Introverts and extroverts

Robsweezie

which side does your personality fall under? a bit of both, perhaps an ambivert (me)?? does it affect your lifestyle in any way??

Gannicus

I'm on the extrovert side if ambivert.

I like being out in groups and meeting new people and going to new places would tend to mix with a few people and groups. How ever in saying that I do like a bit of time to myself. I go the cinema by myself and I like to recharge my social batteries.

Duggy747

I'd probably fall more under the class of hermit.

Zombienosh

Pervert

fryup

introvert and proud of it

hate people most of them are assholes

Gone Drinking

I like girls.. if that's what you're asking

BeerWolf

I'm a social introvert.

The Peanut

Ambivert but veering more towards extrovert as I get older. Painfully introverted when I was very young. Ageing process has allowed me to appreciate the value of social interactions whilst still greatly valuing introversion.

I love people. I love talking to strangers. I love socialising. I can be shy though at first but usually not for long.

But I really love peace and quiet and being on my own too.

So an inthemiddlevert

ScumLord

I prefer the term weirdo.

jimgoose

I'm an Extroverted Nerd. I'll look at your shoes while I'm talking to you. Unless you have big boobs, in which case I'll just look at them. Vorsprung durch Tecknik.

blatantrereg

Introvert. Of course it effects my lifestyle. I opt for activities that are solitary or involve one or two other people and avoid group activities. I find group interactions exhausting and crowded situations overwhelming.

My job is teaching at third level and I was good at presentations of research when I was involved in research. So I'm not significantly impeded by shyness or anything. It's more that I prefer straightforward logical interactions especially with people I don't know well. Reading subtle social and political aspects of interactions I find exhausting and often stressful or irritating. As I've gotten older I am more inclined to notice and address things like this directly which usually works well for me. For example if I notice something up in someone's body language I'll ask directly what it is. If I'm in a situation where it's inappropriate to ask something like that it will still bother me though. This is why I prefer straightforward logical interactions with people I don't know well.

I should comment that I do enjoy dicussing things logically with people I don't know, especially if they are intelligent. Therefore labelling myself introverted or extroverted is misleadingly simplistic, since I could be viewed as either. It's probably too simplistic to describe most people.

LizT

I think most people are a mix of the 2, I am anyway. I like talking to people, getting to know them but I'm really happy in my own company as well I'd like to think of that as independent rather than introverted though.

nyarlothothep

fryup wrote: »

introvert and proud of it

hate people most of them are assholes

Me too, I want to live on a castle/mansion on a hill away from the humans. Extroverts aren't the worst, it's the ones that can't think for themselves and will state 'those are the rules' or 'that's the way it's always' been that particularly annoy me. Essentially though if you're an introvert you will lose out to extroverts in socially orientated fields unless you've got good empathy skills like Counsellor Troi who I would type as an introvert but she was regarded as competent because she was empathetic. It does indeed suck that due to the cult of personality and the sheer, overwhelming majority of extroverts that introverts are regarded with some degree of disdain.

jamesbere

nyarlothothep wrote: »

Me too, I want to live on a castle/mansion on a hill away from the humans. Extroverts aren't the worst, it's the ones that can't think for themselves and will state 'those are the rules' or 'that's the way it's always' been that particularly annoy me. Essentially though if you're an introvert you will lose out to extroverts in socially orientated fields unless you've got good empathy skills like Counsellor Troi who I would type as an introvert but she was regarded as competent because she was empathetic. It does indeed suck that due to the cult of personality and the sheer, overwhelming majority of extroverts that introverts are regarded with some degree of disdain.

Like the star trek reference there. :pac:

nyarlothothep

jamesbere wrote: »

Like the star trek reference there. :pac:

Haha, well she was regarded as competent but there was little evidence for that in the show!

ancapailldorcha

It's a very simplistic way of dividing something as complex as human beings in my opinion. That said, I'm definitely an introvert. It doesn't bother me in the slightest staying in with a good book, game or film. I prefer meeting a small group of friends when I'm sociable rather than large groups of strangers so I generally avoid pubs, clubs and the like.

StewartGriffin

blatantrereg wrote: »

Introvert. I find group interactions exhausting and crowded situations overwhelming.

Reading subtle social and political aspects of interactions I find exhausting and often stressful or irritating.

I Understand. I read somewhere that Introverts GIVE energy during social interactions, while extroverts ABSORB energy. Not usually into that sort of "vibe" thing, but it might explain why introverts feel exhausted after a few hours with people. While the extrovert feels re-energised.

The feckers are stealing our energy.

