Women commenting on and rejecting men due to height

Wompa1 · 16-10-2014 05:24PM

Potatoeman wrote: »

Ive heard your taller in the morning. Apparently gravity and posture make you smaller by night.

I've been measured as part of a few physicals...somehow it's been different each time. 5 foot 7 to 5 foot 9

Mister Vain · 16-10-2014 05:35PM

Doctor Jimbob wrote: »

I've found men comment on my height more than women do.

Now that you mention it, I've experienced the same thing. I guess I don't care as much if it coms from a man, but yeah I have noticed men comment on it more.

Mike747 wrote: »

Height is a tremendous advantage for men.

Not if you have a face like a well slapped arse it isn't.

Penny Tration · 16-10-2014 05:45PM

Lux23 wrote: »

I am an inch smaller than I was at 19, very odd to think that you begin shrinking so young.

When I was 16, I was 5'5.

Now, at 25, I'm 5'1 :pac: There's apparently a medical reason for it, according to my cardiologist, but I don't believe him.

I used to also be a 7 in shoes, now I'm a 5.5 :pac:

Galwayguy35 · 16-10-2014 05:47PM

Mister Vain wrote: »

Not if you have a face like a well slapped arse it isn't.

Very true, I work with someone who is in no way good looking and has zero success with women even though he is well over 6ft tall.

bluestrattos · 16-10-2014 05:48PM

green_screen wrote: »

When I was 16, I was 5'5.

Now, at 25, I'm 5'1 :pac: There's apparently a medical reason for it, according to my cardiologist, but I don't believe him.

I used to also be a 7 in shoes, now I'm a 5.5 :pac:

you're turning into an hobbit.

Mister Vain · 16-10-2014 05:50PM

Galwayguy35 wrote: »

Very true, I work with someone who is in no way good looking and has zero success with women even though he is well over 6ft tall.

Yeah height on its own is nothing without the looks and personality to go with it.

DoYouEvenLift · 16-10-2014 07:52PM

skallywag wrote: »

I think Ireland is still a long way from feeling comfortable with the metric system. If ppl ask me my weight / height etc I would always respond in terms of Kgs / Metres, but invariably nobody ever seems to get it, need to convert to stone / feet.

This. But I use lbs for my weight lol.

ALiasEX · 16-10-2014 09:13PM

Mister Vain wrote: »

Yeah height on its own is nothing without the looks and personality to go with it.

Women want to eat their cake and have it too.

No wonder men have to specify "no heifers"

snickerpuss · 16-10-2014 09:19PM

I have always said that I'd prefer a tall man. I'm 5' 7" and would have been with people who were 6' or so. However, when I met my now fiancé (who is also 5' 7") I really didn't even notice his height. I just fell for him and it wasn't til ages later that I 'realised' he was relatively short. Love IS apparently blind! In my case anyway!

bb1234567 · 16-10-2014 09:38PM

Balmed Out wrote: »

Ive found women are often mistaken about their height. I remember being at a friends 30th (doing the maths this is about 7 years ago). Hes shortish but not very like 5' 7 or 5' 8. I dont remember how the conversation came up but one of the girls mentioned how she was taller then him, after measuring against each other she wasn't. Turns out of the 8 or 9 girls one was taller then him, one the same but nearly all of them thought they were taller then him.

Its funny you mention that because Im 5'8'' and lots of girls who are a bit taller like 5'10'' always think theyre shorter than me

Lalealea · 17-10-2014 02:43AM

Tall men never see me. :-)

I'm 5'4. Well between 5'4 and 5'5 I have dated smaller guys but I do prefer tallish guys. But they generally don't notice me.

Not that loads of people notice me or anything. LOl :-)

bluestrattos · 17-10-2014 07:25AM

Lalealea wrote: »

Tall men never see me. :-)

I'm 5'4. Well between 5'4 and 5'5 I have dated smaller guys but I do prefer tallish guys. But they generally don't notice me.

Not that loads of people notice me or anything. LOl :-)

Hobbits, hobbits everywhere :-)

Lalealea · 17-10-2014 12:06PM

bluestrattos wrote: »

Hobbits, hobbits everywhere :-)

lol no i'm a tiny fairy elf girl! :-P

17-10-2014 12:56PM

Lalealea wrote: »

Tall men never see me. :-)

I'm 5'4. Well between 5'4 and 5'5 I have dated smaller guys but I do prefer tallish guys. But they generally don't notice me.

Not that loads of people notice me or anything. LOl :-)

To me, 5'4 is positively lanky

qo2cj1dsne8y4k · 19-10-2014 12:02PM

I'm 5'4 and I don't think a shorter guy than me (do they even exist?) has ever chatted me up/been interested in me. My boyfriend now is 6'2, the guy I was with before him was 6'5. With the exception of one guy, the rest of them would have been all over 6 foot.

Not that I've anything against shorter guys, they just don't seem to be into me!

