What makes someone a failure at life?

thingamagig · 10-03-2013 11:38PM

MiseryMary wrote: »

Well
ya I mean these are adult men in their 20s walking around wearing a my
little pony t-shirts and watch cartoons of them on youtube and stuff, I
know of a guy who is like 24 years old I think he has My little pony
T-shirts, posters on the wall and toys of my little ponys , goes to
college wearing it , light green top with a big pink my little pony
written bronie brothers for life.

He goes round in my little pony t-shirts? Just sounds like he's quirky
and doesn't give a toss what others think. Wish there was more of that
kind in the world.

Although the posters and the toys are pushing it a bit there!

Killer Wench · 10-03-2013 11:39PM

I want a My Little Pony t-shirt!

juice1304 · 10-03-2013 11:44PM

I would say people living their lives in a way they think society wants them to be, look and act instead of what feels right and important to them. Too many people just want want want it is all about materialistic bull sh1t and trying to be better than others because they have more which is a retarded view on life because guess what your going to die and it will mean nothing.
I would rather live a life with less money and have more time to enjoy the things that make me happy.

Scubadevils · 10-03-2013 11:47PM

A quote from Earl Nightingale sums this up for me...

Success is the progressive realisation of a worthy ideal. If a man is working towards a predetermined goal and knows where he is going, that man is a success - if he's not doing that, he's a failure

Take 10 minutes or so and listen to his words of wisdom...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-0r8isgQ6PM

Da Shins Kelly · 10-03-2013 11:50PM

Killer Wench wrote: »

But is being too embarrassed to seek help the same thing as lacking a desire to get help? That's really what this string of conversation is about.

I have never met a failure at life. I have never met someone who didn't desire something. I have met people who have failed at something, but we all experience failure at some point.

Those two people I was speaking about were my own mother and one of my sisters. I, myself, suffer from anxiety disorder with agoraphobia. I understand the stigma attached to mental illness.

I don't think that being too embarrassed to do something is the same as not having a desire to do it. There are plenty of people who do want to go and get the help they need, but are crippled by anxiety and the perception that they'll be judged or ostracized over it. It's a difficult step to take, which is what makes it extra important and great when people do eventually make it.

As for being a failure, I don't think I've ever met a true failure at life either. Although sometimes I think that people who bring children into the world and then abuse them or neglect them are kind of failing as parents and people.

feargale · 10-03-2013 11:59PM

Tom_Cruise wrote: »

What would you consider a failure?

Leaving the world a worse place than one found it.

Alactric · 11-03-2013 12:05AM

feargale wrote: »

Leaving the world a worse place than one found it.

This is actually the most apt post of the whole thread

Stercus Accidit · 11-03-2013 12:11AM

KegglesMcS wrote: »

Someone who eats their own excrement.

Perhaps they are the only ones among us who truly dare to live!

Stained Class · 11-03-2013 12:13AM

Killer Wench wrote: »

Someone who lacks desire, drive, and/or ambition to do anything. They are essentially just waiting to die.

No. They can serve as an example to others as to how life can go, if you don't make the effort.

A kind of double-nagative role-model, if you like.

fortune wookiee wrote: »

Someone who doesn't learn from their mistakes.

Agreed. These beings are basically manufacture dung.

Wade in the Sea · 11-03-2013 12:16AM

Most people who feel this way are not suffering from under achievement but lack of direction.

What is most important to remember is you can only fail to achieve your own goals. Forget what others have or don't have. Forget the expectations and apparent achievements of others. Just ask yourself what is important to you.

If you still feel you are failing just take a step back from those life long ambitions and set yourself some really simple, realistic, very achievable short term goals and just focus on those for the time being.

When you see you can achieve a goal raise the bar a little. It helps to write it down, and always set a date to do it, not a date to have it done by.

mickrock · 11-03-2013 12:47AM

Killer Wench wrote: »

Someone who lacks desire, drive, and/or ambition to do anything. They are essentially just waiting to die.

Some of the happiest people do not have any great desire to achieve, to become, to succeed, to be somebody.

They are not continually looking to the future for fulfillment.

woodoo · 11-03-2013 12:55AM

Dwork wrote: »

I employ/ed a good lot of local men, close to 20 up until recently. Due to "recession", mad taxes(mainly tbh), cut throat(ie dumb and below cost)competition, and non-payers that has dwindled to five not including me. The dwindling has been very rapid and sh1tty. I see all my mates with small businesses suffering the same insidious dwindling, some of them a lot, lot worse. I feel that is a failure on my part. It probably isn't, really, (maybe it is), but it feels like a failure. An awful lot of people/families depend/ed on me to make money for them every week. Now I can only do it for a few. Which is a shitty feeling.

A failure doesn't build up a decent business which you obviously had before the recession. Businesses are going to the wall all over the country daily.

