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It's damn rude to ask, damn rude

  • 24-07-2011 4:49pm
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    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,568 ✭✭✭Chinasea


    Was in a local restaurant with aging visiting country aunt - we are friendly with the owner; he has been in Ireland for over 30 years.

    When he came to our table in his usual friendly manner I introduced him to said aunt who rudely and bluntly asked him where he was from? engaging no further then this. I told her off after but alas it fell on clueless deaf auld ears. You just don't ask but there is no getting through to this type of set in their ways Irish person.


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,345 ✭✭✭landsleaving


    She only asked where he was from, I don't see the problem tbh.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 694 ✭✭✭douglashyde


    "I'm Irish sure, racism is part of my culture"


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 2,851 ✭✭✭Cill Dara Abu


    She asked him where he was from?

    Whats wrong with that?


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,674 ✭✭✭Dangerous Man


    Chinasea wrote: »
    Was in a local restaurant with aging visiting country aunt - we are friendly with the owner; he has been in Ireland for over 30 years.

    When he came to our table in his usual friendly manner I introduced him to said aunt who rudely and bluntly asked him where he was from? engaging no further then this. I told her off after but alas it fell on clueless deaf auld ears. You just don't ask but there is no getting through to this type of set in their ways Irish person.

    Pity. But old people are scum.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 4,424 ✭✭✭Storminateacup


    You scolded your eldery aunt like a naughty child and she's the rude one?


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 13,130 ✭✭✭✭Kiera


    How is asking someone where they are from being rude?


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 12,455 ✭✭✭✭Monty Burnz


    She only asked where he was from, I don't see the problem tbh.
    I guess it smacks of just looking for a label for someone. She wasn't interested in how he came to be here, or how long, or anything else about him. She just wanted the label, it seems?


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 2,851 ✭✭✭Cill Dara Abu


    Storminateacup if you ask me...


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 25,775 ✭✭✭✭kfallon


    So old Aunt tried to make conversation by asking somebody where they are from and you got the hump? :confused:

    Doubt she'll be coming to visit you much in the future!


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 3,144 ✭✭✭Parsley


    OP is blobbing.


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 4,424 ✭✭✭Storminateacup


    Gotta love boards!
    Old woman: where are you from?
    PC Police: how dare you, you ignorant old racist.

    Grab a dictionary bro, and look it the fug up. Racist.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,409 ✭✭✭Sunny!!


    jesus big deal:eek:


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,345 ✭✭✭landsleaving


    Gotta love boards!
    Old woman: where are you from?
    PC Police: how dare you, you ignorant old racist.

    Grab a dictionary bro, and look it the fug up. Racist.

    I'm usually in the PC police and even I think it's over reacting.

    Also we have whistles and fancy hats. Being in the PC police is great. Except for the racist grannies.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,285 ✭✭✭tfitzgerald


    Op it comes across to me that you were the rude person treating an elderly aunt the way you did she should have told you fcuk yourself but the old dear probably just smiled at you


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,261 ✭✭✭Sonics2k


    I suppose it depends on how she asked maybe?


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 19,986 ✭✭✭✭mikemac


    So OP, how did the owner react?
    Or are you just taking offence on his behalf?


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 25,775 ✭✭✭✭kfallon


    It's 1/25 with Paddy Power that the OP doesn't return to this thread, realises now the he/she completely over reacted and that old country Aunt is now the darling of After Hours :P


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,345 ✭✭✭landsleaving


    I guess it smacks of just looking for a label for someone. She wasn't interested in how he came to be here, or how long, or anything else about him. She just wanted the label, it seems?

    You could be right, but it's still overreacting imo if she didn't actually say anything particularly offensive.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,939 ✭✭✭ballsymchugh


    Storminateacup if you ask me...

    not if you're from carlow.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 18,159 ✭✭✭✭phasers


    OP you come across badly in this story, not your Aunt.


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  • Administrators, Computer Games Moderators, Sports Moderators Posts: 32,531 Admin ✭✭✭✭✭Mickeroo


    OP, where are you from?


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,345 ✭✭✭landsleaving


    Mickeroo wrote: »
    OP, where are you from?

    You racist scumbag.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,494 ✭✭✭Columbia


    I often ask people where they're from. Amazingly enough I don't do this out of an intense hate for everyone who isn't Irish, but an actual interest in other people and particularly other cultures.

    Similarly, if I was in foreignland and someone asked me where I was from, I probably wouldn't punch them and walk out either. I'd probably say "Ireland", and expect either a comment or a question in return, as per the accepted rules of conversation.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 19,986 ✭✭✭✭mikemac


    Mickeroo wrote: »
    OP, where are you from?

    You should be banned for asking that! :mad:
    Very offensive question


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 8,884 ✭✭✭Eve_Dublin


    Chinasea wrote: »
    Was in a local restaurant with aging visiting country aunt - we are friendly with the owner; he has been in Ireland for over 30 years.

