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kunst nugget · 30-10-2013 06:16PM

maximoose wrote: »

Report it. I'm sure grieving mothers aren't in the best state of mind and thinking properly, but this crap should not be on facebook.

Why? It's obviously a support for grieving mothers.

It seems to be in connection with this:

http://carlymarieprojectheal.com/2013/09/capture-your-grief-october-2013.html

beakerjoe · 30-10-2013 06:22PM

kunst nugget wrote: »

Why? It's obviously a support for grieving mothers.

It seems to be in connection with this:

http://carlymarieprojectheal.com/2013/09/capture-your-grief-october-2013.html

Seems like its for people who crave attention.

Maybe Im wrong.

I handle death and loss of a loved one privately. I dont see how posting things on facebook is anything but attention seeking.

kunst nugget · 30-10-2013 06:27PM

beakerjoe wrote: »

Seems like its for people who crave attention.

Maybe Im wrong.

I handle death and loss of a loved one privately. I dont see how posting things on facebook is anything but attention seeking.

I handle death and the loss the same as yourself but I recognise others people do it differently. A still birth or cot death has got to be absolutely cataclysmic so if it gives them comfort I'm not going to knock it. I'm not going to get angry with them for ruining my cup of tea.

Lollipops23 · 30-10-2013 06:28PM

kunst nugget wrote: »

Why? It's obviously a support for grieving mothers.

And what about other people who've lost babies and don't wish to deal with their grief like that?

Or pregnant women who don't need to see pics of dead babies when they're already terrified?

It's not appropriate and I also think when they're in their right minds they'll regret it.

beakerjoe · 30-10-2013 06:31PM

kunst nugget wrote: »

I handle death and the loss the same as yourself but I recognise others people do it differently. A still birth or cot death has got to be absolutely cataclysmic so if it gives them comfort I'm not going to knock it. I'm not going to get angry with them for ruining my cup of tea.

Ah maybe youre right, i just think theres way too many attention seekers on FB and it annoys me, so im just skeptical about some of these type of posts.

For example : A friend on FB will post many posts about how much it be great if her granddad is still around and how she misses him. She even wished him Happy Birthday on Facebook

Fact is she hated him and never gave him teh time of day when he was alive. Now she posts that drievel on FB in the hopes of getting likes and "hope ur ok hun" types replies.

EuskalHerria · 30-10-2013 06:34PM

For a topic as heavy as this, it's amazing how it seems to crop up every 10-15 pages of the thread.

kunst nugget · 30-10-2013 06:51PM

Lollipops23 wrote: »

And what about other people who've lost babies and don't wish to deal with their grief like that?

Or pregnant women who don't need to see pics of dead babies when they're already terrified?

It's not appropriate and I also think when they're in their right minds they'll regret it.

How are they forcing other people to change how they choose how deal with their grief by expressing it the way they want to? I'm not sure how that one works.

Tbh, when the missus was pregnant with our kids anything to do with pregnancy complications, genetic diseases, cot death or anything like that gave me the heebie jeebies but what was I going to do? Shut down the world while those pregnancies were occurring?

That whole 'when they're in their right minds' thing is bit strange to me tbf.

December2012 · 30-10-2013 07:00PM

Look, its actually something that charities who support families who have lost babies have said is something that the parents want to do, they find that sharing the pictures of the much loved child is helpful to those parents.

They are not doing it to upset anybody else, they are usually not doing it to get attention for the sake of getting attention - their world has been rocked and in that case netiquette or etiquette is and should go out the window.

Poor parents.

Cunning Stunt · 30-10-2013 07:37PM

Report her post? Attention seeking? I am flabbergasted. Some of the most insensitive posts I have seen on boards. :mad:

This woman probably had no chance to get a picture of her child when she was alive. What's wrong with putting her baby's picture on a site that just so happens to be dedicated to supporting baby lost parents and talking about her? So someone else came along and 'liked' the picture and it landed in your news feed, how is the mother to blame for that? Leave the woman alone. Everyone deals with grief in a different way - there is no set formula or 'etiquette' for it.

I am sure that the picture of the baby girl is beautiful and whether or not she had already passed before the pic was taken should be irrelevant.

SusieBlue · 30-10-2013 07:44PM

Eh, its something I have very mixed views on myself. I lost my daughter when she was born prematurely so its something that is very close to my heart.

Yes, on one hand, a mother should be able to post pictures of their much loved babies on facebook without it annoying other people. The baby will have been very much loved, and wanted, and why should a baby who has passed on be any different to a baby who made it? nobody ever has a problem with healthy, alive-and-kicking newborns.

