How is a man supposed to find a woman in the 21st century

Nobelium

BENDYBINN wrote: »

Lissdoonvarna is the place for you!

also there is always the Knock Marriage Bureau

vargoo

pgj2015 wrote: »

dont bother op, she will just marry you, stop having sex with you, cheat on you then take half of everything you own. lol

This^

I was single for a really long time...very close to forever actually, could spend days on my own with only the essential contact with others, introvert I guess.

Met someone and initially said no but she persisted so.....I gave it a go.

It was nice, a lot of work, comfort zones expanded, having to let someone in and try to trust this person that could end up doing some of the most vile things to you down the road.

She ruined it a year in, started lying, I sensed but took a long while to find out what she had done, my own fault for not wanting to invade her trust/space!

Everything in me said walk away...Run...but I gave her a second chance, your internal walls go back up, I tried to get back to how it was but I was only fooling myself, lack of life exp. Another 2 years and a bit down the road She started spending time with a co worker and our time together grew shorter and further apart so I just stopped answering the phone one day, the phone stopped ringing and her Facebook status changed to single and pics of her and the co worker together started appearing.

It leaves a mark.

A void you can't fill.

Work/exercise.

Tried the online dating.

Said hello to her virtually 9 months later, she didn't want to know. Close to a year now and I'm nearly me again, a hell of a lot wiser/distrustful of everyone now.

The lack of life exp in me wonders how anyone betrayed like this can ever really move on with someone else...fully.

jimjangles

I did that whole thing where I'd ask a question bringing up something that was in their profile but that's useless anyway.
They never reply to that.
I don't think women read profiles anymore on dating sites.
I don't really think they care.
I've tried and failed at online dating anyway.
There are too many single geezers everywhere and not enough women so it is impossible if you go out anywhere either.
POF is full of fake spam meet me rubbish.
I'm going to leave it
Badoo and tinder are useless shallow bs.
The whole online so called dating scene is useless completely shallow bs.
Yes I know they're free but why would I pay to be rejected when I can be rejected for free.
I'm not into dancing, I'm not into sport and am too old to be accepted as sports are only for teens anyway.
I don't like gyms.
I hate to say it but I've given up.
I'm all out of options.
I'm going to just play video games and forget about women for the rest of my life.
There just aren't any decent women out there anymore.

Nikki Sixx

Could you move to a city or do you have to live where you are?

ToddyDoody

victor8600 wrote: »

For a man? Not really. Put a monkey into a nice suit, angle correctly and he would be attractive enough in a photo

George W Bush.

jimjangles

Nikki Sixx wrote: »

Could you move to a city or do you have to live where you are?

I have to live where I am.

vargoo

jimjangles wrote: »

I did that whole thing where I'd ask a question bringing up something that was in their profile but that's useless anyway.
They never reply to that.
I don't think women read profiles anymore on dating sites.
I don't really think they care.
I've tried and failed at online dating anyway.
There are too many single geezers everywhere and not enough women so it is impossible if you go out anywhere either.
POF is full of fake spam meet me rubbish.
I'm going to leave it
Badoo and tinder are useless shallow bs.
The whole online so called dating scene is useless completely shallow bs.
Yes I know they're free but why would I pay to be rejected when I can be rejected for free.
I'm not into dancing, I'm not into sport and am too old to be accepted as sports are only for teens anyway.
I don't like gyms.
I hate to say it but I've given up.
I'm all out of options.
I'm going to just play video games and forget about women for the rest of my life.
There just aren't any decent women out there anymore.

Well thats some mouthful of quitter talk bullsh1t anyway.

Theirs a parkrun near you tomorrow morning at 9.30.

https://www.parkrun.ie/

Start there and enough with the poor me bullsh1t.

Put the time you spent right swiping into yourself.

chuchuchu

jimjangles wrote: »

I've tried online dating sites and they're absolutely useless.
I'm not ugly but it would seem by my terrible lack of popularity that I don't have the looks for online dating.
Whatever they're looking for online it's not me.
Also I have no kind of a social life anymore.
Also I'm 37 and I'm a man.
So if online dating doesn't work and I have no social life and I live in the midlands seems things aren't really going to work out too good for me for finding someone ever.
I should probably just forget about it.

