How is a man supposed to find a woman in the 21st century

dd973 · 31-05-2019 6:39pm

Funny how smug, superior couples never acknowledge luck or chance as ever having any role to play in where and how they ended up.

You know the ones I mean, the sort of long term marriage pacts where the whole dynamic and vibe is akin to a pair of siblings rather than the sort of relationship people have to work their arses off to maintain. The whole thing just glides along like they were born under a lucky star.

Atoms for Peace · 31-05-2019 6:41pm

I've just plain given up, the awkwardness is worse than the looniness.

vargoo · 31-05-2019 6:43pm

seamus wrote: »

Something like, "Do you think dogs have their own names that they use for people", or "Do you think Bert and Ernie sharing a bed made dating difficult for them".

It doesn't really matter so long as as it's different and easy. Not bland and personal.

I've seen profiles specifically state they would unmatch anyone that started a convo like that.

31-05-2019 6:44pm

The death of love..

harry Bailey esq · 31-05-2019 6:45pm

GBX wrote: »

Have ya frontage.. the wimmen love that in the country

Bag of flake... Women love that in the city.

DopeTech · 31-05-2019 6:49pm

Op, what's your bio on your tinder profile?

vargoo · 31-05-2019 6:50pm

Sir Dosser wrote: »

Op, what's your bio on your tinder profile?

Ain't nobody gonna read.

fxotoole · 31-05-2019 6:51pm

OP wrote:

How is a man supposed to find a woman in the 21st century

Tinder

ardinn · 31-05-2019 6:52pm

The well - Someone mentioned lisdoon, but the well is enough!

Seriously - forget women and learn to dance, at classes you will be forced to dance with everyone so you will meet 50 people in less than an hr.

Still, forget the women, as mentioned before there is a smell of want, and it stinks - just concentrate on being the best dancer you can be.

Why??

The country music scene at present is fooking huge, and full of pussy! and your social life will explode, there isnt a night you cant head somehere - This weekend there is 14000 young wans headed to cowboys and heroes - another 3500 to carlowfest, numerous events around the country everywhere. if its a social life you want - jive!

If you are DEAD set against dancing replace with whatever youd like to do instead and apply the above.

I started dancing a year ago and tbh and toot my own horn, im swimming in it! 35, i might scrape a 5 on the looks scale, and im a narky bollox - If I can be bangin birds form 23 - 56 as much as I am so can you!!

Go get em jimmy!!!

31-05-2019 7:13pm

I'd never considered the country music scene might be "full of pussy"..

Inspiring post though..

y0ssar1an22 · 31-05-2019 7:16pm

Be charismatic at it's most simple level, or else look like Beckham. Handsome ****er

Purple Mountain · 31-05-2019 7:16pm

amcalester wrote: »

How much road frontage have you?

It’s all about frontage.

I'm a D cup if anyone is asking.

y0ssar1an22 · 31-05-2019 7:18pm

Purple Mountain wrote: »

I'm a D cup if anyone is asking.

#interested

Tell me more

I don't like mondays

_blaaz · 31-05-2019 7:20pm

Purple Mountain wrote: »

I'm a D cup if anyone is asking.

Male or female??

corner of hells · 31-05-2019 7:29pm

Get yourself a cheap wedding ring , stick it on the finger and head off out.
Be yourself , the wimmins will be blind sided by you being apparently "married " and on the rip.
In no time you'll be fighting them off.

corner of hells · 31-05-2019 7:34pm

Purple Mountain wrote: »

I'm a D cup if anyone is asking.

I've googled that size and for the benefit of my fellow men , that size should be taken as " cant complain ".
Pretty reasonable.

Galwayguy35 · 31-05-2019 7:34pm

.Charlo wrote: »

Outside your house, anywhere. Give up that online dating shìte, I've seen friends turned into weirdos over that craic.

This.

I was on dating sites for years, waste of time sitting at home sending a message to someone who will not even read it.

People need to go out at the weekend and meet someone the way we all used to before this online dating lark.