UCDVet · 19-10-2014 12:24PM

I know a lot of women who won't date a man shorter than they are (or even the same height).

I also know a lot of men who won't date a woman who is taller than they are (or even the same height).

As far as physical attributes go, my male friends are far more restrictive than my female friends. But yeah, I don't see any reason to fault someone for their dating preferences.

kiffer · 19-10-2014 02:15PM

LexieOnRale wrote: »

I'm 5'4 and I don't think a shorter guy than me (do they even exist?) has ever chatted me up/been interested in me. My boyfriend now is 6'2, the guy I was with before him was 6'5. With the exception of one guy, the rest of them would have been all over 6 foot.

Not that I've anything against shorter guys, they just don't seem to be into me!

OK. That seems weird to be honest.
Almost everyone that has hit on you is at least 2 inches above average height? That's pretty unlikely... I mean only about 15% of men are over 6 foot tall.

qo2cj1dsne8y4k · 19-10-2014 02:38PM

kiffer wrote: »

OK. That seems weird to be honest.
Almost everyone that has hit on you is at least 2 inches above average height? That's pretty unlikely... I mean only about 15% of men are over 6 foot tall.

No to be honest anyone (that I can remember) pulling would be much taller than me. This may be because when I go out I'm never in heels lower than 4 inches (but usually 5) so maybe shorter guys don't approach taller girls? I haven't really thought about it before but I was with one guy who was 5'9 or that. He would have been the shortest

DoYouEvenLift · 19-10-2014 07:39PM

UCDVet wrote: »

I know a lot of women who won't date a man shorter than they are (or even the same height).

I also know a lot of men who won't date a woman who is taller than they are (or even the same height).

As far as physical attributes go, my male friends are far more restrictive than my female friends. But yeah, I don't see any reason to fault someone for their dating preferences.

Who said there was?

Mister Vain · 19-10-2014 08:42PM

LexieOnRale wrote: »

maybe shorter guys don't approach taller girls?

It can be a bit intimidating alright, especially if its a group of girls on a night out. If a girl is only slightly taller than me it wouldn't put me off though. High heels make a big difference. I often feel shorter on a night out.

the evasion_kid · 19-10-2014 08:49PM

Mister Vain wrote: »

It can be a bit intimidating alright, especially if its a group of girls on a night out. If a girl is only slightly taller than me it wouldn't put me off though. High heels make a big difference. I often feel shorter on a night out.

Regardless of the height you're under her friends scrutiny from the very start

DoYouEvenLift · 19-10-2014 10:10PM

the evasion_kid wrote: »

Regardless of the height you're under her friends scrutiny from the very start

Yeah, don't know many guys who'd have the balls to approach a group of 4+ girls. If girls are going out to try and get guys I'd advise only going out in groups of 3's max. It's pretty tough if you've ever approached a group of girls because you like one and don't have a wingman at the time and her friends are obnoxious about it, those same girls will stay huddled in their group and shoot down every person who approaches other girls in the group who might actually be open to socialising and meeting new people. Y'know, the whole reason you go out to pubs and clubs? Might as well just stay home and drink with their own group if they're not open to being approached by new people.

qo2cj1dsne8y4k · 19-10-2014 10:16PM

To be fair I've never been in a group where guys would be automatically shot down. The only time that's happened within our group is if the guys a bit too free with his hands. If one of the girls is being chatted up and she seems to like him, well leave her to it.

Two weekends ago I was out, a guy came over sat next to me with my friends and started chatting me. Even though I'm in a relationship, I wasn't mean or rude to him. The girls weren't there with their mouths open either.

19-10-2014 10:21PM

DoYouEvenLift wrote: »

Yeah, don't know many guys who'd have the balls to approach a group of 4+ girls. If girls are going out to try and get guys I'd advise only going out in groups of 3's max. It's pretty tough if you've ever approached a group of girls because you like one and don't have a wingman at the time and her friends are obnoxious about it, those same girls will stay huddled in their group and shoot down every person who approaches other girls in the group who might actually be open to socialising and meeting new people. Y'know, the whole reason you go out to pubs and clubs? Might as well just stay home and drink with their own group if they're not open to being approached by new people.

So, all girls who are outside their houses in a social situation are there to be picked up?

Meeting people you might be interested in might be your primary motive for leaving your house, but lots of people go out to have fun with their friends.

It's not unreasonable for them to expect a night without constant interruptions. People in relationships and people who want to catch up with friends are entitled to a night out where ever they want to go, without being constantly intruded upon.

DoYouEvenLift · 19-10-2014 10:24PM

LexieOnRale wrote: »

To be fair I've never been in a group where guys would be automatically shot down. The only time that's happened within our group is if the guys a bit too free with his hands. If one of the girls is being chatted up and she seems to like him, well leave her to it.

Two weekends ago I was out, a guy came over sat next to me with my friends and started chatting me. Even though I'm in a relationship, I wasn't mean or rude to him. The girls weren't there with their mouths open either.

