Men No Longer Want to Date, Why?

Average age tends to be early 30s through to 50s. Men are likely to be a bit older than the average ages of the women. People with money in their pockets (professionals rather than wealthy), although it's not a creepy Sugar Daddy vibe. A little more expensive than the average pub.. but not so much that you'd notice the difference. (TBH considering how much it cost me on my last night out in Dublin, it's probably cheaper overall) Plus they tend to have late night licenses so keep going the same as the clubs (4-5am)

If you're ever in Singapore or Tokyo, they've got some of the biggest selection of singles bars I've seen anywhere.

I gave up on the dating multiple people years ago. I don't have the energy or the patience, because if you're doing that, then they're doing the same thing.

I haven't been interested in "just a shag" for a long time now... and I'd be similar to you in regards to not cheating. Nah. I am single now, but I tend to date people for long periods, hoping for something even longer, but I'm not crying in my cups if it doesn't work out, and I'm back to being single.

Had a girlfriend when I left China to come home for a 2 week holiday, and covid intervened.. couldn't expect her to remain with me during that, and while I've dabbled with dating here, I haven't had much luck. Nobody has really gotten me fascinated in them yet, but here's hoping.

Actually, I think you've hit the nail on the head there. All these freedoms, and the ability to have "love" or sex in such a casual manner has taken a lot of the "umpf" out of being with other people. Oh, sure, there's a lot of fun to be had when you're young (although I think even that's exaggerated alot unless you're particularly hot or wealthy), but once you've had a series of sexual relationships, it becomes kinda tedious.

Whenever I see posters talking "hard" about sex, I just think they're not getting any. Scarcity mentality, tends to focus the mind and attitude on sex... but when you're getting plenty of good or great sex, it stops being so important. It's the relationship itself, the connection, the intimacy, the trust, the fascination, that becomes important.. and it seems so scarce now. It's so easy to become jaded when you're single for extended periods.

Like I think of my parents. My mother had one boyfriend before my father, and my father had two girlfriends. For both, they were non-sexual (apparently, but I do kinda believe them) until they met and dated, and the sex didn't happen until they had declared their seriousness to each other. Marriage came quickly after.. although perhaps too quickly considering when my eldest brother was born. Still.. there was an innocence to their relationship, that I don't think I've ever experienced myself. And now, I'm not going to.

I do think we've lost something important when it comes to intimacy and relationships, in this mad dash to show how free we are, and that we can have sex whenever we want. It stops being important so quickly... Oh, I appreciate there are still people who "fall in love" early in life, and have had very few partners, but they're an extreme minority among the people I know.