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Waiting until Marriage.

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  • #62
    FearDark
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 9,425 ✭✭✭FearDark


    RobertKK wrote: »
    It is a mentality weak person who would have to attack someone else for believing something they didn't believe and making it their own problem.

    My beliefs are based on facts and science. Yours, on angels, demons and magic. I just feel sorry for the guy being sucked into a religion and denying himself the thing we're all here to do. It's just wrong because a book says so.


  • #63
    athtrasna
    Closed Accounts Posts: 13,420 ✭✭✭✭athtrasna


    catallus wrote: »
    What does this even mean?!

    Typo, should have read sexual.

    The longer people are together the more their preferences matter, and the less inclined they are to hide them. Add that in to life changes eg kids, and it's very difficult to maintain sexual compatibility


  • #64
    shruikan2553
    Closed Accounts Posts: 6,113 ✭✭✭shruikan2553


    You wouldnt buy a car without taking it for a test drive first


  • #65
    Galwayguy35
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 18,052 ✭✭✭✭Galwayguy35


    athtrasna wrote: »
    Disagree. Almost every marriage break up I know of, including some very close friends, has had sexual incompatibility at the heart of it

    So they told you that did they?


  • #66
    catallus
    Closed Accounts Posts: 6,106 ✭✭✭catallus


    shruikan2553 wrote: »
    You wouldnt buy a car without taking it for a test drive first

    Nice. That's just lovely, equating relationships to cars.
    FearDark wrote: »
    My beliefs are based on facts and science. Yours, on angels, demons and magic. I just feel sorry for the guy being sucked into a religion and denying himself the thing we're all here to do. It's just wrong because a book says so.

    What the hell are you even on about?
    dar100 wrote: »

    If one doesn't have sex (Virgin) then one is ignorant about sex. And sex is certainly something that needs to be learned, if that is, you don't want to miss the : tunnel and end up in the back door:):)

    This is silly.


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  • #67
    RobertKK
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 33,775 ✭✭✭✭RobertKK


    dar100 wrote: »
    RobertKK wrote: »
    I am also a devout Catholic, don't mind what others say as in put downs. That is their problem, not yours.
    People will think one is ignorant about sex as if sex was some complicated unnatural act that needs to be learned.


    If one doesn't have sex (Virgin) then one is ignorant about sex. And sex is certainly something that needs to be learned, if that is, you don't want to miss the : tunnel and end up in the back door:):)

    lol, you think a person wouldn't know the difference.
    City people often mix up male and female animals, they hardly do the same with humans?


  • #68
    I am pie
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,652 ✭✭✭I am pie


    Galwayguy35 wrote: »
    So they told you that did they?

    I suspect incompatibility generally means that someone was incompatible with the idea of not doing the horizontal devil dance with people other than their husband/wife.

    It's one lower on the nonsense scale than conscious decoupling.


  • #69
    dar100
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,735 ✭✭✭dar100


    catallus wrote: »
    What does this even mean?!

    Common seriously??? Are you a virgin:):) it means the actually physical aspect of sex, ie, how you fit together during intercourse. Is the vigina to tight/ loose for the penis etc.


  • #70
    Sky King
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,431 ✭✭✭Sky King


    Religious debate completely aside, the main issue I would have with 'romantically saving myself' as per the OP is finding out at some later stage that the wan I married has polished more wood than Mr. Sheen.

    I'd feel kind of cheated... or something.


  • #71
    Sir Arthur Daley
    Closed Accounts Posts: 6,720 ✭✭✭Sir Arthur Daley


    dar100 wrote: »
    Common seriously??? Are you a virgin:):) it means the actually physical aspect of sex, ie, how you fit together during intercourse. Is the vigina to tight/ loose for the penis etc.

    Long and thin goes too far in.


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  • #72
    Silverman11
    Closed Accounts Posts: 264 ✭✭Silverman11


    FearDark wrote: »
    OP so would your future wife also have to be a virgin?

    ...good luck with that one.
    No she wouldn't.
    RobertKK wrote: »
    I am also a devout Catholic, don't mind what others say as in put downs. That is their problem, not yours.
    People will think one is ignorant about sex as if sex was some complicated unnatural act that needs to be learned.

    It takes a strong person to wait till marriage and that is something the people who didn't wait should acknowledge.
    Thank you.
    FearDark wrote: »
    It takes a mentally weak person tbh, you know the kind who would get involved in organised religion and fall for all of it's BS teachings.
    That is just a hateful thing to say. Please stop bad mouthing my beliefs.
    shruikan2553 wrote: »
    You wouldnt buy a car without taking it for a test drive first
    A woman isn't a car.


  • #73
    sovereign121
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 106 ✭✭sovereign121


    Silverman11 wrote: »
    I am a devout Catholic and I am also a Romantic :)

    You know there is no God right?


  • #74
    FearDark
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 9,425 ✭✭✭FearDark


    catallus wrote: »
    What the hell are you even on about?
    catallus wrote: »
    What does this even mean?!

    Try keep up, people don't have time to explain every single post twice to you.


  • #75
    dar100
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,735 ✭✭✭dar100


    RobertKK wrote: »
    dar100 wrote: »

    lol, you think a person wouldn't know the difference.
    City people often mix up male and female animals, they hardly do the same with humans?

    Seriously young men can be misguided when it comes to sex, this often causes them to abstain due to anxiety etc

    Especially when it comes to the first few sexual encounters, as I said in response to your earlier post, it takes time to learn sexual confidence


  • #76
    catallus
    Closed Accounts Posts: 6,106 ✭✭✭catallus


    dar100 wrote: »
    Common seriously??? Are you a virgin:):) it means the actually physical aspect of sex, ie, how you fit together during intercourse. Is the vigina to tight/ loose for the penis etc.

