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Ruining a wedding

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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,203 ✭✭✭partyguinness


    I was at a wedding a few years ago where they did this, and 6 separate people gave speeches for a total of 2 hours. I'm not exaggerating there, it was actually that long. I, and many others I'm sure, were furious. It's completely obnoxious and lacking in any self awareness.


    Ah ****....2 hours is outrageous.

    My wedding had no church element and we had the speeches beforehand at my Bestman's request. No problem. Only 5 mintues in length for 4 of us each. Other guests that day who went on to get married actually did the same after being at our wedding.

    Let's be honest...nobody gives a fcuk about the speeches and most didnt even care about the church ceremony for that matter- it is endured.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,004 ✭✭✭Eggs For Dinner


    Speeches at my son's wedding were before the meal. 4 speeches (1 via video link) done and dusted in 25 minutes and everyone could relax for the rest of the day


  • Administrators, Business & Finance Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 16,927 Admin ✭✭✭✭✭Toots


    I was at a wedding where they did the speeches with the welcome drinks at the hotel. Twas a fierce posh affair in this castle with a big foyer and a massive fireplace. It was winter and pouring outside so it was a kinda natural gathering place and the relevant parties stood up in front of the fire and made the speeches while everyone else had tea/coffee/mulled wine and sambos.

    It actually worked out really well in that instance but probably wouldn't suit every scenario. My aunt used to work in events at a hotel and they used to hate when couples did the speeches before the meal because they'd almost always run over.


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    Great thread!
    Some dodgy characters out there lads...

    Anyway mine is not ruin a wedding but could of had the potential too..
    So an ex of mine called me every odd day for 2 years to ask if there was any chance we could get back together, the last time he called me was on the morning of his wedding, to a traveller girl. Poor girl.

    Another wedding some friends of my husbands sent us an invite to a lovely spot in the west, quite rural so accommodation was needed. 'invited to celebrate wedding of... ' was the words on the invite.
    Got there with all our other pals to be lead out to the back area where they served cocktail sausages and pizza. (not enough to go around), no drinks reception.
    Turns out they had a quieter meal with 20 family etc after the early church sermon, and the 150 guests that were invited along with us was in fact the afters. 6 of us including one pregnant woman had to slip out for a meal in the restaurant as we were starved! And they walked by unashamed to see us there eating!!
    No guessing why it was nicknamed 'the fundraiser' after.

    My own wedding 11 years ago had 14 guests including me and the OH..
    Meal in hotel and drinks dancing after to band..
    Best wedding ever.. Could never understand these big shindigs.
    Well renew the vows when when can travel again with the kids for the crack!


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,004 ✭✭✭Eggs For Dinner


    My wedding
    Alcoholic priest went on a bender the week before and had to be brought to the church to do the ceremony. Went back to bed straight after
    My now brother in law got twisted at the reception and attempted to steal my father in law's car
    DJ's equipment failed and he had to head to the other side of Dublin to get replacements. Left us for 2 hours listening to Sunshine Radio in the meantime, as he was stopped for speeding on the way
    My father in law's speech went on for 15 minutes about how great his daughter was and never referenced me once

    Was one of the best days of my life


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 29,909 ✭✭✭✭Wanderer78


    Great thread!
    Some dodgy characters out there lads...

    Anyway mine is not ruin a wedding but could of had the potential too..
    So an ex of mine called me every odd day for 2 years to ask if there was any chance we could get back together, the last time he called me was on the morning of his wedding, to a traveller girl. Poor girl.

    Another wedding some friends of my husbands sent us an invite to a lovely spot in the west, quite rural so accommodation was needed. 'invited to celebrate wedding of... ' was the words on the invite.
    Got there with all our other pals to be lead out to the back area where they served cocktail sausages and pizza. (not enough to go around), no drinks reception.
    Turns out they had a quieter meal with 20 family etc after the early church sermon, and the 150 guests that were invited along with us was in fact the afters. 6 of us including one pregnant woman had to slip out for a meal in the restaurant as we were starved! And they walked by unashamed to see us there eating!!
    No guessing why it was nicknamed 'the fundraiser' after.

