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Waiting until Marriage.

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  • #92
    sovereign121
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 106 ✭✭sovereign121


    Silverman11 wrote: »
    You sound very mature.

    Indeed I am. It takes alot more intellectual maturity yo know what is fact and what is fiction and fantasy. Believing in a character that sits in the clouds is your right. To take it as fact. Ok pal......... Must start on my letter to Santa too.


  • #93
    sovereign121
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 106 ✭✭sovereign121


    Phoebas wrote: »
    Why don't you take your proselytising to the religion forums.

    Why? I'm just speaking the truth.


  • #94
    Silverman11
    Closed Accounts Posts: 264 ✭✭Silverman11


    sovereign121 wrote: »
    Indeed I am. It takes alot more intellectual maturity yo know what is fact and what is fiction and fantasy. Believing in a character that sits in the clouds is your right. To take it as fact. Ok pal......... Must start on my letter to Santa too.

    You do that. I would just like ya to stop attacking my beliefs. I have done nothing to you.


  • #95
    Silverman11
    Closed Accounts Posts: 264 ✭✭Silverman11


    CAN PEOPLE PLEASE STOP ATTACKING MY CATHOLIC FAITH. I just asked a question.


  • #96
    Micky Dolenz
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 44,079 ✭✭✭✭Micky Dolenz


    Potatoeman wrote: »
    What if your sexually incompatible with your partner.
    green_screen wrote: »
    If you're a virgin, how could you possibly ever know whether you'd be sexually compatible?


    If two people are sexually attracted to each other, they wouldn't be incompatible. Sex isn't a jigsaw where parts either fit or not.

    A friend of mine has had many sexual encounters and has never met anyone he is incompatible with. I'd say it's great craic finding out.

    More power to you OP, live your life the way you want to, not the way society wants you too.


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  • #97
    Silverman11
    Closed Accounts Posts: 264 ✭✭Silverman11


    Micky Dolenz wrote: »
    If two people are sexually attracted to each other, they wouldn't be incompatible. Sex isn't a jigsaw where parts either fit or not.

    A friend of mine has had many sexual encounters and has never met anyone he is incompatible with. I'd say it's great craic finding out.

    More power to you OP, live your life the way you want to, not the way society wants you too.

    Thank you so much.


  • #98
    catallus
    Closed Accounts Posts: 6,106 ✭✭✭catallus


    dar100 wrote: »
    What are you even talking about, read the post in context of the reply it was meant for, not your own agenda.

    This post is in answer to what the physical compatibility is when people first meet, nothing to do with having babies etc.

    Physical sexual compatibility is gauged in the first few sexual encounters, not down the road when one is in a relationship.

    This was the post that I questioned:
    athtrasna wrote: »
    Disagree. Almost every marriage break up I know of, including some very close friends, has had sexual incompatibility at the heart of it
    and you came back with this:
    dar100 wrote: »
    People will think one is ignorant about sex as if sex was some complicated unnatural act that needs to be learned.


    If one doesn't have sex (Virgin) then one is ignorant about sex. And sex is certainly something that needs to be learned, if that is, you don't want to miss the : tunnel and end up in the back door:):)

    ...Which is, now that I am re-reading it, not only factually incorrect, but self-contradictory!


  • #99
    sovereign121
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 106 ✭✭sovereign121


    Silverman11 wrote: »
    You do that. I would just like ya to stop attacking my beliefs. I have done nothing to you.

    Stop being so defensive? How have I attacked your beliefs? It is acceptable for the Catholic Church to go around ramming fiction down people's throats but as soon as someone speaks out they immediately go on the defensive claiming to be attacked? Ya it doesn't wash with me. I just find it very narrow minded and quite sad for people to go around devouting there way of life to something that has been created by an organisation who's sole being is greed.


  • #100
    Adamantium
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,563 ✭✭✭Adamantium


    News just in Boards, an explosion that.... yes now, it appears to be nuclear in origin has been reported in the Vatican.


  • #101
    Micky Dolenz
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 44,079 ✭✭✭✭Micky Dolenz


    FearDark wrote: »
    It takes a mentally weak person tbh, you know the kind who would get involved in organised religion and fall for all of it's BS teachings.

    Mod
    Banned


    Posts like this will see you banned. It's flaming for the sake of it. People have many different beliefs worldwide, get over it.


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  • #102
    dar100
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,735 ✭✭✭dar100


    Micky Dolenz wrote: »
    If two people are sexually attracted to each other, they wouldn't be incompatible. Sex isn't a jigsaw where parts either fit or not.

    A friend of mine has had many sexual encounters and has never met anyone he is incompatible with. I'd say it's great craic finding out.

