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h.bolla · 11-07-2014 12:41pm #1

Myself and my GF broke up a few months back and it happened after a discussion about another girl with a similar story to the Magaluf girl.

I said something like 'no self respecting man will date the girl after this' and my GF defended her saying that shes young and drunk and what you do expect at that age.

I replied by saying "you were young and did you ever do anything like that?". Then her face changed I knew something was up.

After a lot of rowing she admitted she had a 6-some one night (her and 5 other men) along with a dozen or 3-somes over the years and has lost count on the amount of drunken one night stands shes had with randomers. Oh and for most of her teens right up to her mid 20's she has always had 1 or 2 friends with benefits at any given time most of them lasting for 3-4 months. She guessed all in all that she'd had around 500 partners give or take.

Its not exactly the kinda image that sprang to mind when we first got together and told me she only ever had 2 boyfriends and I'd be her third.

But alas, apparantly its none of my business what went on in her past, and if Im annoyed about her past then obviously I dont deserve her.

I thought I just had the worst luck and was dating a right bitch and put it behind me and moved on. But then I was reading a few threads on here (in the personal issues section) and I noticed that quite a lot of women posters have the same attitude.

This attitude really blows my mind. How do you gentlmen feel about the whole thing?

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newport2 · 11-07-2014 12:45pm

h.bolla wrote: »

Myself and my GF broke up a few months back and it happened after a discussion about another girl with a similar story to the Magaluf girl.

I said something like 'no self respecting man will date the girl after this' and my GF defended her saying that shes young and drunk and what you do expect at that age.

I replied by saying "you were young and did you ever do anything like that?". Then her face changed I knew something was up.

After a lot of rowing she admitted she had a 6-some one night (her and 5 other men) along with a dozen or 3-somes over the years and has lost count on the amount of drunken one night stands shes had with randomers. Oh and for most of her teens right up to her mid 20's she has always had 1 or 2 friends with benefits at any given time most of them lasting for 3-4 months. She guessed all in all that she'd had around 500 partners give or take.

Its not exactly the kinda image that sprang to mind when we first got together and told me she only ever had 2 boyfriends and I'd be her third.

But alas, apparantly its none of my business what went on in her past, and if Im annoyed about her past then obviously I dont deserve her.

I thought I just had the worst luck and was dating a right bitch and put it behind me and moved on. But then I was reading a few threads on here (in the personal issues section) and I noticed that quite a lot of women posters have the same attitude.

This attitude really blows my mind. How do you gentlmen feel about the whole thing?

If I loved her, then her past is history. End of story.

username123 · 11-07-2014 12:47pm

h.bolla wrote: »

Myself and my GF broke up a few months back and it happened after a discussion about another girl with a similar story to the Magaluf girl.

I said something like 'no self respecting man will date the girl after this' and my GF defended her saying that shes young and drunk and what you do expect at that age.

I replied by saying "you were young and did you ever do anything like that?". Then her face changed I knew something was up.

After a lot of rowing she admitted she had a 6-some one night (her and 5 other men) along with a dozen or 3-somes over the years and has lost count on the amount of drunken one night stands shes had with randomers. Oh and for most of her teens right up to her mid 20's she has always had 1 or 2 friends with benefits at any given time most of them lasting for 3-4 months. She guessed all in all that she'd had around 500 partners give or take.

Its not exactly the kinda image that sprang to mind when we first got together and told me she only ever had 2 boyfriends and I'd be her third.

But alas, apparantly its none of my business what went on in her past, and if Im annoyed about her past then obviously I dont deserve her.

I thought I just had the worst luck and was dating a right bitch and put it behind me and moved on. But then I was reading a few threads on here (in the personal issues section) and I noticed that quite a lot of women posters have the same attitude.

This attitude really blows my mind. How do you gentlmen feel about the whole thing?

What attitude? That some women enjoy sex and have different moral standards to you?

That a woman who enjoys multiple partner sex is a right bitch? You don't see anything wrong with THAT attitude?

Luke92 · 11-07-2014 12:49pm

Well to be honest I wouldn't go out with a girl that's had over 500 sexual partners.

Ya wouldn't buy a well used flesh light that's for sure!

quadrifoglio verde · 11-07-2014 12:51pm

Op would you judge a man any different?

h.bolla · 11-07-2014 12:54pm

username123 wrote: »

What attitude?

Emmm.... the attitude that we had to have an absolute blazing row with her smashing the place before she finally admitted that there was a possiblity that I may not be her third sexual partner? That attitude maybe.