A failure would be someone who had business ideas and never even attempted them or never kept a job for any length of time and just lay on welfare.

woodoo · 11-03-2013 12:58AM

Stinicker wrote: »

I consider these people as underachievers and the failures in life wheras the unemployed on the dole are smart people enjoying their lives better, basically cute hoors, making the best of a bad situation. Why go to work so the state can take all your earnings away and use it to bailout Fianna Fail cronies. The poor don't owe a penny while the rich all live in debt, to be very honest it is only a fool works today unless he/she is earning at least greater than €15/hour.

Its the governments fault that that is even an option. Nobody should be able to claim the full rate of welfare indefinitely. It should reduce significantly after a year or 2.

Pilotdude5 · 11-03-2013 01:00AM

Kids getting their rich parents to buy them flying jobs.

Icyseanfitz · 11-03-2013 01:02AM

tbh work/career wouldnt shape my opinion on a person being a failure/success, in my opinion being successful in life means that you are happy, screw what ever anyone else thinks, if your happy thats all that counts (could be a hobby, job, relationship, or dole)

catallus · 11-03-2013 01:04AM

Maybe success or failure isn't measured by material accumulation; if one wishes to work 100 hours a week or not work at all, what difference does it make? We're all going to end up in a care-home, staring at each other and taking bets on what kind of cancer we're going to get.

(If we're lucky)

I think a failure would be dying without ever having truly loved another person.

Stinicker · 11-03-2013 01:07AM

woodoo wrote: »

Its the governments fault that that is even an option. Nobody should be able to claim the full rate of welfare indefinitely. It should reduce significantly after a year or 2.

Its the (previous) Governments fault there is no jobs or no prospects so why should people go literally slaving at least there is a safety net. The entire social welfare system should be preserved and expanded. If they plan on cutting it then they better lower taxes alot and dramatically increase Gardai numbers because there will be a hell of alot of angry people. The dole is the only thing preventing Civil War in Ireland today.

efb · 11-03-2013 01:08AM

Why does the OP need a very black and white label for people? We succeed at some things in our lives and don't in others.

P_1 · 11-03-2013 01:09AM

Icyseanfitz wrote: »

tbh work/career wouldnt shape my opinion on a person being a failure/success, in my opinion being successful in life means that you are happy, screw what ever anyone else thinks, if your happy thats all that counts (could be a hobby, job, relationship, or dole)

This. Far too many people put too high a focus on what you work at to gauge 'success'.

Remember that the all the majority of us do working is to make money for somebody else who is higher up on the pile.

Pappa Charlie · 11-03-2013 01:10AM

Someone who runs down those who have achieved what they hadn't the balls to to achieve, plain and simple!

Killer Wench · 11-03-2013 01:11AM

mickrock wrote: »

Some of the happiest people do not have any great desire to achieve, to become, to succeed, to be somebody.

They are not continually looking to the future for fulfillment.

But I bet they are desirous of peace and stability.

clairefontaine · 11-03-2013 01:12AM

To laugh often and much; To win the respect of intelligent people and the affection of children; To earn the appreciation of honest critics and endure the betrayal of false friends; To appreciate beauty, to find the best in others; To leave the world a bit better, whether by a healthy child, a garden patch, or a redeemed social condition; To know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived. This is to have succeeded.

Ralph Waldo Emerson

--LOS-- · 11-03-2013 01:19AM

someone with over 8000 posts on boards

someone who is happy to just sponge off others or as ricki lake would call them....moochers

stmol32 · 11-03-2013 01:28AM

Maybe it's just me but I've always reckoned you've failed at life if you haven't killed a lion with a spear.
Mind you I am Kenyan.

woodoo · 11-03-2013 01:36AM

Stinicker wrote: »

Its the (previous) Governments fault there is no jobs or no prospects so why should people go literally slaving at least there is a safety net. The entire social welfare system should be preserved and expanded. If they plan on cutting it then they better lower taxes alot and dramatically increase Gardai numbers because there will be a hell of alot of angry people. The dole is the only thing preventing Civil War in Ireland today.

It can't be we are spending 21 billion a year on welfare it needs to be reduced if anything.

Stained Class · 11-03-2013 01:41AM

stmol32 wrote: »

Maybe it's just me but I've always reckoned you've failed at life if you haven't killed a lion with a spear.
Mind you I am Kenyan.

It puts things in perspective alright.

Brian Wilson of the Beach Boys was a genius musician & created a lot of wealth for his family, but in a lot of other ways, he was a joke.

He couldn't handle the basics of living as a 'normal' person, let alone be a good husband to his wife, or be a good role model to his daughters.

It's all about perspective really...

mewithoutyou · 11-03-2013 01:49AM

'Failure at life'... Love it

kowloon · 11-03-2013 01:49AM

A friend and I once made burgers with lamb, beef, bacon and a fried egg. That was the moment. Nothing I do now can ever top that. I'm waiting to die. It'll probably be something heart related.

skeleton_boy · 11-03-2013 01:55AM

Believing that once said life is over you're going to heaven.

B.A._Baracus · 11-03-2013 02:03AM

No money.
You can talk about this, that or the other. All comes down to money.

What makes someone a failure at life?

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