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Waiting until Marriage.

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  • 04-08-2014 2:22pm
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    Silverman11
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    I am a 20 year old male and I am thinking of saving myself until marriage.

    The problem is nowadays people don't tend to wait until marriage nowadays.
    I wonder if I can find a girl that will wait for me.

    I am just looking for people's opinions really. Thanks

    I am really sorry if this is the wrong place to post this.


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    FearDark
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 9,425 ✭✭✭FearDark


    Admit it, you just cant get the ride.


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    Penny Tration
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    FearDark wrote: »
    Admit it, you just cant get the ride.

    Based on all of his past posts, you're right.

    OP, unless sshe's a strict Christian, she's not going to wait.

    Most people do not want to wait until marriage. How could you agree to spend your entire life with somebody without knowing if you'll even enjoy any intimacy with them?


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    Nodin
    Closed Accounts Posts: 46,938 ✭✭✭✭Nodin


    Silverman11 wrote: »
    I am a 20 year old male and I am thinking of saving myself until marriage.

    Why?


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    Kev2Dee
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    Silverman11 wrote: »
    I am a 20 year old male and I am thinking of saving myself until marriage.

    The problem is nowadays people don't tend to wait until marriage nowadays.
    I wonder if I can find a girl that will wait for me.

    I am just looking for people's opinions really. Thanks

    Fairplay to ya for waiting untill marriage, but i can sense its gonna lead to problems in the future mate. Not many women will understand your commitment. But best of luck :)


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    RoyalMarine
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    problem with waiting until marriage, is the sex will be really shít on the honeymoon. Then again, a lot of experienced people are shít at it too.. :/


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    Potatoeman
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    Silverman11 wrote: »
    I am a 20 year old male and I am thinking of saving myself until marriage.

    The problem is nowadays people don't tend to wait until marriage nowadays.
    I wonder if I can find a girl that will wait for me.

    I am just looking for people's opinions really. Thanks

    What if your sexually incompatible with your partner.


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    Silverman11
    Closed Accounts Posts: 264 ✭✭Silverman11


    FearDark wrote: »
    Admit it, you just cant get the ride.

    :) That's not it.


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    eviltwin
    Registered Users Posts: 17,495 ✭✭✭✭eviltwin


    Silverman11 wrote: »
    I am a 20 year old male and I am thinking of saving myself until marriage.

    The problem is nowadays people don't tend to wait until marriage nowadays.
    I wonder if I can find a girl that will wait for me.

    I am just looking for people's opinions really. Thanks

    If it feels right to wait then go for it, I'm sure there are women out there who feel the same. Why not have sex though just out of interest?


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    FearDark
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    Silverman11 wrote: »
    I am a devout Catholic and I am also a Romantic :)

    You're SERIOUSLY deluded.


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    Silverman11
    Closed Accounts Posts: 264 ✭✭Silverman11


    Potatoeman wrote: »
    What if your sexually incompatible with your partner.

    I honestly think that I can talk through it to find out if me and my future wife would be compatible.


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    Penny Tration
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    Silverman11 wrote: »
    I honestly think that I can talk through it to find out if me and my future wife would be compatible.

    If you're a virgin, how could you possibly ever know whether you'd be sexually compatible?


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    lintdrummer
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    Assuming you are as devout as you seem to be, the problem with sex before marriage would be the use of contraception surely.


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    eviltwin
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    Silverman11 wrote: »
    I am a devout Catholic and I am also a Romantic :)

    If you have sex with someone you love and are in a committed relationship with, even if you're not married, then I'm sure God will forgive you.


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    FearDark
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    So what you're telling me OP is that when you're getting down to it with a good looking girl and the horn is busting out through your pants do you just think "Jesus is watching" and stop? That's an awful way to live your life. I have news for you, Jesus is as real as Santa Claus and you're just denying yourself the thing you were put on this planet to do. You get one life - make the most of it, don't live it by following a made up book about made up things.


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    Sir Arthur Daley
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    The pressure release valve will go eventually.


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    MagicMarker
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    People who want to wait until after marriage are usually religious nuts and/or have some seriously unhealthy hangups about sex.