    My own wedding 11 years ago had 14 guests including me and the OH..
    Meal in hotel and drinks dancing after to band..
    Best wedding ever.. Could never understand these big shindigs.
    Well renew the vows when when can travel again with the kids for the crack!

    would you not see it as how messed up society has gotten in regards these events, that couples are nearly financially broken, before they even crack on with a mortgage and kids?


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 125 ✭✭AlejGuzman68


    I was at my very distant cousin's wedding, and after the bride(who is a very lovely woman)recited her vows. The groom proceeded to state he can't go through with the mockery. And left hand in hand with the best man.That was his coming out moment. They are still together, no idea what became of the bride.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 29,909 ✭✭✭✭Wanderer78


    I was at my very distant cousin's wedding, and after the bride(who is a very lovely woman)recited her vows. The groom proceeded to state he can't go through with the mockery. And left hand in hand with the best man.That was his coming out moment. They are still together, no idea what became of the bride.

    jesus thats dreadful, there is easier ways to come out, without destroying others


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 11,789 ✭✭✭✭BattleCorp


    I was at my very distant cousin's wedding, and after the bride(who is a very lovely woman)recited her vows. The groom proceeded to state he can't go through with the mockery. And left hand in hand with the best man.That was his coming out moment. They are still together, no idea what became of the bride.

    That doesn't sound believable to be honest.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,367 ✭✭✭JimmyVik


    I found out a few months after our wedding that my mother had contacted all the guests and asked for money instead of presents.
    I was mortified. Never told the wife.
    We would be the first to consider it very scummy for someone to request money only as a wedding present.
    Jesus i'll never get over it.


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 125 ✭✭AlejGuzman68


    BattleCorp wrote: »
    That doesn't sound believable to be honest.

    It may not but it did happen. Once in awhile it is still brought up at family get togethers.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,124 ✭✭✭Tow


    listening to (The Red Hot Sound of) Sunshine Radio in the meantime

    Showing both our ages!

    When is the money (including lost growth) Michael Noonan took in the Pension Levy going to be paid back?



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,203 ✭✭✭partyguinness


    JimmyVik wrote: »
    I found out a few months after our wedding that my mother had contacted all the guests and asked for money instead of presents.
    I was mortified. Never told the wife.
    We would be the first to consider it very scummy for someone to request money only as a wedding present.
    Jesus i'll never get over it.


    Any wedding invite that I have received requesting cash is promptly gifted anything but cash. Have not seen it in Ireland personally but a few times in England.

    In fact, a lady I work with did it 2 years ago. I made up some BS excuse that I could not make it and sent them a food basket from M&S.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 1,469 ✭✭✭ShyMets


    Just on the whole money for a gift thing.

    About three years ago we attended a friends wedding. Everything went well and we had a great day.

    However any time we met his wife afterwards she seemed a bit off with us. Which seemed a bit odd.

    A few months ago we were doing a bit of a spring clean and what did we find only their wedding card

    I thought my OH gave them the card and she thought I did. Because off COVID I haven't been able to give it to them as I don't want to send money in the post.

    No wonder his wife was off with us. She must have thought we were an awfully tight fisted pair


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 24,364 ✭✭✭✭Larbre34


    It may not but it did happen. Once in awhile it is still brought up at family get togethers.

    Just once in a while.....


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 9,320 ✭✭✭CoBo55


    Any wedding invite that I have received requesting cash is promptly gifted anything but cash. Have not seen it in Ireland personally but a few times in England.

    In fact, a lady I work with did it 2 years ago. I made up some BS excuse that I could not make it and sent them a food basket from M&S.

    Love your sig..


  • Registered Users Posts: 1,825 ✭✭✭Sebastian Dangerfield


    JimmyVik wrote: »
    I found out a few months after our wedding that my mother had contacted all the guests and asked for money instead of presents.
    I was mortified. Never told the wife.
    We would be the first to consider it very scummy for someone to request money only as a wedding present.
    Jesus i'll never get over it.

