Is there "something wrong" with a guy if he...

tomthetank · 10-10-2014 02:41PM

Immature & pathetic world view to have, as if women are tarnished" or "spoiled" in accordance with the number of sexual partners they've had. Whereas men get off scot free coz it's an achievement for a lad to get laid?

Virgin whore complex, sexism and sore egos. Women like sex too. Get over it

stitcheddepin · 10-10-2014 02:51PM

tomthetank wrote: »

Immature & pathetic world view to have, as if women are tarnished" or "spoiled" in accordance with the number of sexual partners they've had. Whereas men get off scot free coz it's an achievement for a lad to get laid?

Virgin whore complex, sexism and sore egos. Women like sex too. Get over it

I disagree with you fine sir. sex for male and female is quite different, both physically and emotionally. A lady is more attached to the act of sex, if she has had numerous male partners ( someone threw 20 out there) for one night stands she would be feeling a little empty and depleted inside, having let so many different male members come and go. a male can become detached, he can perform, finish and be forgotten with it. a lady cannot, unless she is a real whore.
I would like to marry a lady who hasn't been left empty and devoid of her soul by numerous pricks, one that is willing to take me in and give me all her soul.
nothing immature about it, but a bird who sleeps around 'for the fun of it' isn't worth pissing on in my opinion. she is definitely tarnished

tomthetank · 10-10-2014 02:56PM

stitcheddepin wrote: »

a male can become detached, he can perform, finish and be forgotten with it. a lady cannot, unless she is a real whore.

Classy.
I suspect a select few on this thread are misrepresenting the male population of Ireland with this old sexist catholic guilt ridden shyte.
Thread needs euthanising.

Barely There · 10-10-2014 02:57PM

I don't think there's anything wrong with a guy with a small number of sexual partners having a preference for a woman with a similar number to him.

A guy with a large number having a preference for a woman with a small number, well that's kinda fcuked up imo.

TBH I find the whole idea of needing to know your partner's 'number' very strange indeed.

Barely There · 10-10-2014 02:58PM

tomthetank wrote: »

Classy.
I suspect a select few on this thread are misrepresenting the male population of Ireland with this old sexist catholic guilt ridden shyte.

I suspect a bit of trolling from some tbh.

jobbridge4life · 10-10-2014 03:00PM

stitcheddepin wrote: »

I disagree with you fine sir. sex for male and female is quite different, both physically and emotionally. A lady is more attached to the act of sex, if she has had numerous male partners ( someone threw 20 out there) for one night stands she would be feeling a little empty and depleted inside, having let so many different male members come and go. a male can become detached, he can perform, finish and be forgotten with it. a lady cannot, unless she is a real whore.
I would like to marry a lady who hasn't been left empty and devoid of her soul by numerous pricks, one that is willing to take me in and give me all her soul.
nothing immature about it, but a bird who sleeps around 'for the fun of it' isn't worth pissing on in my opinion. she is definitely tarnished

Do make sure to let all the (doubtless countless) female suitors pining for you of your high standards, you're sure to be a hit.

Ave Sodalis · 10-10-2014 03:00PM

stitcheddepin wrote: »

I disagree with you fine sir. sex for male and female is quite different, both physically and emotionally. A lady is more attached to the act of sex, if she has had numerous male partners ( someone threw 20 out there) for one night stands she would be feeling a little empty and depleted inside, having let so many different male members come and go. a male can become detached, he can perform, finish and be forgotten with it. a lady cannot, unless she is a real whore.
I would like to marry a lady who hasn't been left empty and devoid of her soul by numerous pricks, one that is willing to take me in and give me all her soul.
nothing immature about it, but a bird who sleeps around 'for the fun of it' isn't worth pissing on in my opinion. she is definitely tarnished

Oof ouch! I've never got attached except once and that wasn't to a ONS... This post is a load of nonsensical drival...

Alf Veedersane · 10-10-2014 03:00PM

stitcheddepin wrote: »

a male can become detached, he can perform, finish and be forgotten with it.

What if he can't?

Pawwed Rig · 10-10-2014 03:08PM

ongarboy wrote: »

I can appreciate why some people would be put off by that or why it may be an issue but what I'm getting from the thread and particularly from what OP said is that it's ok for themselves to sleep around but not their prospective partner. I've an issue with the double standards of that attitude, not the number of sleeping partners.

Can't argue with you there

Alf Veedersane wrote: »

I'm asking this as a genuine question but do people really ask early on? Is it something that you would have to know?

I don't mean you, per se.

When you meet someone you would get a vibe of them so should have some idea of what kind of lifestyle they led before they met you. For example if I meet a girl who parties alot and spends alot of time in Ibiza I will not be that surprised if she has had a large number of partners whereas if I meet a girl who is shyer, does not go out very much and seems conservative then you would assume a lower number. Birds of a feather tend to flock together so it has never been a huge issue for me personally but it is a conversation that I've had with most (if not all) of my previous girlfriends and it was not always me that initiated the conversation.