    I genuinely pitty them.


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    catallus
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    There are plenty of women out there OP who would be looking for a guy just like you.

    Building a relationship based on friendship and trust is something that should happen for everyone. Sex doesn't need to come into it for a lot of people.


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    FearDark
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    MagicMarker wrote: »
    People who want to wait until after marriage are usually religious nuts and/or have some seriously unhealthy hangups about sex.

    I genuinely pitty them.

    And/or daddy issues.


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    Nodin
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    Silverman11 wrote: »
    I am a devout Catholic and I am also a Romantic :)


    Consider the problem of compatibility, not getting it out of your system before you settle down, the chance of something happening making sex impossible in the meantime. Romance is neither here nor there. Sex or the lack of it =/="romance".


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    FearDark
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    catallus wrote: »
    There are plenty of women out there OP who would be looking for a guy just like you.
    .

    Yeah but I bet they're land whales with daddy issues.


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    catallus
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    FearDark wrote: »
    Yeah but I bet they're land whales with daddy issues.

    Well that's just mean!


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    FearDark
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    catallus wrote: »
    Well that's just mean!

    I'm a dickhead.


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    Wibbs
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    It seems that sexual freedom means it's fine, even laudable to shag as many people as possible and that's being true to yourself, but deciding to not to is considered a defect? To me freedom means just that, freedom to make the choices you want to make and if you want to wait then do so.

    Rejoice in the awareness of feeling stupid, for that’s how you end up learning new things. If you’re not aware you’re stupid, you probably are.



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    #25
    Silverman11
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    Okay I am going to explain myself further. I am a Catholic and my faith is really important to me (btw I do not judge anyone for having sex before marriage. My motto is to love all :) ) I do agree with the idea about sex before marriage but I also find it really romantic the thought of saving myself for the woman I love.

    I honestly believe that I could talk with my future wife as regards sexual compatibility. I can't see how I couldn't.

    And Fear Dark I would appreciate it if you didn't attack my beliefs. I don't attack yours. And all women are beautiful :)


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    Silverman11
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    catallus wrote: »
    There are plenty of women out there OP who would be looking for a guy just like you.

    Building a relationship based on friendship and trust is something that should happen for everyone. Sex doesn't need to come into it for a lot of people.
    Wibbs wrote: »
    It seems that sexual freedom means it's fine, even laudable to shag as many people as possible and that's being true to yourself, but deciding to not to is considered a defect? To me freedom means just that, freedom to make the choices you want to make and if you want to wait then do so.

    Thank you.


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    eviltwin
    Registered Users Posts: 17,495 ✭✭✭✭eviltwin


    Silverman11 wrote: »
    Okay I am going to explain myself further. I am a Catholic and my faith is really important to me (btw I do not judge anyone for having sex before marriage. My motto is to love all :) ) I do agree with the idea about sex before marriage but I also find it really romantic the thought of saving myself for the woman I love.

    I honestly believe that I could talk with my future wife as regards sexual compatibility. I can't see how I couldn't.

    And Fear Dark I would appreciate it if you didn't attack my beliefs. I don't attack yours. And all women are beautiful :)

    you can still do all that without the marriage thing.


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    #28
    c_man
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    Jeez, what if you never get married? :eek:


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    #29
    Sunnyisland
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    Fair play to you OP, don't see nothing wrong with what your doing,if that's what you want and believe well good for you.


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    takamichinoku
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    If it's something you feel strongly about, it's probably something your wife would have to feel strongly about too. So feeling strongly about that could qualify as sexual compatibility, maybe?

    Good luck with it anyways!


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    MagicMarker
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    Wibbs wrote: »
    It seems that sexual freedom means it's fine, even laudable to shag as many people as possible and that's being true to yourself, but deciding to not to is considered a defect? To me freedom means just that, freedom to make the choices you want to make and if you want to wait then do so.

    Well outside of the board-sphere I don't come across many people who think it's fine to shag as many people as you want. Quite the opposite in fact.

    Likewise, most would think that suppressing sexual urges in the name of romance or to adhere to a religion is a bit weird, and unhealthy.


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