    Hahahaha!

    Let me get this straight: The people meet and have a relationship and get married and have kids and then one day they notice that the "vigina" is too loose!?

    Are you having a laugh!?


  • #77
    Silverman11
    Closed Accounts Posts: 264 ✭✭Silverman11


    sovereign121 wrote: »
    You know there is no God right?

    You're entitled to your opinion.


  • #78
    Muppet Man
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,704 ✭✭✭Muppet Man


    Hi Silverman,

    Assuming you are a Relatively normal and healthy 20 year old, then let me ask this rhetorical question - have you ever had "impure thoughts" and/or mastrubated? Obviously you don't need to answer. Most religious folk will cite Mark 7:21 when discussing sin, and if you are the normal and healthy 20 year old like I think you are, then you have sinned already.... More than once... Be honest with yourself - You're not that pure :)

    In the eyes of God, all sins are equal.... A sin is a sin is a sin. Therefore, considering you have sinned already, why stop now, and REALLY enjoy one of the most enjoyable sins out there.

    If it cuts you up real bad and you can't handle the catholic induced stigma of sex before marriage, then just go to confession and confess your sins. I'm pretty sure the priest will kick out of it (in ways that he isn't allowed to) and God will also absolve you of your sins if you are truly sorry. Confession is basically an infinite "get out of jail free" card.... And you should start cashing in on this my friend.... At least once a week. Have fun and don't get hung up on it.

    Muppet man


  • #79
    Sunnyisland
    Closed Accounts Posts: 10,562 ✭✭✭✭Sunnyisland


    Don't know why there is such anger here over the OP choice.

    I know many people who have waited till they got married before they had sex,there still married and seem pretty happy to me.

    I also know many people who had sex before they got married,there still married and seem pretty happy to me.

    They ain't no wrongs or rights to it, if both people are happy in what they want and are doing.


  • #80
    FearDark
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 9,425 ✭✭✭FearDark


    Silverman11 wrote: »
    That is just a hateful thing to say. Please stop bad mouthing my beliefs.

    It's not hateful. It's the truth. Your beliefs are based on BS. You wanted opinions there's my one, you're only prepared to hear what you want to hear though judging on your responses.


  • #81
    sovereign121
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 106 ✭✭sovereign121


    Silverman11 wrote: »
    You're entitled to your opinion.

    Because I'm right


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  • #82
    dar100
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,735 ✭✭✭dar100


    catallus wrote: »
    Nice. That's just lovely, equating relationships to cars.



    What the hell are you even on about?



    This is silly.

    Please explain why??? If you want to refute a post provide an alternative answer please


  • #83
    Silverman11
    Closed Accounts Posts: 264 ✭✭Silverman11


    FearDark wrote: »
    It's not hateful. It's the truth. Your beliefs are based on BS. You wanted opinions there's my one, you're only prepared to hear what you want to hear though judging on your responses.

    This thread is not about my Religion. You can say it is BS etc as you are entitled to your opinion but I'm just not gonna acknowledge it.


  • #84
    RobertKK
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 33,775 ✭✭✭✭RobertKK


    FearDark wrote: »
    My beliefs are based on facts and science. Yours, on angels, demons and magic. I just feel sorry for the guy being sucked into a religion and denying himself the thing we're all here to do. It's just wrong because a book says so.

    Mine are based on facts, science and faith.

    I have no problem with what you believe as I am comfortable with mine.

    He is not being denied anything, all he is getting from some is attacked and supported by others.

    Just because he doesn't hold your beliefs doesn't mean he should be seen as being denied something when he is not being denied anything.

    I am happy for him, doing what one believes gives one freedom, doing what everyone else is presumed to be doing and being pressured into is not freedom in life.


  • #85
    Silverman11
    Closed Accounts Posts: 264 ✭✭Silverman11


    sovereign121 wrote: »
    Because I'm right

    You sound very mature.


  • #86
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 18,160 ✭✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    You might want to look at moving to Kentucky or somewhere else in the southern US. Might have a better chance of finding what you want. ;):)


  • #87
    MagicMarker
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 32,865 ✭✭✭✭MagicMarker


    realies wrote: »
    Don't know why there is such anger here over the OP choice.

    What anger?


  • #88
    Phoebas
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 9,373 ✭✭✭Phoebas


    sovereign121 wrote: »
    You know there is no God right?
    Why don't you take your proselytising to the religion forums.


  • #89
    Silverman11
    Closed Accounts Posts: 264 ✭✭Silverman11


    RobertKK wrote: »
    Mine are based on facts, science and faith.

    I have no problem with what you believe as I am comfortable with mine.

    He is not being denied anything, all he is getting from some is attacked and supported by others.

    Just because he doesn't hold your beliefs doesn't mean he should be seen as being denied something when he is not being denied anything.

    I am happy for him, doing what one believes gives one freedom, doing what everyone else is presumed to be doing and being pressured into is not freedom in life.
    Thank you for the support. There seems to be a lot of people on this site attacking people Beliefs for some reason. All I wanted was some opinions on a topic. There is no need for insults.


  • #90
    Silverman11
    Closed Accounts Posts: 264 ✭✭Silverman11


    MagicMarker wrote: »
    What anger?

    People are attacking the fact that I am Catholic.


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  • #91
    dar100
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,735 ✭✭✭dar100


    catallus wrote: »
    Hahahaha!

    Let me get this straight: The people meet and have a relationship and get married and have kids and then one day they notice that the "vigina" is too loose!?

    Are you having a laugh!?

    What are you even talking about, read the post in context of the reply it was meant for, not your own agenda.

    This post is in answer to what the physical compatibility is when people first meet, nothing to do with having babies etc.

    Physical sexual compatibility is gauged in the first few sexual encounters, not down the road when one is in a relationship.


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