meaning that i'll miss the meal but will make it in afterwards, there might be a bit of a grumble but all in all it's usually worked for me..

RubyXI · 15-11-2013 4:08pm

Gremlinertia wrote: »

I can completely understand about the meal, i can't do that at the best of times, my stress levels go through the roof and even my arms lock up..

My usual to combat this is say i have a prior engagement meaning that i'll miss the meal but will make it in afterwards, there might be a bit of a grumble but all in all it's usually worked for me..

I've tried that too! Said I had to go somewhere else but would try to make it in for a while, then never turn up. But there's only so many times you can get away with that!

Gremlinertia · 15-11-2013 4:13pm

phi3 wrote: »

I've tried that too! Said I had to go somewhere else but would try to make it in for a while, then never turn up. But there's only so many times you can get away with that!

But do turn up is the thing, it'll count so that's how i do it, people remember you were there if asked and you get to skip the meal, plus, because they are now relaxed there'll be no stress to feed off in the place. Deep breaths.

RubyXI · 15-11-2013 4:22pm

Gremlinertia wrote: »

But do turn up is the thing, it'll count so that's how i do it, people remember you were there if asked and you get to skip the meal, plus, because they are now relaxed there'll be no stress to feed off in the place. Deep breaths.

Ya but I'd probably have a panic attack if I had to turn up! It's not just the meal I can't do. Can't do any of it!

Gremlinertia · 15-11-2013 4:26pm

phi3 wrote: »

Ya but I'd probably have a panic attack if I had to turn up! It's not just the meal I can't do. Can't do any of it!

Suppose it's a matter of picking your battles, maybe this one isn't worth it.. Depends on you. I tend to push myself the odd time.. (Though i couldn't refuse to show up at my sister's wedding, that was tough) Like everything, it's your own journey so no one can pick what to go or not go to.. Just hope the pressure lessens for you.

Gremlinertia · 15-11-2013 7:40pm

Off to the monsterathon shifts soon.. Feeling mad lonely, so hope the work will distract me..

delthedriver · 15-11-2013 9:03pm

phi3 wrote: »

Our Christmas Party isn't paid for by the company anymore. But ya there's more pressure to go if it is. I'm terrified of meals - eating in front of people- so that's very hard too. I know there is an argument saying if you're scared to do it then that's all the more reason to do it but I think I need to do that on my own terms.

Well then, If the Company are not paying for the party I see no reason to put yourself under pressure to attend. Simply thank the organiser and politely decline . You are not obliged to give a reason. Don't let anyone bully you.

If the truth is known quite a number of the attendees on the night will wish they were some place else also.

On the evening in question you can always chat with your friends here, so in effect we can be a prior engagement!!!!:D

delthedriver · 15-11-2013 9:05pm

Gremlinertia wrote: »

Off to the monsterathon shifts soon.. Feeling mad lonely, so hope the work will distract me..

Just take good care of yourself.

No need to feel lonely, we are here for you:)

delthedriver · 15-11-2013 9:27pm

Christmas Office Party

The whole subject can bring out goose bumps on the best of us.

It is important to remember to protect oneself and put oneself first.

It is not worth having a panic attack and upsetting one's physical and psychological health to attend a social event.

Be kind to yourself and trust your own judgement. If you feel the event is something which is going to cause you untold stress, there is no need to put yourself under unnecessary pressure.

Politely decline the invitation and move on with your life.

Perhaps with age and experience I have learned how unimportant the Office Party is, versus, the importance of good physical and emotional health.

I am aufait with the peer pressure put on colleagues to attend these events. If you don't attend after a couple of days no one will remember who was there and it is then 360 odd days to the next one .:rolleyes:

Call Me Jimmy · 16-11-2013 10:30am

Just dropping a line to say that I feel great. Really great. I mostly post negative **** but this morning there just isn't any. Not even afraid of a fall. **** it when I fall I fall - if I fall.

