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Anyone else enjoy being single?

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    #422
    yourdeadwright
    Registered Users Posts: 20,537 ✭✭✭✭yourdeadwright


    WinnyThePoo wrote: »
    Almost 30,Single and living on the bread line. So the thought of bankrupting myself to go on a date doesn't appeal.

    Maybe down the line when things are financially better I might try one of the dating apps.


    Loads of ways to go on a date without spending money,
    Best first date is to meet for a coffee won't cost ye the world plus if it isn't what you hoped for ye can leave fairly sharpish ,

    Fro mthere you oculd go for a walk or whatever,

    As a great man once said " if you want to get into the box you have to think outside the box "

    Ps iv no idea who said that or if there is a gender fluid version :D


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    #423
    Eircom_Sucks
    Registered Users Posts: 3,193 ✭✭✭Eircom_Sucks


    suicide_circus wrote: »
    people with no personality tend to talk about their jobs a lot. they also take up "interesting" hobbies and talk about how "mad" they are. watch out for a lot of talk about all the travelling theyve done, red alert.

    100 % you have had this crap too

    Or their many pics of them on machu pichu lol


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    #424
    Dial Hard
    Registered Users Posts: 13,392 ✭✭✭✭Dial Hard


    yourdeadwright wrote: »
    Loads of ways to go on a date without spending money,
    Best first date is to meet for a coffee won't cost ye the world plus if it isn't what you hoped for ye can leave fairly sharpish

    I can totally see where they're coming from, tbh. I was unemployed for a period in 2017 and I had less than zero interest in dating because of it. I simply didn't feel like I was the best version of myself at the time and really didn't want to get into a dating scenario where all we could ever do was, essentially, free stuff.


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    #425
    Daisy78
    Registered Users Posts: 1,028 ✭✭✭Daisy78


    Eircom_Sucks wrote: »
    100 % you have had this crap too

    Or their many pics of them on machu pichu lol

    Right so no talking about what they do for a living, any places they might have been to or hobbies. So what exactly are they supposed to talk about?!


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    #426
    lainey_d_123
    Registered Users Posts: 2,385 ✭✭✭lainey_d_123


    Daisy78 wrote: »
    Right so no talking about what they do for a living, any places they might have been to or hobbies. So what exactly are they supposed to talk about?!

    Comes across as jealousy to me tbh. I've never found someone who has travelled all over the world boring.


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    #427
    EmmetSpiceland
    Registered Users Posts: 10,532 ✭✭✭✭EmmetSpiceland


    lainey_d_123 wrote: »
    Comes across as jealousy to me tbh. I've never found someone who has travelled all over the world boring.

    I know one lad who went on his travels years ago and haven’t heard the end of it since. Give him any excuse and he’ll bang on and on about this place or that.

    He even had a blog going at the time. Made for some boring reading.

    The tide is turning…



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    #428
    Tell me how
    Registered Users Posts: 21,518 ✭✭✭✭Tell me how


    EmmetSpiceland wrote: »
    I know one lad who went on his travels years ago and haven’t heard the end of it since. Give him any excuse and he’ll bang on and on about this place or that.

    He even had a blog going at the time. Made for some boring reading.

    But you still read it though.......


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    #429
    Eircom_Sucks
    Registered Users Posts: 3,193 ✭✭✭Eircom_Sucks


    lainey_d_123 wrote: »
    Comes across as jealousy to me tbh. I've never found someone who has travelled all over the world boring.

    Hardly jealousy when ive been to usa , australia , basecamp everest , europe , family holiday home in malaga , but i don’t bore people with these facts


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    #430
    Tell me how
    Registered Users Posts: 21,518 ✭✭✭✭Tell me how


    Eircom_Sucks wrote: »
    Hardly jealousy when ive been to usa , australia , basecamp everest , europe , family holiday home in malaga , but i don’t bore people with these facts

    You just bored me. ;)


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    #431
    TomasMacR
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    EmmetSpiceland wrote: »
    I know one lad who went on his travels years ago and haven’t heard the end of it since. Give him any excuse and he’ll bang on and on about this place or that.

