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Is Marriage to much of a risk ?

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  • 16-11-2016 7:32pm
    #1
    Jim Bob Scratcher
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 2,231 ✭✭✭


    Me personally can never see myself tying the knot. How about you good folks of after after hours ?


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    9or10
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    Jim Bob Scratcher wrote: »
    Me personally can never see myself tying the knot. How about you good folks of after after hours ?

    People talk about romance and shoite, but marriage is really just an each way bet on who changes the others diapers.

    How else will you afford the home carer when you get old? :D


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    The_Valeyard
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    Everything's a risk. Especially playing that boardgame,





















    Mousetrap


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    Barry Badrinath
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    Quantify "risk".


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    Ulysses Gaze
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    9or10 wrote: »
    People talk about romance and shoite, but marriage is really just an each way bet on who changes the others diapers.

    How else will you afford the home carer when you get old? :D

    Murder-Suicide Pact would solve that problem.

    :pac::D


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    Ted111
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    Senor Fancy Pants wrote: »
    Quantify "risk".

    12.


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    CINCLANTFLT
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    Ted111 wrote: »
    12.

    20% and rising...


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    Cee-Jay-Cee
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    I was the same as you OP, I was a committed lifelong single person and even when going out with girls who I really liked, as soon as they even hinted at anything more permanent, I was out of there. But then I met a girl that I didn't want to lose, we got married and have two beautiful little girls. Yeah it may have been a risk but it was worth it and I wouldn't change my life for anything now.


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    baldbear
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    Too


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    Oodoov
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    Don't ever go swinging OP that's all im saying.


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    Jim Bob Scratcher
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    baldbear wrote: »
    Too

    Anything else to contribute ? you grammar nazi!


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    Ayuntamiento
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    Marriage is the best thing I ever did. I'm incredibly happy that I get to spend the rest of my life with this incredible person. Maybe I got lucky though.


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    stimpson
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    There's only two reasons to get married. For love and for money.


    Just make sure you do it the right way round.


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    Jim Bob Scratcher
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    Ayuntamiento wrote: »
    Marriage is the best thing I ever did. I'm incredibly happy that I get to spend the rest of my life with this incredible person. Maybe I got lucky though.

    What if it all go's tits up in a few years time ?


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    [Deleted User]
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    Jim Bob Scratcher wrote: »
    What if it all go's tits up in a few years time ?

    This is a very real possibility. Married or not married the relationship can still run in to difficulty and both can still decide to part ways.
    For me marriage is something I rarely think about. When I do it's a bit "yeah maybe I would" or "no I'm good"

    I do wonder what it must feel like to be with the same person for years and years. That's an awful lot of sexual positions to keep things interesting.


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    Ayuntamiento
    Registered Users Posts: 346 ✭✭Ayuntamiento


    Jim Bob Scratcher wrote: »
    What if it all go's tits up in a few years time ?

    Even if that did happen, I wouldn't regret one second of our marriage. It has brought me so much happiness.
    I think you haven't met the right person yet. When you meet that person it's all so simple. Marriage isn't a decision that you agonise over.
    The only thing that upsets me is knowing that we only have a finite amount of time together and one day we'll lose each other.


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    ToddyDoody
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    Jim Bob Scratcher wrote: »
    What if it all go's tits up in a few years time ?

    Were your parents married?


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    thunderdog
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    I work in risk and I also happen to getting married on sat. Marriage isn't too risky as long as you hedge


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    pragmatic1
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    Can't see myself getting married although it's a nice idea. I think that human relationships, outside of family, have time limits.


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    Dr Crayfish
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    Deleted User wrote: »
    I do wonder what it must feel like to be with the same person for years and years. That's an awful lot of sexual positions to keep things interesting.