Why should a mother hide away pictures of the baby she loves so much just because it might offend other people? Why should she not get to show off her perfect baby to her friends and family, and act as though sharing her baby is a shameful act?

On the other hand, I do think its in poor taste. I also see how it could terrify an expectant couple - I know it would scare me. Its also something that generally happens within the first few days of the death, when people are out of their minds with grief. Something they could very easily regret, because once its online, there's no getting it back.

I'm on a bereaved mothers forum and the only picture I ever posted was that of my daughters headstone. There are some really sick people out there who will do anything for attention - Someone stole my picture of my daughters headstone and used it as their own, for their pretend baby, on another forum. Its not unheard of for people to steal preemie pictures of baby angels and pass them off as their own, too. It sickens me, and my baby is sacred, which is why I have never shared any pictures of my daughter online.

I do, however, have pictures of Maisy all over my house. She was born sleeping, so yes, she had already passed away in them. I genuinely couldn't give two shíts if it offend's anyone that comes into my house, if they have an issue with it, its their problem, not mine and I'll make no apologies for it. I won't hide my daughter away as if she's some shameful secret incase it upsets anyone else.

Just my opinion as a mother who has lost a child. I wouldn't do it, but I can totally see why other mums would.

30-10-2013 08:06PM

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Richard Hillman · 30-10-2013 09:49PM

Richard Hillman wrote: »

"Happy birthday to my wonderful boyfriend <NAME> hope you have a great day babe love u to bits xxxxxxxx"

The chap is in prison for nearly hacking somebodies arm off with a machete and headbutting his ex-girlfriend with his baby in her arms. Wonderful boyfriend alright :pac:

The latest update from this girl after watching Fair City tonight

<FAIR CITY SPOILER>
<FAIR CITY SPOILER>
<FAIR CITY SPOILER>
<FAIR CITY SPOILER>

"Ding dong paddy bishop is dead thanks be to god that's the way all f#*Kers who beat their wife's and children should be !!!"

The chap she is with was convicted in court for headbutting his ex-gf

30-10-2013 10:12PM

Spoilers ffs! :mad:

Richard Hillman · 30-10-2013 10:15PM

Sorry about that

Driveby Dogboy · 31-10-2013 04:48AM

Dear girl in my class who hates me despite how much I desperately want to be your friend, you are seriously awesome. Every day you dress super cool, you obviously don't care what people think, you share your brilliant comments in class and you have a sweet cat keychain on your purse which I kind of want to steal... I want to be your friend so badly! Why must you constantly reject me?! I try saying 'Good Morning', I get a blank stare. I ask about your weekend, you say 'fine'. I try making jokes in class, to show you how funny I am and how much fun we would have if we hung out and became best friends forever, and you give me nothing. The other day I offered you a piece of my pumpkin muffin and you turned it down! Pumpkin muffins are fricken delicious and I wanted to share mine with you dammit!! I swear you are intentionally rejecting my efforts... Which is just rude really, considering I'm trying so hard... I wish I could MAKE you be my friend. But I can't. So I propose this, either suck it up and form 'TEAM SUPER FRIENDS' with me, or you have to quit being so damn cool and apparently awesome... Or you can switch classes. I will consider this last option an acceptable compromise.

Sunglasses Ron · 31-10-2013 07:07AM

CarMe wrote: »

I'm Facebook friends with a girl who had her first baby about six months ago and literally the minute she pushed her out she's been liking and sharing all these "like if your daughter is your whole world", "be proud of those marks your a tiger who earned her stripes", "I'm not just a mom, I'm a photographer, counselor, cook, cleaner etc" and the ones that piss me off the most are "like if you can relate", then pictures of a child saying can I have yours, will you tie my lace, will you give me a lift. How the hell can she relate to that??? Arghh!!!

Back in the Bebo days I knew a young wan who set up an account for her newborn daughter and would post messages "from" her daughter onto her own wall, "love you mammy" etc etc :pac:

That was about 50% of the content. The rest was mainly hate filled Jeremy Kyleish rants against the apparently absent father of the kid (whether the absence was his choice or hers I do not know nor care)

Paddy Cow · 31-10-2013 09:38AM

Driveby Dogboy wrote: »

Dear girl in my class who hates me despite how much I desperately want to be your friend, you are seriously awesome. Every day you dress super cool, you obviously don't care what people think, you share your brilliant comments in class and you have a sweet cat keychain on your purse which I kind of want to steal... I want to be your friend so badly! Why must you constantly reject me?! I try saying 'Good Morning', I get a blank stare. I ask about your weekend, you say 'fine'. I try making jokes in class, to show you how funny I am and how much fun we would have if we hung out and became best friends forever, and you give me nothing. The other day I offered you a piece of my pumpkin muffin and you turned it down! Pumpkin muffins are fricken delicious and I wanted to share mine with you dammit!! I swear you are intentionally rejecting my efforts... Which is just rude really, considering I'm trying so hard... I wish I could MAKE you be my friend. But I can't. So I propose this, either suck it up and form 'TEAM SUPER FRIENDS' with me, or you have to quit being so damn cool and apparently awesome... Or you can switch classes. I will consider this last option an acceptable compromise.