If its such a non-issue why does she get uppety about it?

username123 wrote: »

That a woman who enjoys multiple partner sex is a right bitch? You don't see anything wrong with THAT attitude?

Now you're just putting words in my mouth.

I thought she was a bitch for letting me date her for years and never once felt the need to tell me about the 500 other guys she slept with.

LegacyUser · 11-07-2014 12:55pm

What she did before you - doesnt really have anything to do with you.

If I truly loved someone their past wouldnt matter to me.

newport2 · 11-07-2014 12:55pm

Luke92 wrote: »

Well to be honest I wouldn't go out with a girl that's had over 500 sexual partners.

Ya wouldn't buy a well used flesh light that's for sure!

You probably wouldn't be good enough to keep someone that experienced happy in bed, so just as well.

Penny Tration · 11-07-2014 12:57pm

h.bolla wrote: »

Emmm.... the attitude that we had to have an absolute blazing row with her smashing the place before she finally admitted that there was a possiblity that I may not be her third sexual partner? That attitude maybe.

If its such a non-issue why does she get uppety about it?

Now you're just putting words in my mouth.

I thought she was a bitch for letting me date her for years and never once felt the need to tell me about the 500 other guys she slept with.

Why would she tell you how many people she'd slept with before you? What she did in her past is none of your business, frankly. It doesn't make her a bitch.

I'd imagine the reason she got 'uppity' about it may be because you were berating someone for being promiscuous?

newport2 · 11-07-2014 12:57pm

h.bolla wrote: »

Emmm.... the attitude that we had to have an absolute blazing row with her smashing the place before she finally admitted that there was a possiblity that I may not be her third sexual partner? That attitude maybe.

If its such a non-issue why does she get uppety about it?

Perhaps she suspected you'd start a thread online about it?

h.bolla · 11-07-2014 12:58pm

quadrifoglio verde wrote: »

Op would you judge a man any different?

No. Im not judging the woman or the man.

What Im getting at is this. I dont care if you are a man or woman. You shouldnt sleep around, have over 500 partners and then when your partner finds out and is taken back about it you tell them "go F yourself, you dont deserve me if you cant handle my past"

yeh... i probably could have handled your past.... but if your deliberatly going out of your way to keep 500 sexual partners a secret....

auldgranny · 11-07-2014 12:59pm

Promiscuous is one thing but over 500 partners is beyond that

LegacyUser · 11-07-2014 1:00pm

h.bolla wrote: »

No. Im not judging the woman or the man.

What Im getting at is this. I dont care if you are a man or woman. You shouldnt sleep around, have over 500 partners and then when your partner finds out and is taken back about it you tell them "go F yourself, you dont deserve me if you cant handle my past"

yeh... i probably could have handled your past.... but if your deliberatly going out of your way to keep 500 sexual partners a secret....

But she wasnt obliged to tell you about HER past! Same way you werent obliged to tell her about yours!!

username123 · 11-07-2014 1:00pm

h.bolla wrote: »

Emmm.... the attitude that we had to have an absolute blazing row with her smashing the place before she finally admitted that there was a possiblity that I may not be her third sexual partner? That attitude maybe.

If its such a non-issue why does she get uppety about it?

But clearly its a huge issue for you - so why would she tell you? Given the attitude you are displaying here is it not clear to you why she didnt tell you?

Why do you use words like "uppety" (sp) to describe it? You have an attitude to her past, she has an attitude to her past, maybe its you who is uppity?

h.bolla wrote: »

Now you're just putting words in my mouth.

I thought she was a bitch for letting me date her for years and never once felt the need to tell me about the 500 other guys she slept with.

Oh Im sorry, so she isnt a right bitch because she had sex with 500 men, but just because she didnt tell you about it. Its still not ok to call her a right bitch for that. Her past sexual history is her own business.

You just come across as sexist, misogynistic and insecure sexually with how you are speaking about your ex.

Incidentally physically violence is never ok so if she was smashing the place up that is a far bigger reason to break up than her past sexual history.

username123 · 11-07-2014 1:02pm

h.bolla wrote: »

What Im getting at is this. I dont care if you are a man or woman. You shouldnt sleep around, have over 500 partners and then when your partner finds out and is taken back about it you tell them "go F yourself, you dont deserve me if you cant handle my past"

So people shouldnt sleep around?

Or people shouldnt sleep around and not tell you?