    I was invited to the wedding of two english people in fcuking South Africa, after a stag in Munich, and the invite said something along the lines of "We understand it's costing you lots to get to the wedding, so please don't feel pressure to provide a gift - but if you do wish to, a financial contribution would be appreciated".

    It's not my story so can't be sure it's true, but someone in work told me she got a wedding invite that was written as if it was from the couples kids (5 and 7), saying that it would "be great if we could all contribute to mammy and daddys big day" and had bank details printed on it.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 24,268 ✭✭✭✭Sleepy


    Not ruined but my own best man had a bit of a mare - he was nervous about the speech so had a few pints too many in search of dutch courage and was half cut giving the speech. He opened with a joke he'd found on the internet that the speech should be no longer than the duration the groom can make love for... then proceeded to give a rambling 70 minute long speech... He gave me my two best laughs of my own (much shorter) speech when I assured him he greatly over-estimated my prowess and got to tell the story of how he'd quite literally failed to organise a piss-up in a brewery on the stag do! (The brewery was closed when we arrived for the tour he'd planned but he recovered brilliantly and in the time it took us to have a pint in a lovely ould fella's bar nearby he'd organised a mini-bus to take us on a pub crawl around the Ring of Kerry which was a brilliant session.

    Again, it didn't ruin the wedding but it was my own blunder at a wedding: while rather enthusiastically spinning my cousin on the dancefloor, I managed to land her on her arse in her wedding dress! :o


  • Registered Users Posts: 968 ✭✭✭Str8outtaWuhan


    ShyMets wrote: »
    Just on the whole money for a gift thing.

    About three years ago we attended a friends wedding. Everything went well and we had a great day.

    However any time we met his wife afterwards she seemed a bit off with us. Which seemed a bit odd.

    A few months ago we were doing a bit of a spring clean and what did we find only their wedding card

    I thought my OH gave them the card and she thought I did. Because off COVID I haven't been able to give it to them as I don't want to send money in the post.

    No wonder his wife was off with us. She must have thought we were an awfully tight fisted pair


    funny , opposite happened to us during height of the tiger. Pretentious couple had a wedding gift registry thing at one of the dept stores, we promptly bought some stuff as u do. had great wedding , thank you's went out to all our friends and guests but not to us. we were too awkward to ask why not us? in the end we figured the online thingy didnt register us even though i had it in credit card statement.

    long story short EVERY wedding since then one of us will approach the bride the day before and hand her card saying "take care of that now there's money in it" on the day of the wedding we will tell the groom "we gave the card to the bride"


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 17,300 ✭✭✭✭razorblunt


    A friend of mine was at a wedding a few years back. One of those fancy golf and country houses type places.
    He was his wife's +1 so didn't know a whole load there and knew the couple from quick meetings (the bride was a school friend of his wife I think).

    Anyway it's rehearsal dinner and his wife was saying its strange the bride isnt anywhere to be seen, few other folk were looking for her too but none of the wedding party seemed concerned. He noticed one of the bridesmaid party suddenly made a run for the door and was followed by the other bridesmaids. He thought nothing of it other than maybe there's been some last minute hitch and they've gone off to celebrate.

    There was not further chat on it until the ceremony the next day when both he and wife noticed the bride looked a bit "tired and out of it". Ceremony went off without incident and the day was progressing well but it wasn't until they sat at their table that other guests who were in the now had said the bride texted the bridesmaids during the rehearsal dinner saying something along the lines of "I can't do this, sorry, I'm going down to the water (on the golf course)". They got there in time and went through the day heavily medicated, apparently it was nerves/anxiety but I don't know if you'd still make someone go through with it.


