The Fathers Thread

Darksaga87 · 28-04-2011 9:33pm

Trotter wrote: »

We "the survivors" who have got through our other half's labour with our liathroidí still attached, should have the guts to put real tips up here!! Real ones!

My real tip would be to spend as much time as possible away from the business end. Keep talking to your other half, and if she doesn't want to talk, stay where you are.

Im serious...

Leave your phone outside or turn it off. When family and friends know your in the hospital, my phone never stopped ringing, i turned it off, she wasnt too happy with the constant texts.

Trotter · 28-04-2011 9:35pm

Darksaga87 wrote: »

Im serious...

Leave your phone outside or turn it off. When family and friends know your in the hospital, my phone never stopped ringing, i turned it off, she wasnt too happy with the constant texts.

Agreed.. I left mine on the window sill and left it on silent. I had a sneaky check every couple of hours.

DUBACC · 29-04-2011 12:54pm

killiank wrote: »

delighted to say I got the good news today that im going to be a daddy. early days yet & I exepct to be spending a lot of time on this thread over the next 7/8 months. A lot of learning to do.

Congrats Killiank - welcome to the club! Long journey ahead but great fun!

January · 03-05-2011 3:13pm

Trotter wrote: »

Don't laugh when your other half has the epidural and starts talkin shoyte through sheer relief.. The midwife gives out to you.

Tip.

Or when they have the gas and air and start cracking jokes like they think they're a comedienne, crap jokes at that too...

Trotter · 03-05-2011 3:20pm

January wrote: »

Or when they have the gas and air and start cracking jokes like they think they're a comedienne, crap jokes at that too...

Yep. For the love of God if she makes a joke.. LAUGH.
Failure to laugh... I can't even bring myself to type the consequences.

napapa · 03-05-2011 3:25pm

forget about days dragging along! hours feel like days...:( the house looks like Mothercare, all my conversations are regarding labour and babies...
Can't concentrate in work, can't plan anything....this is feicin torture! Can't imagine what my gf is going through....

Fidge13 · 05-05-2011 7:48pm

well i'm a long way off that kind of worrying! My wife is due in November....but I'm planning ahead already - any b&bs near Holles Street that I could use if labour stretches on through the night? Any advice?

Trotter · 05-05-2011 8:11pm

Fidge13 wrote: »

well i'm a long way off that kind of worrying! My wife is due in November....but I'm planning ahead already - any b&bs near Holles Street that I could use if labour stretches on through the night? Any advice?

Your other half must be way sounder than mine.

I was allowed to go to the nearest Supermacs for half an hour. Once things got going then I didn't want to leave.. Nor would I have been allowed :P Bring one of those U shaped travel pillows. It's likely you'll just be sleeping for an hour or two in an armchair.

liliq · 05-05-2011 8:29pm

Fidge13 wrote: »

well i'm a long way off that kind of worrying! My wife is due in November....but I'm planning ahead already - any b&bs near Holles Street that I could use if labour stretches on through the night? Any advice?

If my boyfriend leaves me while I'm in labour to go any further than the nearest vending machine, he might not be allowed back! At all...!

Will have a little labour bag packed for himself as well, including pillow, blanket, snacks and drinks. Snacks and drinks being the important things for him as he has diabetes- I don't want him to have to go looking for food just as I'm about to start pushing! :eek::D:eek:

rameire · 05-05-2011 8:39pm

i brought snacks and drinks into the labour ward to help me survive while the wife was high on drugs,
the wife and midwife told me at one stage to go off and get a sambo and a coffee. went off for a half hour, scoffed the food and enjoyed it, and nothing had progressed when i got back.
longest day ever, but so emotional and well worth it.

EdgarAllenPoo · 08-05-2011 8:29am

We heard the heartbeat for the first time AND she started to feel kicks for the first time this week.

Not even physio is helping with the back pain (she has a bad back anyway).

I'm minding my P's and Q's (and every other letter for that matter) for fear of the hormonal consequences.

