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Would you date a single mother?

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    #32
    14dMoney
    Registered Users Posts: 407 ✭✭14dMoney


    Woke Hogan wrote: »
    And people whose formative life experiences came from watching episodes of Friends, I would guess. Wouldn't "date" a single mother because of the "baggage," indeed.

    Well it depends what you consider baggage. I despise children, so a single mother definitely has baggage for me.


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    #33
    Tell me how
    Registered Users Posts: 21,517 ✭✭✭✭Tell me how


    14dMoney wrote: »
    Well it depends what you consider baggage. I despise children, so a single mother definitely has baggage for me.

    That's your baggage my friend.


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    #34
    ELM327
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    I would always have said no, but I'm now 7 years together with a single mother of 2.


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    #35
    Cork Trucker
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    leitrim4life wrote: »
    Single mothers would be loose , hence why they are single, therefore more likely to put out.

    I didn't have that issue :D


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    #36
    14dMoney
    Registered Users Posts: 407 ✭✭14dMoney


    Tell me how wrote: »
    That's your baggage my friend.

    No it isn't. The child belongs to her.


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    #37
    freshpopcorn
    Registered Users Posts: 30,201 ✭✭✭✭freshpopcorn


    I'd be very open to it to be honest if we clicked.
    Once she didn't have six kids with loads of different guys.


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    #38
    Schwanz
    Closed Accounts Posts: 898 ✭✭✭Schwanz


    You meet a nice girl, you fancy her & then she tells you she has children......

    Your loss really when you see that as a negative.


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    #39
    Woke Hogan
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,630 ✭✭✭Woke Hogan


    14dMoney wrote: »
    Well it depends what you consider baggage. I despise children, so a single mother definitely has baggage for me.
    You're such a Phoebe.


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    #40
    Schwanz
    Closed Accounts Posts: 898 ✭✭✭Schwanz


    leitrim4life wrote: »
    Single mothers would be loose , hence why they are single, therefore more likely to put out.

    Idiot post of the century there pal.


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    #41
    One eyed Jack
    Registered Users Posts: 23,671 ✭✭✭✭One eyed Jack


    Schwanz wrote: »
    You meet a nice girl, you fancy her & then she tells you she has children......

    Your loss really when you see that as a negative.


    “You meet a nice girl, you fancy her & then she tells you she has a penis......

    Your loss really when you see that as a negative.”



    Quite honestly, I think I’ll be ok :pac:


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    #42
    Schwanz
    Closed Accounts Posts: 898 ✭✭✭Schwanz


    One eyed Jack wrote: »
    “You meet a nice girl, you fancy her & then she tells you she has a penis......

    Your loss really when you see that as a negative.”



    Quite honestly, I think I’ll be ok :pac:

    WTF are you on about?


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    #43
    FunLover18
    Registered Users Posts: 6,793 ✭✭✭FunLover18


    Tell me how wrote: »
    Yes. But...... I would try to really suss out long term compatibility asap before bonding with her child.

    Don't like the idea of connecting with a child but 12 months later disappearing.

    (I wouldn't automatically assume them being a mother equates to baggage)

    This is pretty much how I feel, except I know that I don't want kids so I wouldn't want to waste either of our time with something casual that I know I don't want to go anywhere further.


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    #44
    freshpopcorn
    Registered Users Posts: 30,201 ✭✭✭✭freshpopcorn


    Schwanz wrote: »
    You meet a nice girl, you fancy her & then she tells you she has children......

    Your loss really when you see that as a negative.

    To be fair I don't think everybody wants to signed up to the whole kids thing early in a relationship. It may not be the type of lifestyle for them.


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    #45
    _blaaz
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    Id be wary of it....dating is enough hassle as it is,without heaping more hardship into the situation



    Im not a child friendly person,just not for me,so wouldnt be fair on anyone involved....that being said...if was right person and a good fit...why not like


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    #46
    Gimme A Pound
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,482 ✭✭✭Gimme A Pound


    If people don't want to be in a relationship with someone who has a child or children, so what? Nothing wrong with that. It's not easy.

    As said though, the older a person is when single, the less choice they have in the matter. And if you like them enough, you might give making it work a shot.


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    #47
    One eyed Jack
    Registered Users Posts: 23,671 ✭✭✭✭One eyed Jack


    Schwanz wrote: »
    WTF are you on about?


    I’m pointing out the sheer stupidity of your assertion that someone else’s dealbreakers are their loss. It’s an incredibly arrogant assumption on someone else’s part to assume that the other person is losing out on something because they don’t share your opinion.

    Kinda reminds me of when women assume I must be gay because I don’t want to date them, my loss though, apparently :rolleyes:


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    #48
    Henry Ford III
    Moderators, Business & Finance Moderators Posts: 17,621 Mod ✭✭✭✭Henry Ford III


    If she was sane and had a nice ass it'd have to be a possibility.





    p.s. Yes.