Or people shouldnt sleep around and not tell you but then if you do find out they should be nicer about it?

eviltwin · 11-07-2014 1:03pm

I don't like liars so that would be an issue for me. Not the 500 previous partners. I'd wonder why someone felt they had to keep that a secret, like do they judge themselves for it or feel it makes them less attractive of a partner. Personally I don't care what has gone before me once its legal and safe and all that but lie to me and its a different story. It would make me wonder what else you might be lying about.

newport2 · 11-07-2014 1:03pm

auldgranny wrote: »

Promiscuous is one thing but over 500 partners is beyond that

A bit hard to believe to be honest.

A different partner every week for 10 years on the trot? With threesomes, orgies, friends with benefits, boyfriends on the side?

Did she have time for work?

Buzz Killington the third · 11-07-2014 1:03pm

It's always easy to just say the past is the past but in reality, finding out that you're dating someone who has been that promiscuous would end in trust issues. It happened to a friend of mine who was dating a girl for a while before he found out about her past sexual experiences. It completely changed his view of her and get very paranoid if she didn't want sex. He never let it become an argument but was constantly thinking about how much she had before him, and that if she didn't want it from him then she must have been getting it somewhere else. He just ended it because it got too much for him.

eviltwin · 11-07-2014 1:04pm

Buzz Killington the third wrote: »

It's always easy to just say the past is the past but in reality, finding out that you're dating someone who has been that promiscuous would end in trust issues. It happened to a friend of mine who was dating a girl for a while before he found out about her past sexual experiences. It completely changed his view of her and get very paranoid if she didn't want sex. He never let it become an argument but was constantly thinking about how much she had before him, and that if she didn't want it from him then she must have been getting it somewhere else. He just ended it because it got too much for him.

that's his problem though not hers

Penny Tration · 11-07-2014 1:05pm

eviltwin wrote: »

that's his problem though not hers

This.

My boyfriend has slept with over 10 times my number, but I don't care. He's with me because he loves me. Why would you judge somebody for sex when they don't judge you?

newport2 · 11-07-2014 1:07pm

Buzz Killington the third wrote: »

It's always easy to just say the past is the past but in reality, finding out that you're dating someone who has been that promiscuous would end in trust issues. It happened to a friend of mine who was dating a girl for a while before he found out about her past sexual experiences. It completely changed his view of her and get very paranoid if she didn't want sex. He never let it become an argument but was constantly thinking about how much she had before him, and that if she didn't want it from him then she must have been getting it somewhere else. He just ended it because it got too much for him.

And people wonder why some women keep it a secret? Because some men can't handle the truth.

I mean FFS, he's thinking she's cheating on him because she enjoyed a lot of sex before she met him? Huge leap here, no?

Buzz Killington the third · 11-07-2014 1:07pm

eviltwin wrote: »

that's his problem though not hers

I never said it was hers!

username123 · 11-07-2014 1:08pm

eviltwin wrote: »

I don't like liars so that would be an issue for me. Not the 500 previous partners. I'd wonder why someone felt they had to keep that a secret, like do they judge themselves for it or feel it makes them less attractive of a partner. Personally I don't care what has gone before me once its legal and safe and all that but lie to me and its a different story. It would make me wonder what else you might be lying about.

But its obvious that the OP would not have been someone who this would be easy to tell - given his outrage here.

Its difficult for someone who displays a certain attitude to hold the moral high ground when they are not told something that would offend that attitude BECAUSE they hold that attitude.

TimeToShine · 11-07-2014 1:09pm

eviltwin wrote: »

that's his problem though not hers

It's her problem because she lied to him and told him he was her third boyfriend.

That's disgusting. She can be as promiscuous as she likes, but flat out lying like that is unacceptable.

I don't even think I've gone out drinking/on the pull/to a nightclub 500 times in my entire life so I'm actually genuinely amazed at that figure, and even moreso at the fact that it was her guesstimate and not his.

I know this board is very PC and fair enough but you're taking the piss here. If you're willing to defend a woman who let herself get railed by 5 men on the trot with the line "women like sex too" then you are deluded beyond measure. Promiscuity is one thing, this is rank madness and any man worth his weight in salt would run as fast as his legs can carry him.

Good lord, 500 potential partners. And people defending her. The mind boggles, it really does.

username123 · 11-07-2014 1:09pm

Buzz Killington the third wrote: »

It's always easy to just say the past is the past but in reality, finding out that you're dating someone who has been that promiscuous would end in trust issues. It happened to a friend of mine who was dating a girl for a while before he found out about her past sexual experiences. It completely changed his view of her and get very paranoid if she didn't want sex. He never let it become an argument but was constantly thinking about how much she had before him, and that if she didn't want it from him then she must have been getting it somewhere else. He just ended it because it got too much for him.