Hormones really are a handy excuse (whether that's to blame or not) for saying anything she likes and leaving me with no comeback. On the bright side only 4 months left.

Swampy · 08-05-2011 9:30am

Wahoo. A dad at last. Amazing stuff. Better get my act together now.

glic83 · 08-05-2011 10:42am

Mrs Glic is due Sat the 14th,cant wait the last few weeks have dragged i know when it all happens time will fly but for the moment its like its at a stand still

Swampy · 09-05-2011 7:45am

I know it's been said before but I now truely appreciate sleep!!!

pauldry · 09-05-2011 10:53pm

Yes this is what I should be reading. We are in week 27 of twin pregnancy. OMG the weeks go so slow and then when you have the critters you prob spend every waking minute(of which there are lots) thinking of whether they will be OK. Im supposed to be reading up on all the preger stuff but cant concentrate long enough so I decided to just set up a website called http://twinsmiles.com and write most of the stuff I learn into that as a way of keeping up to date. Try it yourselves. Write a blog. Its a great way of getting your stress down on paper.

killiank · 12-05-2011 8:25am

Hi Pauldry - as it happens I started writing a blog myself more just because there was so much going on in my head & I wanted to try to remember how I felt etc. I dont think anyone woudl be too interested in anything id have to say or anything but im hopeful my wife would like to read it after the birth & I think it will be a nice thing for myself to have a record of. (im a bit nerdy about keeping records like that

) I'll post a link in a week or 2 on the off chance that anyone is interested in reading but not a huge amount up there yet.

glic83 · 15-05-2011 10:19pm

Hey all,my wife had a baby boy friday night at 8.10,Ryan we are calling him,6lb 12 oz,got to go home 2day as well which was even better,best feeling in the world to see the little man after the 9 months wait!!!!!

DUBACC · 18-05-2011 11:56am

OK - into the home straight over here. Just over 2 weeks to go and the brain is about to explode with a million worries and fears. If i had to use one word it would be Aaaaaarrrrgghhhh!!!!

Funny thing is that the Mrs is so chilled about it but i am the one whose head seems to be rotating! To be honest im glad she is so relaxed but as i said above, Aaaaaarrrgh!!!

Any other lads feeling/felt like this?

napapa · 18-05-2011 12:16pm

Our baby daughter Sadhbh arrived on the weekend...cannot not express in words what it feels like to be a father. The smile is from ear to ear and I'm walking on air.

glic83 · 18-05-2011 2:13pm

DUBACC wrote: »

OK - into the home straight over here. Just over 2 weeks to go and the brain is about to explode with a million worries and fears. If i had to use one word it would be Aaaaaarrrrgghhhh!!!! Funny thing is that the Mrs is so chilled about it but i am the one whose head seems to be rotating! To be honest im glad she is so relaxed but as i said above, Aaaaaarrrgh!!!

Any other lads feeling/felt like this?

Only advice i can give is just to relax and make sure the Mrs is as relaxed as possible,just make sure ye have the bags ready and after that its down to when the baby wants to come

Trotter · 18-05-2011 2:52pm

glic83 wrote: »

Only advice i can give is just to relax and make sure the Mrs is as relaxed as possible,just make sure ye have the bags ready and after that its down to when the baby wants to come

Now's the time to chill out. Go to Penneys and buy 20 pairs of those pyjama pants that you can lob into the washing machine when you get puked on in a few weeks time!

LegacyUser · 19-05-2011 11:02am

My wife is 5 weeks ish now and the morning sickness has just started. she wanted to have toast this morning but the toaster wouldn’t "Stay down" she called me crying about not been able to have toast. Told her to try the kettle in that socket and it too didnt work. told her to go to the fuse board and see if any of them are down. One was and she pushed it back up. She pushed down the toast and it stayed down. the change in her mood was unreal. Is this going to be the norm for the next 35 weeks?

