Relationships - Age limits

frosty123

Ok, i'm a bloke of 38 and i'm contemplating asking out a 25 yr old woman..so thats a 13 year age gap.

Ive been called a dirty bastard, cradle snatcher etc...am i?

But surely if a woman (or indeed man) is 25 they're old & mature enough to date whatever age partner they want??

I want feedback on this please...whats your age gap limit? have you ever been out with someone thats has been way older than you.. or way younger than you?

Thanks,

jobless

if you are both happy then go for it....

only thing is that you may be both in different stages of life so you need to figure out exactly what you want from a relationship

coffee_cake

25 seems reasonable yeah. You'd wonder what you have in common/life stages and you probably will keep getting those jokey comments! But it's your own business.
If she was younger or there was some power dynamic you might be concerned

mrDerek

with a girl 8 years younger than me im 30 shes 22 and its all gravy

PARlance

I would just go with it, she won't be too much more mature than you.

frosty123

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(you being cheeky?)

messrs

Just go for it, if the age gap doesn't bother either of you then it doesn't matter what everyone else thinks.

banie01

Is the rule not half your age plus 7??

seamus

You've already been called a cradle snatcher even though you haven't asked her out?

Is this something you make a habit of?

Shanotheslayer

seamus wrote: »

You've already been called a cradle snatcher even though you haven't asked her out?

Is this something you make a habit of?

I would imagine he told his friends he thought about asking her out and that was the result.

frosty123

seamus wrote: »

Is this something you make a habit of?

no....usually very conservative when it comes to an age gap..no more than 5 years...this is new territory for me

Wibbs

Had that exact age gap and at nigh on the same age too. No problems because of it. Sure we broke up a few years on, but the age diff had nothing to do with it.

_Kaiser_

It depends on the age of the 2 people involved and what ye both want/expect from it. I've had long term relationships with women 7/8 years younger than me and there was no issue.

Don't mind what your mates think either.. they're probably jealous of you

Be more like this guy

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HADHCBRe0Q8

PARlance

Shanotheslayer wrote: »

I would imagine he told his friends he thought about asking her out and that was the result.

At 38, you should be able to think for yourself imo.

frosty123 wrote: »

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(you being cheeky?)

Not really. If it feels right, ask her out.

Greyfox

Go for it, don't pay too much attention to what other people think. For me I'm 37 and still nowhere near ready for kids/marriage and I reckon there's a few 25 year olds out there that are more mature than me

B.A._Baracus

Plenty of blokes will call you a cradle snatcher but the same blokes at 38 would gladly do the same if some younger woman was into them.

seamus

banie01 wrote: »

Is the rule not half your age plus 7??

I prefer one-third your age plus 10. Fairer on the aul fellas.

_Kaiser_

seamus wrote: »

I prefer one-third your age plus 10. Fairer on the aul fellas.

Let's see..

Half + 7 = 28.5

One-third + 10 = 24

Nah I think I'd stick with option 1.. I couldn't handle the 3 nights out at the weekend anymore!

PARlance

_Kaiser_ wrote: »

Let's see..

Half + 7 = 28.5

One-third + 10 = 24

Are you two different ages?

Summer wind

If you want to ask this woman out you should. If she says no accept her answer and move on. Remember faint heart never won fair lady. Life is short and if you make each other happy isn’t that the main thing.

Boom_Bap

banie01 wrote: »

Is the rule not half your age plus 7??

Is that not how you convert Fahrenheit to Celsius? :pac::pac:


OP - the 2 of you are adults, if you both are happy then go for it.

fergus1001

if there is grass on the pitch something something

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frosty123 wrote: »

Ok, i'm a bloke of 38 and i'm contemplating asking out a 25 yr old woman..so thats a 13 year age gap.

Ive been called a dirty bastard, cradle snatcher etc...am i?

I guarantee you that the so-called friends who are calling you a "dirty bastard" for fancying a 25-year-old are routinely watching porn featuring even younger women.

banie01

fergus1001 wrote: »

if there is grass on the pitch something something

With everyone being plucked, shaved or waxed these days....
Thats a rule that could see ya in jail! :pac:

_Kaiser_

PARlance wrote: »

Are you two different ages?

Nope, I was just comparing the different "thresholds" using both formulas.

I don't think I could handle a 24 year old anymore!

corner of hells

frosty123 wrote: »

Ok, i'm a bloke of 38 and i'm contemplating asking out a 25 yr old woman..so thats a 13 year age gap.

Ive been called a dirty bastard, cradle snatcher etc...am i?

But surely if a woman (or indeed man) is 25 they're old & mature enough to date whatever age partner they want??

I want feedback on this please...whats your age gap limit? have you ever been out with someone thats has been way older than you.. or way younger than you?

Thanks,

Can you see her being comfortable on a night out with your peer group bearing in mind you're nearly 40 ?

Would you be ok with socialising with a group of her pals in their 20s ?

If the answers are yes , go for it.

Jack Moore

_Kaiser_ wrote: »

Let's see..

Half + 7 = 28.5

One-third + 10 = 24

Nah I think I'd stick with option 1.. I couldn't handle the 3 nights out at the weekend anymore!

28.5 -7 is 21.5 so you are 43

24 -10 1s 14 so you are 42

hatrickpatrick

TBH, and I know this probably won't go down well, but even the power dynamic thing has always bothered me. If I fall for a woman in a position authority over me and she happens to fall for me too (as opposed to #metoo ) there should be no reason why, as consenting adults, we can't bamswaggle eachothers' flumpuses.

It seems to me that this is one of those societal rules which in place to protect those without self-confidence who might feel pressurised even when there's no pressure intended - but there should be a get-out clause for those of us who are self-confident to be able to say "I'm perfectly capable of looking after myself, my lecturer / manager / supervisor / arresting Garda / methadone provider / TSA agent / etc is not intimidating me, and I actually want this".

It's a little ridiculous that because these things end up being unhealthy or abusive in some cases, all of society should just rule out potential romance with people who could easily be their soul mate, if one believes in those things, because they happen to have a relationship involving authority in some way.

Tell me how

If you and this person are right for each other, then there is no reason not to proceed.

Friend of mine has a 15 year difference to her husband and they clicked when they met so it worked, but ....... normally* a 38 year old and 25 year old would likely be in very different places in their lives. Focus, interests, expectations, energy etc......

*there is no scientific fact that any one individual is normal.

Dravokivich

I was asked something similar by a mate of mine over the weekend and I said "I've no problem being old and dirty as long as she's young and willing"

Really got to consider what the pair of ye will be after with each other and how it'd work out between ye. It's got nothing to do with anyone else really.

sbsquarepants

fergus1001 wrote: »

if there is grass on the pitch something something

If there's grass on the pitch, go find someone who takes better care of their pitch;)