Tell me that's a joke

Love2love · 31-10-2013 09:59AM

Driveby Dogboy wrote: »

Dear girl in my class who hates me despite how much I desperately want to be your friend, you are seriously awesome. Every day you dress super cool, you obviously don't care what people think, you share your brilliant comments in class and you have a sweet cat keychain on your purse which I kind of want to steal... I want to be your friend so badly! Why must you constantly reject me?! I try saying 'Good Morning', I get a blank stare. I ask about your weekend, you say 'fine'. I try making jokes in class, to show you how funny I am and how much fun we would have if we hung out and became best friends forever, and you give me nothing. The other day I offered you a piece of my pumpkin muffin and you turned it down! Pumpkin muffins are fricken delicious and I wanted to share mine with you dammit!! I swear you are intentionally rejecting my efforts... Which is just rude really, considering I'm trying so hard... I wish I could MAKE you be my friend. But I can't. So I propose this, either suck it up and form 'TEAM SUPER FRIENDS' with me, or you have to quit being so damn cool and apparently awesome... Or you can switch classes. I will consider this last option an acceptable compromise.

The female equivalent of Stan

kunst nugget · 31-10-2013 10:22AM

Driveby Dogboy wrote: »

Dear girl in my class who hates me despite how much I desperately want to be your friend, you are seriously awesome. Every day you dress super cool, you obviously don't care what people think, you share your brilliant comments in class and you have a sweet cat keychain on your purse which I kind of want to steal... I want to be your friend so badly! Why must you constantly reject me?! I try saying 'Good Morning', I get a blank stare. I ask about your weekend, you say 'fine'. I try making jokes in class, to show you how funny I am and how much fun we would have if we hung out and became best friends forever, and you give me nothing. The other day I offered you a piece of my pumpkin muffin and you turned it down! Pumpkin muffins are fricken delicious and I wanted to share mine with you dammit!! I swear you are intentionally rejecting my efforts... Which is just rude really, considering I'm trying so hard... I wish I could MAKE you be my friend. But I can't. So I propose this, either suck it up and form 'TEAM SUPER FRIENDS' with me, or you have to quit being so damn cool and apparently awesome... Or you can switch classes. I will consider this last option an acceptable compromise.

I can smell the desperation. It smells like carrots and wee.

coolhull · 31-10-2013 10:22AM

Driveby Dogboy wrote: »

Dear girl in my class who hates me despite how much I desperately want to be your friend, you are seriously awesome. Every day you dress super cool, you obviously don't care what people think, you share your brilliant comments in class and you have a sweet cat keychain on your purse which I kind of want to steal... I want to be your friend so badly! Why must you constantly reject me?! I try saying 'Good Morning', I get a blank stare. I ask about your weekend, you say 'fine'. I try making jokes in class, to show you how funny I am and how much fun we would have if we hung out and became best friends forever, and you give me nothing. The other day I offered you a piece of my pumpkin muffin and you turned it down! Pumpkin muffins are fricken delicious and I wanted to share mine with you dammit!! I swear you are intentionally rejecting my efforts... Which is just rude really, considering I'm trying so hard... I wish I could MAKE you be my friend. But I can't. So I propose this, either suck it up and form 'TEAM SUPER FRIENDS' with me, or you have to quit being so damn cool and apparently awesome... Or you can switch classes. I will consider this last option an acceptable compromise.

Just a teeny bit of desperatitvon there?

Grayson · 31-10-2013 01:40PM

CarMe wrote: »

I'm Facebook friends with a girl who had her first baby about six months ago and literally the minute she pushed her out she's been liking and sharing all these "like if your daughter is your whole world", "be proud of those marks your a tiger who earned her stripes", "I'm not just a mom, I'm a photographer, counselor, cook, cleaner etc" and the ones that piss me off the most are "like if you can relate", then pictures of a child saying can I have yours, will you tie my lace, will you give me a lift. How the hell can she relate to that??? Arghh!!!