It's nice to feel nice. Ye'd think I got the leg over but nothing like that at all. Just fresh. I'm gonna make the most of the ups from now on because **** the downs, I can experience them without trying, but I live in fear of them so miss the good times. Enjoy the good times as intensely as I suffer the bad. Straightforward.

Cheers.

delthedriver · 16-11-2013 10:33am

Call Me Jimmy wrote: »

Just dropping a line to say that I feel great. Really great. I mostly post negative **** but this morning there just isn't any. Not even afraid of a fall. **** it when I fall I fall - if I fall.

It's nice to feel nice. Ye'd think I got the leg over but nothing like that at all. Just fresh.

Cheers.

CMJ,

Well done! Keep up the good work.

)

murria · 16-11-2013 11:03am

Call Me Jimmy wrote: »

Just dropping a line to say that I feel great. Really great. I mostly post negative **** but this morning there just isn't any. Not even afraid of a fall. **** it when I fall I fall - if I fall.

It's nice to feel nice. Ye'd think I got the leg over but nothing like that at all. Just fresh. I'm gonna make the most of the ups from now on because **** the downs, I can experience them without trying, but I live in fear of them so miss the good times. Enjoy the good times as intensely as I suffer the bad. Straightforward.

Cheers.

Good for you CMJ, you deserve to feel good or even just normal. Thanks for making me smile this morning.

xx

handbagmad · 17-11-2013 12:48am

Somewhere deep inside me must still be a flame that wants to live. I had planned on doing"something silly/stupid" during the week back out at last minute.
I've lost control. Im desperate for help to get better. I am going to kick ass this week to get the help I need. Still waiting for counselling.
Services in this country R a joke.
Im really scared of what the journey will be like. I have a lot of demons to fight, a lot of work to do. It is scary.
I hope I can find the right people to help me

delthedriver · 17-11-2013 3:38pm

handbagmad wrote: »

Somewhere deep inside me must still be a flame that wants to live. I had planned on doing"something silly/stupid" during the week back out at last minute.
I've lost control. Im desperate for help to get better. I am going to kick ass this week to get the help I need. Still waiting for counselling.
Services in this country R a joke.
Im really scared of what the journey will be like. I have a lot of demons to fight, a lot of work to do. It is scary.
I hope I can find the right people to help me

I am very glad to read that you did not do something stupid.
Take one day at a time, put yourself first and be kind to yourself.
Don't be worry about what the journey will be like. It is important to remember, you must learn to walk before you start running.
Get whatever help you need organised and commence your journey to good health.Remember we are all wishing the very best for you
Best Wishes

murria · 17-11-2013 7:44pm

Hi, just a reminder to everyone on this thread who posts, reads, thanks or lurks, we are meeting up on December 7th at 3.00pm in the Octagon Bar of the Clarence Hotel, Wellington Quay, Dublin 2.

Call in for a coffee, a beer or whatever and take a break from the Christmas shopping.

Look forward to seeing you.

Murria

noah45 · 18-11-2013 5:21pm

delthedriver wrote: »

Christmas Office Party

The whole subject can bring out goose bumps on the best of us.

It is important to remember to protect oneself and put oneself first.

It is not worth having a panic attack and upsetting one's physical and psychological health to attend a social event.

Be kind to yourself and trust your own judgement. If you feel the event is something which is going to cause you untold stress, there is no need to put yourself under unnecessary pressure.

Politely decline the invitation and move on with your life.

Perhaps with age and experience I have learned how unimportant the Office Party is, versus, the importance of good physical and emotional health.

I am aufait with the peer pressure put on colleagues to attend these events. If you don't attend after a couple of days no one will remember who was there and it is then 360 odd days to the next one .:rolleyes:

OMG my dilema at the moment I really have no interest in going to ours but people are doing my head in about it.

Also I am on anti depressants for nearly 20 yrs now. Depression returns after a short time off them.

Lots on my mind at the moment including a major family rift which never leaves my mind.

NegativeCreep · 18-11-2013 8:26pm

Such a shit week it's been for me. Can't even be bothered to move. Took today off college which is unusual for me because I love college but I just couldn't move past the front door.