    When he came to our table in his usual friendly manner I introduced him to said aunt who rudely and bluntly asked him where he was from? engaging no further then this. I told her off after but alas it fell on clueless deaf auld ears. You just don't ask but there is no getting through to this type of set in their ways Irish person.

    Hmmmm....in fairness now, if that's the only question she asked him and asked him in a direct rude manner (as OP stated), then it might not just be a case of making small talk.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,938 ✭✭✭mackg


    Chinasea wrote: »
    Was in a local restaurant with aging visiting country aunt - we are friendly with the owner; he has been in Ireland for over 30 years.

    When he came to our table in his usual friendly manner I introduced him to said aunt who rudely and bluntly asked him where he was from? engaging no further then this. I told her off after but alas it fell on clueless deaf auld ears. You just don't ask but there is no getting through to this type of set in their ways Irish person.

    Unless she refused to talk to him because he wasn't from Ireland this is a fairly major overreaction.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,197 ✭✭✭housetypeb


    Ah c'mon-tell us where's he from,I'm dying to know now.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 8,884 ✭✭✭Eve_Dublin


    housetypeb wrote: »
    Ah c'mon-tell us where's he from,I'm dying to know now.

    Haha...was going to say the same thing...where's he from??? I won't rest till I know.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 770 ✭✭✭sgb


    OP this is shocking, you must have been so embarrassed, will you ever leave the house again


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 976 ✭✭✭Arnold Layne


    He was either from China or Belfast,I reckon


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 9,810 ✭✭✭take everything


    This feels like a troll to rile up over-PC types.
    Admittedly bit better than most troll efforts here.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,568 ✭✭✭Chinasea


    kfallon wrote: »
    It's 1/25 with Paddy Power that the OP doesn't return to this thread, realises now the he/she completely over reacted and that old country Aunt is now the darling of After Hours :P

    money where your mouth is


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,345 ✭✭✭landsleaving


    This feels like a troll to rile up over-PC types.
    Admittedly bit better than most troll efforts here.

    I'd say if it is it's a lot worse, since it riled up absolutely no one! :pac:


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,568 ✭✭✭Chinasea


    Do you think if you were in America (and as an example) you spoke with a slight broken English accent, and, after over 30 years living in the country you would get auld American dare I say 'white' aging Aunt's etc., on a regular basis asking abruptly "WHERE are you from"??

    I don't think so.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 13,130 ✭✭✭✭Kiera


    Chinasea wrote: »
    Do you think if you were in America (and as an example) you spoke with a slight broken English accent, and, after over 30 years living in the country you would get auld American dare I say 'white' aging Aunt's etc., on a regular basis asking abruptly "WHERE are you from"??

    I don't think so.

    Still not seeing the problem here.....


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  • Moderators, Sports Moderators Posts: 25,531 Mod ✭✭✭✭CramCycle


    I guess it smacks of just looking for a label for someone. She wasn't interested in how he came to be here, or how long, or anything else about him. She just wanted the label, it seems?

    NO it doesn't
    Chinasea wrote: »
    Do you think if you were in America (and as an example) you spoke with a slight broken English accent, and, after over 30 years living in the country you would get auld American dare I say 'white' aging Aunt's etc., on a regular basis asking abruptly "WHERE are you from"??

    I don't think so.

    If you had an accent that she didn't recognise then possibly. I only moved back to Ireland 20 years ago (I lived abroad for most of my youth) and I still have people asking me what part of blah I was from? I don't get insulted because its only a question you douche.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 4,822 ✭✭✭sunflower27


    OP, I get what you mean. An ex of mine's father would always come out with the 'where are you from?' line when he met someone foreign. It was a real accusatory tone - and this the guy that would say you have to eat your chinese food hot because it would kill you if you ate it cold.:rolleyes::rolleyes:


  • Administrators, Computer Games Moderators, Sports Moderators Posts: 32,531 Admin ✭✭✭✭✭Mickeroo


    Chinasea wrote: »
    Do you think if you were in America (and as an example) you spoke with a slight broken English accent, and, after over 30 years living in the country you would get auld American dare I say 'white' aging Aunt's etc., on a regular basis asking abruptly "WHERE are you from"??

    I don't think so.

    If someone has an odd accent one of the first things I do is ask them where they're from. I find it's better than guessing or making presumptions.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,221 ✭✭✭BluesBerry


    Chinasea wrote: »
    Was in a local restaurant with aging visiting country aunt - we are friendly with the owner; he has been in Ireland for over 30 years.

    When he came to our table in his usual friendly manner I introduced him to said aunt who rudely and bluntly asked him where he was from? engaging no further then this. I told her off after but alas it fell on clueless deaf auld ears. You just don't ask but there is no getting through to this type of set in their ways Irish person.

    Guess who's not in aunties will now!


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,568 ✭✭✭Chinasea


    Mickeroo wrote: »
    If someone has an odd accent one of the first things I do is ask them where they're from. I find it's better than guessing or making presumptions.