Alf Veedersane · 10-10-2014 03:11PM

Pawwed Rig wrote: »

When you meet someone you would get a vibe of them so should have some idea of what kind of lifestyle they led before they met you. For example if I meet a girl who parties alot and spends alot of time in Ibiza I will not be that surprised if she has had a large number of partners whereas if I meet a girl who is shyer, does not go out very much and seems conservative then you would assume a lower number. Birds of a feather tend to flock together so it has never been a huge issue for me personally but it is a conversation that I've had with most (if not all) of my previous girlfriends and it was not always me that initiated the conversation.

That's predicated on them still being in the phase of partying,or not, as the case may be.

But what about someone who has had a lot of partners in the past but who is no longer in that same mindset?

The number might still be high but they're not in the same place mentally/emotionally.

tomthetank · 10-10-2014 03:20PM

You can get a vibe off someone and get a sense of their attitude towards sex without having to ask the question of how many partners theyve had. An odd question to ask and put so much weight on if u ask me

Eamo71 · 10-10-2014 03:23PM

It doesn't matter if you marry a virgin or someone who's had 100 sexual partners the BJs stop eventually. :-)

jobbridge4life · 10-10-2014 03:24PM

Personally speaking I'd rather have a partner who was comfortable with sex, enjoyed it and was bluntly good than spend my time obsessing over something as meaningless as the number of partners they'd had.

Viper_JB · 10-10-2014 03:29PM

stitcheddepin wrote: »

I disagree with you fine sir. sex for male and female is quite different, both physically and emotionally. A lady is more attached to the act of sex, if she has had numerous male partners ( someone threw 20 out there) for one night stands she would be feeling a little empty and depleted inside, having let so many different male members come and go. a male can become detached, he can perform, finish and be forgotten with it. a lady cannot, unless she is a real whore.
I would like to marry a lady who hasn't been left empty and devoid of her soul by numerous pricks, one that is willing to take me in and give me all her soul.
nothing immature about it, but a bird who sleeps around 'for the fun of it' isn't worth pissing on in my opinion. she is definitely tarnished

Wow....just wow in a world where every woman is the same and incredibly weak minded that may hold true but that's not this world, misogyny and narrowmindedness is still very alive and well on here clearly though

Mike747 · 10-10-2014 03:29PM

herisson wrote: »

So women who have a high score have mental issues?

That is absolutely ridiculous statement to make.

What about men? Does the same go for them if they have a high score?

Some women actually like having a lot of sex. Some with the same partner, some with different. Alcohol/drug/mental issues, dont always come into play here.

Nothing ridiculous about it. You don't think promiscuity can be linked with substance abuse and/or mental health issues?

And yes it can apply to men. How many teetotaler men go out and score every night? Very few I would say.

There are many people living the party lifestyle with is neither healthy nor sustainable.

tiny_penguin · 10-10-2014 03:31PM

Pawwed Rig wrote: »

Can't argue with you there

When you meet someone you would get a vibe of them so should have some idea of what kind of lifestyle they led before they met you. For example if I meet a girl who parties alot and spends alot of time in Ibiza I will not be that surprised if she has had a large number of partners whereas if I meet a girl who is shyer, does not go out very much and seems conservative then you would assume a lower number. Birds of a feather tend to flock together so it has never been a huge issue for me personally but it is a conversation that I've had with most (if not all) of my previous girlfriends and it was not always me that initiated the conversation.

tomthetank wrote: »

You can get a vibe off someone and get a sense of their attitude towards sex without having to ask the question of how many partners theyve had. An odd question to ask and put so much weight on if u ask me

It can be very deceiving and people change over time. I went out a lot in my early to mid 20's and became a little shyer and stayed in more afterwards. When I met my current boyfriend it was in my later 20's so he wouldn't have know the older me. He doesn't know my exact number but has become aware I have had ONS in the past and would have slept with considerably more people than him. When he found out it wasnt an issue and didn't bother him but he did mention that he was surprised and he wouldn't have suspected it.

Also had I not met my current boyfriend I would still be open to ONS, just because someone does not go out often does not mean it would not happen. Also I know plenty of people who would be out partying 3 nights a week and have never had a ONS.

Alf Veedersane · 10-10-2014 03:32PM

Mike747 wrote: »

And yes it can apply to men. How many teetotaler men go out and score every night? Very few I would say.

Every single one of the teetotal men that I know that go out regularly score pretty much every night.

That's 100%.

jobbridge4life · 10-10-2014 03:40PM

Mike747 wrote: »

Nothing ridiculous about it. You don't think promiscuity can be linked with substance abuse and/or mental health issues?

Something tells me that if you are the kind of person who doesn't mind banging people with mental health and substance abuse issues then promiscuity is probably not going to be much of a worry for you.

Mike747 wrote: »

And yes it can apply to men. How many teetotaler men go out and score every night? Very few I would say.

Based on... your prejudices?