Tell me how · 31-05-2019 7:35pm

OP, why do you think that someone would benefit from starting a relationship with you?

Could you write here in 100 words or less what it is that you are looking for and what you think you have to offer?

I'm not being flippant asking this, if you cannot do so here then that is probably reflected with your online attempts and I do think that all people who are looking for a relationship (long term as opposed to a hook up) do pay attention to that if at least in conjunction with the aesthetics.

ardinn · 31-05-2019 7:36pm

Deleted User wrote: »

I'd never considered the country music scene might be "full of pussy"..

You have no idea!

James Brown · 31-05-2019 7:37pm

Tell me how wrote: »

OP, why do you think that someone would benefit from starting a relationship with you?

Could you write here in 100 words or less what it is that you are looking for and what you think you have to offer?

mdk_kdm · 31-05-2019 7:37pm

Online dating is a complete waste of time for men unless you are very attractive. The game is rigged, and is designed to extract your money. Even if you do cave in and pay for the premium features, it won't work.

You may by some miracle match with someone you find mildly attractive, but you won't get a response if you message them. If you do get a response, it will be one word replies from someone incapable or unwilling to hold a conversation.

The odds of matching someone, having a good conversation with them, and agreeing to meet for a date are so high, you'd be better off playing the lotto religiously. At least if you win the lotto, you'll have women tripping over themselves looking to get with you.

Meeting someone in real life is probably the only way. Through work or some other social outlet. I have no experience in this so won't pretend to tell you how it's done.

It's probably just best to give up. What's a woman going to do for you anyway? There's very little for a man in a relationship or marriage.

Gimme A Pound · 31-05-2019 7:38pm

Do you want a girlfriend OP or just to "bang birds in a place full of pussy"?

Plenty of men are finding women in this century.

Tell me how · 31-05-2019 7:39pm

mdk_kdm wrote: »

Online dating is a complete waste of time for men unless you are very attractive. The game is rigged, and is designed to extract your money. Even if you do cave in and pay for the premium features, it won't work.

You may by some miracle match with someone you find mildly attractive, but you won't get a response if you message them. If you do get a response, it will be one word replies from someone incapable or unwilling to hold a conversation.

The odds of matching someone, having a good conversation with them, and agreeing to meet for a date are so high, you'd be better off playing the lotto religiously. At least if you win the lotto, you'll have women tripping over themselves looking to get with you.

Meeting someone in real life is probably the only way. Through work or some other social outlet. I have no experience in this so won't pretend to tell you how it's done.

It's probably just best to give up. What's a woman going to do for you anyway? There's very little for a man in a relationship or marriage.

"Guess who's back, back again........"

y0ssar1an22 · 31-05-2019 7:39pm

Heath Zealous Student wrote: »

Do you want a girlfriend OP or just to "bang birds in a place full of pussy"?

You talking about 1 of those cat cafes where chicken is served? Sign me up

contrary_devil · 31-05-2019 7:42pm

mistress_gi wrote: »

I'm a lady and in the same situation
"wink wink"

Hello there, how are you? Interesting username

Mister Vain · 31-05-2019 7:44pm

seamus wrote: »

Open with a conversation starter. A funny, perhaps quirky question, not one that requires her to give up personal information about herself, or engage in idle chatter. "How are you today?" or "What kind of man are you looking for?", are not conversation starters. Something like, "Do you think dogs have their own names that they use for people", or "Do you think Bert and Ernie sharing a bed made dating difficult for them".

Are you going to do that with every person you contact though? It just looks like a copy and paste job. I find a "Hi, how's things?" followed by something you've referenced from their profile works a lot better. Although that's not always possible if their profile is blank.

vargoo · 31-05-2019 7:45pm

ardinn wrote: »

The well - Someone mentioned lisdoon, but the well is enough!

Seriously - forget women and learn to dance, at classes you will be forced to dance with everyone so you will meet 50 people in less than an hr.