Orion · 19-05-2011 11:09am

For the next 16 years

amiable · 19-05-2011 11:15am

newtothis30 wrote: »

My wife is 5 weeks ish now and the morning sickness has just started. she wanted to have toast this morning but the toaster wouldn’t "Stay down" she called me crying about not been able to have toast. Told her to try the kettle in that socket and it too didnt work. told her to go to the fuse board and see if any of them are down. One was and she pushed it back up. She pushed down the toast and it stayed down. the change in her mood was unreal. Is this going to be the norm for the next 35 weeks?

We all have bad days. Not just pregnant women.

She may have been extremely sick this morning.

Its a small price us blokes make compared to what our ladies put themselves through.

If its morning sickness it doesn't usually last after 12 weeks if remember right.

DUBACC · 19-05-2011 12:40pm

glic83 wrote: »

Only advice i can give is just to relax and make sure the Mrs is as relaxed as possible,just make sure ye have the bags ready and after that its down to when the baby wants to come

Cheers glic, all calm again now - just had a moment yesterday!! Yeah we have everything packed. Went shopping last night and got everything, including the 'to-be-puked-on' stuff!!
Really looking forward to it now i have to say.

glic83 · 19-05-2011 12:56pm

DUBACC wrote: »

Cheers glic, all calm again now - just had a moment yesterday!! Yeah we have everything packed. Went shopping last night and got everything, including the 'to-be-puked-on' stuff!!
Really looking forward to it now i have to say.

Ryan was born last friday night the 1st few days are non stop but they do calm down,your wife/parter is going to be sore,tired and emotional just be there for here as much as you can and make sure she relaxes as much as possible after the birth as it will take time for her to get her strenght back up,still you will love every minute of it

cbyrd · 20-05-2011 8:52pm

newtothis30 wrote: »

My wife is 5 weeks ish now and the morning sickness has just started. she wanted to have toast this morning but the toaster wouldn’t "Stay down" she called me crying about not been able to have toast. Told her to try the kettle in that socket and it too didnt work. told her to go to the fuse board and see if any of them are down. One was and she pushed it back up. She pushed down the toast and it stayed down. the change in her mood was unreal. Is this going to be the norm for the next 35 weeks?

yes. . . although it might get a little more obscure and you may not even get a reason for the tears or hysteria :pac:
i reckon it prepares you for not being able to communicate with a baby and having to do a load of guesswork. . .

:D

killiank · 26-05-2011 3:41pm

Myself & my wife were away in france for a short break with her family & its has turned out to be a bit of a disaster. She is 9 weeks gone now.

Firstly I came down with pneumonia. No Idea how or where I got it but its not pleasant & I havent slept in 5 days & just spend the whole time sweating & feeling as ill as I have ever done. My wifes sickness hasnt been so good recently either but Im unable to really do anything for her.

Secondly my wifes nephew who was away with us caught chicken pox & we would have been in contact with him all the time in the pool etc. I have had chicken pox before but my wife hasnt so that caused an awful panic. She went into the Rotunda yesterday & had the antibody added via a drip so she shouldnt get it now. Begs the question though should all women who havent had chicken pox get this done.

Anyway lets hope things get better from here. We arent letting ourselves get down about it all:)

paper cut · 26-05-2011 5:17pm

k4899g wrote: »

18 weeks so still early. I am just hoping that things will change once he sees the baby. I'm too embarrassed to talk to friends and family about it.

I hoped that my baby would have two loving parents but now I don't know what's ahead.

Sounds very selfish to me. Its both your future now whether or not he likes it. His no.1 responsibility now is his family.
My wife has just gone thru' our third miscarriage with triplets.
I would give up everything to be in his position.

LegacyUser · 27-05-2011 7:42pm

so after posting a 2 years ago in the relationship section and listening to some amazing people and numeous helpful messages. i took the bull by the horns and shook off my now ex who was driving me to clinical depression.

I since met the love of my life and things have never ever been better.

neways enough of me yammering on... it was my birthday the other day and i got the best present anyone could ever want.