Mike747 wrote: »

There are many people living the party lifestyle with is neither healthy nor sustainable.

'The party lifestyle' Lolgasm.

Potatoeman · 10-10-2014 04:32PM

On one hand it think you should judge someone by your own standards but on the other people can be very selective on their own criteria. A partners previous sexual partners may be very important for some guys (and some girls though it seems less of an issue) but I suppose you could say the same for financial situations. Guys would be judged generally harsher by woman than woman by men based on their finances.

EdenHazard · 10-10-2014 05:08PM

"'A key that can open many locks is called a master key, but a lock that can be opened by many keys is a ****ty lock.'”

Analogy makes sense, women are the proverbial locks, while men are trying to get in. A girl who has been with too many guys, das not it mane, not wife material at all I'm afraid despite the protests of white knights and the likes this is just how it is.

Its sad to see the mindset of a lot of girls in this thread, seems finding a good girl these days is impossible, they all wanna 'have fun' which translates to having sex with as many people as they can.

desertcircus · 10-10-2014 05:18PM

EdenHazard wrote: »

Analogy makes sense, women are the proverbial locks, while men are trying to get in. A girl who has been with too many guys, das not it mane, not wife material at all I'm afraid despite the protests of white knights and the likes this is just how it is.

Its sad to see the mindset of a lot of girls in this thread, seems finding a good girl these days is impossible, they all wanna 'have fun' which translates to having sex with as many people as they can.

Good God, women who care about their own happiness rather than whether judgemental men they don't know would consider them wife material. What is the world coming to?

paddy1990 · 10-10-2014 05:18PM

EdenHazard wrote: »

Analogy makes sense, women are the proverbial locks, while men are trying to get in. A girl who has been with too many guys, das not it mane, not wife material at all I'm afraid despite the protests of white knights and the likes this is just how it is.

Its sad to see the mindset of a lot of girls in this thread, seems finding a good girl these days is impossible, they all wanna 'have fun' which translates to having sex with as many people as they can.

Good post.

My last girlfriend was 29. Wouldn't have sex on the first night. "I've had all my one night stands" she said.

What an insult.

qo2cj1dsne8y4k · 10-10-2014 05:25PM

paddy1990 wrote: »

Good post.

My last girlfriend was 29. Wouldn't have sex on the first night. "I've had all my one night stands" she said.

What an insult.

Maybe she just wasn't into you

10-10-2014 05:30PM

The number isn't relevant, it's the manner. For me anyway. Someone could have a low number because of a long-term relationship or because they just didn't do ONSes. Or because they're a relationship junkie, which is something that would be in the back of my mind.

herisson · 10-10-2014 05:41PM

Mike747 wrote: »

Nothing ridiculous about it. You don't think promiscuity can be linked with substance abuse and/or mental health issues?

And yes it can apply to men. How many teetotaler men go out and score every night? Very few I would say.

There are many people living the party lifestyle with is neither healthy nor sustainable.

It can. But you are saying that women with a high score usually have mental/alcohol problems. That isnt always the case.

My friend is a teetotler and he scores quite a bit. Its due to his looks and personality, nothing to do with alcohol.

Yes there are but having a high score is not always linked to this.

You can have a high sex drive and have sex with people driving up your score without having any of these problems.

Potatoeman · 10-10-2014 06:16PM

LexieOnRale wrote: »

Maybe she just wasn't into you

Actually this is a pretty interesting dynamic in relationships. Guys will put up with certain things to get sex but may not consider the partner relationship material where women can, I guess be more straight forward. It's like when you hear women complaining that men are not willing to commit but don't think it's anything got to do with them.

paddy1990 · 10-10-2014 06:20PM

LexieOnRale wrote: »

Maybe she just wasn't into you

We went out for 4 months and had a lot of sex eventually but it was the last time I'll go out with a girl that old again.

I want her back when she was young and excited about doing new stuff. When the topic of anal sex came up, she was like, "i tried that with other bfs and didn't like it so no" to give one example. Holding off sex was because "i had a lot of one night stands when i was younger, i've matured now" and so on. I could give quite a few more examples.

Most guys want young fresh, almost naive women, not old washed up girls who've "had their fun" and are past prime, hitting their 30s. Different mindsets is the problem.

qo2cj1dsne8y4k · 10-10-2014 06:26PM

So what you're saying is you want to find a girl that's not old enough to have copped on one night stands might not be something she enjoys, and that's willing to try things she doesn't like? Cause god forbid a woman might know her own mind enough to say "I don't want to have sex with a stranger" or "I don't enjoy anal sex". I can't believe you're 24, you are so immature I actually think you're trolling me.

skallywag · 10-10-2014 06:29PM

LexieOnRale wrote: »

...I can't believe you're 24, you are so immature I actually think you're trolling me...

I think he pretty obviously is, don't feed the troll

Pawwed Rig · 10-10-2014 06:34PM

Edenhazard do not post in this thread again

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