Men who still live at home... is it a deal-breaker?

Daveysil15

In these tough times, more and more men in their 20's and 30's are still living with their parents. A lot are doing it out of necessity, not by choice. I'm just wondering do women find this a turn off? Is it really such a bad thing?

AnonoBoy

Daveysil15 wrote: »

In these tough times, more and more men in their 20's and 30's are still living with their parents. A lot are doing it out of necessity, not by choice. I'm just wondering do women find this a turn off? Is it really such a bad thing?

Still living and home and getting Mammy to do the washing and cook the meals?

Yes, I'd imagine women would not be impressed by that.

Still living at home through financial neccessity but pulling their weight with money for rent, bills and food and not acting like a little baby?

I'd like to think most sensible women would understand that. However the man would have to have a plan about moving out I'd say.

4zn76tysfajdxp

Everybody lives at home.

stmol32

I don't.
I'm homeless.

Snakeblood

Daveysil15 wrote: »

In these tough times, more and more men in their 20's and 30's are still living with their parents. A lot are doing it out of necessity, not by choice. I'm just wondering do women find this a turn off? Is it really such a bad thing?

Well, it cuts down on the amount of cooking and ironing the girlfriend has to do, so I dunno what the problem is.*


*People who have read down this far, I was being ironic like that Jimmy Carr fellow except I pay my taxes.

Kurz

Girls that live with a group of other female friends are the worst. Going there is like a big eggshell walking festival. I prefer when they live with their parents.

SEPT 23 1989

If they never moved out thats a bit sad but if they left home and then had to come back due to financial or relationship breakdown well then thats a different thing

christmas2012

no its not a deal breaker for most people...as were in a long recession and many adults live at home these days,i know a lot of my cousins who are my age and working still do..

af_thefragile

Living at home is great!

No need to pay bills, there's always food in the fridge and with all the money you save, you can do so many things!

Where To

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6vwNcNOTVzY

The King of Moo

It depends how you do it. You can live at home and be quite independent, and I know many married men who can't/won't cook, clean, do housework etc. That, to me, is worse than living at home but being very independent and paying your way.

Obviously the reason for someone living at home is important too.

But as with most things, the person themselves, and what they're like, is what's most important. Compare: two guys who live at home, pay their way, and are independent. A isn't embarrassed about the situation, and B frets about what women will think of him. I think A would win out over B in the popularity-with-women stakes in a lot of ways.

Unless he's ugly.

And a bit of a d*ck.

py2006

I suspect some won't see a lot of $$$ in a guy living in the folks place. House and a car is much more appealing.

Not all of course!

Daveysil15

af_thefragile wrote: »

Living at home is great!

No need to pay bills, there's always food in the fridge and with all the money you save, you can do so many things!

Yes this is the bit I don't understand. What's the point in having a bachelor pad if you're always skint and can't afford to take your lady for a night out?

scdublin

Definitely not! Surely most women are in the same situation too.

OneArt

Daveysil15 wrote: »

Yes this is the bit I don't understand. What's the point in having a bachelor pad if you're always skint and can't afford to take your lady for a night out?

Because you can still bring back drunk hoes and have sex with them without worrying about mammy finding out.

christmas2012

as long as there is seperate bedrooms - if they cant understand why you live at home in a recession then there being shallow..

Snakeblood

christmas2012 wrote: »

as long as there is seperate bedrooms - if they cant understand why you live at home in a recession then there being shallow..

What, separate from your parents?

Kurz

christmas2012 wrote: »

as long as there is seperate bedrooms - if they cant understand why you live at home in a recession then there being shallow..

Living in a bedsit with mammy would be a dealbreaker alright.

1ZRed

Daveysil15 wrote: »

Yes this is the bit I don't understand. What's the point in having a bachelor pad if you're always skint and can't afford to take your lady for a night out?

I think you're misunderstanding the concept of a bachelor pad. You would only bring a girl to yours for the night and that would be it.
Why would you be taking her out? That's not a player's attitude!;)

christmas2012

i remember as a kid walking into a friends house and they had an open plan space basically it was a very retro lay out and apart from half wall partitions there were no seperate rooms..so i was just asking to make sure..

py2006

christmas2012 wrote: »

i remember as a kid walking into a friends house and they had an open plan space basically it was a very retro lay out and apart from half wall partitions there were no seperate rooms..so i was just asking to make sure..

Wow, that sounds awful!

Daveysil15

OneArt wrote: »

Because you can still bring back drunk hoes and have sex with them without worrying about mammy finding out.

But you need money to go out and get the hoes drunk. Plus there's always the option of doing it in public.

christmas2012 wrote: »

as long as there is seperate bedrooms - if they cant understand why you live at home in a recession then there being shallow..

Yes I couldn't believe all the women complaining over men not having their own house. What planet are they living on?

christmas2012

no it wasnt really it was like a bungalow mansion on the hill - but of course awful when they got to their teens or early adult hood as it meant no privacy with doors and walls etc..

hondasam

Snakeblood wrote: »

What, separate from your parents?

Exactly what I thought

Immaculate Pasta

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=coPlg0tSCgs

:cool:

christmas2012

Daveysil15 wrote: »

Yes I couldn't believe all the women complaining over men not having their own house. What planet are they living on?

they are living on planet i want everything bridezilla,and in this recession not every one can get what they want youre probably better off without that **** being honest..wait until they grow up and realise they cant have it all..

MrStuffins

christmas2012 wrote: »

i remember as a kid walking into a friends house and they had an open plan space basically it was a very retro lay out and apart from half wall partitions there were no seperate rooms..so i was just asking to make sure..

Your friend lived in a cult compound!

Kurz

christmas2012 wrote: »

i remember as a kid walking into a friends house and they had an open plan space basically it was a very retro lay out and apart from half wall partitions there were no seperate rooms..so i was just asking to make sure..