What on earth has previous promiscuity got to do with trust?

username123 · 11-07-2014 1:12pm

TimeToShine wrote: »

I know this board is very PC and fair enough but you're taking the piss here. If you're willing to defend a woman who let herself get railed by 5 men on the trot with the line "women like sex too" then you are deluded beyond measure. Promiscuity is one thing, this is rank madness and any man worth his weight would run as fast as his legs can carry him.

Good lord, 500 potential partners. And people defending her. The mind boggles, it really does.

So what if she had sex with 5 men - werent they willing partners too? The men "let" her have sex with them too you know? Why is the woman somehow the one in the wrong here?

Whats the problem with it and why do you feel the need to describe it in derogatory terms? So long as everyone was a consenting adult using protection if necessary - whats the problem?

Perhaps she wouldnt be the woman for you, but perhaps you wouldnt be the man for her.

eviltwin · 11-07-2014 1:13pm

TimeToShine wrote: »

It's her problem because she lied to him and told him he was her third boyfriend.

That's disgusting. She can be as promiscuous as she likes, but flat out lying like that is unacceptable.

I don't even think I've gone out drinking/on the pull/to a nightclub 500 times in my entire life so I'm actually genuinely amazed at that figure, and even moreso at the fact that it was her guesstimate and not his.

I know this board is very PC and fair enough but you're taking the piss here. If you're willing to defend a woman who let herself get railed by 5 men on the trot with the line "women like sex too" then you are deluded beyond measure. Promiscuity is one thing, this is rank madness and any man worth his weight would run as fast as his legs can carry him.

Good lord, 500 potential partners. And people defending her. The mind boggles, it really does.

Buzz was referring to a different couple altogether.

Why shouldn't people defend her? What exactly has she done wrong? Yes its a lot but so what? It's not up to anyone to judge another person and their sexual history, all that matters is that they are okay with it themselves.

h.bolla · 11-07-2014 1:15pm

username123 wrote: »

But clearly its a huge issue for you

Yes it is an issue for me. If Im going out with someone for years and then one night I find out that in all those years she was delibertatly not telling me about 500 partners then yeh. I do have a problem with that.

If we are dating and the subject never comes up or I just dont ask thats fair enough. But if you hide it thats going to make me not trust you.

username123 wrote: »

11-07-2014 1:16pm

eviltwin wrote: »

I don't like liars so that would be an issue for me. Not the 500 previous partners. I'd wonder why someone felt they had to keep that a secret, like do they judge themselves for it or feel it makes them less attractive of a partner. Personally I don't care what has gone before me once its legal and safe and all that but lie to me and its a different story. It would make me wonder what else you might be lying about.

Well the impression I got from OP is she said 3 boyfriends not 3 sexual partners, we don't know that she lied or that he just made an assumption
This is why the advice elsewhere is usually "why ask numbers - can of worms"

username123 · 11-07-2014 1:18pm

h.bolla wrote: »

Yes it is an issue for me. If Im going out with someone for years and then one night I find out that in all those years she was delibertatly not telling me about 500 partners then yeh. I do have a problem with that.

If we are dating and the subject never comes up or I just dont ask thats fair enough. But if you hide it thats going to make me not trust you.

Had you asked her?

And if so what had she said when you asked her before?

Pepe LeFrits · 11-07-2014 1:18pm

People aren't ****ing cars, they don't accrue mileage.

Who cares how many people a girl has been with? Frankly if someone has been with a lot of people and chooses you, you should probably see it as a compliment.

h.bolla · 11-07-2014 1:18pm

newport2 wrote: »

A bit hard to believe to be honest.

A different partner every week for 10 years on the trot? With threesomes, orgies, friends with benefits, boyfriends on the side?

Did she have time for work?

I dont know. Thats the number she gave me. SHe started having sex around 14 and she was 27 when we started dating. But the drinking games bumped it alot apparantly where you could end up doing sexual acts on 2 or 3 people per game. But yeh- her guesses not mine.

newport2 · 11-07-2014 1:18pm

h.bolla wrote: »

Yes it is an issue for me. If Im going out with someone for years and then one night I find out that in all those years she was delibertatly not telling me about 500 partners then yeh. I do have a problem with that.