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    #49
    Schwanz
    Closed Accounts Posts: 898 ✭✭✭Schwanz


    One eyed Jack wrote: »
    Kinda reminds me of when women assume I must be gay because I don’t want to date them, my loss though, apparently :rolleyes:

    It's all about you pal isn't it?

    Nice rant though.


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    #50
    stateofflux
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    Not a chance. too complicated. Not into potentially being a surrogate dad plus this triangle s*ite with the ex who could well be a psycho.


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    #51
    Odyssey 2005
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    No. My missus would smother me !


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    #52
    One eyed Jack
    Registered Users Posts: 23,671 ✭✭✭✭One eyed Jack


    Schwanz wrote: »
    It's all about you pal isn't it?

    Nice rant though.


    It’s not about me at all, it’s about your assumptions about how other people have lost out if they have dealbreakers, like finding out a woman they like has children from a previous relationship.

    That’s a dealbreaker not just for many men, but for many women too. And it’s fine, nobody has lost out because there’s no shortage in Irish society even of single people who don’t have children. It’s not something to get upset about if you like someone and find out later there’s something you don’t like about them and call it a day on that basis.


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    #53
    Strumms
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    I did about ten years ago. Kinda fell into the relationship from being slightly flirty mates first. She had two kids, really nice little people, it ultimately didn’t work out.... she could be pretty impatient with them, maybe from the workload and stress of working, being a mother of two little busy girls, keeping a house...she’d have not much patience for perceived problems with them or anyone which in the end was the major catalyst for the split.


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    #54
    DublinWriter
    Registered Users Posts: 9,555 ✭✭✭DublinWriter


    Interesting that the OP noted a 'single' mother, as opposed to a divorced or widowed woman.

    Makes you wonder about how attitudes have really changed in Ireland in 2019.


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    #55
    nthclare
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 3,316 ✭✭✭nthclare


    Gimme A Pound wrote: »
    If people don't want to be in a relationship with someone who has a child of children, so what? Nothing wrong with that. It's not easy.

    As said though, the older a person is when single, the less choice they have in the matter. And if you like them enough, you might give making it work a shot.

    That's true it's very hard on single mothers, I've a few friend who has an authistic kid and the very minute she says it on a date the guys loose interest.

    The bstrd of a father won't even see his own son because he's such hard work, she gets 4 hour's respite on a Saturday and that's it....

    She's very frustrated if you get my drift, but wants a relationship...

    Not into ons or fck budding want's a proper relationship, caught between a rock and a hard place...


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    #56
    Gimme A Pound
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,482 ✭✭✭Gimme A Pound


    DublinWriter wrote: »
    Interesting that the OP noted a 'single' mother, as opposed to a divorced or widowed woman.

    Makes you wonder about how attitudes have really changed in Ireland in 2019.
    I wouldn't read that into it when it's just one person and it's something that has become a turn of phrase free of judgement much of the time.

    What i don't get is the assumption by the OP that everyone here is only attracted to women.


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    #57
    One eyed Jack
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    Gimme A Pound wrote: »
    I wouldn't read that into it when it's just one person and it's something that has become a turn of phrase free of judgement much of the time.

    What i don't get is the assumption by the OP that everyone here is only attracted to women.


    Much as the OP can start some head melter threads, there’s nothing in their opening post to indicate they assume everyone here is only attracted to women. You might as well take issue with the fact they didn’t make any assumptions about lesbians and people who are transgender either.

    Or you could just be fair to the guy and assume he’s straight, and it’s a fairly straightforward question that doesn’t need reading into.


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    #58
    eviltwin
    Registered Users Posts: 17,495 ✭✭✭✭eviltwin


    One eyed Jack wrote: »
    Much as the OP can start some head melter threads, there’s nothing in their opening post to indicate they assume everyone here is only attracted to women. You might as well take issue with the fact they didn’t make any assumptions about lesbians and people who are transgender either.

    Or you could just be fair to the guy and assume he’s straight, and it’s a fairly straightforward question that doesn’t need reading into.

    Maybe it's because some people have assumptions about single mothers and their characters that they don't have about single dads


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    #59
    14dMoney
    Registered Users Posts: 407 ✭✭14dMoney


    Gimme A Pound wrote: »
    I wouldn't read that into it when it's just one person and it's something that has become a turn of phrase free of judgement much of the time.

    What i don't get is the assumption by the OP that everyone here is only attracted to women.

    I'm attracted to women Ergo, the thread is about women. Go figure.


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    #60
    jaxxx
    Registered Users Posts: 3,230 ✭✭✭jaxxx


    No, and only because I don't want kids. Literally the only reason.


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    #61
    One eyed Jack
    Registered Users Posts: 23,671 ✭✭✭✭One eyed Jack


    eviltwin wrote: »
    Maybe it's because some people have assumptions about single mothers and their characters that they don't have about single dads


    To be fair to him the OP just cleared it up there himself -

    14dMoney wrote: »
    I'm attracted to women Ergo, the thread is about women. Go figure.


    Single fathers get a different set of assumptions about their character :D


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