Im going to be a daddy

amiable · 30-05-2011 8:35am

I just found out a short while ago we're having a little girl.

I'm buzzing now cos everything is fine:)

We couldn't find out at the first scan as she had her legs crossed

Only 6 weeks to go

LegacyUser · 08-06-2011 12:08pm

Just had the 8 week scan yesterday and they said we are 8 weeks and 4 days. The doc and my wife could see the heart betting, I couldnt make out baby even let along the heart!!! Im still not let use my name "Just in case someone on here knows you" I'm not let tell anyone until after the 12 weeks even though she is telling work today(Because she has to) and she is also telling a friend from work. when i asked could I do that well lets just say i wont be asking again

BUT ANYWAY I GOT TO SEE MY BABY...

DUBACC · 11-06-2011 8:47am

Hi All,

IM A DADDY!!!!! Finally, after what seemed like a 15 month pregnancy my lovely wife gave birth to a beautiful baby girl on Thursday. Both are doing well. To all you men who weren't sure about looking at the 'business end' during the birth - just do it!! It's just a truly awesome experience!! :eek::D

Oh, and after watching a woman go through this, every mother is a total hero in my eyes. Us men are complete wimps in comparison!

glic83 · 11-06-2011 8:59am

Congratulations,absolutely the best feeling in the world becoming a dad

amiable · 11-06-2011 9:03am

DUBACC wrote: »

Hi All,

IM A DADDY!!!!! Finally, after what seemed like a 15 month pregnancy my lovely wife gave birth to a beautiful baby girl on Thursday. Both are doing well. To all you men who weren't sure about looking at the 'business end' during the birth - just do it!! It's just a truly awesome experience!! :eek::D

Oh, and after watching a woman go through this, every mother is a total hero in my eyes. Us men are complete wimps in comparison!

Great news. Congratulations

doubletrouble? · 16-06-2011 4:28pm

we had to go abroad as we couldn't conceive naturally. so last week the O.H. had an eight week scan and it was confirmed then that we're having twins. words cant and to this day still cannot describe how we feel. T.B.H. i've never been one for kids but when i heard their wee heart beats i just went to jelly, and now with the morning sickness well and truly under way it's slowly starting to hit us that it's actually real.

-Corkie- · 17-06-2011 8:28pm

doubletrouble? wrote: »

we had to go abroad as we couldn't conceive naturally. so last week the O.H. had an eight week scan and it was confirmed then that we're having twins. words cant and to this day still cannot describe how we feel. T.B.H. i've never been one for kids but when i heard their wee heart beats i just went to jelly, and now with the morning sickness well and truly under way it's slowly starting to hit us that it's actually real.

Congratulations! My wife is 38 weeks now so things are geting close. The sickness didnt go until 17 weeks and came back again..

Its nice to hear a good news story like yours! Hope all goes well for you both.:)

smokingman · 22-06-2011 9:02pm

I'm already a dad with a little fella that'll be two in November but we're expecting twins in August/September. Three kids under two is a daunting prospect but I'm looking forward to it all the same. I don't think I can fully remember the first six months with the first little man; he didn't sleep that well but he didn't have collic or anything so we were lucky in that regard.

Little fella is a ball of fun and constantly laughing, pointing at cars and saying "de de..car!" and his latest thing is showing off the most unique dance I've ever seen at the slightest hint of music.

Even though it's tough at the start lads, never worry too much. It's worth every second.

I have noticed that the OHs snoring right now is worse than the first time though...
I'm a heavy sleeper and if I don't get to sleep first, I'm likely to be awake for quite a while....anyone else have that?

