The Pregnant Womans Moan Thread.

Brilliant posts, thank you so much for your honesty ladies. Knowledge is power!

Weird moan: woke up with 2 bumps, like a bloody camel. Seriously, lying down I took the sheet off me just before getting up and I had the normal bump that was kinda high and to the right and a second slight ly smaller bump that was lower and to the left. Freaked the hell out of me, thinking I'd bent it in two over night! my other half had gone out on run without his phone and wouldn't be back for 3 hrs so was a bit panicked. Turns out it was just a very full bladder that made its way up there! it looked very very odd.

I hear you Penny with everyone commenting on your pregnancy. I was at my nephew's baptism today and the amount of comments was unreal -'is it really that long till you're due? You're so big'. I have just accepted that people feel they have to make some sort of comment, and probably don't always think through that what's coming out of their mouth might be offensive or upsetting.

Also, thank you ladies for sharing your post birth experiences. I was wondering about the shower situation myself!

When you're pregnant it can be like you become other people's property in the sense that people pass remarks they never would if you were you not pregnant!

I've had complete strangers asking me if my baby was planned, others commenting how I must be having twins as I am "SO BIG!!!", and yet more people predicting how humongous my thighs would get in the 3rd trimester. And the list goes on. Funnily, all of the above comments were said by women, and some of them mothers already.

Some weeks this really got to me and there'd be lots of tears. Hoping you have a better upcoming week Penny and don't mind those hormones, best to let it all out even if you feel silly after!! I've cried more in these 8 months than I normally would in a whole year. You are not alone

Penny Dreadful wrote: »

whereby all the other mothers he'd spoken to all promised I'd go well over my due date.

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Penny I'm at loggerheads with OH this week as well if it makes you feel better. We spent the whole weekend together, neither of us met up with or did anything with a single other person and I still felt totally lonely and neglected last night to the point where I cried myself to sleep! There was a big match on Sat night and he didn't even suggest going out to meet the lads, watched it at home with me, got me flowers on Saturday, went swimming with me yesterday and practiced yoga moves for labour with me last night....but it's still not good enough I was finding fault with him in my head all weekend (for example, even though he did the yoga moves and swimming - I had to suggest them then he went along so I feel like he's just humouring/tolerating me as opposed to having any enthusiasm or interest, also he didn't realise that he has his kids the weekend that I could possibly be in hospital just after giving birth (total opposite end of the country!) and he has made no contingency plans for same - I had to pull out the calendar and notice this and I had to get him to ring his parents to see if they're around that weekend (they're not, they're on hols) I'm just a grumpy bear I'd say there's no pleasing me at the moment! I keep thinking of issues and problems that are going to arise around the labour, afterwards, even projecting months ahead e.g if we visit his family in Dublin with the baby when his other kids are already there where are we all going to fit etc etc. I feel like he's not worrying about any of this stuff and it's all me. Ok rant over !!

Regarding people's comments, I just let them all wash over me. 'You're so big, really you're not due til 30 August?' 'you're so small' (I don't get that one very often haha!). As for going overdue, to be fair we probably will - most first time mothers do. So that's a fair comment. I'm expecting to go the full 10 days overdue and have to be helped along (either the gel or whatever) that's if my consultant even lets me get that far, she said she prefers not to let first time mother's go more than 7 or 8 days. If the water around the baby starts to decrease I'll be induced earlier than 10 days. I'm prepared for going 10 days overdue and anything else is a bonus!

Chattastrophe! wrote: »

Yeah I never understood how people thought it was OK to ask the "Was it planned?" question. We all know where babies come from. If I don't chat with you about my sex life and contraception usually, this doesn't change because there's a baby in me!

I was asked that a few times by people at work. The last person who asked it got the reply of" do you want to know what position I was in when we had sex and conceived the baby too?".

No one has asked was it planned since.