    He even had a blog going at the time. Made for some boring reading.

    Bit more detail needed. Was he on a year working holiday visa staying on Bondi beach drinking in a local Irish bar with the rest of his pals from Navan or did he spend years in a Papua New Guinea rainforest studying some rare beetle with only a baboon to keep him company which he ended up making love to every so often.


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    #432
    givyjoe
    Registered Users Posts: 3,287 ✭✭✭givyjoe


    TomasMacR wrote: »
    Bit more detail needed. Was he on a year working holiday visa staying on Bondi beach drinking in a local Irish bar with the rest of his pals from Navan or did he spend years in a Papua New Guinea rainforest studying some rare beetle with only a baboon to keep him company which he ended up making love to every so often.

    This beats your last odd post hands down. 😬


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    #433
    lainey_d_123
    Registered Users Posts: 2,385 ✭✭✭lainey_d_123


    Eircom_Sucks wrote: »
    Hardly jealousy when ive been to usa , australia , basecamp everest , europe , family holiday home in malaga , but i don’t bore people with these facts

    Maybe the way you talk about it is boring. Don't see how someone talking about exciting stuff they did and were passionate about could be boring.


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    #434
    Dalomanakora
    Closed Accounts Posts: 608 ✭✭✭Dalomanakora


    lainey_d_123 wrote: »
    Maybe the way you talk about it is boring. Don't see how someone talking about exciting stuff they did and were passionate about could be boring.

    Have to agree here. I've a friend in work who has done an awful lot of travelling before she moved to Ireland. Even hearing her talk about her recent weekend in Kilkenny is fascinating to me because she's a wonderful story teller and gets really into the history of places she visits.


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    #435
    pgj2015
    Registered Users Posts: 8,942 ✭✭✭pgj2015


    Sunny Disposition wrote: »
    It's definitely possible to be fairly happy on your own, certainly for a man. But I think it's hard if you don't have a few good friends who are single also. Of course its still possible, but you're quite likely to be lonely.
    I don't think there's a thing in the world wrong with being single, but it's a bit depressing if people close themselves off from the possibility of having a relationship.




    Not if that is what they want.


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    #436
    fin12
    Registered Users Posts: 10,934 ✭✭✭✭fin12


    lainey_d_123 wrote: »
    Comes across as jealousy to me tbh. I've never found someone who has travelled all over the world boring.

    There’s nothing wrong with someone talking about where they have travelled, it’s when they judge others and look down on someone for not being as travelled as them. Some people don’t have any interest in going off back packing doesn’t make them any less interesting than the person that has.


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    #437
    mvl
    Registered Users Posts: 1,229 ✭✭✭mvl


    I could probably get myself in a solid state of content being single, but every time I was happy beyond everything I was also coupled one way or another.
    Stumbled upon this article about a happiness recession (18-34 band) in America. Copying a paragraph from it here.

    This analysis revealed that changes in sexual frequency can account for about one-third of the decline in happiness since 2012 and almost 100 percent of the decline in happiness since 2014. If Americans still had sex like they did in 2008, or even 2012, we might be a much happier country. Declines in marriage and religiosity have also played some role, but the effects are much smaller—with each factor only accounting for about a tenth of the decline in happiness. And, but for the rise in regular friend contact over the past few years, young men and women would be even less happy.
    In other words, Americans are offsetting some of the lost community and companionship of spouses and churches with closer ties to friends. But those friendships don’t give young Americans the sex life that made previous generations happier.


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    #438
    Widdershins
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    fin12 wrote: »
    There’s nothing wrong with someone talking about where they have travelled, it’s when they judge others and look down on someone for not being as travelled as them. Some people don’t have any interest in going off back packing doesn’t make them any less interesting than the person that has.

    This. If we all did the same things and only gravitated to people with the same life experiences it'd defeat the purpose of travelling or talking to new people ...


