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Is it okay for your partner to masturbate to porn to sleep?

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    #122
    smash
    Closed Accounts Posts: 34,809 ✭✭✭✭smash


    ceadaoin. wrote: »
    It's a bit weird not to mention disrespectful to lie in bed beside someone and **** off to pictures of other women. Every single night?! No it's not really ok and I fail to see how not liking him doing it means she's insecure.

    It's only weird if he doesn't try to engage in something sexual with her first.


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    #123
    silverfeather
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,154 ✭✭✭silverfeather


    ceadaoin. wrote: »
    It's a bit weird not to mention disrespectful to lie in bed beside someone and **** off to pictures of other women. Every single night?! No it's not really ok and I fail to see how not liking him doing it means she's insecure.

    I agree with this. Not if he is masturbating to pics. Not while she is there.


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    #124
    SoulTrader
    Registered Users Posts: 850 ✭✭✭SoulTrader


    boobar wrote: »
    Has he tried a hot bath or glass of warm milk?
    smash wrote: »
    You can't **** to pics of that!

    10/10 :pac:


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    #125
    SoulTrader
    Registered Users Posts: 850 ✭✭✭SoulTrader


    yougoodthing wrote: »
    That's how part of me feels but the other part well, what if he's just horny (when I'm not) and it helps him to turn over and fall into a deep slumber after (which is what happens)?

    On the other hand...umm..wonder will I click on some porn directed more towards females (if there's such a thing!!) or begin to oogle over some naughty pictures of handsome men online just while he's settling in between the sheets! He he,...feeling curious....
    silverfeather wrote: »
    I wouldn't like him doing it beside me !

    He's not your boyfriend so that's unlikely to happen. :pac:


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    #126
    silverfeather
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,154 ✭✭✭silverfeather


    smash wrote: »
    It's only weird if he doesn't try to engage in something sexual with her first.

    It's weird if he is looking at porn with her there. It just is.


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    #127
    silverfeather
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,154 ✭✭✭silverfeather


    SoulTrader wrote: »
    He's not your boyfriend so that's unlikely to happen. :pac:

    True!


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    #128
    Cold War Kid
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,353 ✭✭✭Cold War Kid


    ceadaoin. wrote: »
    I fail to see how not liking him doing it means she's insecure.
    It's the default mantra whenever someone expresses any bit of negativity in relation to porn.

    I agree it's disrespectful and a bit odd just to fap away with her lying next to him (I'd think the very same if it were a woman pressing the happy button to porn when her man is lying in the bed next to her) unless she says she's ok with it beforehand I guess, but it's still not ideal IMO.


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    #129
    smash
    Closed Accounts Posts: 34,809 ✭✭✭✭smash


    silverfeather wrote: »
    It's weird if he is looking at porn with her there. It just is.

    Maybe she doesn't show interest. Maybe he's got a porn addiction. I don't know, but she's already said

    A: she can't keep up with him
    B: she doesn't usually care that he does it

    I know with an ex of mine she'd say "I'm not in the mood, just look at some porn or something" which got more and more frustrating, hence why she's an ex.


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    #130
    Irishpimpdude
    Registered Users Posts: 2,373 ✭✭✭Irishpimpdude


    yougoodthing wrote: »
    As a single young lady with some many more single young lady friends we often wondered where the men of Limerick hibernate on a Sunday? We've often taken a trip into the pubs in and around the city on a Sunday afternoon but to no avail... Do you all stay at home with feet to the fire after the Sunday roast? Or is there a hive out in the county you disappear to? Just hoping the females of the county don't have to solely rely on the Icon/Nancy's etc. on the regular Saturday night! Or indeed, the dreaded internet dating...

    Jaysus lads she was single 2 months 3 weeks ago, if he is doing that beside a girl after that amount of time he obviously just don't give a sh!t and she's a boring owl ride!


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    #131
    DVDM93
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 4,144 ✭✭✭DVDM93


    Just finished reading this thread. Throughout my read I got 4 boners, 3 semis, a fap and a cup of tea.


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    #132
    silverfeather
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,154 ✭✭✭silverfeather


    smash wrote: »
    Maybe she doesn't show interest. Maybe he's got a porn addiction. I don't know, but she's already said

    A: she can't keep up with him
    B: she doesn't usually care that he does it

    I know with an ex of mine she'd say "I'm not in the mood, just look at some porn or something" which got more and more frustrating, hence why she's an ex.

    Usually it would be polite to do it more discreetly beforehand. It's not him looking at porn that is the issue it's looking at it with another person in the room who is uncomfortable with it.

    Men look at porn and masturbate I would imagine most do this daily and still do this even in a satisfying relationship.

    He could be a bit more discreet. Or watch stuff she likes.


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    #133
    ceadaoin.
    Registered Users Posts: 8,146 ✭✭✭ceadaoin.


    smash wrote: »
    It's only weird if he doesn't try to engage in something sexual with her first.

    Personally I'd find it weird either way. He could go elsewhere if he has to do it. She isn't obligated to have sex every single night. Especially when apparently she would be being used as little more than a sleep aid. What a turn on!