    More power to you OP, live your life the way you want to, not the way society wants you too.

    This is not true!!

    Certainly you can be sexual/ physically incompatible with a sexual partner , for many reasons, including how you fit together during intercourse


  • #103
    JayRoc
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,992 ✭✭✭JayRoc


    Silverman11 wrote: »
    People say that sexual compatibility would be a problem but I think if I communicate with the girl then surely it can talked through.

    I don't think you understand what "sexual compatibility" means.


  • #104
    catallus
    Closed Accounts Posts: 6,106 ✭✭✭catallus


    sovereign121 wrote: »
    Stop being so defensive? How have I attacked your beliefs? It is acceptable for the Catholic Church to go around ramming fiction down people's throats but as soon as someone speaks out they immediately go on the defensive claiming to be attacked? Ya it doesn't wash with me. I just find it very narrow minded and quite sad for people to go around devouting there way of life to something that has been created by an organisation who's sole being is greed.

    Is it narrow-minded to distill religious belief to "some guy who lives in the clouds"?

    I'd say it is, along with being dumb and ill-educated.


  • #105
    RobertKK
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 33,775 ✭✭✭✭RobertKK


    sovereign121 wrote: »
    Indeed I am. It takes alot more intellectual maturity yo know what is fact and what is fiction and fantasy. Believing in a character that sits in the clouds is your right. To take it as fact. Ok pal......... Must start on my letter to Santa too.

    But Santa is based on Saint Nicholas who was a bishop and gave presents at Christmas time, his body was brought to Kilkenny and buried near Thomastown around the time of the crusades.
    Santa as we know him was made popular by Coca Cola, whose founders have strong Kilkenny connections...


  • #106
    dar100
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,735 ✭✭✭dar100


    catallus wrote: »
    This was the post that I questioned:

    and you came back with this:


    ...Which is, now that I am re-reading it, not only factually incorrect, but self-contradictory!

    Again you have it wrong, I cannot quote on this as of yet, but my reply was in relation to a question you posed to another poster, who mixed up the sexual/ physical compatibility, go back and read it. You asked what does that even mean, and that's what I replied to.

    If your not going to quote correctly, don't bother at all


  • #107
    Dowl88
    Closed Accounts Posts: 167 ✭✭Dowl88


    JayRoc wrote: »
    I don't think you understand what "sexual compatibility" means.

    Theres a hole that you poke. Thats it. Its not like trying to get the titanic to fit into a beer bottle. Compatability is bs, Does a siren come from her gowl if its incompatible?


  • #108
    ekimiam
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 163 ✭✭ekimiam


    why not. if your potential partner is in the same boat, then you will learn together. both as inexperienced as each other. as long as you have a fair few drunken chats about sex first , to make sure theres no horrible surprises.


  • #109
    sovereign121
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 106 ✭✭sovereign121


    catallus wrote: »
    Is it narrow-minded to distill religious belief to "some guy who lives in the clouds"?

    I'd say it is, along with being dumb and ill-educated.

    You want to be educated on the Catholic church and its origins I will gladly give it to you and all about how it was created at the Council of Nicaea by a roman emperor and his council, not God and how many of the religious holidays we have today are based on ancient pagan holidays. They were used to make the transition from the old ways to Christianity easier. I think you will find my friend the more educated you become on the matter the more you realise it is all BS and nonsense.


  • #110
    catallus
    Closed Accounts Posts: 6,106 ✭✭✭catallus


    dar100 wrote: »
    Again you have it wrong, I cannot quote on this as of yet, but my reply was in relation to a question you posed to another poster, who mixed up the sexual/ physical compatibility, go back and read it. You asked what does that even mean, and that's what I replied to.

    If your not going to quote correctly, don't bother at all

    I did quote it correctly.

    "You can't quote on this of as yet." I'm willing to wait for you to do so at your own convenience so you can walk me through it.


  • #111
    Micky Dolenz
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 44,079 ✭✭✭✭Micky Dolenz


    dar100 wrote: »
    This is not true!!

    Certainly you can be sexual/ physically incompatible with a sexual partner , for many reasons, including how you fit together during intercourse


    Nonsense.

    we aren't talking about elephants falling in love with mice.

    The physical side is a given.


    The only incompatible side would be emotionally or mentally IE if you find the person attractive.


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  • #112
    RobertKK
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 33,775 ✭✭✭✭RobertKK


    sovereign121 wrote: »
    Stop being so defensive? How have I attacked your beliefs? It is acceptable for the Catholic Church to go around ramming fiction down people's throats but as soon as someone speaks out they immediately go on the defensive claiming to be attacked? Ya it doesn't wash with me. I just find it very narrow minded and quite sad for people to go around devouting there way of life to something that has been created by an organisation who's sole being is greed.