  • Moderators, Recreation & Hobbies Moderators Posts: 5,807 Mod ✭✭✭✭irish_goat


    My cousin is getting married this year and I'm looking forward to it. He was throwing our granny around the dancefloor at my brother's wedding and it's regularly brought up as a funny story at family events. Found out only last week that he did the same to the mother of the bride at another wedding and ended up breaking her arm. :pac:


  • Administrators, Business & Finance Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 16,927 Admin ✭✭✭✭✭Toots


    Back when I used to work I a bank branch, I had an elderly couple come up to my desk one day wanting to make an international money transfer to the UK but they were having trouble filling in the form. I offered to fill it for them and asked had they got the details of where they wanted it sent, and the wife handed me what I thought was a postcard but it turned out to be a wedding invitation. Had a crappy little poem in it about how the couple already had everything they needed for their home and "rather than something we've already got, we'd appreciate money for our honeymoon pot".

    My jaw just dropped when I saw it and the old man seeing my expression just chuckled and said that was pretty much the same reaction his wife had when she read it. They sent them €200!


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 9,474 ✭✭✭pgj2015


    Toots wrote: »
    Back when I used to work I a bank branch, I had an elderly couple come up to my desk one day wanting to make an international money transfer to the UK but they were having trouble filling in the form. I offered to fill it for them and asked had they got the details of where they wanted it sent, and the wife handed me what I thought was a postcard but it turned out to be a wedding invitation. Had a crappy little poem in it about how the couple already had everything they needed for their home and "rather than something we've already got, we'd appreciate money for our honeymoon pot".

    My jaw just dropped when I saw it and the old man seeing my expression just chuckled and said that was pretty much the same reaction his wife had when she read it. They sent them €200!




    I would have sent 2 euro. people are bigger ejits giving in to scroungers like that. I got invitations where they asked for money only, I never went and never gave them money or a gift either because of it.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,203 ✭✭✭partyguinness


    Toots wrote: »
    . Had a crappy little poem in it about how the couple already had everything they needed for their home and "rather than something we've already got, we'd appreciate money for our honeymoon pot".

    My jaw just dropped when I saw it and the old man seeing my expression just


    That is exactly the same as our lady here did...a crappy little rhyming poem about the Honeymoon Pot.

    “Here…have this food basket” said I.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 32,213 ✭✭✭✭odyssey06


    Less stinge, more ruinations - except where the stinge lead to the ruination!

    "To follow knowledge like a sinking star..." (Tennyson's Ulysses)



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    Toots wrote:
    Back when I used to work I a bank branch, I had an elderly couple come up to my desk one day wanting to make an international money transfer to the UK but they were having trouble filling in the form. I offered to fill it for them and asked had they got the details of where they wanted it sent, and the wife handed me what I thought was a postcard but it turned out to be a wedding invitation. Had a crappy little poem in it about how the couple already had everything they needed for their home and "rather than something we've already got, we'd appreciate money for our honeymoon pot".


    No class whatsoever there.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,267 ✭✭✭Hangdogroad


    I'd give them honeymoon pot, over their fecking heads.


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    Twas a good thread when it wasnt just people moaning about weddings, this


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,339 ✭✭✭The One Doctor


    I was at one wedding in the UK (a well to do, pleasant couple). The best man (English groom's son) opened his speech with 'I see all the Irish have had the decency to park their caravans around the back'.

    He was NOT popular.

    My brother's wedding, I was the best man. The bride's cousins (an uncouth lot) started shouting during the speech. I ignored them and kept going, to much applause.

    Yeah, I'm awesome.

    Another family wedding, the poor best man got cold feet during the speech, said 'I can't do this' and walked off.

    Yet another wedding in Swords, the father of the groom did his whole speech in Irish.

    If he'd spoken French more people would have understood him.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,114 ✭✭✭PhilOssophy


    Twas a good thread when it wasnt just people moaning about weddings, this

    You can never have a thread about anything wedding related on here without some misery guts posting "I hate weddings" zzzzzz

    I'm sure many have ruined a wedding by being a miserable shet for a day!


