Women commenting on and rejecting men due to height

RedemptionZ

I'm fairly short myself, 5'8", maybe 5'9" on a good day and most of my friends are between 6'1" and 6'4", so when we go out I tend to look quite small beside them, and as most girls wear massive heals a decent amount of them would be one or two inches taller than me in a nightclub. Maybe I've just had bad luck but I've had loads of girls tell me I'm too small or something patronising related to my height, and it has made me quite self conscious about it, once or twice I have returned a weight comment(admittedly sinking to their level which I shouldn't do) and of course then I turn into the villain. Maybe depends on where you are but in Dublin anyway I've found it to be a pretty harsh environment and I pretty much only go for girls now who are either not in heels or are in the 5'2" range so they're smaller than me in heels. Again probably insecurity but I feel like even if the girl didn't care, her friends would and that would affect my chances with her.

DoYouEvenLift

RedemptionZ wrote: »

I'm fairly short myself, 5'8", maybe 5'9" on a good day and most of my friends are between 6'1" and 6'4", so when we go out I tend to look quite small beside them, and as most girls wear massive heals a decent amount of them would be one or two inches taller than me in a nightclub. Maybe I've just had bad luck but I've had loads of girls tell me I'm too small or something patronising related to my height, and it has made me quite self conscious about it, once or twice I have returned a weight comment(admittedly sinking to their level which I shouldn't do) and of course then I turn into the villain. Maybe depends on where you are but in Dublin anyway I've found it to be a pretty harsh environment and I pretty much only go for girls now who are either not in heels or are in the 5'2" range so they're smaller than me in heels. Again probably insecurity but I feel like even if the girl didn't care, her friends would and that would affect my chances with her.

You should explain it all to your friends and have one of them be the ones to "stoop" and drop the truth to them as then you can't be considered the one getting mad over it. I'm 6'2 and have no problem bringing it up if I see comments negatively thrown at my friends who are smaller. It rarely happens but it's pretty satisfying whsn if does, proving how hypocritical they are once they get in a huff over receiving similar treatment that they were just dishing out a minute earlier.

DoYouEvenLift

DoYouEvenLift wrote: »

Lol I don't approach unless clear indication is made that I should so I'm rarely the one intruding, but even in my own groups where it's usually all friends catching up for the first time in ages we couldn't care less if some random interlopers approached us and joined in, or "intruded", our group as long as they're good craic and if they weren't we'd just politely tell them we're having a private conversation at the time. This is generally the opinion of Irish people seeing as I've gone out on my own a few times in different cities here and always gotten pally with different groups. Ask any tourists and they'll say it's why they love this country...but that'd require you to entertain random interlopers so never mind lol.

However you feel girls should stay home if they aren't open to approach.

Which reveals much.

Lol.

DoYouEvenLift

Candie wrote: »

However you feel girls should stay home if they aren't open to approach.

Which reveals much.

Lol.

Enjoy your huddles with the gurls where you assume every man in the room is attracted to you.

DoYouEvenLift

DoYouEvenLift wrote: »

Enjoy your huddles with the gurls where you assume every man in the room is attracted to you.

I'm afraid that's all a figment of your rich and somewhat unconventional imagination.

Shakespeare's Sister

Nice. Comes to specific conclusion apropos nothing. Because of COURSE objecting to "They should stay at home if they're not receptive to meeting new people" could ONLY mean you're always in a huddle with the girls and assuming every man in the room is attracted to you.

RedemptionZ wrote: »

I'm fairly short myself, 5'8", maybe 5'9" on a good day and most of my friends are between 6'1" and 6'4", so when we go out I tend to look quite small beside them, and as most girls wear massive heals a decent amount of them would be one or two inches taller than me in a nightclub. Maybe I've just had bad luck but I've had loads of girls tell me I'm too small or something patronising related to my height, and it has made me quite self conscious about it, once or twice I have returned a weight comment(admittedly sinking to their level which I shouldn't do) and of course then I turn into the villain. Maybe depends on where you are but in Dublin anyway I've found it to be a pretty harsh environment and I pretty much only go for girls now who are either not in heels or are in the 5'2" range so they're smaller than me in heels. Again probably insecurity but I feel like even if the girl didn't care, her friends would and that would affect my chances with her.