    I think there's way more to it than that. When I look at my parents who've been together 40 odd years, I have so much respect for them and I think it's beautiful. They've a great life now and whatever it is they have, it works.
    I don't think I was cut out for that life however! I've had a couple of scrapes with marriage but at this stage in my life it's something I'm pretty sure I'd never do again. Which makes it difficult to meet someone, it seems most girls my age are still waiting for a Prince Charming to come along for a big white wedding, which is my worst nightmare!
    I still think it's worth the risk, if you and your beloved are 100% sure it's what you both want :)


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    Four Phucs Ache
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    I had a great single life then met a girl that knocked me for six.Couldnt believe she had any interest in me. Married her.

    12 years later:

    I'm now a 3rd child and the only risk there is comes in the form of me deciding whether to shove the chocolate wrappers and crisp packets under the couch or leave them on the coffee table.


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    Richard Hillman
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    It is absolutely stone wall crazy for any man to marry a woman. You are signing away most of your savings and a chunk of your future earnings just to 'secure' one woman. It makes no sense.


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    Dr Crayfish wrote: »
    I think there's way more to it than that. When I look at my parents who've been together 40 odd years, I have so much respect for them and I think it's beautiful. They've a great life now and whatever it is they have, it works.
    I don't think I was cut out for that life however! I've had a couple of scrapes with marriage but at this stage in my life it's something I'm pretty sure I'd never do again. Which makes it difficult to meet someone, it seems most girls my age are still waiting for a Prince Charming to come along for a big white wedding, which is my worst nightmare!
    I still think it's worth the risk, if you and your beloved are 100% sure it's what you both want :)

    Of course there is. I was being a bit tongue in cheek. Like you a big white wedding is not something I want and I don't believe in Prince Charming. That's the thing, I don't believe in 'oh you haven't met the right person'. Marriage is for some people and it's not for others.


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    mfceiling
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    Richard Hillman wrote: »
    It is absolutely stone wall crazy for any man to marry a woman. You are signing away most of your savings and a chunk of your future earnings just to 'secure' one woman. It makes no sense.

    Not if you have fcuk all.


    You can't take knickers off a bare arse.


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    Junkyard Tom
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    Have you considering using Internet Relationship Providings?


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    Ayuntamiento
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    pragmatic1 wrote: »
    Can't see myself getting married although it's a nice idea. I think that human relationships, outside of family, have time limits.

    But why do family relationships not have a time limit? Because you accept your family for who they are and try to love them unconditionally.
    I don't see why the same idea can't be applied to marriage.


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    Goya
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    Oh I definitely believe the right person - i.e. someone they are stone mad about - can make a person previously disinterested in marriage want to carry out the ritual that will make them officially family.

    I do think those who are extra set against marriage definitely have not met a person whom they are crazy about... If they do, the "I'd never ever marry - it's a risk" stuff would be out the window. :)

    And that doesn't have to mean a white wedding either - could be just them and witnesses in a registry office.


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    Ursus Horribilis
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    Bear in mind that the co-habitation laws have changed here. Even if you never tie the knot, a lot of legal stuff kicks in after 5 years (3 if you've children). The most ominous one being property rights...


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    #29
    ChikiChiki
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    Seriously does anyone else think that staying with one person for 40+ years is not normal or is it just me. I think in the confines of marriage we should be allowed stray outside every so often. That's just my opinion.


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    [Deleted User]
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    Flimpson wrote: »
    Oh I definitely believe the right person - i.e. someone they are stone mad about - can make a person previously disinterested in marriage want to carry out the ritual that will make them officially family.

    I do think those who are extra set against marriage definitely have not met a person whom they are crazy about... If they do, the "I'd never ever marry - it's a risk" stuff would be out the window. :)

    And that doesn't have to mean a white wedding either - could be just them and witnesses in a registry office.

    Why do you assume that?


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    bee06
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    Jim Bob Scratcher wrote: »
    What if it all go's tits up in a few years time ?

    What if it didn't?

    I'd prefer to regret the things I did rather than the things I'd wished I'd done.

    For me, marriage was the obvious thing to do from a legal standpoint, a financial standpoint (tax benefits) and at the end of the day, he's the only man I've ever loved and my life would be crappy without him.


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