    Greed like being the biggest providers of education and healthcare in the world after governments, all run by magic money one would think when they speak of this greed...

    I am happy to be Catholic and I try my best to live a Catholic life, it doesn't remove freedoms because if you are happy with your beliefs you have freedom. Probably why there are so many different beliefs and none in the world, we all have to live in a way that gets us through life.
    We can make life complicated or can live a life where we follow our conscience because that is what one does if they follow what they really believe. Following your conscience is freedom.
    Sex before marriage is what some want.
    Many people don't want sex before marriage but being a virgin is made out to be something alien and weird when it is not.
    People are different and we in other areas of life are expected to accept the diversity and it should be the same in this area.


  • #113
    pablo128
    Closed Accounts Posts: 6,210 ✭✭✭pablo128


    Silverman11 wrote: »
    I am a 20 year old male and I am thinking of saving myself until marriage.

    The problem is nowadays people don't tend to wait until marriage nowadays.
    I wonder if I can find a girl that will wait for me.

    I am just looking for people's opinions really. Thanks

    I am really sorry if this is the wrong place to post this.
    Silverman11 wrote: »
    CAN PEOPLE PLEASE STOP ATTACKING MY CATHOLIC FAITH. I just asked a question.
    Well, you asked for peoples opinions.


  • #114
    JayRoc
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,992 ✭✭✭JayRoc


    Dowl88 wrote: »
    Theres a hole that you poke. Thats it. Its not like trying to get the titanic to fit into a beer bottle. Compatability is bs, Does a siren come from her gowl if its incompatible?

    Jaysus, I'd say you've made a few lucky girls' top ten, you smooth-talking bollix, yeh!


  • #115
    jonnny68
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,670 ✭✭✭jonnny68


    Religion =the root of all evil, the Catholic Church tell you sex before marriage is wrong yet you have paedophile priests buggering altar boys, frankly I'm amazed any younger people would subscribe to this vile church I'm not even young and can't stand them


  • #116
    suicide_circus
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 19,801 ✭✭✭✭suicide_circus


    Wibbs wrote: »
    It seems that sexual freedom means it's fine, even laudable to shag as many people as possible and that's being true to yourself, but deciding to not to is considered a defect? To me freedom means just that, freedom to make the choices you want to make and if you want to wait then do so.
    Yep, more of the same, see masculinity thread


  • #117
    KERSPLAT!
    Closed Accounts Posts: 31,152 ✭✭✭✭KERSPLAT!


    pablo128 wrote: »
    Well, you asked for peoples opinions.

    Opinions on sex before marriage or not having sex before marriage, he didn't ask for people to attack his beliefs and religion


  • #118
    RobertKK
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 33,775 ✭✭✭✭RobertKK


    jonnny68 wrote: »
    Religion =the root of all evil, the Catholic Church tell you sex before marriage is wrong yet you have paedophile priests buggering altar boys, frankly I'm amazed any younger people would subscribe to this vile church I'm not even young and can't stand them

    I think you will find it is people who are the root of all evil.

    It was not like Pol Pot was religious now?


  • #119
    _Redzer_
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,056 ✭✭✭_Redzer_


    Jesus, I'd find it awfully hard to do what the OP is planning on doing because I always sleep with someone and then decide if I want to have a relationship with them.

    What if you ended up with a girl who would just lay there and didn't have an even remotely kinky bone in her body?

    You've just shackled yourself to an absolute bore in that case. And no matter what anybody says, sex, and good sex, is hugely important in a relationship. It's not all of it, but it's a big important factor you can't brush under the carpet.


  • #120
    pablo128
    Closed Accounts Posts: 6,210 ✭✭✭pablo128


    KERSPLAT! wrote: »
    Opinions on sex before marriage or not having sex before marriage, he didn't ask for people to attack his beliefs and religion
    His reason for abstaining until marriage is due to his religious beliefs.
    He also posted the thread in AH. What exactly was he expecting?


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  • #121
    Adamantium
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,563 ✭✭✭Adamantium


    Silverman11 wrote: »
    I would have been of the opinion that women are more likely to wait for a guy then a guy waiting for a girl.

    I'm so exasperated at this part, I almost can't....

    Did you not notice in your teenage years even by just simple osmosis what 2nd level education and teenagers were like. It gets worse.

    Your attitude is fantastic, and I mean that in the fantastical sense, it lacks all nuance.

    Why haven't you found this woman so?



    You're waiting for some magical explosion of love and rainbows and unicorns.

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=C167s9nEHRU


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