Sheepy99

What if you were one, but you wanted to be the other?

Wide Load

Sheepy99 wrote: »

What if you were one, but you wanted to be the other?

Speed helps if you want to be an extrovert.

PizzamanIRL

I'm a mix of both but more extroverted but you can't beat some time alone sometimes where you don't want to hear from anyone for the day.

biko

Just checked my navel, it's introvert.

RayM

Very much an introvert. I don't dislike people - they just exhaust me. I prefer smaller groups, preferably fellow introverts.

pablomakaveli

I'm an introvert. But i just hate everyone in general. People are ***** and i dont want to be around them.

pablomakaveli

RayM wrote: »

Very much an introvert. I don't dislike people - they just exhaust me. I prefer smaller groups, preferably fellow introverts.

Actually that seems to be a common thing for most introverts. Social interaction drains them where it would energize an extrovert.

boobar

Introvert for sure.

Although I spend a list t of time through work, leading a team, lots of meetings, managing people.

So when I get some downtime, I'll gladly while the day away with no contact from others reading, listening to music, movies, cycling...all things you can do alone.

People can be exhausting.

Shrap

Extrovert when I'm out, introvert when I'm in. Ambivert is a new word to me, but it sounds like that's what I am. I used to be particularly introverted and immensely shy in social situations until I got really angry that I was like that and trained myself not to give a sh1t about whether people liked me or not. As a result, I'll now say anything to anybody regardless of their social status, age, etc. (but with some filters! I'm not awful!) and can now chair meetings of 100 people odd. I'd have barely sat in a meeting with 100 people before. Amazing how we can change if we want to enough.

KatW4

Introvert. I would gladly spend most of my day being alone. I hate meeting new people as I find it so awkward and uncomfortable. I get bored of big groups really quickly and prefer to be at home reading!

If I know you well though, I won't stop talking!

mad muffin

Sociopath.

Corvo

As above. Are you an introvert if you stick to yourself, but want to stick everyone else through a wall?

NachoBusiness

When I was young I was a confident extrovert but life turned me into an shy introvert. True story.

eternal

NachoBusiness wrote: »

When I was young I was a confident extrovert but life turned me into an shy introvert. True story.

All I can think of is Susan Vega's song with the lyric...'it's not your business anyway'.
I think in songs, forgive me.

HalloweenJack

Definitely an introvert, not generally comfortable around people I don't know and generally avoid small talk or pointless conversations, though if you catch me on one of my odd days, I can be quite the opposite.

NeonCookies

StewartGriffin wrote: »

I Understand. I read somewhere that Introverts GIVE energy during social interactions, while extroverts ABSORB energy. Not usually into that sort of "vibe" thing, but it might explain why introverts feel exhausted after a few hours with people. While the extrovert feels re-energised.

The feckers are stealing our energy.

Yea I read that too, that a good way to tell if you are naturally introvert or extrovert is how you feel after prolonged social interactions.

For me, if I've spent a whole day with friends I'll be tired and need time to myself to recharge the next day. I will have loved being with my friends, and had a great time chatting away. Even social situations where I don't know people well are fine, I've no problem getting to know people, so it's not a shyness thing. It purely all just zaps my energy!!

TheBeardedLady

Very simplistic way to view yourself.

Some people seem to be confusing introvertedness with misanthropy, insecurity and shyness.

TheBeardedLady

Corvo wrote: »

As above. Are you an introvert if you stick to yourself, but want to stick everyone else through a wall?

No.

RonanP77

Definitely an introvert, I prefer being on my own or in very small groups of people I know well. I can't handle large groups of people, I just go very quiet and can't wait to get away.

If I could take my immediate family to a remote location and never see any other person again it would suit me perfectly. If I had to go on my own I'd get by fairly happily too. I love running but nearly always do it on my own, normally in forests or parks and at times I know nobody else will be around.

Dravokivich

TheBeardedLady wrote: »

Very simplistic way to view yourself.

Some people seem to be confusing introvertedness with misanthropy, insecurity and shyness.

Well there is a certain amount of shyness associated with being introverted. However I feel someone I know has used it, just to excuse themselves from being isolated and unsociable.

Lyre_Bird

Gannicus wrote: »

I'm on the extrovert side if ambivert.

I like being out in groups and meeting new people and going to new places would tend to mix with a few people and groups. How ever in saying that I do like a bit of time to myself. I go the cinema by myself and I like to recharge my social batteries.

This is interesting! The above describes me pretty well, but I would think of myself as an introvert. Surely anyone who would go to the cinema on their own (me) has to be an introvert?!

