staring at disabled people?

"Avert your gaze! He's disabled!" I stare at everyone, I try to mind read too and I give people funny voices and imagine what they're saying to themselves about stuff.

Like today I was very amused to see 5 strangers standing together in a crowd wearing identical superdry jackets. I stared the sh*t out of em *scoffs*

Fat people I stare at for bit of comedy. Watching them wobble along bouncing off everything and breathing heavily. Why do people choose to live like that?! *scoffs*

People need to lighten up. Get this thread some lamps

shane9689 wrote: »

reminds me of breaking bad where the son has cerebral palsy and other kids start to mock him in a clothes store....then the dad (walt) breaks the other kids legs. they soon shut up.....i advice breaking some legs

That's a bad break, not breaking bad!

I think for me Frito hit the nail on the head when they said that people are staring at the disability and not at the person, and even in her own example of her sister it shows that yet again, most people with disabilities don't want to be pitied, they like to be treated with the same dignity and respect as everyone else. Some people then want to claim offense on behalf of disabled people because they're looking for things to be offended about. If mirialize had taken the time to read BBOC's post, they would've seen that Frito's post was referring to BBOC's friend who uses the opportunity as a performance artist to educate people about cerebal palsy. Instead of course, they missed that because they were looking to be offended and took Frito up completely wrong. That sort of shìt annoys me tbh.

I personally don't get offended when people stare, I just tend to take no notice and get on with what I'm doing. If you start staring back at everyone who stares at you, you'll spend more time staring back at people than you will getting on with your own life.

I myself suffer from arthritis (my body is riddled), and the pain meds make me pure dopey, so I try to stay off them, but the consequence of that of course is that I'm in constant pain, and I fall over a lot because my balance is fcuked. But at this stage, something like this occasion isn't an unusual occurrence -

Czarcasm wrote: »

I'm a clumsy fcuk at the best of times, but Jesus fcuking christ, "glass" pavements are an absolute curse! :mad:

I mean a pain in the hole, literally, when your walking along and your legs go out from under you all of a sudden. Luckily I've managed the art of falling gracefully and broke my fall with my elbow, and it was just pure damn luck that I hopped off the pavement and bounced back up into an almost standing position!

The expression on the girl's face coming towards me was priceless as it all happened so quickly and I was already walking on as if nothing had happened :pac:

We got a few yards on before the young lad started breaking his hole laughing, and that started me off, the pair of us must have looked like right nut jobs!

And just recently I went to the doc with a pain in my eyeball that was at me for the last couple of weeks. Turned out it was uveitis related to the arthritis, so now I'm wearing an eye patch for the next couple of weeks, and in fairness, it's kind of hard to miss! :pac: But what actually bugs me is the likes of my brother the other day who used be a nurse (we were out for dinner Christmas eve having not talked in a good many years, whole other long story), and all he could talk about was my fcuking eyeball and how I could go blind (well thanks for the heads up Sherlock!), and tell the doc my old man had sarcoidosis, etc (his body too was riddled with arthritis). I just felt like telling my brother "Look, I'm your brother that you haven't talked to in years, not one of your damn patients!", but I bit my tongue for the sake of keeping the peace!

My point being anyway that I think it's the "pity stare" that gets on people's tits, or the "freak show" stare that Quazzie was getting at earlier when he tried to say I was saying that all physically and intellectually disabled people should stay at home or be locked up, etc. That sort of high horse nonsense pisses me off, but I wasn't going to get into a pissing contest about my experience working with people with physical and intellectual disabilities. I actually have some great memories going back over 20 years from the likes of the lads in St. Raphaels (tweedle dum and tweedle dee, two of the funniest fcukers who would talk the ears off an elephant, or one chap who put my head through a transit van window because I couldn't understand that he was happy with the taytos I'd just given him, didn't want an apple! My mate said "Leave him alone now Czarcasm, he'll get frustrated... did I listen? Did I fcuk! "Ah we're grand, he won't... *BOOM*, he punched my head through the window! :pac:), to the people I work with today with various physical and intellectual disabilities and helping them to use computers, tablets and phone apps to help them communicate with the world around them and express themselves.

stpaddy99 wrote: »

stranegly though the discrimination against disabled people , not just staring but name calling and even physical intimidation and abuse....seems to get far less media attention than all other forms of discrimination, when in fact its probably thw rose of the lot. especially as these are vulnerable people often unable to protect themselves....theres not even a word for it? sexism is sexism? racism is racism? anti semitism is racism against jews...ageism is age discrimination....whats discrimination against the disabled called?

I think it's perception bias paddy that has you think disabilities don't get as much media attention as other minorities and vulnerable people in society. Ask anyone who is a member of a minority or vulnerable section of society and they'll tell you their particular issue doesn't get enough attention in the media.

There are a few different terms though for discrimination on the grounds of physical or intellectual disability - ableism, disablism, and discrimination on the grounds of intellectual disability is called mentalism.