Been out drinking far too many nights this week as it was my birthday, which has contributed to my low mood no doubt, but I was due a crash anyway as I've been feeling good more than usual recently. I just need like a month with nothing to do so I can just lie in bed but that's never going to happen. ugh

stinkle · 19-11-2013 11:16am

NegativeCreep wrote: »

Such a shit week it's been for me. Can't even be bothered to move. Took today off college which is unusual for me because I love college but I just couldn't move past the front door.

Been out drinking far too many nights this week as it was my birthday, which has contributed to my low mood no doubt, but I was due a crash anyway as I've been feeling good more than usual recently. I just need like a month with nothing to do so I can just lie in bed but that's never going to happen. ugh

oh I can totally relate. Hope you aren't worried about not going to college, sometimes we just need a bit of time to ourselves away from everyone. Is there any way you could take time out here and there to lie in bed? With all the festive nights out looming it can be good to recharge in november!

Feeling strange today - took a duvet day myself as it's badly needed. Stupidly feel guilty (no reason to, also feel a bit sick so am better off at home). Had to work at the weekend and it was messy so was stressed. Am a bit low too cos some projects I'm helping with just seem neverending - new tasks keep getting added and it feels like I'll never have a break. There's nothing too stressy there, just it eats into my time really. Am also worried this is to the detriment of my own tasks too. I think one problem is I can't say no, another is that when I do take stuff on it can be hard to delegate as either I dont want to trouble anyone or I feel that I should be able to do it all myself.

Despite feeling so overwhelmed I was able to leave early yesterday, and have some time away booked next week which is great. I applied for tons of jobs at the weekend and one got back to me very quickly. I'm happy to say there's a skype interview tomorrow! The job is abroad which is scary to think about, and of course no guarantee I'll either get it or want it once we discuss. It feels good to have SOMETHING though - I've not had any luck since July. Possibly moving abroad is so scary but also I know I need a fresh start. Have tried to stop worrying about not getting something straight away either, had a great chat with OH yesterday and I actually wouldnt mind a month or two of breathing space between finishing one job and finding another. Easier said than done though!

Nonetheless, I'm TRYING not to put all my hopes in this job. It might be awful, and I'm reluctant to just take the first thing that comes along, especially given my mental state at the moment. It sounds ok though and will give the interview my best shot. Last-minute duvet day is giving me time to prepare

lukesmom · 19-11-2013 3:37pm

That's the difference I could not have a duvet day it's not an option for me. It would make me depressed and feel worse. Even watching tv on the couch would be fine but bed during the day no as it reminds me of being in a very dark place.

stinkle · 19-11-2013 3:51pm

oh I agree - mine has just consisted of sitting on the bed in toasty clothes with warm laptop cos it's so darn cold today! I can't lay around all day cos would feel worse too. Even as a kid if I was sick it felt better to at least be washed!

Starting to get nervous about interview now... eek.

lukesmom · 19-11-2013 3:52pm

stinkle wrote: »

oh I agree - mine has just consisted of sitting on the bed in toasty clothes with warm laptop cos it's so darn cold today! I can't lay around all day cos would feel worse too. Even as a kid if I was sick it felt better to at least be washed!

Starting to get nervous about interview now... eek.

You'll be just fine take a few deep breaths and the very best of luck!

herisson · 19-11-2013 3:55pm

Best of luck with your interview.

Im feeling very overwhelmed today, its like i cant do anything at all. Kinda frustrating. Im not happy with my life at the moment, i just wish life would fast forward a bit.

murria · 19-11-2013 4:30pm

Pixie-Fairy wrote: »

Best of luck with your interview.

Im feeling very overwhelmed today, its like i cant do anything at all. Kinda frustrating. Im not happy with my life at the moment, i just wish life would fast forward a bit.

This too shall pass.

When things are bad, remember, it won't always be this way. Take one day at a time.

