Would you date a single mother?

Tell me how

nthclare wrote: »

Wtf

They're a serial re-regger who is posting that wall of text on numerous accounts over the last 12 or 14 hours.

Genuinely feel a bit sorry for them behind it all.

nthclare

kikilarue2 wrote: »

There was no banter in that story. It was replete with 1950s Catholic judgement and jealousy.

A charming, articulate, attractive woman who has a child has no trouble finding men to date and that offends you because what - she wouldn't give you a second look?

I'd say now you're more of a Pony Sugrue yourself somehow.

Sure come up with assumptions out of my post's that's ok.

Yes she's no problems finding a date, I dated her myself, but could see the wood from the tree's.

I'm not undermining the truth, she told me straight out after the second date she'd like a partner who'd be into helping her with the kids, she's honest and sincere about it, more power to her.

Ok calling her the local bike was probably a bit much, looking back it was disrespectful but I didn't come up with all those conclusion because I was jilted...

Sometimes I can hit rock bottom with my post's and probably a different mind set.....

But back to Pony Sugrue....how are you

chrissb8

Schwanz wrote: »

You meet a nice girl, you fancy her & then she tells you she has children......

Your loss really when you see that as a negative.

Yes it is a negative. Plenty of people want to go on the journey of developing a relationship from the beginning.

Falling in love, getting married (or not) and then having their first ever child together. That is actually probably the more common thing done so yes, it would be negative, and rightly in some people's eyes.

s7ryf3925pivug

I reckon whether you would or not is your own business and neither attitude is intrinsically better per se, just better or worse for you personally.

I mean most of this thread seems to be arguing which position is superior. It's kinda nonsense; just think about what suits you, dont try to conform to or dictate some idea of how people should be.

Tell me how

Annalee Wooden Pink wrote: »

I reckon whether you would or not is your own business and neither attitude is intrinsically better per se, just better or worse for you personally.

I mean most of this thread seems to be arguing which position is superior. It's kinda nonsense; just think about what suits you, dont try to conform to or dictate some idea of how people should be.

Agree in terms of dictating. Discussion is good though, as long as it's give and take.

ebbsy

Well at least the mother has done it once ?

kikilarue2

Annalee Wooden Pink wrote: »

I reckon whether you would or not is your own business and neither attitude is intrinsically better per se, just better or worse for you personally.

I mean most of this thread seems to be arguing which position is superior. It's kinda nonsense; just think about what suits you, dont try to conform to or dictate some idea of how people should be.

I think either position is fine, I just think most people don’t really know how they would feel unless they’re in that position.

One eyed Jack

kikilarue2 wrote: »

I think either position is fine, I just think most people don’t really know how they would feel unless they’re in that position.

That’s like saying most people who are against the idea of dating someone they aren’t attracted to don’t really know how they would feel unless they’re in that position. They do, which is precisely why they don’t want to be in that position in the first place.

monseiur

A good friend of mine was going out with a nurse for over 6 months last year, she was from another county 90 miles away but worked in the local hospital.
She worked different shifts every week, so would sometimes visit her home place mid week so between one thing and another he never got to visit her home place or meet her folks - she always had some excuse..
One night, when they were out, he was set upon in the pubs toilet by two men who he never met before. He was savagely beaten up and warned to stay away from his 'girlfriend' To cut a long story short she had a child at home cared for by her parents which, of course she never mentioned.
It was the child's father and a friend that beat him up. Ironically the injured party ended up in the hospital where this single mother worked.

Single mums are very popular with both single and married men for a one night stand, they're more desperate and have a smaller pool to choose form than single girls. If they're out on a Saturday night, paying a baby sitter etc. they sure make the most of it. I know a few plumbers, electricians etc. who do small repair jobs for them and never get cash payment....always payment in kind - one lad deliberately leaves a loose fitting, dripping tap or air locked rad. to ensure he'll be called back....these repairs are almost always made late in the evening/weekends:)

Bigbagofcans

monseiur wrote: »

I know a few plumbers, electricians etc. who do small repair jobs for them and never get cash payment....always payment in kind - one lad deliberately leaves a loose fitting, dripping tap or air locked rad. to ensure he'll be called back....these repairs are almost always made late in the evening/weekends:)

How about telling us some real life tales instead of your recent internet history?