Is this perhaps due to where and with whom people are socialising?
Honestly it's alien to me - well has been for years anyway.

5ft 8/9 being "short" for a man is also alien to me. How on earth could that height be short? It clearly isn't. It's 3.5/4.5 inches taller than I am and I'm not short.

Nightclubs and bars that are all about thumping music and who is more tarted up than the next person are sh-t.
If you just went to a friendly pub I bet you wouldn't encounter this stuff. I guess there's age and social circle to factor into it though.

Doctor Jimbob

Shakespeare's Sister wrote: »

Nice. Comes to specific conclusion apropos nothing. Because of COURSE objecting to "They should stay at home if they're not receptive to meeting new people" could ONLY mean you're always in a huddle with the girls and assuming every man in the room is attracted to you.

Is this perhaps due to where and with whom people are socialising?
Honestly it's alien to me - well has been for years anyway.

5ft 8/9 being "short" for a man is also alien to me. How on earth could that height be short? It clearly isn't. It's 3/3.5 inches taller than I am and I'm not short.

Nightclubs and bars that are all about thumping music and who is more tarted up than the next person are sh-t.
If you just went to a friendly pub I bet you wouldn't encounter this stuff. I guess there's age and social circle to factor into it though.

It's usually safe enough to take at least 2 inches off someone's reported height :pac:

Wibbs

Doctor Jimbob wrote: »

It's usually safe enough to take at least 2 inches off someone's reported height :pac:

Aye it can be like reported mickey measurements alright. I'm 5'10-11 depending on how slouchy I am and so many times in my life I've had blokes tell me they were 6ft or above and I'm looking eyeball to eyeball with them, or even on occasion looking slightly down on them. They must have fierce tall foreheads/hair.

Pawwed Rig

Mod note - Keep it civil lads. I would also remind people there is an ignore function if you do not want to read posts from certain posters.

Doctor Jimbob

Wibbs wrote: »

Aye it can be like reported mickey measurements alright. I'm 5'10-11 depending on how slouchy I am and so many times in my life I've had blokes tell me they were 6ft or above and I'm looking eyeball to eyeball with them, or even on occasion looking slightly down on them. They must have fierce tall foreheads/hair.

Overheard a girl a few weeks ago telling someone she was 5'8. I was tall enough to look her in the eye and I'm 5'5 in a good day.

I don't think there's usually any intentional deceit going on, I think people just generally don't have much of a clue what height they are - I only do thanks to teenage insecurity

RedemptionZ

Shakespeare's Sister wrote: »

Nice. Comes to specific conclusion apropos nothing. Because of COURSE objecting to "They should stay at home if they're not receptive to meeting new people" could ONLY mean you're always in a huddle with the girls and assuming every man in the room is attracted to you.

Is this perhaps due to where and with whom people are socialising?
Honestly it's alien to me - well has been for years anyway.

5ft 8/9 being "short" for a man is also alien to me. How on earth could that height be short? It clearly isn't. It's 3.5/4.5 inches taller than I am and I'm not short.

Nightclubs and bars that are all about thumping music and who is more tarted up than the next person are sh-t.
If you just went to a friendly pub I bet you wouldn't encounter this stuff. I guess there's age and social circle to factor into it though.

I'm 21 now, and I'd say the average height for men my age in Ireland is 5'10", so I'd be below average. And when I say 5'9" on a good day I mean if I wear shoes with a bit of a heel! My friends never really go to friendly pubs, more club people but hopefully that'll change as we age I suppose.

Doctor Jimbob wrote: »

It's usually safe enough to take at least 2 inches off someone's reported height :pac:

While I'd be inclined to agree about height reporting, I've been very insecure about my body since I was about 13 and as a result have measured very accurately and frequently so I can tell you for a fact I'm 5'8". Normally guys round up to 6ft. I've had so many guys try to convince me I'm 5'10" because they're 6 foot, sorry lads ain't fooling me!