When things are good, remember, it won't always be this way. Enjoy every great moment.

baldshin · 19-11-2013 5:21pm

Hey everyone, I've just come across this thread and, as a recent sufferer of anxiety, feel it will be a good help for me. I had to leave my last job due to severe anxiety and took about 6 weeks before returning to a new job. Gradually got from a place of despair to being myself again. However, two weeks after starting my new job could feel it all coming back and I am now packing it in as well. I feel terrible for leaving but feel its necessary to stop me going back to the mess I was.
I can't think of any reason I could be suffering from anxiety, so I don't know if counselling would be of any worth to me?

Marzipan85 · 19-11-2013 5:38pm

baldshin wrote: »

Hey everyone, I've just come across this thread and, as a recent sufferer of anxiety, feel it will be a good help for me. I had to leave my last job due to severe anxiety and took about 6 weeks before returning to a new job. Gradually got from a place of despair to being myself again. However, two weeks after starting my new job could feel it all coming back and I am now packing it in as well. I feel terrible for leaving but feel its necessary to stop me going back to the mess I was.
I can't think of any reason I could be suffering from anxiety, so I don't know if counselling would be of any worth to me?

same situation here. it's very frustrating when you can't just seem to handle a normal work situation. Mine stems from anxiety too, which is kind of caused by intense self-consciousness. Obviously, over time, this intensity leads to exhaustion and worse. I did see a psychotherapist for 3 years, but I'm unsure how much it helped me personally, because I'm quite closed, and also like you, there was no specific trauma to work through. It's just in my genetics or whatever neurological pathways built up during childhood. I'm now on SSRI's which I feel have helped me a bit. For example, I can now read something in a library, which I couldn't have done before, because I was so hopped up on being surrounded by other people that I couldn't relax enough to concentrate on reading and absorbing information. Also, I can sit near the front at a theatre now, without being paranoid that I'm somehow going to put off the actors with my facial expression. (yes, this is what i would usually automatically think!!! *exhausted sigh")

So knackered today cos it's so bloody cold!!

Sygnus13 · 19-11-2013 6:32pm

Hi all, first time poster here. Feel lost confused and fed up. My anxiety has gotten the better of me. In the last two months I've been to A&E twice. Te first time I thought I was having a heart attack. And only recently because I cannot cope.

I'm afraid to leave my house because of the amount of panic attacks I've had in the only route I can take to get to my course. Even walking to the shops 5 minutes away from me is difficult. I am sick of feeling physically and mentally ****ed up

Sorry dont know what the purpose of this was so... But if anyone needs to chat they can always PM me. Thanks for whoever reads.

stinkle · 19-11-2013 6:55pm

Thanks for the good wishes. Am feeling good about it the more I read about the place.... am trying not to get my hopes up too much. Feel sick in a non-anxious way right now, hope to feck I'm not actually coming down with something!

Is the cold just getting everyone down? Not in a blase kind of way, I just feel like hibernating and am wondering is it normal for this time of year. Was like this all last week and have no energy or motivation.

Hi new posters! Sorry to hear about anxiety, it really is a curse, and I completely empathise with the self consciousness aspect. A lot of my anxiety is rooted in dealing with other people - take them out of the equation and I'd be grand. A few weeks back when I started posting here it helped along with breathing - I;d say a whole week passed where I felt heart-attacky all the time, but breathing eased it and it got easier to make myself breathe properly as the days passed.

For the poster who asked about counselling, you know yourself best, but I found talking in general helps (like posting here, or just chatting to someone who youre comfortable with) but also got a lot out of psychotherapy too. When I was bad recently I hadnt been in a while and really needed the session but felt bad for not going regularly enough. Am hoping to go more often and not just when things get bad. In the past I attended counselling on a couple of occasions when incidents were happening in my life. In one instance when the problem went away I no longer felt the need to attend but was very grateful for the chance to get support. Second time a similar thing happened but issues kicked off again later and it was also great to be able to go back to the counsellor and work through it. Any time I've gone it;s been beneficial anyway, even just for the chance to talk in a safe place and get emotional if need be.

lukesmom · 19-11-2013 8:35pm

Sygnus13 wrote: »

Hi all, first time poster here. Feel lost confused and fed up. My anxiety has gotten the better of me. In the last two months I've been to A&E twice. Te first time I thought I was having a heart attack. And only recently because I cannot cope.

