sleeping with a guy first dates

Anto McC

If you haven't dropped the lámh within 2 hours, give up, go home and look after yourself. That my experience anyway.

Dudess

MAYPOP wrote:

sometimes, that's just what we want

That's cool as long as the girl feels the same. If a girl wants things to develop into something more and you don't, then don't shag her. Likewise if you reverse the genders.

Dave!

It's highly recommended.

2 stroke

Keep looking untill you meet someone you can't resist, hopefuly they cant resist you either. It bothers me that so many carry on dating people they don't realy fancy. When 2 people realy have the hots for each other is it better for them to share some mutual satisfaction or to masturbate separately.

Dirk Gently

Slow coach wrote:

Still with my first-date-shag after 17 years (and 4 kids).

First kid a result of first date shag?

StephenC_IRL

ride him first date, simple as !

eoinhealy

Call me old fashioned but if the girl wants to wait until she is completly ready thats her choice. If the man can wait that long then it just shows that he really loves her, and if the love is that strong then it worth waiting. There is much more to a relationship than just sex.

Anto McC

What if the man wants to wait because he has problems getting an erection?

Steez

Then they'll have a beautiful friendship

eoinhealy

Then he has 2 choices...

1. The embarrasing way and tell her. She might understand and make him feel more comfortable and relaxed or

2. Go to the chemist and get viagra and say nothing.


In any situation in a serious relationship, honesty is usually the best policy.

Anto McC

I have to admit mate, that i was completely taking the piss when i asked that question but you answer well all the same

Pherekydes

clown bag wrote:

First kid a result of first date shag?

Nope. And the hand wasn't dropped after 2 hours, as someone else mentioned. Just sat and talked all night, no loud music, no dinner, no sloppy kissing or groping.

Hey, I'll tell you this, we knew each other a lot better after 3 hours than most couples would know each other after months.

Anto McC

Slow coach wrote:

Nope. And the hand wasn't dropped after 2 hours, as someone else mentioned.

That was me and you obviously live up to your username then

K-9

lola_run wrote:

be able to judge when a guy is just after you for one thing. However, if a guy brings a girl presents on a regular basis and keeps in regular contact with phone and sms I guess these are signs that he appreciates her for other things besides sex.

Could be the presents are because he only wants one thing!

Anto McC

Seanies32 wrote:

Could be the presents are because he only wants one thing!

Especially if they consist of lingerie, a big rubber dildo and a hardcore porn movie etc

arybvtcw0eolkf

Slow coach wrote:

Let me disabuse you of this notion. Still with my first-date-shag after 17 years (and 4 kids).

Yes, but I legged it before you arrived

Pherekydes

Mairt wrote:

Yes, but I legged it before you arrived

I know. And you're still with my ex-wife. Fair play to you. But I got the better deal. And the kids.

jester77

What's the definition of a first date?
Is that when you ask someone out or do people count shagging someone you met 15 mins earlier while out and about as a first date?

K-9

Anto McC wrote:

Especially if they consist of lingerie, a big rubber dildo and a hardcore porn movie etc

Subtle!

Rob_l

lola_run wrote:

However, if a guy brings a girl presents on a regular basis .

WTF :eek: :eek:

Right this is a wind up yeah

Ger_Hankey

Blue_Lagoon wrote:

Everybody is different. Some separate sex from love, while others cannot. Some toss religion into it or upbringing. I cannot separate sex from love, nor do I believe in love at first sight, so sleeping on the first date won't happen with me. Besides, to make it really passionate and grand, you need to know and care about your partner. Don't think there is a magic number of dates or length of time, although I'm certain (for me) it's not the first date.

You hit the nail right on the head. Its about a persons own attitude to sex. If you can see it as just a bit of fun (and you are careful), then go right ahead. If you see it as someting more (associating it more with love, as Blue Lagoon does), then you should wait a while. The only problen after that is other peoples opinions on what is "right" or "wrong" - but then thats the problem with most things in the world, isn't it?

layke

Hmm, well I kissed a girl I used to work with at our staff party, we ended up having loo sex for a few hours. Went out with her for 2 years after that.

missmatty

I just love Kevin Wilson. We had that bold tape (hidden from parents) when we were about 12

In my experience, after a one nighter most guys will be gone with no interest in seeing you again for a date. That's grand most of the time. Sometimes there's a nice one though that you might have liked to see again.

Anyway I'm pushin a big bday soon and I've lost interest in that kind of thing just for the sake of it.

rainbow kirby

Up to the person really - it's right for some people but not for others.

Firetrap

It all depends on the people really. I think it's not necessarily a good thing to shag on the first date if you want a relationship. There are men out there who, while they'll happily take what's on offer, will assume that because their female dates put out for them on the first date, that they have done the same for others. It can become all about the sex and nowt else if it comes into the equation too early. I say go for it on the second date though :cool:

coffee_cake

lola_run wrote:

Is it always a bad move to sleep with a guy on the first, second or third date?

A friend of mine is convinced that it's impossible to know if a man likes a woman if he is not made wait... like six months or before getting engaged or married... before making love.

If she's so lacking in confidence in her ability to judge whether someone is just after one thing, and to trust them, that she has to make them legally bound to her before she'll sleep with them, she doesn't have any business marrying anyone let alone sleeping with them
Forcing someone else to wait because you're insecure and blaming it on them, is rubbish

bealbocht

what ever about sex, if you dont get at least a snog in on the first date.. then its probably going nowhere really..

having said, that I have worked out that a really good date, should start with good porno style sex, which is much easier and more enjoyable when sober, and leaves more time to concentrate on eating and drinking later.

Someday ... perhaps

bealbocht

what ever about sex, if you dont get at least a snog in on the first date.. then its probably going nowhere really..

having said, that I have worked out that a really good date, should start with good porno style sex, which is much easier and more enjoyable when sober, and leaves more time to concentrate on eating and drinking later.

Someday ... perhaps

cassie2007

Well I had sex with my boyfriend the first night I met him and we're still together two years later. I always find things are less complicated when you get the first time having sex thing out of the way early!

Had sex on the first date with my ex-bf and that lasted a year.

So seems to work for me!;)

Jimoslimos

cassie2007 wrote:

Had sex on the first date with my ex-bf and that lasted a year.

:eek: Whoa! Bringing tantric sex to a whole new level there:D I can go for a few hours or so before needing a break