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    #439
    KathleenGrant
    Registered Users Posts: 3,777 ✭✭✭KathleenGrant


    I have been in 2 very ltr's and was made single all of a sudden almost 6 months ago. It was not my choice and I was devastated. I have not been single since i was 19. And now these past 2 months I feel great. People are commenting on how happy I look. I feel positive about my life. I am enjoying the freedom of doing things at the drop of a hat for the first time. I have zero interest in a relationship. I am happy to look out for me for once.

    Of course I am in a different place than a lot of people here. I have a family and I definitely would not change that.


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    #440
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 26,052 ✭✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    Daisy78 wrote: »
    Right so no talking about what they do for a living, any places they might have been to or hobbies. So what exactly are they supposed to talk about?!

    People who talk about interesting jobs and interesting hobbies and the interesting places they have been to are only boring in the alternative universe of AH.


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    #441
    ancapailldorcha
    Moderators, Category Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 37,254 CMod ✭✭✭✭ancapailldorcha


    Candie wrote: »
    People who talk about interesting jobs and interesting hobbies and the interesting places they have been to are only boring in the alternative universe of AH.

    A bit sad, isn't it?

    We sat again for an hour and a half discussing maps and figures and always getting back to that most damnable creation of the perverted ingenuity of man - the County of Tyrone.

    H. H. Asquith



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    #442
    [Deleted User]
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    ancapailldorcha wrote: »
    A bit sad, isn't it?

    Very. Smacks of insecurity.


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    #443
    orourkeda1977
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,628 ✭✭✭orourkeda1977


    relationships are overrated and marriage is a glorified business arrangement


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    #444
    misstearheus
    Registered Users Posts: 2,115 ✭✭✭misstearheus


    <<< likes a dark horse....

    Jus' sayin'...


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    #445
    fin12
    Registered Users Posts: 10,934 ✭✭✭✭fin12


    orourkeda1977 wrote: »
    relationships are overrated and marriage is a glorified business arrangement

    I agree, I think money has got a lot to do with marriages and even why some people are still stuck together , people can’t even afford to break up now...


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    #446
    kunst nugget
    Closed Accounts Posts: 10,375 ✭✭✭✭kunst nugget


    Candie wrote: »
    People who talk about interesting jobs and interesting hobbies and the interesting places they have been to are only boring in the alternative universe of AH.

    Eh, it all depends... If you go off on an monologue about any of these without letting anyone else contribute to the conversation or constantly turn the talk back to your interesting job, hobby or travel, then it can get tedious. Conversation should be a two way street.

    Plus, what you might find interesting, others might find deathly dull so you have to be cognisant of the person you're talking to - for instance one of my hobbies would be to kick back and spend some time playing the PS4 and I find the games for the most part really interesting. I would almost never bring it up though because I know most people would find it completely boring.


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    #447
    Charles Ingles
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 1,181 ✭✭✭Charles Ingles


    Nobody wants to be single.


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    #448
    Gimme A Pound
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,482 ✭✭✭Gimme A Pound


    Charles Ingles wrote: »
    Nobody wants to be single.
    Try to bear in mind that your view is not the same as everyone else's.

    Nobody wants to be single *forever* (and not literally nobody because a tiny number do - more than likely due to an unusual situation like being asexual) but many perfectly well adjusted and attractive people need time alone on occasion, e.g. after a difficult break-up.

    And people who cannot fathom life being single even for a temporary period, seem extremely needy.


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    #449
    Tell me how
    Registered Users Posts: 21,518 ✭✭✭✭Tell me how


    Charles Ingles wrote: »
    Nobody wants to be single.

    Read the thread. Allow your mind to be open to other opinions.


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    #450
    .......
    Closed Accounts Posts: 9,057 ✭✭✭.......


    Charles Ingles wrote: »
    Nobody wants to be single.

    Nonsense, I know a number of people who have actively avoided relationships by choice in their lives and are now elderly and have no regrets.


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    #451
    kunst nugget
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    ....... wrote: »
    Nonsense, I know a number of people who have actively avoided relationships by choice in their lives and are now elderly and have no regrets.

    And right arms that could crush steel.


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