He was having you on. It was really the supermarket but he pretended it was his house for the laugh to see if you'd fall for it. D'oh!

shopaholic01

SEPT 23 1989 wrote: »

If they never moved out thats a bit sad but if they left home and then had to come back due to financial or relationship breakdown well then thats a different thing

This was the general opinion in the ladies lounge.

Daveysil15 wrote: »

Yes this is the bit I don't understand. What's the point in having a bachelor pad if you're always skint and can't afford to take your lady for a night out?

This might come as a shock to you, but some of us actually work and can pay for our own nights out. I have never 'been taken out for the night', I always pay my own way.

py2006

shopaholic01 wrote: »

I have never 'been taken out for the night', I always pay my own way.

:eek: She's a keeper!

PickledLime

Daveysil15 wrote: »

I was reading a thread in the ladies lounge where women were complaining over men renting and not having their own house, never mind living at home. :eek:

These are extremely shallow people (usually single for a reason) and are not worth your time of day, so i wouldn't worry about them and not owning your own home!

shopaholic01

py2006 wrote: »

:eek: She's a keeper!

:rolleyes:

MrStuffins

shopaholic01 wrote: »

This might come as a shock to you, but some of us actually work and can pay for our own nights out. I have never 'been taken out for the night', I always pay my own way.

Believe it or not, there's nothing wrong with beig "taken out for the night". Despite what your Destiny's Child CDs might tell you, it's actually ok to be a normal human being and now and again have someone pay for stuff for you without burning your bra!

py2006

shopaholic01 wrote: »

:rolleyes:

hondasam

shopaholic01 wrote: »

This might come as a shock to you, but some of us actually work and can pay for our own nights out. I have never 'been taken out for the night', I always pay my own way.

I work and can pay my own way but it's nice to be taken out as well, I certainly do not object when someone wants to pay the bill.

christmas2012

ya its nice to be treated every once in a while i wouldnt say no to it either..

py2006

hondasam wrote: »

I work and can pay my own way but it's nice to be taken out as well, I certainly do not object when someone wants to pay the bill.

Well as long as your willing to do the same once in while all is good!

shopaholic01

MrStuffins wrote: »

Believe it or not, there's nothing wrong with beig "taken out for the night". Despite what your Destiny's Child CDs might tell you, it's actually ok to be a normal human being and now and again have someone pay for stuff for you without burning your bra!

Jesus, you can't win! If all we want is a man with money we're shallow, if we're financially independent we're bra burning femininsts with poor taste in music.

What's a girl to do, eh?

The King of Moo

I wouldn't say no to being taken out and treated once in a while either. Just saying...

hondasam

py2006 wrote: »

Well as long as your willing to do the same once in while all is good!

Yes of course I would.

MrStuffins

shopaholic01 wrote: »

Jesus, you can't win! If all we want is a man with money we're shallow, if we're financially independent we're bra burning femininsts with poor taste in music.

What's a girl to do, eh?

Yes to the first part, no to the second part.

If all you want is a man with money, you're shallow.

If you're independent, you're not bra burning but if you are making a point of showing everybody you are financially independent and saying you've never been taken out, that's a different story! Just be normal! Give a little, receive a little, no big deal!

If you've never been taken out, you're missing out!

The King of Moo

MrStuffins wrote: »

Yes to the first part, no to the second part.

If all you want is a man with money, you're shallow.

If you're independent, you're not bra burning but if you are making a point of showing everybody you are financially independent and saying you've never been taken out, that's a different story!

If you've never been taken out, you're missing out!

Out of curiosity, would you say the same to a man?

MrStuffins

The King of Moo wrote: »

Out of curiosity, would you say the same to a man?

Why not?

I'm a man. I've been taken out! It's noce to know someone will do something nice for you.

My girlfriend once brought me out to see one of my favourite musicians one night and paid for everything for the night as a "thank you" for being a great boyfriend. It was lovely

PickledLime

shopaholic01 wrote: »

Jesus, you can't win! If all we want is a man with money we're shallow, if we're financially independent we're bra burning femininsts with poor taste in music.

What's a girl to do, eh?

In all fairness now there's a bit of difference between those two extremes and treating your other half the odd time.

py2006

MrStuffins wrote: »

Why not?

I'm a man. I've been taken out! It's noce to know someone will do something nice for you.

But have you been taken out by a man or a woman?
ahhhhhhhhh now see!!

shopaholic01

MrStuffins wrote: »

Yes to the first part, no to the second part.

If all you want is a man with money, you're shallow.

If you're independent, you're not bra burning but if you are making a point of showing everybody you are financially independent and saying you've never been taken out, that's a different story! Just be normal! Give a little, receive a little, no big deal!

If you've never been taken out, you're missing out!

What time will you pick me so? Purely to prove your theory of course;).

MrStuffins

py2006 wrote: »

But have you been taken out by a man or a woman?
ahhhhhhhhh now see!!

I edited that post and added a bit after you quoted me

The King of Moo

MrStuffins wrote: »

Why not?

I'm a man. I've been taken out! It's noce to know someone will do something nice for you.

Agreed. Let's all just be nice to each other regardless of gender.

*offers MrStuffins a starburst*

*fails to convincingly conceal disappointment when he takes a strawberry one*

MrStuffins

shopaholic01 wrote: »

What time will you pick me so? Purely to prove your theory of course;).

See you at 8.

Very generous of you to take me out like this. I'll have a massive steak!

py2006

MrStuffins wrote: »

I edited that post and added a bit after you quoted me

Doh!

Richard Hillman

I live at home and do my own washing, make my own food, clean up after myself and pay my own bills.

Im also allowed to stay up as late as i like