Then you have decent, well mannered friends.

Candie wrote: »

So, all girls who are outside their houses in a social situation are there to be picked up?

Meeting people you might be interested in might be your primary motive for leaving your house, but lots of people go out to have fun with their friends.

It's not unreasonable for them to expect a night without constant interruptions. People in relationships and people who want to catch up with friends are entitled to a night out where ever they want to go, without being constantly intruded upon.

Being approached isn't always about being "picked up". You'll know when a person is flirting with you and trying to pick you up and you should have the social skills to know when someone is just making friendly chat and looking for banter.

19-10-2014 10:28PM

DoYouEvenLift wrote: »

Being approached isn't always about being "picked up". You'll know when a person is flirting with you and trying to pick you up and you should have the social skills to know when someone is just making friendly chat and looking for banter.

And yet if you're constantly getting shot down, you don't realise your approaches aren't sought or welcomed? There are a few social nuances missing there if you think it's acceptable to say that women should stay home unless they're open to approach. People go out with their friends, they aren't always out to entertain random interlopers and if a person intrudes on a group of friends talking to each other then he has no right to expect them to entertain his 'banter'. They owe him nothing, he's the one intruding.

Liam McPoyle · 19-10-2014 10:44PM

DoYouEvenLift wrote: »

Yeah, don't know many guys who'd have the balls to approach a group of 4+ girls. If girls are going out to try and get guys I'd advise only going out in groups of 3's max. It's pretty tough if you've ever approached a group of girls because you like one and don't have a wingman at the time and her friends are obnoxious about it, those same girls will stay huddled in their group and shoot down every person who approaches other girls in the group who might actually be open to socialising and meeting new people. Y'know, the whole reason you go out to pubs and clubs? Might as well just stay home and drink with their own group if they're not open to being approached by new people.

Jesus Christ.

DoYouEvenLift · 19-10-2014 10:46PM

Candie wrote: »

And yet if you're constantly getting shot down, you don't realise your approaches aren't sought or welcomed? There are a few social nuances missing there if you think it's acceptable to say that women should stay home unless they're open to approach. People go out with their friends, they aren't always out to entertain random interlopers and if a person intrudes on a group of friends talking to each other then he has no right to expect them to entertain his 'banter'. They owe him nothing, he's the one intruding.

Lol I don't approach unless clear indication is made that I should so I'm rarely the one intruding, but even in my own groups where it's usually all friends catching up for the first time in ages we couldn't care less if some random interlopers approached us and joined in, or "intruded", our group as long as they're good craic and if they weren't we'd just politely tell them we're having a private conversation at the time. This is generally the opinion of Irish people seeing as I've gone out on my own a few times in different cities here and always gotten pally with different groups. Ask any tourists and they'll say it's why they love this country...but that'd require you to entertain random interlopers so never mind lol.

RedemptionZ · 19-10-2014 10:47PM

I'm fairly short myself, 5'8", maybe 5'9" on a good day and most of my friends are between 6'1" and 6'4", so when we go out I tend to look quite small beside them, and as most girls wear massive heals a decent amount of them would be one or two inches taller than me in a nightclub. Maybe I've just had bad luck but I've had loads of girls tell me I'm too small or something patronising related to my height, and it has made me quite self conscious about it, once or twice I have returned a weight comment(admittedly sinking to their level which I shouldn't do) and of course then I turn into the villain. Maybe depends on where you are but in Dublin anyway I've found it to be a pretty harsh environment and I pretty much only go for girls now who are either not in heels or are in the 5'2" range so they're smaller than me in heels. Again probably insecurity but I feel like even if the girl didn't care, her friends would and that would affect my chances with her.

DoYouEvenLift · 19-10-2014 10:54PM

RedemptionZ wrote: »

I'm fairly short myself, 5'8", maybe 5'9" on a good day and most of my friends are between 6'1" and 6'4", so when we go out I tend to look quite small beside them, and as most girls wear massive heals a decent amount of them would be one or two inches taller than me in a nightclub. Maybe I've just had bad luck but I've had loads of girls tell me I'm too small or something patronising related to my height, and it has made me quite self conscious about it, once or twice I have returned a weight comment(admittedly sinking to their level which I shouldn't do) and of course then I turn into the villain. Maybe depends on where you are but in Dublin anyway I've found it to be a pretty harsh environment and I pretty much only go for girls now who are either not in heels or are in the 5'2" range so they're smaller than me in heels. Again probably insecurity but I feel like even if the girl didn't care, her friends would and that would affect my chances with her.

You should explain it all to your friends and have one of them be the ones to "stoop" and drop the truth to them as then you can't be considered the one getting mad over it. I'm 6'2 and have no problem bringing it up if I see comments negatively thrown at my friends who are smaller. It rarely happens but it's pretty satisfying whsn if does, proving how hypocritical they are once they get in a huff over receiving similar treatment that they were just dishing out a minute earlier.

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