Still, forget the women, as mentioned before there is a smell of want, and it stinks - just concentrate on being the best dancer you can be.

Why??

The country music scene at present is fooking huge, and full of pussy! and your social life will explode, there isnt a night you cant head somehere - This weekend there is 14000 young wans headed to cowboys and heroes - another 3500 to carlowfest, numerous events around the country everywhere. if its a social life you want - jive!

If you are DEAD set against dancing replace with whatever youd like to do instead and apply the above.

I started dancing a year ago and tbh and toot my own horn, im swimming in it! 35, i might scrape a 5 on the looks scale, and im a narky bollox - If I can be bangin birds form 23 - 56 as much as I am so can you!!

Go get em jimmy!!!

Replacing it with whatever you like to do doesn't work either but yea, everyone says Dancing lately.

Church on Tuesday · 31-05-2019 7:45pm

jimjangles wrote: »

I've tried online dating sites and they're absolutely useless.
I'm not ugly but it would seem by my terrible lack of popularity that I don't have the looks for online dating.
Whatever they're looking for online it's not me.
Also I have no kind of a social life anymore.
Also I'm 37 and I'm a man.
So if online dating doesn't work and I have no social life and I live in the midlands seems things aren't really going to work out too good for me for finding someone ever.
I should probably just forget about it.

Online dating is largely a cod.

Think about it logically; the typical woman will receive hundreds of messages from men in a single day.

The odds are completely stacked against you and even if you do stick out, it takes two to tango; the mutual interests have to be there along with the initial attraction otherwise it won't amount to much more then turgid conversation before you are ghosted.

If you are really set on online dating then go for the premium dating sites out there, dispense with ****e like Tinder and POF.

What are your interests? take up a new hobby and try meet women in real time, ideally not the pub or nightclub because they will just be there to let off steam with their girlfriends in most cases.

You simply have to get out there and start doing things and hobbies in your spare time, even if that means doing it by yourself initially.

Das Reich · 31-05-2019 7:49pm

ardinn wrote: »

The well - Someone mentioned lisdoon, but the well is enough!

Seriously - forget women and learn to dance, at classes you will be forced to dance with everyone so you will meet 50 people in less than an hr.

Still, forget the women, as mentioned before there is a smell of want, and it stinks - just concentrate on being the best dancer you can be.

Why??

The country music scene at present is fooking huge, and full of pussy! and your social life will explode, there isnt a night you cant head somehere - This weekend there is 14000 young wans headed to cowboys and heroes - another 3500 to carlowfest, numerous events around the country everywhere. if its a social life you want - jive!

If you are DEAD set against dancing replace with whatever youd like to do instead and apply the above.

I started dancing a year ago and tbh and toot my own horn, im swimming in it! 35, i might scrape a 5 on the looks scale, and im a narky bollox - If I can be bangin birds form 23 - 56 as much as I am so can you!!

Go get em jimmy!!!

56? He is looking for a grilfriend not a grandma.

vargoo · 31-05-2019 7:49pm

https://www.nialldoorhydancer.ie/classes/jiving-lessons-jive-dance-classes-westmeath/

Purple Mountain · 31-05-2019 8:05pm

_blaaz wrote: »

Male or female??

I haven't decided yet.

pgj2015 · 31-05-2019 8:15pm

dont bother op, she will just marry you, stop having sex with you, cheat on you then take half of everything you own. lol

pgj2015 · 31-05-2019 8:23pm

ardinn wrote: »

The well - Someone mentioned lisdoon, but the well is enough!

Seriously - forget women and learn to dance, at classes you will be forced to dance with everyone so you will meet 50 people in less than an hr.

Still, forget the women, as mentioned before there is a smell of want, and it stinks - just concentrate on being the best dancer you can be.

Why??

The country music scene at present is fooking huge, and full of pussy! and your social life will explode, there isnt a night you cant head somehere - This weekend there is 14000 young wans headed to cowboys and heroes - another 3500 to carlowfest, numerous events around the country everywhere. if its a social life you want - jive!