Autecher

Bigbagofcans wrote: »

How about telling us some real life tales instead of your recent internet history?

No Bigbagofcans, don't ruin it for me! I just enrolled in a part time plumbing course based on that post!

monseiur

Bigbagofcans wrote: »

How about telling us some real life tales instead of your recent internet history?

Unfortunately it's a real life story and he still has both physical and mental scars and when it eventually gets to court chances are you will be reading about it in papers.
Regarding the plumbers etc. that's hardly breaking news, women have been using their '' charm '' to get what they want since the dawn of time, after all single mums have the same desires as married ones but some need some pretext to get a man to call, and some 'handy men' ensure that they are called. That's life in the real world, regrettably it's not a tall tale - and life for many single mothers is a sad, lonely and difficult one, the more fortunate ones have parents, extended families etc. to help.

eviltwin

monseiur wrote: »

Unfortunately it's a real life story and he still has both physical and mental scars and when it eventually gets to court chances are you will be reading about it in papers.
Regarding the plumbers etc. that's hardly breaking news, women have been using their '' charm '' to get what they want since the dawn of time, after all single mums have the same desires as married ones but some need some pretext to get a man to call, and some 'handy men' ensure that they are called. That's life in the real world, regrettably it's not a tall tale - and life for many single mothers is a sad, lonely and difficult one, the more fortunate ones have parents, extended families etc. to help.

Sounds more like desperation on the part of the woman tbh that's being exploited by these workers.

zapper55

I think he's mixing up porn and real life tbh.

Junkyard Tom

Not being fussy but only if she had three boobs like the woman in Total Recall.

pgj2015

the ex could still be around, might be a nutter. i have found they are a lot of the time. they have a kid or kids with some waster, then look for a nice guy to help her bring them up while the ex trys to cause trouble any chance he gets, no thanks. i have dated single mothers in the past but never again unless the father is dead or out of the picture. id say half the women from ages 25 to 35 on dating sites these days have kids.

ScottCapper

Yes I would. I’d adopt a child too if I couldn’t have children

Blaizes

I know a couple who separated. They’d one child and they got some kind of agreement drawn up with the solicitor that if either of them started dating someone else - found a new partner, the child was not to meet the new person, dates done out of house etc.

Think the idea was the child wouldn’t get messed up with new partners and be all over the place in terms of stability, especially I suppose if the new partners upped and left.

Hammer89

zapper55 wrote: »

I think he's mixing up porn and real life tbh.

No he's not it'll be in the paper soon. Then you'll see. It's being made into a book as well AFAIK.

theguzman

Hammer89 wrote: »

No he's not it'll be in the paper soon. Then you'll see. It's being made into a book as well AFAIK.

I know nothing about the case but tradesmen etc. do get alot of action, many lads on the internet think such thing is fantasy but it does happen. Men who are used to getting women think nothing of it. Being a pool maintained boy in Florida or LA would be one of the best bits of advice I could give any lad from 18-35 if they are happy with matured women etc.

Its easy to get with women once you are used to it and know what to do, stay in shape etc.

Hammer89

theguzman wrote: »

I know nothing about the case but tradesmen etc. do get alot of action, many lads on the internet think such thing is fantasy but it does happen. Men who are used to getting women think nothing of it. Being a pool maintained boy in Florida or LA would be one of the best bits of advice I could give any lad from 18-35 if they are happy with matured women etc.

Its easy to get with women once you are used to it and know what to do, stay in shape etc.

I'm not debating it happens. I'm debating whether the story about a cowboy plumber getting his hole off a single mother is going to be national news.

theguzman

Hammer89 wrote: »

I'm not debating it happens. I'm debating whether the story about a cowboy plumber getting his hole off a single mother is going to be national news.

A serious assault would make the county regional press anyway.

bcklschaps

14dMoney wrote: »

Would you date a single mother, or would you be put off by the baggage?

Have had some experience of dating single moms..... so I feel I can answer the question with some credibility.