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    #134
    lickme
    Closed Accounts Posts: 108 ✭✭lickme


    According to your first post on the site a month or two ago you have been single for years. Nice try at trolling OP. Got a laugh anyway.


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    #135
    silverfeather
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,154 ✭✭✭silverfeather


    ceadaoin. wrote: »
    Especially when apparently she would be being used as little more than a sleep aid. What a turn on!

    That's an inconsiderate lover.


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    #136
    silverfeather
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,154 ✭✭✭silverfeather


    lickme wrote: »
    According to your post on the site a month or two ago you have been single for years. Nice try at trolling OP. Got a laugh anyway.

    LOL!


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    #137
    Rackstar
    Registered Users Posts: 1,347 ✭✭✭Rackstar


    So you were single a few months ago?

    http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showpost.php?p=94319277&postcount=1

    Now you've a boyfriend that's tearing himself asunder in the bed beside you.

    This is moving far too quickly. Most couples would rather spontaneously combust than fart in front of each other at this stage, and this fella is belly wrestling in bed beside you in order to get a good nights sleep?


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    #138
    Irishpimpdude
    Registered Users Posts: 2,373 ✭✭✭Irishpimpdude


    Rackstar wrote: »
    So you were single a few months ago?

    http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showpost.php?p=94319277&postcount=1

    Now you've a boyfriend that's tearing himself asunder in the bed beside you.

    This is moving far too quickly. Most couples would rather spontaneously combust than fart in front of each other at this stage, and this fella is belly wrestling in bed beside you in order to get a good nights sleep?

    Nice i prefer the term belly boxing though


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    #139
    silverfeather
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,154 ✭✭✭silverfeather


    Irishpimpdude wrote: »
    Nice i prefer the term belly boxing though

    I prefer tearing at himself.....sounds more rebel like..


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    #140
    lickme
    Closed Accounts Posts: 108 ✭✭lickme


    My partner wants to **** down my throat and give me a golden shower. You have it easy.


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    #141
    silverfeather
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,154 ✭✭✭silverfeather


    lickme wrote: »
    My partner wants to **** down my throat and give me a golden shower. You have it easy.

    Scat just ain't for us faint hearted is it? :-P


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    #142
    fluffysocks91
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    This definitely is not okay . I could imagine how it is affecting your own confidence . Personally this wouldn't stand for me .. Yes , by all means - do it in private .. but why does he feel the need to tell you about it ...


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    #143
    Dia1988
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 2,252 ✭✭✭Dia1988


    Call me old fashioned but has he tried taking sleeping tablets or Horlicks?


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    #144
    captbarnacles
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    DVDM93 wrote: »
    Just finished reading this thread. Throughout my read I got 4 boners, 3 semis, a fap and a cup of tea.

    Wait..let me guess..the cup of tea appeared during the fap? ðŸ˜႒


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    #145
    silverfeather
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,154 ✭✭✭silverfeather


    fluffysocks91 wrote: »
    This definitely is not okay . I could imagine how it is affecting your own confidence . Personally this wouldn't stand for me .. Yes , by all means - do it in private .. but why does he feel the need to tell you about it ...

    We have established OP is yanking our chain..boom boom...

    Sometimes couples watch it together....and sometimes people watch their partner watching it...each to their own..doing it every night while she is there is a bit much

    He shouldn't feel he has to hide it from her. Just be discreet. Lads we know you do be watching all kinds and tearing yourself asunder ..the jig is up..


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    #146
    SeantheMan
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    silverfeather wrote: »

    Lads we know you do be watching all kinds and tearing yourself asunder ..the jig is up..

    I don't think any jig is up, surely it's a well known fact.
    I wouldn't believe ANY man , married, single or in a relationship who says he doesn't masturbate.

    We can have a healthy sex life with no problems, but every now and then we'll want an ol' peddle and crank. As many have mentioned earlier, sometimes it's just to fulfill a mental fantasy, other times it's because we enjoy it

    I wouldn't worry OP. Watching it beside you while you're trying to sleep is a bit weird though.


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    #147
    silverfeather
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,154 ✭✭✭silverfeather


    I'm horny now.


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    #148
    Mister Vain
    Registered Users Posts: 6,045 ✭✭✭Mister Vain


    MrVestek wrote: »
    Also hearing the big fake screams of 'pleasure' coming from these yolks really turns me the **** off.

    It's only the American girls that do the fake screams. You need to watch some of that high class British porn.


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    #149
    eternal
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 8,867 ✭✭✭eternal


    silverfeather wrote: »
    I'm horny now.

    *Awaits silverfeather's PM box to be over flowing*


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    #150
    silverfeather
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,154 ✭✭✭silverfeather


    Mister Vain wrote: »
    It's only the American girls that do the fake screams. You need to watch some of that high class British porn.

    Men don't vocalize enough.


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    #151
    Mister Vain
    Registered Users Posts: 6,045 ✭✭✭Mister Vain


    silverfeather wrote: »
    Men don't vocalize enough.

    I don't want to hear men vocalize. They can shut right up. If the girl has a posh British accent its great.


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