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,114 ✭✭✭PhilOssophy


    I was at a wedding a number of years ago in a very fancy hotel where the residence bar didn't close. 7am, still serving, there was a good few people still there, mainly drunk as asses.
    Anyway, there was a golf course with the first tee about 40ft from the front door of the residence bar. Anyway, one of the lads a bit worse for wear decided to go "for a walk". Everybody knew he was up to something.
    About 30 seconds later, there he was, starkers, running across the first tee as 3-4 lads stood there about to tee off. It got worse when he slipped on the dew and prolonged the misery for the lads having to look at him in his birthday suit as they got ready to tee off for their golf.
    I suppose it didn't ruin the wedding, just the golf.
    Needless to say, the whole residence bar seen this happening and were breaking their hole laughing as 3 toffs stood there aghast at what they had just seen.


  • Registered Users Posts: 906 ✭✭✭FlubberJones


    My brothers wedding many years ago, I was the best man, at that time not used to speaking to crowds (all that has changed) but anyway I had a half glass full of Jameson in front of me about 15 mins before my speech... by the time I was starting it was almost empty and in honesty I'd had a good few beers prior to that... my speech seemed to go on FOREVER and even now my brother laughs and says it added an hour to the wedding video... I can hardly remember the last half of it and by the time we were at the night event I was LEATHERED.
    It didn't ruin it but it certainly didn't add any value... bar my particularly flaccid appearance for the rest of the day


  • Registered Users Posts: 4,590 ✭✭✭blue note


    Some great stories in this thread. I've 2 quick ones from the best wedding I was ever at (so obviously it wasn't ruined).

    For context on who one of the people was - he worked with the groom and I met him for the first time at the stag. You know these lads who are under the wife's thumb, but find themselves unsupervised on a stag and go wild? This guy was a caricature of that. I'd say he hadn't had a night out since his own wedding.

    Anyway, onto the day itself. It was the first of my group of friends, so I was really getting carried away with how lovely and happy everything was during the ceremony. Doesn't everyone look lovely, the weather is beautiful, isn't a wedding ceremony beautiful? And then the priests sermon. He had known the bride since she was young. He knew that she loved ballet as a child and was big into yoga now and thought he could work his sermon around that. So, bride for as long as he's known her has always stretched herself. As a child she did ballet and kept herself stretched. As an adult she took up yoga. Again stretching herself. And it's important for couples not just to be comfortable, but to keep their lives interesting. And looking at the couple who I don't know how they kept it together, said Groom, your role now is stretch bride. And keep her stretched into the future. I've heard some good best man speeches, but this was by an enormous distance the funniest wedding speech I've ever heard.

    And on that guy I met at the stag.... I met him with the wife at the wedding reception. I drove straight from the Chruch to the venue and found them sitting down. Two pints and two chasers in front of them and two empty pints and chasers in front of them. Turns out I completely misjudged them! He didn't have a wife that kept him under a leash, he in fact had met his soulmate! During the speeches before dinner he got sick into a glass at his table (the one beside the top table). And he was still partying with the wife until roughly sunrise.

    That wedding weekend was probably the best of my life. Please don't mention to my own wife!


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 11,025 ✭✭✭✭EmmetSpiceland


    Does anyone, actually, get “gifts” for a wedding? I’ve never bought one. Couple of hundred quid in a card and that’s that.

    Much handier than having to shop for something and then have to lug it around with you until you can “off load” it on the best man, or someone else.

    “It is not blood that makes you Irish but a willingness to be part of the Irish nation” - Thomas Davis



  • Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 79 ✭✭JohnMcm1


    Heard of a wedding where the best man and groom had to be put to bed before the meal.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,010 ✭✭✭kildare lad


    When I got married in England. It was a small affair and only about 30 sat down to dinner...more came to the afters.

    At least two of the English couples who sat down (friends of wife) didn't give us so much as a card. Took all the free booze, free food, several rounds of drinks from the Irish couples at the table but never bought back. Nothing. Not even a card and they dressed like slobs too.

    One of the women was/is a 'big girl' and like a lot of big girls she dyes her hair stupid lurid red/purple. Husband looks like a grenade exploded near his face with all the piercings and tatts everywhere..no shirt or tie...grubby fcukers ruining the pics.

    I'd a mate whose a miserable fxcker and after spending all his money at the wedding of a good mate of ours, he went up and took the 50 quid he gave the couple back out of the card .