I love spending time with others and I definitely get a kick out of it. I like large groups, big social events and meeting new people. But getting some alone time after all that feels like relaxing into a nice hot bath. I also prefer deep conversations to small talk, don't like talking on the phone when others are listening, find it hard to snap into 'talk' mode when I'm really absorbed in something, and like writing things down to get them clear first rather than spouting them straight out. 95% of the time I eat lunch with friends, but those solo lunches now and again feel so damn good.

I do get lonely and need other people for energy after spending too long alone, but too long with others can tire me out too. My boyfriend and my best female friend say I'm an extrovert. My family would class me as an introvert. Who knows eh?

Desolation Of Smug

Gofeckyerselftrovert. Kinda needy, but in a haughty way.

bb1234567

So introverted it hurts. Find conversation physically exhausting no matter who its with. People who talk for the sake of talking drive me up the f*cking wall I swear Ill snap one day. I can add several extra minutes on my journeys to work/activities/college due to taking different routes avoiding people so I don't have to make conversation with them.

Introvert level 100 :cool:

Andrewf20

More introvert than extrovert and more so as I get older. Im happy to be on my own for many hours and have less enthusiasm for nights out these days. When im up for a bit of socialising, ive less tolerance for silence filler conversation and would rather talk of something gritty and interesting than the not-too-infrequent elevator type conversations.

mickstupp

I like that 'Caring for your Introvert' article.
http://m.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2003/03/caring-for-your-introvert/302696/

Aglomerado

mickstupp wrote: »

I like that 'Caring for your Introvert' article.
http://m.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2003/03/caring-for-your-introvert/302696/

I liked that article too - thanks for sharing it! Describes me (an introvert) to a T.

I can be extroverted with people I'm comfortable with (close friends mainly). I will even sing solo in the pub, and comfortably give a presentation in front of 200 people.

But I hate "small talk" and mundane conversations and on the few occasions when I try to make an effort it comes across really stilted, so I hardly bother. So I'm perceived as aloof, reserved and shy at work, which is where I encounter most of the small talk.

AnonoBoy

Not a bellybutton thread.

Frigga_92

I'm an introvert.
I also find it very hard to trust people.
I'm lucky I enjoy my own company.

Captain Chaos

Think I'm an Introvert.

More than once I have finished work on a Friday afternoon, got home. and from about 4pm on Friday afternoon to 6am on Monday morning I don't see or speak to a single person in that time. No texts, emails, nothing. I don't talk to myself either so my voice gets the weekend off too.

Always make sure I do enough shopping during the week so I don't need to go out at all when I want a peaceful weekend.

That healthy, right??

bb1234567

Captain Chaos wrote: »

Think I'm an Introvert.

More than once I have finished work on a Friday afternoon, got home. and from about 4pm on Friday afternoon to 6am on Monday morning I don't see or speak to a single person in that time. No texts, emails, nothing. I don't talk to myself either so my voice gets the weekend off too.

Always make sure I do enough shopping during the week so I don't need to go out at all when I want a peaceful weekend.

That healthy, right??

Sounds like an amazing weekend to me. But of course most people will try to tell us we aren't normal because it sounds like a lonely weekend to them.

take everything

Definitely introverted.
Love living alone.
Mostly do things like swimming and golf which you can do alone.
Value reading/film/music over small talk etc.

Susan Cain's Quiet is a good read.

I turn fairly introverted when something is bothering me. I would prefer to be on my own and not have to talk to someone when I'm feeling sad but then I can come back out of my shell when I'm feeling ok again.

FTA69

Captain Chaos wrote: »

Think I'm an Introvert.

More than once I have finished work on a Friday afternoon, got home. and from about 4pm on Friday afternoon to 6am on Monday morning I don't see or speak to a single person in that time. No texts, emails, nothing. I don't talk to myself either so my voice gets the weekend off too.

Always make sure I do enough shopping during the week so I don't need to go out at all when I want a peaceful weekend.

That healthy, right??

That's utterly brutal to be honest. I can't fathom it. Fair enough, people get a bang from different stuff but at the end of the day; if your free time is spent cooped up in the gaff on your tod interacting with nothing and nobody then that's pretty terrible. Jesus, there's even helplines and charities to try and stop that from happening to the elderly, never mind a presumably young person with opportunity.

Travel, go meet people, draw, exercise, see the world, get drunk with strangers, go to parties, meet a member of the opposite sex, learn a language, go dancing, go wine tasting, go to a gig, get on a bus in India and talk pidgin English b*llocks with an auld one.

There's so much more out there than four walls and a screen.