If you are DEAD set against dancing replace with whatever youd like to do instead and apply the above.

I started dancing a year ago and tbh and toot my own horn, im swimming in it! 35, i might scrape a 5 on the looks scale, and im a narky bollox - If I can be bangin birds form 23 - 56 as much as I am so can you!!

Go get em jimmy!!!

This may be true but it wouldnt be worth it listening to an irish guy singing in an american accent and having to go line dancing with hundreds of red necks every weekend, also you would have to worry about the mental health of any woman who finds country music enjoyable. :P

mun1 · 31-05-2019 8:39pm

I’m sitting in a pub and laughing out loud at some
of the comments on here .
Great thread and best of luck OP.&#55357;&#56833;

kowloon · 31-05-2019 8:41pm

Boom_Bap wrote: »

There are loads of hot Russians within 1 mile of me.

You live in unidentified local proxy too?

Deleted User wrote: »

I'd never considered the country music scene might be "full of pussy"..

Inspiring post though..

It's a bit crude for sure, I prefer the term knee deep in klunge.

WrigleysExtra · 31-05-2019 8:49pm

Unfortunately men have ruined it for themselves, too many thirsty betas giving average looking women attention and now they have hugely inflated egos. Ask any decent looking single woman who is using an online dating app to show you her phone and she will probably have tens if not hundreds of messages.

Your best bet is to try and find someone in real life. It's a numbers game, approach often and accept rejection.

31-05-2019 8:56pm

kowloon wrote: »

You live in unidentified local proxy too?

It's a bit crude for sure, I prefer the term knee deep in klunge.

I would have to say that I prefer "full of pussy"..

I've always found the word 'klunge' rather crass..

Greyfox · 31-05-2019 9:06pm

Church on Tuesday wrote: »

Online dating is largely a cod.

Online dating is the best way to meet a woman these days, you've just got to put in the time, I find tinder really good once you can show that you can hold a proper conversation and that your not just looking for a hook up. Meetup is good but there's too many women who are just looking to make friends

StereoSound · 31-05-2019 9:07pm

I'd go online, lots of free asian dating sites where you would find a nice 20 something year old to chat to, they go mad for white guys. Depending on who you communicate with, she may not be a money grabbing whore like some appear to be.

I know a guy from work met a girl in Philippines from an online site, he traveled over and back a few times to her before marrying her there and brought her here. She is almost half his age.... They are both mad about eachother.

ArchXStanton · 31-05-2019 9:23pm

WrigleysExtra wrote: »

Unfortunately men have ruined it for themselves, too many thirsty betas giving average looking women attention and now they have hugely inflated egos. Ask any decent looking single woman who is using an online dating app to show you her phone and she will probably have tens if not hundreds of messages.

Your best bet is to try and find someone in real life. It's a numbers game, approach often and accept rejection.

It's a rigged game, skewed heavily in their favour...

Check out this for entitlement..

https://www.bolde.com/im-feminism-kinda-making-harder-date/

Nobelium · 31-05-2019 9:24pm

BENDYBINN wrote: »

Lissdoonvarna is the place for you!

also there is always the Knock Marriage Bureau

vargoo · 31-05-2019 9:28pm

pgj2015 wrote: »

dont bother op, she will just marry you, stop having sex with you, cheat on you then take half of everything you own. lol

This^

I was single for a really long time...very close to forever actually, could spend days on my own with only the essential contact with others, introvert I guess.

Met someone and initially said no but she persisted so.....I gave it a go.

It was nice, a lot of work, comfort zones expanded, having to let someone in and try to trust this person that could end up doing some of the most vile things to you down the road.

She ruined it a year in, started lying, I sensed but took a long while to find out what she had done, my own fault for not wanting to invade her trust/space!

Everything in me said walk away...Run...but I gave her a second chance, your internal walls go back up, I tried to get back to how it was but I was only fooling myself, lack of life exp. Another 2 years and a bit down the road She started spending time with a co worker and our time together grew shorter and further apart so I just stopped answering the phone one day, the phone stopped ringing and her Facebook status changed to single and pics of her and the co worker together started appearing.