My answer is....if the child(ren) were adults (living independently) then it wouldn't really bother me.... but if the child(ren) were still living with and dependent on the woman....then it would bother me a lot and would be a deal breaker for me.

fmpisces

14dMoney wrote: »

Would you date a single mother, or would you be put off by the baggage?

No, but I would date a single father before I'd date someone who didn't have kids. Although in saying that I'd rather his child or children were of a similar age to/older than mine.

I don't see kids as baggage.
To me, baggage is emotional hang ups, childhood issues not having been dealt with, addictions or an ex who won't go away....

monseiur

Hammer89 wrote: »

No he's not it'll be in the paper soon. Then you'll see. It's being made into a book as well AFAIK.

Well Hammer 89 we could do without your snide remarks. Read post no. 138 ... My friend was a victim of one of these nutters, the sad thing is that a quiet word in his ear would have sorted it and saved all concerned a lot of expense and in his case a lot of pain & anguish.
Hopefully the court case will not make the papers, but unfortunately lazy journalists, mostly from local weekly papers, seem to hang around court houses taking notes of even trivial cases just to fill column inches in their paper.
I guess the moral of this sad incident is that those who date single mums should be aware that there's another male adult in the triangle and they naturally enough can be very protective of their offspring and some hope/dream of rekindling there relationship with the mother. Unfortunately for my friend he wasn't aware that the girl he was dating was a single mum and he paid a big price.

ginandtonicsky

I'm a woman, so it'd be a single father that's applicable, and it's not a dealbreaker. As you get older and are single you have to open your mind to certain things that would've been a HELL NAW in your 20s. Baggage in the form of divorced and/or kids is one of them.

That said, it's a compromise and it comes with an acceptance that you will never be the top priority. I've had it recently with suddenly cancelled plans because one of the kids got himself in trouble and Dad had to swoop in to the rescue. It can also lead to your emotional needs not being met in the way you need them to be because your partner is less available or spread too thin already.

I can 100% understand why someone would not want to opt into something like that. That said, I've generally found that the Dads I've met on the dating scene tend to be that bit more emotionally mature and have their sh1t together and tend not to play games because they simply don't have the time or energy for it.

s7ryf3925pivug

monseiur wrote: »

Well Hammer 89 we could do without your snide remarks. Read post no. 138 ... My friend was a victim of one of these nutters, the sad thing is that a quiet word in his ear would have sorted it and saved all concerned a lot of expense and in his case a lot of pain & anguish.
Hopefully the court case will not make the papers, but unfortunately lazy journalists, mostly from local weekly papers, seem to hang around court houses taking notes of even trivial cases just to fill column inches in their paper.
I guess the moral of this sad incident is that those who date single mums should be aware that there's another male adult in the triangle and they naturally enough can be very protective of their offspring and some hope/dream of rekindling there relationship with the mother. Unfortunately for my friend he wasn't aware that the girl he was dating was a single mum and he paid a big price.

Maybe the expelled father sees the guy as coming between him and his child and thinks he's the nutter for wanting to do that.
Fathers can be pretty much shut out from their kids if the mother has a mind to cause that.

TeaBagMania

Ray Defeated Wax wrote: »

How ignorant...

Says the single mother looking for a sugar daddy

Why the hell would anyone want the wrecked village bike when 18 year old girls are coming on the market everyday

s7ryf3925pivug

TeaBagMania wrote: »

Says the single mother looking for a sugar daddy

Why the hell would anyone want the wrecked village bike when 18 year old girls are coming on the market everyday

ignorant post. 17 is the age of consent.

monseiur

Hammer89 wrote: »

I'm not debating it happens. I'm debating whether the story about a cowboy plumber getting his hole off a single mother is going to be national news.

Hammer89 - If you read post no. 131 again you will notice that it's two paragraphs. The first one is about a specific incident that happened to a friend last year due a girl he was dating was, shall we say, less than honest.
This is the incident that may end up in the papers (hopefully not)
The second paragraph is just a general observation and as I'm sure you're well aware is as common as muck and I never suggested that this would or should be news or indeed news worthy.