    Another time we were driving to a wedding and we stopped off at a shop to get some cards. He left the card in the car when we got to the wedding , anyway about 2 weeks after the wedding the groom rings me . He told me he was talking to the miserable fxcker , who told him he forgot to give him the card at the wedding as he'd left it in my car . I told the groom he was welcome to come and get the card but it was still in it's plastic wrapping unused in the side door of the car.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,367 ✭✭✭JimmyVik


    Ive another one.
    I was a groomsman at a friends wedding.
    The bride gave both groomsmen, best man and groom instructions that the jackets were to be kept on all during the meal and the speeches (About 2 hours altogether), so that the pictures and video looked nice.
    It was the hottest day of the year. Ive seem the pictures and the video. All 4 of us were sitting there pouring buckets of sweat, you could even see coming through the jackets and dripping off our chins while we were eating. One of the most grueling 2 hours of my life. Id say i lost about 2 stone that day. And there must have been some whiff off us.

    And the one where I was the best man. Id had a few pints. People were still arriving into the evening giving me cards.
    I would leave the cards on the end of the table and then every 20 mins i would go up to the room and leave the bunch of cards in it.
    At one point i went to do this and the cards were gone off the table, probably 6 or 7 of them.
    I didnt want to tell them they had thieves at their wedding so just said nothing.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,305 ✭✭✭nibtrix


    Pinch Flat wrote: »
    I went to a wedding about 15 years ago. Groom was a bit of a lad. As part of his speech he asked all the ladies he'd shagged to drop up copies of keys to his front door to the top table. About 10 or so ladies stood up, went up kissed him on the cheek and handed him a door key. Groom ended up having an affair soon after they were married an they were separated soon after.

    I was at a wedding where the bridesmaid tried to do that to the bride (her sister). Except she just asked a couple of mates to hand out keys to a bunch of guys and didn't really explain the whole thing, so they ended up being given to a lot of uncles and cousins of the bride :eek::eek:

    There was a lot of flinging keys across tables to other, non-related men when the "bit" was announced in the bridesmaids speech :D


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 279 ✭✭lemonkey


    Was at a wedding in America. Groom, family & a few friends all from Ireland. The rest all middle class Americans.

    Morning of the wedding the best man hits the hotel bar to calm the nerves.. fast forward 10 hours later of drinking in between the ceremony and he staggers up to the mic and starts his speech in an American accent (where ever the feck it came from), reading off a crumbled to death piece of paper he got as far as line 2 and reverting back to his west Ireland voice just kept repeating ''I swear to god..'' he was literally blind drunk, forgot the speech and couldn't read it off the ruined sheet. Chief bridesmaid forced the mic off him and ran him off the floor.

    If sunk any further into my seat I'd of been underground. Looking back on it now it was ****ing hilarious!


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,201 ✭✭✭ongarboy


    Does anyone, actually, get “gifts” for a wedding? I’ve never bought one. Couple of hundred quid in a card and that’s that.

    Much handier than having to shop for something and then have to lug it around with you until you can “off load” it on the best man, or someone else.

    I think the days of getting 10 deep fat fryer gifts on your wedding day stopped in the 90s. For some reason gift lists/registries never took off in Ireland. Too much "the nerve of them" reaction even though any foreign wedding I went to had them and it made gift giving so easy and no-one thought it was presumptuous.

    Cash is fine but I'm suspicious of any couple who invites 400 "acquaintances" to their wedding... handy revenue stream....!

    I've no ruined wedding anecdotes per se but witnessed numerous best man speeches that went on way too long and that no one outside of the stag party got or found funny.


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    Does anyone, actually, get “gifts†for a wedding? I’ve never bought one. Couple of hundred quid in a card and that’s that.


    Not all people that give gifts are cheapskates but most that do usually are. Some of them are obvious pass ons of crap they got as a gift themselves.