If we are dating and the subject never comes up or I just dont ask thats fair enough. But if you hide it thats going to make me not trust you.

You have a point in being angry at someone who you trusted hiding something from you for years. Fair enough.

That doesn't really come across as the main point in the OP though.

Aurora Green · 11-07-2014 1:19pm

I would be happy to go out with a promiscuous woman, but 500 previous would probably scare me off as it seems like an addiction at that point.

Malari · 11-07-2014 1:20pm

OP are you more upset about the lying than the sexual history? If she had admitted she was a virgin before she met you and had lied about it would you be as upset?

There's a difference between not wanting to go out with a partner who has had a lot of sexual encounters because of your own insecurities, and flat out saying they are wrong to have had so many partners.

the_syco · 11-07-2014 1:20pm

h.bolla wrote: »

she admitted

Ya see, this shows that the problem is you, not her. She told you. Not someone else, she did. And probably like a few others, you couldn't handle it, and left her. And then start a thread about it. I can see why she didn't want to tell you, as she may have taken that you weren't that liberal when it came to sex.

TimeToShine wrote: »

Good lord, 500 potential partners. And people defending her. The mind boggles, it really does.

Get the funk back to church, choirboy... :pac:

Buzz Killington the third · 11-07-2014 1:20pm

username123 wrote: »

What on earth has previous promiscuity got to do with trust?

I already explained why he had trust issues. go back and read it.

Buzz Killington the third · 11-07-2014 1:22pm

username123 wrote: »

So what if she had sex with 5 men - werent they willing partners too? The men "let" her have sex with them too you know? Why is the woman somehow the one in the wrong here?

The woman is the topic of discussion here, not the men involved. But if you want to talk about them, I know a lot of girls who wouldn't be happy to know their partner lined up with 4 other lads to have a go on someone.

username123 wrote: »

Whats the problem with it and why do you feel the need to describe it in derogatory terms? So long as everyone was a consenting adult using protection if necessary - whats the problem?

500+ partners. If there was no protection would you feel differently?

sheesh · 11-07-2014 1:22pm

in fairness the op said that he thought that she had 3 previous partners to find out that she had over a hundred times more is a bit of a shock, sounds to me like he may have reacted badly to it. that sort of information pushes all sorts of buttons.

plenty girls I know would have the same attitude to man in a similar situation.

Can we agree that 500 sexual partners is a lot.

on the negative side OP you have just dumped a girl friend that really likes sex. you were going out with her for a couple of years so there must have been something there.

Geomy · 11-07-2014 1:23pm

Have you got checked up in the Local Clinic ?

amkin25 · 11-07-2014 1:23pm

h.bolla wrote: »

I dont know. Thats the number she gave me. SHe started having sex around 14 and she was 27 when we started dating. But the drinking games bumped it alot apparantly where you could end up doing sexual acts on 2 or 3 people per game. But yeh- her guesses not mine.

Its all about personal standards some people don't mind others do,just because you can't accept it doesn't make you wrong,people break up for all sorts of reasons,i would advice getting tested all the same 500 is a big enough number hard to believe she came out of that unscathed.

Luke92 · 11-07-2014 1:25pm

newport2 wrote: »

You probably wouldn't be good enough to keep someone that experienced happy in bed, so just as well.

To be honest she sounds like she has a higher sex drive than myself so I probably wouldn't be able to satisfy her needs. But I wouldn't be ashamed of buying her a dildo! Thankfully for the moment I'm usually the one pestering the other half for some sex.

I love when the PC brigade are out! Oh she likes sex what's wrong with that. If it was a man all the women would be degrading him saying he's a player and what not.

Let's be realistic here. If a woman you were out on a date with said yeah I've had over 500 sexual partners, you certainly wouldn't be marrying her!

PLUG71 · 11-07-2014 1:25pm

Sounds like a right slapper to me:p

Who is she and where can I find her??;):rolleyes::D

House of Blaze · 11-07-2014 1:26pm

h.bolla wrote: »

I dont know. Thats the number she gave me. SHe started having sex around 14 and she was 27 when we started dating. But the drinking games bumped it alot apparantly where you could end up doing sexual acts on 2 or 3 people per game. But yeh- her guesses not mine.

Jeez I dunno...

Im 30 and i've probably not even shaken hands with 500 women let alone slept with them..

