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I'm not in one, thank god! Rant over.

Little Miss! wrote: »

Hey all,

So here goes..... broke up with my boyfriend of 6 years at xmas as i'm working full-time and studying part-time and he didn't feel he was getting enough love and attention. We were living separating but had lived together for 5 years previous to me starting college. I did try to get home to see him every weekend (home being over 150km away), but after working the full week and being at college 2 nights, i was so tired by the time i got there i'd just want to sleep and the form probably wouldn't be the best.

Anyways, this morning he told me he's seeing someone new. I know everyone has to go through this but for some strange reason i thought we'd get back together and that we were only taking a break while i was at college.

I know i'd have no right to ask him to wait for me and i didn't, but i guess i just thought after all we'd been through we would wait for each other, obviously not.

And to make matters worse, i'm right in the middle of my college exams so this couldn't happen at a worse time. I'm starting to wonder what's the point anymore, i thought i was pushing myself to work and study to make life better for both of us, but now i'm totally alone and basically lost

Any help ye ladies could give me to help me through this would be great

You poor, poor thing. Thats a terrible feeling. Ive felt it myself though I was only with the guy 2 and a half years.
I have to agree with what others have said. You made the right decision by going to that college to better your future. If he wasn't willing to support you then you're probably better off (though I imagine thats not exactly how you feel right now).
My sister and her now husband split up after a few years together because she wanted to study in London. When she returned home on a break, he was with someone else. She cried for days on end. She had a rebound relationship which didnt last too long. On her birthday, they got back together and theyre now married with 2 kids. People can get back together after being with other people. Even if you don't, you might find you're even happier with someone else.
My first long-term bf broke up with me during my exams. They really dont think about how their actions might affect you and how this gravely affects your study. Get your own back by putting the head down and giving it your all. You deserve it!!!!!!

the boy and i have been so grumpy with each other the last week or so cause of our exams. cannot wait to get them finished and get home to see him

Apologies for man-post; seeking insight from other side.

Both 25, going out a few months, everything really great, no problems. Couldn't get enough of each other and always (normally) happy to see each other. I spent a lot of time at her place, but only at her request.

She's a smashing girl. Her friends, housemates, family (that I've met) like me. We've just finished our postgrads. We even talked of travelling together, and there's been no I-love-yous, talk of ex's, or moving in together stuff. Maybe I do love her. Who knows.

Things got hectic for her toward the end of college, she kept to herself and didn't pay much attention to me, grand, but things haven't changed a week later.

I call into her place, suddenly she wants space. After a few days, and almost no contact, I call into her again and talk it over for a few hours, she's not sure anymore, "doesn't know if we're right for each other", says "we are into different things" and "isn't sure what she wants to do with herself at the moment." Yet, she doesn't want to break up with me until she knows herself. I'm fairly confident she's not seeing anyone else or is interested in anyone else. I listened and gave my tuppence - didn't turn into a sobbing wreck or get angry or anything.

We embraced and had a long kiss just before I left. Before this I think I announced three times during the day that I was heading home but I kinda sense neither of us really wanted to be apart.

She's gone to see her parents for a few days and says she'll see me next week. I've a strong feeling it's not going to go my way. The question:

Call her every day or so and let her know I exist or do absolutely nothing? (any other non-black and white options / advice welcomed)

The other question: What is up with her?

FYI
I'm not totally destroyed over this, I've been in several relationships before and am generally staying upbeat. As I said she's a great girl, we have a lot of fun together (normally), and we're never stuck for anything to say or do together (normally). I'd really like to see this one last.

Thanks,

Peared wrote: »

Well what would you do if you were seeing a girl and you told her you wanted space and then she called every day to remind you she was alive?

Question answered.

This is very true... (no appropriate smiley faces to hand..)

-Freebird- wrote: »

.The whole 'Don't know if we're right for each other' after talking of traveling together, introducing you to family/friends doesn't add up.

..You're telling me it doesn't..

As for Abigayle.. true it isn't really acceptable behaviour at all but I'm such a shmuk I'm willing to put up with it because I like this one.

I think at this stage I'll just sweat it out and wait for her to call. When I say wait I mean go and get some sunshine...

Abigayle wrote: »

Im not saying you are, but forcing the issue with her wont make you an attractive prospect to her. You are too readily available to her.Have a little bit of pride in yourself, and remind yourself that you are a good catch, and you dont deserve being left dangling

+1. Don't get all needy and clingy, show that you're willing to walk away.
She's probably testing you (maybe unknowingly)