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    nibtrix wrote: »
    I was at a wedding where the bridesmaid tried to do that to the bride (her sister). Except she just asked a couple of mates to hand out keys to a bunch of guys and didn't really explain the whole thing, so they ended up being given to a lot of uncles and cousins of the bride :eek::eek:

    There was a lot of flinging keys across tables to other, non-related men when the "bit" was announced in the bridesmaids speech :D

    Its an old trope

    Best execution of it i ever saw was three of his mates sauntering up with keys, blowing the grooms kisses


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,049 ✭✭✭appledrop


    Toots wrote: »
    Back when I used to work I a bank branch, I had an elderly couple come up to my desk one day wanting to make an international money transfer to the UK but they were having trouble filling in the form. I offered to fill it for them and asked had they got the details of where they wanted it sent, and the wife handed me what I thought was a postcard but it turned out to be a wedding invitation. Had a crappy little poem in it about how the couple already had everything they needed for their home and "rather than something we've already got, we'd appreciate money for our honeymoon pot".

    My jaw just dropped when I saw it and the old man seeing my expression just chuckled and said that was pretty much the same reaction his wife had when she read it. They sent them €200!

    I think that's absolutely horrendous. My two favourite gifts from my wedding was a beautiful vase and lovely painting. Yes the majority did give us money but that's people own choice. Can't believe people would ask for money.


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    JimmyVik wrote: »
    Ive another one.
    I was a groomsman at a friends wedding.
    The bride gave both groomsmen, best man and groom instructions that the jackets were to be kept on all during the meal and the speeches (About 2 hours altogether), so that the pictures and video looked nice.
    It was the hottest day of the year. Ive seem the pictures and the video. All 4 of us were sitting there pouring buckets of sweat, you could even see coming through the jackets and dripping off our chins while we were eating. One of the most grueling 2 hours of my life. Id say i lost about 2 stone that day. And there must have been some whiff off us.

    Ive a few done now where ive had a role on the day, i bring a spare shirt and dash off for a shower after the dinner if i can these days


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    appledrop wrote: »
    I think that's absolutely horrendous. My two favourite gifts from my wedding was a beautiful vase and lovely painting. Yes the majority did give us money but that's people own choice. Can't believe people would ask for money.

    Cant believe people would be bothered buying gifts tbh


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,049 ✭✭✭appledrop


    Cant believe people would be bothered buying gifts tbh

    We only got a few gifts and some were from people who couldn't make it on the day but still sent a gift which I thought was lovely.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 11,400 ✭✭✭✭Collie D


    Off topic but having done best man at my brother’s wedding I think if people had been coming up to me all night handing me toasters and porcelain figurines and whatever else, half of it would have ended up broken or left behind.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,049 ✭✭✭appledrop


    My husband worked in hotel while in college so plenty of stories about things going wrong at weddings.

    So it was getting near the end of the night and the wedding couple had organised a wedding bus to drop people home at end of night which was popular years ago for those who lived local.

    People were on the bus waiting for driver who for whatever reason had gone into hotel, probably to use the bathroom.

    Anyway one of the guests decided he wasn't waiting any longer and decided that he would drive the bus himself and drop everyone home!

    He was plastered of course so didn't get very far until he crashed the bus into cars in the car park.

    Guards were called and that was the end of that wedding.

    The poor bride and groom only doing their best for the guests.


  • Moderators, Politics Moderators Posts: 40,308 Mod ✭✭✭✭Seth Brundle


    Cant believe people would be bothered buying gifts tbh
    As I look around my house, I see things that friends and relations bought us for our wedding (we had a wedding list in Arnotts). They have meaning and much better than money (if we were that stuck for money we wouldn't have spent money on a wedding)!


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  • Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 25,947 Mod ✭✭✭✭Neyite


    Scottish wedding.
    The groom and bride during the long long ceremony were sat on the right hand side of the church facing the congregation, on the alter so were about 3 steps up from the rest of us.

    We became aware of a bit of a flurry on that side of the church with several guests making hand gestures and a fair bit of mutterings that went on for ages.

    Turns out that his usual manner of sitting with his legs wide apart was not how one sits while wearing a kilt. He was flashing his junk to half the church for at least 30 solid minutes.


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