OP save yourself some time and money, and go MGTOW! :pac:

jimjangles

Branchranch wrote: »

What's a decent woman and when were there decent women?

Well I've never met one so I don't know.

mdk_kdm

chuchuchu wrote: »

OP save yourself some time and money, and go MGTOW! :pac:

Amen brother!

The best you can hope for is some thot who's ridden the cock carousel several times. **** that.

ToddyDoody

According to my book, a successful man is one who can earn more money than his woman can spend. A successful woman is the one who can find this man.

What else...

Woman today want exactly the same thing they have always wanted: resources.
Today's woman still wants a man who can provide and protect - in simple terms, he has access to resources.

Woman are attracted to men who make them laugh
Women are attracted to men who will communicate
Women are attracted to men who cook
Women are attracted to men who dance.
Woman are attracted to men who make them feel secure
Women are attracted to men who like children
Women are attracted to healthy looking men

Men who lack ambition are seen by women as undesirable.Women will end a relationship with a man who becomes lazy, loses his job or lacks ambition.

Now you know.

Purple Mountain

Nobelium wrote: »

BENDYBINN wrote: »

Lissdoonvarna is the place for you!

also there is always the Knock Marriage Bureau

Closed last week.

riclad

Use dating apps that do not have swipe right or left options.
Take up a hobby, be well dressed where ver you are going ,
go to a pub, have 1 drink.be sober, and see what happens ,
dont ask out women who are 10 years younger than you.
Look at personal ads in newspapers , buyand sell etc
write on the dating profile what you are interested in,book,s ,music, etc
If looks were everything they only the beautiful people would be married .
Most people marry someone of similar looks, apart from people
who are very rich.
i presume he,s looking for someone in ireland,
not looking to meet a woman who lives 2000 miles away.
Even famous women have been known to use dating apps.
you don,t have to go to a gym, go to concerts, plays, karoke nights .
not every woman is a fan of gyms or sports .

jimjangles

ToddyDoody wrote: »

According to my book, a successful man is one who can earn more money than his woman can spend. A successful woman is the one who can find this man.

What else...

Woman today want exactly the same thing they have always wanted: resources.
Today's woman still wants a man who can provide and protect - in simple terms, he has access to resources.

Woman are attracted to men who make them laugh
Women are attracted to men who will communicate
Women are attracted to men who cook
Women are attracted to men who dance.
Woman are attracted to men who make them feel secure
Women are attracted to men who like children
Women are attracted to healthy looking men

Men who lack ambition are seen by women as undesirable.Women will end a relationship with a man who becomes lazy, loses his job or lacks ambition.

Now you know.

So love is dead.
Well if they're going to have all those frigging requirements forget about it
If you lose a job and a woman leaves you that woman was a mistake in the first place.
If women really expect all those things that isn't love.
They're supposed to like you despite your flaws.
I think that's basically part of the problem.
All women care about now is the material bs.
They don't care about the man.

Nobelium

Purple Mountain wrote: »

Closed last week.

he's bolloxed then

Church on Tuesday

ToddyDoody wrote: »

According to my book, a successful man is one who can earn more money than his woman can spend. A successful woman is the one who can find this man.

What else...

Woman today want exactly the same thing they have always wanted: resources.
Today's woman still wants a man who can provide and protect - in simple terms, he has access to resources.

Woman are attracted to men who make them laugh
Women are attracted to men who will communicate
Women are attracted to men who cook
Women are attracted to men who dance.
Woman are attracted to men who make them feel secure
Women are attracted to men who like children
Women are attracted to healthy looking men

Men who lack ambition are seen by women as undesirable.Women will end a relationship with a man who becomes lazy, loses his job or lacks ambition.

Now you know.

Women are attracted to men that are confident, ambitious, kind, secure in themselves and who are fun to be around. I'm really not sure about the rest...

It's strange, there has been a few posts like this in the last few days it seems

Most women don't care about money and if you are with a woman who only cares about money then you only have yourself to blame.

If you are with a woman who leaves you because you lost your job, that is really not the kind of women you want in your life anyways.

Much like women who test men initially and sometime after they first meet at points in the relationship, so too can men at the initial stage.