It leaves a mark.

A void you can't fill.

Work/exercise.

Tried the online dating.

Said hello to her virtually 9 months later, she didn't want to know. Close to a year now and I'm nearly me again, a hell of a lot wiser/distrustful of everyone now.

The lack of life exp in me wonders how anyone betrayed like this can ever really move on with someone else...fully.

jimjangles · 31-05-2019 9:29pm

I did that whole thing where I'd ask a question bringing up something that was in their profile but that's useless anyway.
They never reply to that.
I don't think women read profiles anymore on dating sites.
I don't really think they care.
I've tried and failed at online dating anyway.
There are too many single geezers everywhere and not enough women so it is impossible if you go out anywhere either.
POF is full of fake spam meet me rubbish.
I'm going to leave it
Badoo and tinder are useless shallow bs.
The whole online so called dating scene is useless completely shallow bs.
Yes I know they're free but why would I pay to be rejected when I can be rejected for free.
I'm not into dancing, I'm not into sport and am too old to be accepted as sports are only for teens anyway.
I don't like gyms.
I hate to say it but I've given up.
I'm all out of options.
I'm going to just play video games and forget about women for the rest of my life.
There just aren't any decent women out there anymore.

Nikki Sixx · 31-05-2019 9:31pm

Could you move to a city or do you have to live where you are?

ToddyDoody · 31-05-2019 9:34pm

victor8600 wrote: »

For a man? Not really. Put a monkey into a nice suit, angle correctly and he would be attractive enough in a photo

George W Bush.

jimjangles · 31-05-2019 9:34pm

Nikki Sixx wrote: »

Could you move to a city or do you have to live where you are?

I have to live where I am.

vargoo · 31-05-2019 9:35pm

jimjangles wrote: »

I did that whole thing where I'd ask a question bringing up something that was in their profile but that's useless anyway.
They never reply to that.
I don't think women read profiles anymore on dating sites.
I don't really think they care.
I've tried and failed at online dating anyway.
There are too many single geezers everywhere and not enough women so it is impossible if you go out anywhere either.
POF is full of fake spam meet me rubbish.
I'm going to leave it
Badoo and tinder are useless shallow bs.
The whole online so called dating scene is useless completely shallow bs.
Yes I know they're free but why would I pay to be rejected when I can be rejected for free.
I'm not into dancing, I'm not into sport and am too old to be accepted as sports are only for teens anyway.
I don't like gyms.
I hate to say it but I've given up.
I'm all out of options.
I'm going to just play video games and forget about women for the rest of my life.
There just aren't any decent women out there anymore.

Well thats some mouthful of quitter talk bullsh1t anyway.

Theirs a parkrun near you tomorrow morning at 9.30.

https://www.parkrun.ie/

Start there and enough with the poor me bullsh1t.

Put the time you spent right swiping into yourself.

31-05-2019 9:36pm

jimjangles wrote: »

I've tried online dating sites and they're absolutely useless.
I'm not ugly but it would seem by my terrible lack of popularity that I don't have the looks for online dating.
Whatever they're looking for online it's not me.
Also I have no kind of a social life anymore.
Also I'm 37 and I'm a man.
So if online dating doesn't work and I have no social life and I live in the midlands seems things aren't really going to work out too good for me for finding someone ever.
I should probably just forget about it.

OP save yourself some time and money, and go MGTOW! :pac:

jimjangles · 31-05-2019 9:38pm

Branchranch wrote: »

What's a decent woman and when were there decent women?

Well I've never met one so I don't know.

mdk_kdm · 31-05-2019 9:43pm

Hamza Some Restaurant wrote: »

OP save yourself some time and money, and go MGTOW! :pac:

Amen brother!

The best you can hope for is some thot who's ridden the cock carousel several times. **** that.

How is a man supposed to find a woman in the 21st century

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