    Why do you need to know?

    After 30 years in "your country" - longer than the man had lived in his country of birth surely you can see that it must be a tad insensitive, intrusive, dissmissive.


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,221 ✭✭✭BluesBerry


    Chinasea wrote: »
    Why do you need to know?

    After 30 years in "your country" - longer than the man had lived in his country of birth surely you can see that it must be a tad insensitive, intrusive, dissmissive.

    If he was 30 years in the country why has he still broken english?


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,470 ✭✭✭DonJose


    A Latvian national who brought a rare giggle to the courtroom when he told the judge he was “from Moate”, was nonetheless banned from driving for a further three years and fined €1,000 after being convicted in Athlone District Court this week (July 13) of driving without insurance or a licence.

    Before the court was Roman Hemlevskis (34), of Station Road, Moate who had been stopped by gardaí whilst driving In March near his home without the requisite documentation. When he failed to produce his papers within the allotted 10 days he was charged with driving without insurance.

    Subsequently, it was discovered Helmevskis had been similarly convicted in July 2009, and was apprehended whilst still under the three-year ban handed down for this conviction.

    Judge Seamus Hughes asked Hemlevskis, who defended himself, why he was driving without a licence whilst banned.

    “Eh, no car, no job. No job no money,” said the heavily accented defendant.

    As the judge had to simplify his discussion with the defendant on a number of occasions, he enquired as to where he was from.

    “From Moate,” said Hemlevkis, to some amusement.

    “I didn’t know people from Moate spoke with such a strong accent?” said the judge, before Hemlevkis told him he had been in the country for seven years, and was now out off work. He also said he was married with two children, and originally from Latvia.

    The judge sentenced Hemlevskis to three months in jail for driving without a licence, and suspended it for three years. He then banned him for three years for driving whilst uninsured, and fined him €1,000 for having no insurance.

    He warned the defendant that he would go to jail if he was he was caught driving at anytime over the next three years.

    http://www.advertiser.ie/athlone/article/41934/a-little-laugh-cant-save-uninsured-driver


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 21,263 ✭✭✭✭Eoin


    Gotta love boards!
    Old woman: where are you from?
    PC Police: how dare you, you ignorant old racist.

    Grab a dictionary bro, and look it the fug up. Racist.

    Except that the people of boards are saying that there's nothing wrong with what she said.


  • Administrators, Computer Games Moderators, Sports Moderators Posts: 32,531 Admin ✭✭✭✭✭Mickeroo


    Chinasea wrote: »
    Why do you need to know?

    After 30 years in "your country" - longer than the man had lived in his country of birth surely you can see that it must be a tad insensitive, intrusive, dissmissive.

    Nope not at all, don't see how being genuinely interested in a person's origins or culture could be any of those things.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 8,884 ✭✭✭Eve_Dublin


    Chinasea wrote: »
    Why do you need to know?

    After 30 years in "your country" - longer than the man had lived in his country of birth surely you can see that it must be a tad insensitive, intrusive, dissmissive.

    Did your Auntie know he was in the country 30 years? Had he disowned his roots? It could be just plain old curiosity...the Irish ask more questions than any other nationality I've ever come across and it could be misconstrued as being nosy when actually we're just making small talk...


    or....she could be bigotted. You come across plenty of casual racisim among the elderly in Ireland and it's excused because "all these immigrants is so new for them and they've never experienced anything like it before" blah blah...in fairness, they've been around the block and should have learnt tact and tolerance by now.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 37,214 ✭✭✭✭Dudess


    OP has demonstrated previously (s)he has a chip on their shoulder about Ireland and the Irish, despite being a member of said group. Probably the same here.

    OP, there are plenty of sophisticated, "enlightened" Irish - you for example! - so why not focus on them instead of being so insecure about the ones you deem backward? ;)


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 8,884 ✭✭✭Eve_Dublin


    Dudess wrote: »
    OP has demonstrated (s)he has a chip on their shoulder about Ireland and the Irish, despite being a member of said group.

    OP, there are plenty of sophisticated, "enlightened" Irish - you for example! - so why not focus on them instead of being so insecure about the ones you deem backward? ;)

    I'd say were more tolerant than many (most?) other European countries. No National Front equivalent in Ireland, I'm proud to say!


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 37,214 ✭✭✭✭Dudess


    Oh yeah and old people from any country can be set in their ways and abrupt - including old people from America or whatever country you think is superior to Ireland, OP.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,938 ✭✭✭mackg


    Eve_Dublin wrote: »
    I'd say were more tolerant than many (most?) other European countries. No National Front equivalent in Ireland, I'm proud to say!

    Hope there never is although I'd say a fairly smooth talker would be able gather a bit of support for something like this easy enough.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 19,986 ✭✭✭✭mikemac


    If this thread was an attempt to get people angry and offended it has completely failed

    The only person bothered at all by this is the OP


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