The great thing about facebook it it gives insight into how dim someone is. You could meet that person every day and never realise how self involved and stupid they are but 5 minutes on facebook sorts that out.

beakerjoe · 31-10-2013 01:43PM

Grayson wrote: »

The great thing about facebook it it gives insight into how dim someone is. You could meet that person every day and never realise how self involved and stupid they are but 5 minutes on facebook sorts that out.

Spot on. Facebook is great in that respect.

New lad joined the football team and added me after about 2 sessions. I soon found out hes the vainest man alive.

Kilkennyfella · 31-10-2013 02:08PM

"Oh gr8, another nite of not sleeping".

Ill tell ya what you absolute loser, why dont you try doing something during the day rather than watching Jeremy Kyle and wondering if you have seen the Deal or No Deal that is on at 4.15. Maybe then if you actually burnt some energy, go for a walk/run, jesus maybe even apply for a job or two you might be tired when normal people go asleep!

danger mouse · 31-10-2013 02:59PM

So here is the deal I was skypen a girl last night and I showed her things I shouldn't have and she recorded it and it treating me to send her money or she will send the video to all ye guys so if a video comes around of me yah know it a little whore looking for money I know I shouldnt have skypd her that atal buy now he know #liferuined

This is comedy gold.

Mince Pie · 31-10-2013 03:03PM

Idiots posting this bollix!

Fact: People with hazel/brown eyes are the most fun and happy. They kiss the best & will love when not wanted; they always end up falling for people they ...

:mad::mad::mad::mad:

yerwanthere123 · 31-10-2013 04:01PM

kunst nugget wrote: »

I can smell the desperation. It smells like carrots and wee.

And cats. Lots of cats.

yerwanthere123 · 31-10-2013 08:21PM

Ok, I'm going to have to get this off my chest, because it's bugging me. I'm well aware that certain people are talking about me, quite literally behind my back, who weren't even aware I was right there! And they claim that I'm a 'snob' for not saying hello to them at some point. Well guess what, I musn't have seen you! and you know I'm the type of person who likes to greet people I know when I see them, so this sudden remark not only ****ing SUCKS, it succeeds in significantly pissing me off! For you to make remarks about me the SECOND I seem to have failed to conform with some magicial social ritual, that makes YOU a snob, you absolute ****ING twat!!
Now, we're even.

:rolleyes:

siblers · 31-10-2013 08:32PM

Some clown put this up a few days ago

Better safe than sorry. As of October 20th, 2013 at 2:06 pm Eastern standard time, I do not give Facebook or any entities associated with Facebook permission to use my pictures, information, or posts, both past and future. By this statement, I give notice to Facebook it is strictly forbidden to disclose, copy, distribute, or take any other action against me based on this profile and/or its contents. The content of this profile is private and confidential information. The violation of privacy can be punished by law (UCC 1-308- 1 1 308-103 and the Rome Statute). NOTE: Facebook is now a public entity. All members must post a note like this. If you prefer, you can copy and paste this version. If you do not publish a statement at least once it will be tactically allowing the use of your photos, as well as the information contained in the profile status updates. DO NOT SHARE. U MUST COPY AND PASTE

I'm just waiting for other idiots to start sharing it

Also, another guy I'm friends with keeps putting up pictures like this

If I don't share it, does that mean I don't miss someone who has passed away? The mind boggles.

Auldloon · 31-10-2013 09:09PM

wnolan1992 wrote: »

I love how she compares gays and cattle... :rolleyes:

Bull dykes?

Sunglasses Ron · 31-10-2013 09:31PM

siblers wrote: »

Some clown put this up a few days ago

etter safe than sorry. As of October 20th, 2013 at 2:06 pm Eastern standard time, I do not give Facebook or any entities associated with Facebook permission to use my pictures, information, or posts, both past and future. By this statement, I give notice to Facebook it is strictly forbidden to disclose, copy, distribute, or take any other action against me based on this profile and/or its contents. The content of this profile is private and confidential information. The violation of privacy can be punished by law (UCC 1-308- 1 1 308-103 and the Rome Statute). NOTE: Facebook is now a public entity. All members must post a note like this. If you prefer, you can copy and paste this version. If you do not publish a statement at least once it will be tactically allowing the use of your photos, as well as the information contained in the profile status updates. DO NOT SHARE. U MUST COPY AND PASTE

I am baffled as to how some mongs think posting this ****e completely overrides anything they have agreed to under the terms and conditions upon signing up for FB :pac: There was a load of people putting these disclaimers on their status about a year ago (I think it concerned ownership of their photos?). I was quite surprised at the amount of generally smart friends of mine who fell for it!

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