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Paparazzo · 27-06-2011 8:35pm

Not sure if it's the right thread, but can any fathers recommend a good book to prepare for fatherhood? Obviously a book will never prepare you, but I'd still like a read of something father related!
Baby is due at the end of october btw

DublinWriter · 27-06-2011 8:41pm

Paparazzo wrote: »

Not sure if it's the right thread, but can any fathers recommend a good book to prepare for fatherhood? Obviously a book will never prepare you, but I'd still like a read of something father related!
Baby is due at the end of october btw

Yeah...the biggest hardback book you can get your hands on, and instead of reading it, bash yourself on the head with it constantly for three minutes to simulate the effects of sleep-deprivation.

Seriously, the 'What to Expect' series is pretty good.

Sniipe · 29-06-2011 1:12pm

Paparazzo wrote: »

Not sure if it's the right thread, but can any fathers recommend a good book to prepare for fatherhood? Obviously a book will never prepare you, but I'd still like a read of something father related!
Baby is due at the end of october btw

I am reading this book:
The New Father: A Dad's Guide to the First Year. Its cool for monthly breakdowns.

I'm also reading the new contented little baby which is better for preparation and some good baby tips.

killiank · 29-06-2011 7:51pm

DublinWriter wrote: »

Yeah...the biggest hardback book you can get your hands on, and instead of reading it, bash yourself on the head with it constantly for three minutes to simulate the effects of sleep-deprivation.

Seriously, the 'What to Expect' series is pretty good.

Ive read "the blokes guide to pregnancy" by John Smith & am currently reading "fatherhood" by Marcus Berkmann. (I dont know why I thought I needed to read two books,) If I was to pick one id go for "fatherhood" simply because it has given me a good few laughs & plenty of joke lines ive been able to claim as my own. Both give you what you need to know & I quite enjoyed reading them apart from the fact that they give you what you need to know.

My wife is making her way through "the day by day pregnancy book" by Doctor Maggie Blott. Firstly its a big hardback & would be perfect for what Diblinwriter suggests but it also gives me a better idea of what my wife is going through. Theres pretty much a page for every day & you just read it during the adds on TV.

doubletrouble? · 01-07-2011 9:53am

DublinWriter wrote: »

Seriously, the 'What to Expect' series is pretty good.

had to see one of my company doctors recently and explained the whole situ of the wife being pregnant, constantly sick all the time and my head being melted just watching and doing nothing. at then end of it all she recommended "what to expect when your expecting". went out and bought it. so far looks like a good book, on the back theres other editions one called " what to expect the first year". by the way the authors name is heidi murkoff.

amiable · 01-07-2011 10:05am

My other half just had a sweep performed this morning so it could be all systems go very soon:)

Gers_punto · 01-07-2011 6:48pm

found out a few weeks ago my lady is pregnant and had the most amazing day yesterday, the scan is possibly the coolest thing i have ever seen , mad how clear it was no one can believe it, its like a fully formed lil person already not just the usual looking at a picture wondering whats going on lol

Trotter · 01-07-2011 10:38pm

Gers_punto wrote: »

found out a few weeks ago my lady is pregnant and had the most amazing day yesterday, the scan is possibly the coolest thing i have ever seen , mad how clear it was no one can believe it, its like a fully formed lil person already not just the usual looking at a picture wondering whats going on lol

Time flies.. This time last year I was looking at my little one on the scan.. Today she's been sticking her tongue out at me and has recently taken to blowing mushed carrots all over the TV.

Enjoy it

badgerhowlin · 04-07-2011 7:20am

I can finally start to post here now as we have passed the 12 week mark and told all the family! Come on jan 13th.

Gers_punto · 05-07-2011 11:18pm

absolutly can nt wait to see our il baby, been looking at the scan picture in bewilderment since we got it done... Really cannot believe it has happened me, its everything i ever wanted with the only woman ill ever need...

its true what they say it changes your life. were 14 weeks gone and its 11 weeks gone that have been the best of my life. Picking up the essentials bit by bit..

so so excited

red fraggle · 06-07-2011 1:03pm

badgerhowlin wrote: »

I can finally start to post here now as we have passed the 12 week mark and told all the family! Come on jan 13th.

come on this fri til we see the baby again!

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