At the end of the day you are what you attract. If you have a low quality opinion of yourself, you will attract low quality people into your life. Choose wisely.

ToddyDoody

jimjangles wrote: »

So love is dead.
Well if they're going to have all those frigging requirements forget about it
If you lose a job and a woman leaves you that woman was a mistake in the first place.
If women really expect all those things that isn't love.
They're supposed to like you despite your flaws.
I think that's basically part of the problem.
All women care about now is the material bs.
They don't care about the man.

That's what the book says. There''s a whole equivalent on the man's side too. Men want, according to the book;

Sex
Basic services - food, washing, mothering,
To be loved and be number one
Solitary time without interruption.

It goes on...

Nikki Sixx

jimjangles wrote: »

I have to live where I am.

Are you a farmer?

jimjangles

Church on Tuesday wrote: »

Women are attracted to men that are confident, ambitious, kind, secure in themselves and who are fun to be around. I'm really not sure about the rest...

It's strange, there has been a few posts like this in the last few days it seems

Most women don't care about money and if you are with a woman who only cares about money then you only have yourself to blame.

If you are with a woman who leaves you because you lost your job, that is really not the kind of women you want in your life anyways.

Much like women who test men initially and sometime after they first meet at points in the relationship, so too can men at the initial stage.

At the end of the day you are what you attract. If you have a low quality opinion of yourself, you will attract low quality people into your life. Choose wisely.

I don't attract anything lol.
Anyway thanks for trying to help.

jimjangles

Nikki Sixx wrote: »

Are you a farmer?

No I'm not a farmer lol.
It's complicated I'd rather not go into it.

OP read your own posts and imagine that you were reading the same from a female poster. What would you be thinking?

Nearly everyone has had their heart broken, been treated like a sap and believed that they will never meet anyone, nothing special or unique about this.

To be honest I'm reading your posts here and thinking you're either very self centered, a little depressed or just talking the piss.

TuringBot47

jimjangles wrote: »

There just aren't any decent women out there anymore.

Women on dating apps had a habit on postings pics that were 5 years ago deluding themselves that they hadn't aged or put on weight.

Do you have any workmates to ask? They probably have wives who have single friend's etc

Or join a local weight watchers group and have your pick of the chubbys with low self esteem.

Nikki Sixx

I’m sure if you paid attention to your weight, teeth, clothes and general appearance it would go a long way. Maybe go travel, broaden your horizons. Don’t pigeon hole yourself as Jimmy Mac from Ballydreary whi lives next to Noreen. Have other things going on in your life.

ToddyDoody

ToddyDoody wrote: »

That's what the book says. There''s a whole equivalent on the man's side too. Men want, according to the book;

Sex
Basic services - food, washing, mothering,
To be loved and be number one
Solitary time without interruption.

It goes on...

What's it called?
The arseholes guide to romance, perhaps?

ToddyDoody

DubInMeath wrote: »

What's it called the arseholes guide to romance?

The mating game by Allan and Barbara Pease, 2 Australians.. known for their sensitivity.

Panthro

Climb the highest mountain and then join tinder.

jimjangles

Nikki Sixx wrote: »

I’m sure if you paid attention to your weight, teeth, clothes and general appearance it would go a long way. Maybe go travel, broaden your horizons. Don’t pigeon hole yourself as Jimmy Mac from Ballydreary whi lives next to Noreen. Have other things going on in your life.

I'm not a farmer lol.
Quit with the farmery stuff.
I have decent teeth I just dress casually, I'd feel like a clown if I was going around dressed in a suit all the time.
I'm not overweight either.

Church on Tuesday

jimjangles wrote: »

I don't attract anything lol.
Anyway thanks for trying to help.

That's because you are not pro actively doing anything to attract anyone.

It's up to you at the end of the day but complaining about it here on Boards won't fix anything.

You mention you game, loads of women are into that as well, so why not see if there's a group online or in real life that you can meet up or engage with?

ToddyDoody

ToddyDoody wrote: »

The mating game by Allan and Barbara Pease, 2 Australians.. known for their sensitivity.

Australians should have known from the extracts provided.

ToddyDoody

DubInMeath wrote: »

Australians should have known from the extracts provided.

No class but hey.