Things dat Trivyully Annoy You (part whatever) *MOD WARNING IN OP* NEW

freshpopcorn

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120178456#Comment_120178456

I do know he's been told certain things and he did a memory test with him. I also don't feel it's my place to be honest.

I think the GP isn't overly pushed about him. My father is at home with us, looked after, etc and he won't do much until things become more serious.

My parents were always the last minute brigade type of people tough always drove me insane.

ohnonotgmail

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120178481#Comment_120178481

the GP needs a kick up the arse. their attitude is appalling.

wildwillow

It is very important to speak to your mother about the future. You need an enduring power of attorney put in place. He must be capable of making a decision so sooner rather than later. Actually both parents could organise one. It can’t be used until it is necessary.

Your parents may be of the generation where the man held the bank accounts. It makes life much easier if all their accounts are in joint names. Do this as soon as possible.

Being prepared will make the future more manageable. I do think you should attend a GP appointment and get an understanding of your father’s condition.

None of the above is going to change his condition or behaviour but will be a benefit if he progresses to full dementia.

I am a relatively young widow and got a POA put in place almost immediately. Updated my will also and did an advance medical directive. All are with my solicitor and I get on with my life, knowing my family will find everything in place when needed.

freshpopcorn

Thanks, will look everything above.

Bank accounts, etc are all in joint names.

I'm trying to becarful how I act tough. He's already sort of turned on one of my siblings at Christmas.

He's going to the Dr again later in February and will push my mother a little more.

Sorry, for derailing this thread.

Leg End Reject

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120179225#Comment_120179225

I'll be honest, I'd try to get to see a different GP, it's ridiculous that the current one hasn't followed this up.

My TA is that I'm cold despite having the heating hopping.

It wasnt me123

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120179225#Comment_120179225

Don’t apologise, some of us have probably gone through what you are now, and some of us (me) work with people over 65 and have some working knowledge of the system. POA wouldn’t be my first step as joint accounts. I would attend a gp visit though, just to gauge what is happening. In relation to having ‘strangers in the house’, my experience has been that as the memory fades, they don’t know they are strangers and you introduce anyone new as a friend, sent from the gp etc, so its not this random stranger. Depending on your dad’s age and his diagnosis, you can go from there. There are day care centres for people with dementia, specialised, very interactive, but that might be for a later date.

Purple Mountain

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120179225#Comment_120179225

If its a doctor practice with several doctors, can you ask to see a different doctor under the same roof?

A different perspective.

Your parents are of the generation where many of them thankfully never had much sickness until later in life. They were tough people.

So they both might be in a bit of denial now.

Try get your mam onside on her own. Tell her your concern. Ask her to push the Dr for a referral.

Bredabe

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120180441#Comment_120180441

THIS X 10000, round two of dementia in my family of origin, its so hard to get your head round all this stuff when* he's still relatively well and probably part of you hoping it will right itself sometime. My sibling cried(not due to dysregulation) when they couldn't go to their dementia group during the lockdowns and even lost capacity due to the lack of stimulation, they are back now and is regaining ground a bit and is so happy to know they can go next week etc(school in reverse we call it)

* OP's dad.

Not a ta dementia and the impact on the family and friends, the way family have to fight to get proper help in the system!

Bredabe

Was told I should participate more in a group activity, so I did and was told I had a horrible attitude and it needed changing!!!!

Ta ppl who know less than nothing about me or what has impacted me, telling me how I need to be more proactive in a vacuums or find a positive outlook.

Ta2 on this, I over heard this convo yes, person saying that its hard to keep going as she lost someone close to her last week, the hcp with her told her to change her attitude and it would help how she was feeling. Did I mention this advice was from an actual trained and experienced health care professional. WTF HF

SAMTALK

My TA on the subject is when doctor says "he's mind is very good " ,

Well sorry doctor , but when you are asking him questions without any of the family there how do you know if the answers are correct !!!

ohnonotgmail

People in support who can't even do the basics of their job. Escalating stuff to Dev when they haven't even looked in the error log. the error log that tells them exactly what is wrong. god knows how much of their own time they spent on this before wasting 45 minutes of my time this morning.

StevenToast

TA When i park up to have abit of lunch in the car.....and then someone else pulls in right beside me to do the same thing......

TA2 when they actually reverse in to the space beside me and we are staring at each other while eating....

freshpopcorn

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120180441#Comment_120180441

Overtime getting support, having people in the house will just be something that will need to be done.