I'm not one to judge but I probably wouldn't be too comfortable with it either if I was honest.

eviltwin · 11-07-2014 1:27pm

PLUG71 wrote: »

Sounds like a right slapper to me:p

Who is she and where can I find her??;):rolleyes::D

Maybe that is the reason she lied. Women who have a higher than average number of sexual partners still get called slut, slapper, slag etc. Maybe she had been subjected to that kind of comment in the past.

h.bolla · 11-07-2014 1:28pm

newport2 wrote: »

And people wonder why some women keep it a secret? Because some men can't handle the truth.

I mean FFS, he's thinking she's cheating on him because she enjoyed a lot of sex before she met him? Huge leap here, no?

What? I never said or even alluded that cheated on me???

BFDCH. · 11-07-2014 1:28pm

green_screen wrote: »

Why would she tell you how many people she'd slept with before you? What she did in her past is none of your business, frankly. It doesn't make her a bitch.

I'd imagine the reason she got 'uppity' about it may be because you were berating someone for being promiscuous?

larry murphy's new squeeze said the same thing when asked by reporters about Larry's past- his past is none of her business.
If she was upfront with OP to begin with I don't think there would've been an issue, if she misled him in the way that he suggested for that long then it's fair enough to have a problem with it.

PLUG71 · 11-07-2014 1:31pm

eviltwin wrote: »

Maybe that is the reason she lied. Women who have a higher than average number of sexual partners still get called slut, slapper, slag etc. Maybe she had been subjected to that kind of comment in the past.

Get a sense of humour!

Pc brigade as usual.

My post was in jest:rolleyes:

Red Nissan · 11-07-2014 1:31pm

h.bolla wrote: »

She guessed all in all that she'd had around 500 partners give or take.

Amazing and quite frankly a shocking story. Considering I've had sex say one a week over 32 years with my wife, that approx 1,600 events.

Your girlfriend has had life experiences at such a young age that you'll never satisfy her and there is nothing to explore sexually in your marriage/relationship going forward.

Exploring different sex is quite necessary in keeping a relationship stimulated, if the husband does not do it, she will find someone else to do it for her, and viseaversa.

My commiserations, but you are well shut of her, good discovery.

Wibbs · 11-07-2014 1:31pm

newport2 wrote: »

If I loved her, then her past is history. End of story.

Love, they say is blind. I have found it can often be deaf dumb and stupid with it. It's a pretty poor emotional state to base a lifetime relationship on, at least the initial "in love", infatuation stage anyway. Just as a general rule BTW, not specifically this case.

username123 wrote: »

What attitude? That some women enjoy sex and have different moral standards to you?

It's their differences in moral standards at issue. Though his response should have been different. Shock I suppose. He had one idea of his partner in his mind and a very different reality came out. Wouldn't have to be of a sexual nature to cause shock.

quadrifoglio verde wrote: »

Op would you judge a man any different?

No. Well I wouldn't anyway and I say that as a man who has had an above average amount of "wild days", though I drew the line at various "somes", twosomes were enough to be going on with.

Indeed it would be because of those times that I'd be wary of a number count and experience level that high. IMH there's a difference between a "healthy" level and an "unhealthy" one. I would have been rocking more the unhealthy level, though not near 500. It would be one reason I'd not make for a great long term partner, or would be down the list. Too addicted to novelty. That might go away for a time and certainly would at my age, but it would still be there.

Post the sexual revolution the anything goes is the mood de jour and that's cool, but I have noted it's more skewed towards the high number people, than the low. IE people who were consciously celibate, or wanted to wait until they married or whatever are more likely to be seen as "unhealthy", avoiding the sexual merry go around that's apparently out there. My take is if anything goes then well anything goes. This goes for moral attitudes too. If someone expresses a preference for not wanting a virgin as a partner, then that's as valid a personal take as someone who doesn't want someone who has had 500 people in their sexual past. Both are extremes.

newport2 wrote: »

You probably wouldn't be good enough to keep someone that experienced happy in bed, so just as well.

*facepalm* Imagine that response with the genders reversed. Cue low level shítestorm.

Plus if this was reversed how many women would be happy finding out their boyfriend had 500 women before her including low level orgies and the like. Precious few.

eviltwin · 11-07-2014 1:32pm

PLUG71 wrote: »

Get a sense of humour!

Pc brigade as usual.

My post was in jest:rolleyes:

I know you were joking but it is a fact of life that some people would call her those names, I was just saying that is that was something she had experienced in the past it might explain why she hadn't told the OP.

Womens attitudes to previous sexual encounters see mod note post #1

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