I'm afraid to leave my house because of the amount of panic attacks I've had in the only route I can take to get to my course. Even walking to the shops 5 minutes away from me is difficult. I am sick of feeling physically and mentally ****ed up

Sorry dont know what the purpose of this was so... But if anyone needs to chat they can always PM me. Thanks for whoever reads.

Hi and welcome to the group. Have you been to your gp yet? If you haven't maybe you could go and have a chat about how you have been feeling. I highly recommend seeing a psychologist. Myself I've been on medication for a while but the two psychology sessions I've attended are already helping me deal with anxiety and I've suffered chronic severe anxiety with depression. Please don't suffer in silence. What you are feeling is very common and there is help for you.

You deserve to live a happy life free from anxiety so please go and speak to somebody and remember we are always here to chat to on this page.

herisson · 19-11-2013 10:19pm

Root of my depression is holding in anger.

Im ****ing fuming right now. If i say what needs to be said to some friends then i lose them. Sure, my anger would be released and i would be away from the hurt they sometimes cause but at the same time i know it will make me worse and i will sink back down to where i was. One part of me would be relived i wont have to see them again, another part devastated.

But tbh, i am not happy where i am right now and i havent been happy for a long time, i was so happy living away form here, living away from everyone. Im just counting down the days until i leave.

Marzipan85 · 19-11-2013 11:12pm

I have SA, and just realising i can't expect my mother to understand the kind of stress it puts on me. I just want to explain this so that she doesn't feel offended by the way I behave, but almost not worth explaining because only I can understand the kind of stress. Basically, it's like having your head in a vice, and you don't want to communicate and you can't emote until the pressure around your mind goes down. Not a nice place to be in; but if people's can't understand this feeling, sometimes better off to just say 'i'm stressed, don't feel offended by my behaviour'.

Gremlinertia · 20-11-2013 3:49pm

so tired of everything, work not keeping me in balance, physical pain worsening, yet slept through my appointment yesterday so angry at my self which is ramping up the physical pain.. Nightshift ahead, but working by myself so there's that advantage because i can't be around people today.

Rant over..

stinkle · 20-11-2013 4:11pm

agh supposed to be skyping now but it got postponed for a little while. its so nerve-wracking! sitting at home feeling nervy is no fun. trying to breathe. This happened last time I did one too, feel like a plonker for being punctual (and hoping it doesnt come across as pushy!)

murria · 20-11-2013 4:37pm

Marzipan85 wrote: »

I have SA, and just realising i can't expect my mother to understand the kind of stress it puts on me. I just want to explain this so that she doesn't feel offended by the way I behave, but almost not worth explaining because only I can understand the kind of stress. Basically, it's like having your head in a vice, and you don't want to communicate and you can't emote until the pressure around your mind goes down. Not a nice place to be in; but if people's can't understand this feeling, sometimes better off to just say 'i'm stressed, don't feel offended by my behaviour'.

I think it is so worth trying to explain, especially to your mother who might want a chance to understand.

When we first met our daughter's boyfriend we didn't know that he was uncomfortable eating in front of people and that he found it hard to make eye contact because he didn't feel worthy. I love to cook and all her other male friends really enjoy my meals so I couldn't understand why he would never stay to dinner. When it was explained to me (by her) it made a huge difference and so then I would never dream of putting him in an uncomfortable situation and we were very gentle with him.

A couple of years down the line he rarely eats dinner here, but he will have breakfast if he stays over on a weekend. He will sit and have a beer or tea with us and chat away very comfortably and he came on holiday with us and we ate out most nights. It made a huge difference to all of us knowing what he could tolerate and we weren't offended at all.

Lets all be anxious/depressed together.

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