Lucuma wrote: »

Are you serious people in work asked you that ?!?!? Oh my god.....how inappropriate! You were dead right to give a smart alecky answer to shut them up. Still shocked that so many people here have been asked that. I was asked that once, by a friend so it was ok I gave her a straight answer 'No we were trying for a full year actually and had been referred for IVF'. But for anyone other than a close family or friend to ask it is Sooooo inappropriate! :eek::eek:

Yep, some people ask the most inappropriate questions. This particular woman has a brass neck though and would ask you anything anytime but can't deal with someone standing up to her.

Like you we'd been TTC for almost a full year and had been to the GP for bloods and were just starting down the road of investigations when I got pregnant. My family knew that we'd been trying for a while and had gotten bloods done but it was never discussed in any big way (unless I wanted to) and they were just so happy when we told them about the baby they didn't give a damn about the how they were just delighted to welcome another little one into the family.

The Risk Assessment request is a really good idea. I'm fairly disparaging normally when it comes to any HR Policy (yawn) but it's great when you're pregnant!:D I had mine done really early and it was a worthwhile exercise. Request it from HR and it means you won't be put in the position again. Sorry to hear you're having a tough time Dolbert, don't do anything that's going to compromise your mood.

I can't believe some clueless wench would ask such a thing in your 3rd trimester Neyite! I know being pregnant is not a debilitating illness but that takes the biscuit!!

Hi Ladies.

Had a bit of a pregnancy meltdown last night, 29 weeks pregnant seriously uncomfortable already and feel like sh*t, look like sh*t, annoyed with the other half for not caring enough, worries about money (just the usual hormonal stuff!) we moved house last week and it's been a terrible strain on the two of us, then the dog got sick so was really worried something was seriously wrong so didn't sleep last night and had to take the day off today to bring him to the vet.

Feeling a bit better now but I just think the last few weeks have taken it's toll, I really should be happy and positive but it's very hard these days!!

Anyone else a bit down in the dumps

Oh that's a relief to hear, I think we all go around putting on a smile on and everyone I meet asks how I am and I tell them I'm great and feeling fine and one day it hits you like a ton of bricks and it's like all these negative thoughts enter your head and suddenly you're not so bubbly and chirpy anymore. Money is obviously a worry most of us have but I seem worried about everything these days whether I'll be a good mum whether my partner will make a good dad, will we have enough money to provide the best for him, will I go back to work, can I afford a crèche.....I think my head might melt!!

pastry2010 wrote: »

Hi Ladies.

Had a bit of a pregnancy meltdown last night, annoyed with the other half for not caring enough,

Anyone else a bit down in the dumps

Yep !! I could have written the above post

I think my fella is getting the message after 2 days in the doghouse, he was voluntarily doing jobs around the house that I normally do this morning - unheard of !!

I'm 32 w + 4d and I have alot of things going around my head as well. As you say madeinamerica, it's a lot to take in 'a bit of head melting is to be expected' I like that one! I have similar worries as you pastry, thinking about childcare and going back to work, thinking about coping afterwards if I have to have a section. I don't have to worry about whether OH will be a good Dad though, one of the few and believe me there are few (!!) advantages of a man with baggage is that I've already seen him in action on that front so no worries there. However he's not scoring high on the supportive partner during preg stakes, but then again I think there's no pleasing me at the minute!

Another thing I've been thinking about and talking to OH about is approaches to discipline etc. I know for the first year it won't really come into it, but even whether or not to do controlled crying, what kind of parenting technique to adopt, I just hope we're on the same page! I really don't want to be dealing with a difficult baby and fighting with OH about which approach to adopt as well!

I'm not dealing with all my feelings very well at the moment. I had left my previous job to go into business when I got pregnant and due to the nature of the work I had to back out. So I'm doing a business appraisal course now so when the time comes I'll be better prepared.

It feels like a monumental task though, have baby then start business. I'm out of the industry now too and due to being very tired and lazy I've not been keeping up with networking as I should be. It's a network centred type industry too. I know I shouldn't be worried about that now, all my focus should be on the baby but I've worked hard to get to the point I was at when I got pregnant and now I feel like I'll be pretty much starting from scratch.

I felt really supported by my husband at the start of the pregnancy, now I'm feeling utterly ignored. I don't know if it's paranoia/hormones or if it's actually happening. :(:(