He never trusted anybody in the house tough.

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120180465#Comment_120180465

It's a Dr's practice with several Dr's and he has a medical card appointments take a few weeks to get and you basically get your own Dr.

My mother does know about the issue and we talk about it a good bit to me. She's still very early sixties. I think she's afraid to go to far because she doesn't want him to turn on the Dr.

Dramatik

TA that I can't go to my local petrol station any more without being accosted by the youth: "heor mistor wud ya go in an buy us a vape?"

Then of course the next time I go to the petrol station I notice the packaging of one strewn around on the ground, right where they were hanging out.

HildaOgdenx

I was sitting in the corner back seat of the bus yesterday, there was a guy sitting in the middle who kept sniffing and snorting and wiping his nose with his hands. Ugh.

So when a seat became available further up the bus, I decided to move. He had his large feet planted so that they were completely taking up the space where I needed to step. Only when I glanced down at the floor, automatically, as I was about to step out of my seat, did he move his feet slightly.

I put stuff like that down to basic stupidity as opposed to deliberately trying to be awkward.

Still TA though.

Jequ0n

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120183246#Comment_120183246

You could have just offered him a tissue (if you had one)?

Strumms

Went to a car dealership to pick up brochures and a price list for my Dad. For the new design and variant of his current favourite car.

He decided not to visit the dealership he usually buys from, to eventually doorstep the salesman there and get more competitive quotes…

this other dealership I’m greeted by a lad around 30: who genuinely looks like he got dressed in the dark…. On us requesting the brochures he lets out a hearty laugh…. “Sorry, to help the environment we stopped printing and stocking brochures, the price list and brochure info is online only”… *big delighted with himself grin* bizarrely 😟 but no sign of moving towards a desk or computer to make an effort to print or write anything…maybe he wants me to record him on my phone to capture the quotes and info. ‘For the environment’

I suggested rather caustically that if they didn’t sell cars at all it would be better again for the environment, at which point he is doing the best impression of Fr Dougal McGuire

know where not to buy a car, ever.

cj maxx

Thr new McDonalds ad , or rather ther stupid music from the stupid film Ferris Buellers Day Off. a load of shyte

Purple Mountain

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120185285#Comment_120185285

Heathen!! Ferris Bueler is not 'stupid'.

Children of the 80s have very find memories of Ferris and Cameron!

cj maxx

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120185310#Comment_120185310

Im a 80’s child and I always hated it. Like’ catcher in the rye ‘ it only appealed to who had more privileged non agarian childhood. IMO of course.

But I hate that music with a passion !!

Dial Hard

People who either don't get or choose to ignore extremely simple thread principles.

Also, waking up hungry.

Pawwed Rig

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120185355#Comment_120185355

I always mix up Ferris Bueller and Weekend at Bernies.

Neither are films that I would expect to ever watch again. Both are meh

EmmetSpiceland

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120186292#Comment_120186292

Ah now, ‘Weekend at Bernie’s’ is a classic.

In work but my mind is elsewhere. Cannot concentrate whatsoever.

There's a fella in work who will not shut the fuk up. He literally talks non stop just for the sake of it about stuff that nobody has any interest in.

Strumms

I thought I had a free evening but I’ve a fitness appointment later. Which is annoying as I had my mind tuned to less strenuous activities… last week or so has just ripped by at a rate of knots….and it only seems like Christmas was about two weeks ago

Gremlinertia

Bringing wife away for a shopping trip and a meal but my body has decided to have a massive pain flare up so I am anticraic

Archeron

Went for a walk after work today, really nice evening, warm and still light in the sky. Feeling all happy and positive I said a big cheery hello to everyone I passed and got about ten big cheery hellos in return. The world is great.

Back home I look in the mirror and realize I have a big, to be polite, winter nose icicle hanging out, and having a big bushy beard and moustache, it was pretty well set in its place. It's very very obvious place.

I may never go out in public again.

Bring me news of the outside world :(

cj maxx

I was bored , nothing on tv and I have several bottles of wine. I’ve just found out my cork screw is bent . In 3 months time when i open another bottle it WILL let me down , I just know it !

mmrs

I bought a Microsoft Signature laptop for 500 dollars in the US nearly 9 years ago. This thing wont slow down or break, battery life is still great. It has a better screen than most new laptops... but I want a new laptop. I love buying new tech. But I just can't justify it when this one is still going so well. So I am annoying myself.

Back in my day computers were obsolete in 3-6 months.... what's happened man!